Lookin around u nowadyays u'll notice d girls are losing d wifey/motherly/family en home caretaker quality.D end result of dis is d outrageous outcry 4rm a reasonable amount of them lamenting about being dumped ova n ova by guys.D most pathetic part is dat most of dem neva tk d time 2 look into their character,while sm know dey are lacking in sm aspects bt are either 2 lazy,engaged in frivolous activities,or d worst;claiming a civilized/modern chick status.Dey hide under civilization 2 cover-up their inconsistencies.

Nowadays, many of them can't even kip their personal rooms tidy enough, some rely on washmen 2 do their laundry even wen it is not necessary & can barely afford it. Most of them (65%)can't prepare a decent meal.They'd rather eat out on their last bucks than cook @ home even wen dey have foodstuffs,ingredients,en other comfy cooking materials at home. As 4 some, the boys bear d burden,4getting someone like them cooked the sumptuous meal they mung in eateries en that @ half the price, they can prepare something even beta.'Practice makes perfect',u know?.

The end result of such girls running a future home can easily be predicted: Untidy home n children,improper meal structure @ home; that's if they cook @ all.Extra expenses of d family on stuffs like laundry,eating-out etc,constant quarrel between them en hubby,generally en conclusively-an unstable home.

Dis types of girls are d ones that only knows how 2 cook foods like-Rice,noodles,custard,bread wit fried eggs,plus other easy foods.They keep repeating these foods on d family nutritional menu. Some can even warm noodles from yesterday for their kids the next morning to take to school. En wen men consider all these en decide 2 dump their Bottom,they cry out foul.Thanks 2 civilization,all they're concerned about these days are fancy phones/things plus chatting en messaging all day. Imagine what d next generation will look like? Laundry en d fast-food business will experience a boom since almost every family will be eating out. What discipline,example or lessons will they even have 2 teach or inculcate into d children wen themselves will av nothing to offer! What a pity!

what an epistle!

^I guess you are 1 of them^

Dandy.:

^I guess you are 1 of them^

its just a guess.u do not have proof of it!

eh! killz. your post blinded me.

nway op.you have a point but you were a bit biased even though you stuck to the title.
Those things you mentioned like 'meal structure' funny word,cleanliness laziness are things that you see in the course of dating.
Unfortunately people choose to date blindly ignoring all these faults because you fear breaking her heart. What do you do then?
you  proceed to marry her because you love her heart but dislike her habits.
Now if you have been eating noodles and poached eggs through out your dating period,plus accomodating filth and dirt, what makes you think that  you are now marrying martha s. Do you know that people never change? esp grown ups? They just continue being what they have been but in a different environment now.
Deal with things that you consider very important to you before you move it to the next level called marriage.

Something else,some men dont mind bad cook as long as she's good in bed. Av read that here on nl beginning with sexkillz himself. He said he can cook cz hes a good cook.
Others will prefer a good cook + lazy spouse. And there's a group that would date the filthiest of filth so long as she's an expert in sex.
People are soo different.
I have come to realise that what you regard as the 'standard' may not actually be the case. Its infact 'your' standard.

pendo89:

eh! killz. your post blinded me.

Blinded you shey? But you still see road type ya comment, abi? How you dey?

pendo89:
sexkillz himself. He said he can cook cz hes a good cook.

#FACT!

Abi ke! me dey fine

well poster see? killz doesnt mind a lousy cook for a wife. we are all different.

slimyem:

its just a guess.u do not have proof of it!

Yes I don't av a proof,bt then I tot u got pricked en smhow u had to react defensively.

@sexkillz I understand ur point as well,bt lk u said-obviosly modern girls tend to be more negligent in their chores en other duties wen compared wit those 4rm previous generation(our mothers).Lk u also noted d numba of d seeds of d inconsistent ones 4rm d past generatn av multiplied,many others 4rm d dilligent mums av deflected 4rm d disciplines,while more parents from d previous generations got sucked into their proffesions dan d generation b4 dem.
En obviously more women in d present generation are getting further sucked into their works thus gettin little time 4 d home front.Work howeva shouldnt b an excuse cos dats Y there are wkends bt most mothers dont use it as a time 2 impart sm homely knowledge on their daughters.These en many other factors combined are making it worse by d day(or by d year).It all boils down to civilization,but then-civilization is good,but only comes wit countless shortcomings.

@OP I suppose you want a carreer woman who will be a domestic goddess as well if she is willing to go out and work you must be willing to help out with cooking and cleaning once in a while as she is helping you with the bills.

If your bent on having a domestic goddess marry a housewife and be the single bread winner you shall have no problem. Sometimes men make me laugh they want super woman when they are not ready to be Superman

ebonyvibe:

Sometimes men make me laugh they want super woman when they are not ready to be Superman

LoL, do u think u can handle a superman?

@op, nice write-up and i notice how careful u where not to directly assign the condition to a specific race or class of women unlike some wld who come out and directly say, Nigerian girls this, Nigerian girls that. However, one does not have to travel round the world physically to know that this is what is obtainable in Developed/developing countries.

@killz, [s]fear dey even catch me to type ur name complete sef[/s], u couldn't have said it better, any man intending to get married to a 21st century contemporary/sophisticated working class lady and expects her to perform the full job of a house wife must have his head buried deep in the sands,

that said, it's time for men to come around to accept the fact that u wld never get the complete package of a wife in that lady u're about to marry, how u work things out and try to live in harmony with that unavailable trait u wld have wanted her to have but hasn't got wld be a test of d strenght of ur Union(Marriage).

@Ebonyvibe,I know it's not easy but does dat mean u don't know or there doesn't exist women dat combine both attributes well enough? No! although at times it depends on d kind of work.Dat's Y I,en most other guys will prefer a woman engaged in a type of work dat gives time/chance 4 d homefront.
I however agree dat sm factors should be sacrificed,accepted,or forgone wen sourcing 4 life spouse.e.g Goodluck sacrificed fluent English speaking 4 a carring en supportive wife en mother 2 his kids,ut then,a woman lacking d home/family-care attitude is not worth it.What den does d husband en kids benefit 4rm her status of being a wife en mother.If dey eventually turn out 2 fall in d category of girls in discourse,d blame goes to d mums.

I suggest you do the same as Goodluck but not all men share your views.

And look at how she has now become an international embarassment to him; have you heard of house help if your wife cant do it and you cant help her you should invest in some house help which will help both of you free up more time for romance without anyone feeling frustrated.

I have a cleaner, lesson teacher, take clothes that will be ruined in the washing machine to the dryclearners, my girls go to finishing school and am a better wife for it. Some times i get the caterer on weekends to cook the complicated food that i cant and my husband loves it we go on holidays and i still have the energy not just a miserable being you need to think of womens needs

if it is that easy why dont you go to work and cook for your wife every evening and clean the house as well what u wouldnt do dont expect your fellow human to do it . she is not your slave

Yeah poster u're right but am not into such acts that gets the wifey Features diminishing

Nice one Poster.Finding a wife material these days is so hard, Going through some Harrowing experience. Most of the girls i meet these days think i want a fling and they just wana have fun while it last.I relate most of their behaviors with the future(being my wife).They Nag (would be a trouble maker in future), don't want me hanging out with my guys(will be too possessive),always want to buy everything she see(too expensive and will run me dry in future), A good wife, who can find?

So how do we remedy the situation?

OP

Nigerian girls are speaking up to be heard huh?


Too bad! Rock on Nigerian girls!

Gurls are into runs. . . . Doz dat aren't are wishin dey were. . . . No time to learn womanly values. .

ya,its easy for y'all to generalize its d same way contemporary Nigerian men are losing their manly quality d want to sit back and let d women pay the bills and u still expect them to wash and cook for u no way!!when we were growing up our mothers worked and contributed to the upkeep of the home because they wanted to not because the had to,a lot of our young men these days see women as a means to an end,qualification for marriage is now based on which oil company u work for,how much Ur take home is or how fat Ur father's bank account is,so the men dump the sincere ones who are working tooth and nail to make it and at the same time keep their man,when responsibilities change there is bound to be chaos Garbage in!!!Garbage out!!!!!!!quit nagging.

@ebonyvibe,u dey vex on behalf of d ladies o! Wat of a family dat's not rich enuf to employ all d above said.
En anoda issue is most rich folks don't get d so said stewards to impart sm groomings to their kids.
Nooo O! Why I go wan choose Uncle Jonat's choice,I jst dey cite as xample.Vice versa sm men would av gone for a sporadic english shooting lady dat lacks d wifey en motherly quality in discourse.As anoda person earlier said;4 sm it could b sex,sm fashion sense,intelligence -which is not parallel wit spoken-english,etc.
But then these choices in negligence of a dilligent wifey en motherly obligations will be devastating;not only to d homes bt later d society at large.
@gbeng77-as earlier procured:u look d 1 dat possesses mostly d quality u really crave n deal wit d remaining shortcomings,provided they'll be bearable 4 u now en in future.

i think dandy that u r surrounded by those type of people cos i see differently.my sister for instance is a banker, a manager o.she gets caught up wit work and is so busy but mennnn she cookssss delicacies.the kinds of food that takes time and coordination.my sisters inlaw too, the same.enough variety.maybe its cos of where i am from sha.
its a personal thing.
but the guys fall in love with such "lazy" babes and marry them,probably cos they are good in some other areas, if u kno what i mean .

Men aren't exactly great hunters anymore either. It goes both ways.

don't give me the crappies up there cuz i bring in the bacon just like you 

better know how to cook before you propose. be ready to starve if you waiting for my kitchen expertize.

Girls should stop going to akata, this will be the best solution to this coz most girls 80% in these universities become aristos at a certain point. its saddening.

Too much long stories In tĦis thread.

@OP, Iτ̲̅'s rather appalling when men expect to take the back seat, and then expect the woman to do everything.

Everything should have a balance!! Who says a man sĦouldn't be In the kitchen helping his wife if Ħε̲̣̣̣̥ can? Must iτ̅ always have to be the woman doing everything, while the man relaxes, watching tv?

I have come to notice tĦat men who are more likely to have tĦis character are the ones who are always quick to jump to "21st century girls tĦis, contemporary girls tĦat".

However, there still exists such girls. You can find them In practically every rural area/village.

Fact is: you can't have iτ̅ all. A man looking to get a perfect or "homely" woman should also be ready to be perfect and loving.

sexkillz abegii enlarge ur font.

@Poster Aren't u a bit biased? If there are Contemporary Women, like u had called it, then it's common sense to also think that there are 'Contemporary' Men too. Or are u implying that all the recent technology and education are tailored for the women alone while leaving men in pre-historic times? Hello, like someone had commented above, u can't eat your cake and have it too. If a woman is putting the same number of hours and time as men to get to the same position u re in now both in school and in the work place, as is the case now in this modern world, then consider any skill in extracurricular activities like cooking, washing and what have you as a gift. For pete's sake, when will this shi.t end? Today, it is "we want educated women who work", tomorrow it is "Yeah, we've changed our minds, now we want her to be domestic". MAKE UP YOUR MINDS!!! If u see a woman with both, then consider her a rare gem handed to you by the gods, otherwise, work with what u have. All that extra cash should solve the deficiencies without causing any havoc or unprecendented posts here in NL. Bunch of confused ingrates.

ogugua88:

Men aren't exactly great hunters anymore either. It goes both ways.

No, they are not.  We get to hear all about their incompetency on this site.  Na wa o.

teskyg:

Nice one Poster.Finding a wife material these days is so hard, Going through some Harrowing experience. Most of the girls i meet these days think i want a fling and they just wana have fun while it last.I relate most of their behaviors with the future(being my wife).They Nag (would be a trouble maker in future), don't want me hanging out with my guys(will be too possessive),always want to buy everything she see(too expensive and will run me dry in future), A good wife, who can find?

More like, '' A good wife, who has the eyes to see?''. '' A good wife, does this present generation of men deserve?'' Lol. They are not under rocks or best imagined., They are there, But are YOU seeing them? Or do you look over their heads for figure eight, big behind or whatever, pointed bosoms, fashion freak, etc. while they are right there under your noses? Funny guys. Sometimes you don't get something cos you are not that thing u're looking for. Are you mature, disciplined, a good man yourself? Do you know what relationship/marriage is all about-and not just body figure or lust? You complain, yet you have not taken time to develop yourselves. The ones that can see are seeing them.,,even such ladies are asking the same questions as you!

@Ebonyvibe I agree in some of your points, it's not easy for a woman to handle all the home duties still perform her role at night. We men need to fold our sleeves and join in, me personally dislike a house wife I teach myself some domestic works, I find it sexy seeing men that cook for their wife still being the man in the family.

@Daddy, If you're referring to those TV scream addicts MAMA BOMBOY, you're right.