ikhideman:

I know females are emotional and deep; they think by keeping something very important from their husbands before marriage, and thereafter telling him after the wedding, can protect them from losing the man. They fail to realise that more damage can be done by such delay; it can lead to distrust, loss of interest, etc.

I'm a christian,(not church goer) and I'm disappointed to say it happens among believers; I'm not implying that male believers don't have their issues/character failings, but female believers should let the HolySpirit in their renewed human spirit to lead them, rather than their fleshy emotions.

Comments please?

ikhideman:

Yes, Why they keep secrets/important information relevant to the marriage from their husbands long before marriage and reveal it later in the marriage? Giving d excuse that they did not want to lose their man.

I used "christian males & females" so that the comments would be helpful

ikhideman:

@ Mrs, Chima

Thanks for your mature response.

I'm talking about relevant information (info that could affect their relations in marriage) that occurred and should be said during courtship, when the two of them were dating;  

Mrs, Chima:

I understand exactly what you meant. I am just saying let be objective and realistic. What you feel is important may not be important to her. So such things may not come up intentionally before the marriage and some things surface on it own after marriage.

That's the purpose of red flags, it is a warning that something is not right or a secret is hidden.

Mrs, Chima:

I understand exactly what you meant. I am just saying let be objective and realistic. What you feel is important may not be important to her. So such things may not come up intentionally before the marriage and some things surface on it own after marriage.

That's the purpose of red flags, it is a warning that something is not right or a secret is hidden.

coogar:

give these women a break, will you?

so you really expect a woman to tell her fiance she had 3 abortions while she was in the uni? or she has a criminal record while she was doing her masters abroad, etc? would you marry such a woman? some things are better left unsaid. as long as i don't find out, it doesn't matter.
women should handle their business the way it favours them, men should do the same as well.

happy married life!

BABE!:

If you find out, it matters?

coogar:

of course. . . . .then she'll be sorry she didn't tell me about it earlier.
the rule is simple.
if you have a secret that has a remote chance of being discovered by me later in future, tell me.
if it's a secret i can never know about - don't tell me.

BABE!:

What if she thought you can never ever know about it, but you miraculously found out the secret---? 

coogar:

what a rotten luck she's got. . . .
if i find out miraculously, she's in trouble.

BABE!:

lol. Right.

Why Must Ladies Keep Something From Their Husbands Before Marriage?

coogar:

if you have any secret you wanna share, now is the time to spill your guts.

Mrs, Chima:

Kpoili

Would it change your love for the woman if you found out she had several abortions or is barren? Would that change the dynamic of your LOVE for the woman?

If so that wasn't love.

lagcity:

This is just another form of blackmail women use. If a woman doesn't disclose her barreness and marries a man who wants kids, she doesn't love him, either. She's being selfish and true love isn't selfish.

Mrs, Chima:

Wait a minute! It goes both ways just like if the man was impotent and he couldn't produce children and if the woman love the man as much as she claims, she will stay with him regardless unless her love has conditions.

Step back Negro!

lagcity:

Well we are talking about the woman here. And you didn't disprove my point: true love isn't selfish. Besides, impotence isn't sterility. A man can't hide it because couples usually Be Intimate before marriage.