ok so my ex and i were together off and on for 6 months. the first time we broke up he kind of kept an eye on me and after some time we became close again and gave us another shot. the second time ot was a huge fight between us until one of our friends told us to both pull out heads out of our asses and talk to each other and from there we got back together again and then he cheated. After that i went on the war path until one of my friends took me to my old church a few months later and i talked to my old pastor about it and he suggested that i reach out to him as a friend to get some friendly closure because we were best friends before any of this started. So i messaged him asking how he's been and it was really awkward at first and he told me that what happened was an accident and that's difficult to explain. I told him i wasn't interested in an explanation. What was the point really? What's done is done. After that it got a little less awkward and we started kind of poking fun at each other again which is where alarms started going off in my head. This is pretty much how everything started each time. We talk for a few days and then he's flirting hardcore and then he asks for another chance with the most sincere expression on his face. What i don't know is WHY he keeps asking for another chance every time we start to get comfortable as friends again

Get a life. To me u seem 2 b enjoying d hide n seek game u both r playn

Stop being friends with him for now.you can be friends later when the sparks arent flying anymore.you will keep hurting yourself if you keep going back to him.trust me,i've been there.

He only,does knows ow much u love him
he playin arnd

nikkie222:

ok so my ex and i were together off and on for 6 months. the first time we broke up he kind of kept an eye on me and after some time we became close again and gave us another shot. the second time ot was a huge fight between us until one of our friends told us to both pull out heads out of our asses and talk to each other and from there we got back together again and then he cheated. After that i went on the war path until one of my friends took me to my old church a few months later and i talked to my old pastor about it and he suggested that i reach out to him as a friend to get some friendly closure because we were best friends before any of this started. So i messaged him asking how he's been and it was really awkward at first and he told me that what happened was an accident and that's difficult to explain. I told him i wasn't interested in an explanation. What was the point really? What's done is done. After that it got a little less awkward and we started kind of poking fun at each other again which is where alarms started going off in my head. This is pretty much how everything started each time. We talk for a few days and then he's flirting hardcore and then he asks for another chance with the most sincere expression on his face. What i don't know is WHY he keeps asking for another chance every time we start to get comfortable as friends again

@op

Its the case of the ex. Lets shift the blame away from the guys for a second. The question you should be asking yourself is this Why do I keep taking him back? Is it because you love him too much? Is it because you have not been able to have chemistry with another guy? Is it because you have a sexual compatibility with him? Is it because you are insecure? Is it because you are scared of being alone? Once you can identify the reason for your actions, then you can take charge of them but when you dwell on his actions then you would be seeing things only from his own point of view.

Stuffs like this happen all the time but you just have to let go because at the long run, you would get hurt. But if you are up for the whirlwind & roller coaster ride, then fasten your seat belt because there is always an end to the amusement even at the park. You also have to set realistic goals for yourself, know what you want out of life, if he fits in it then go on but if he is going to be a major obstacle, kick him off now when the night is still young. Don't succumb to any emotional blackmail, make yourself happy first & I am sure with the right aura you should get a replacement as long as you are not looking for a guy that is finer, perfect than him or a rebound guy but a guy that would make you (nikkie) happy.

Jesus! See novel!
@op: brb

@OP, If you keep doing that honey, he would NEVER RESPECT YOU NOR VALUE YOU. You would just be a rebound. Someone who he knows will always take him back whenever he messes up, so long as he can always pretend to be sorry. In marriage, this is the kind of situation the guy could even openly do it with no qualms toward the wife- even bring the girlfriends home. By the way, the forgiving wifey will overlook. In my opinion, for the fact he was your best friend is even enough reason for him to give you the highest respect. But obviously he knows you too well. Time for you to show him he doesn't know you anymore. Stop taking cow dung from him!

Get a life of your own. Keep yourself occupied. Go out with friends. Give him a wide gap. Stay away for a while. If he comes back to his senses and grows up & you still love him then, you can go ahead. But if not, honey move on. You will find someone who will totally love and respect you. And hey, since you know you are weak where he is concerned and easily fall, you should consider quitting the phone calls and stop picking his.

You are the one even calling him back to yourself yet you are asking why he keeps coming back.
This isn't a question worth answering but since you need an answer,I'll give you one.
He keeps coming back cos you keep taking him back,its pretty obvious he knows you have a soft spot for him,and he's capitalizing on that to take advantage of you.
I know how it feels,you maybe thinking he still loves you,believe me he doesn't, just try to get a grip on it girl,you need to put your foot down.

i'm not reading all that nonsense! learn to break your posts into smaller paragraphs.

stop sleeping with him, he won't come back again.

lailaiwala:

i'm not reading all that nonsense! learn to break your posts into smaller paragraphs.

stop sleeping with him, he won't come back again.

You must be a funny person,you are not reading all that yet you know all what its about.
I'm just imagining the face you had on while typing that.

Insecurity dey worry u op. Pls try see ursef differently. Is this what you worth? Siddon mak u reason na. Even if you love him bt mak u stil get sense na. Abi love don cari ur all ur sense comot. Dnt mak him feel indispensible to you. U need 2 get another life asap!!