I gondorsed with ma mum everyday and night because of grand child. Life has been unbearable for me
as if am the first son. Ma eldest brother is not even married although he has concubines, I bear the encumbrance.
I stopped calling ma mum because of death intimidations, knowing very well that I love her so much. whenever i call her all i hear is "If you wont get married and give me a grand child i will die" Last week i was frabagasted when someone called me from Nigeria that ma mum is dead , with melancholy i left ma office in tears only to later discover it was a fallacy concocted by ma mum to gain ma serious attention. She later told me next time could be real if I dont do something. Look at the philipinos, men and women live a happy life with or without husband yet they have parents. Why is it that in Nigeria when a lady is not yet married many look at her with apathy?
Is marriage a do or die affair? For this reason a man will leave his mother and father and stick to his wife. (so says the bible) Not a man must.

Your mom has issues. smh!
What a way to get your attention.




You sef, you never old? Go marry born pikin jor.

Op why dnt u want to marry?? Cant you do?

It has to do with the society.

I knew these are the kind of replies i will get on nairaland

::Andrew:::

I gondorsed with ma mum everyday and night because of grand child. Life has been unbearable for me
as if am the first son. Ma eldest brother is not even married although he has concubines, I bear the encumbrance.
I stopped calling ma mum because of death intimidations, knowing very well that I love her so much. whenever i call her all i hear is "If you wont get married and give me a grand child i will die" Last week i was frabagasted when someone called me from Nigeria that ma mum is dead , with melancholy i left ma office in tears only to later discover it was a fallacy concocted by ma mum to gain ma serious attention. She later told me next time could be real if I dont do something. Look at the philipinos, men and women live a happy life with or without husband yet they have parents. Why is it that in Nigeria when a lady is not yet married many look at her with apathy?
Is marriage a do or die affair? For this reason a man will leave his mother and father and stick to his wife. (so says the bible) Not a man must.

stop whining. go n get married!

your mum is probably a society woman. she attends the wedding of other children of her associates. people there ask her every weekend when are you doing your own wedding so they can return favours. she's the one facing that embarrassing question every weekend whilst you are in dublin doing playboy at the age of 42.

if you love your mum, find a bride and get married. in the part of the world we come from, marriage is a do or die affair. minus the moral decadence, you must marry before sleeping with any woman. give your mother the grandchild she desperately craves. your fortunes, handouts, wealth and big trucks cannot quench her thirst to be a grandmother.

Guy go marry joor but seriously though your mum dey play rough o.

this your mum lol. thats extreme. but please dont marry out of pressure. marry cz you choose to.

::Andrew:::

I knew these are the kind of replies i will get on nairaland

THEN WHY POST?

People dnt get married because dey have some1 to quench their sexual urge,if nt we wnt wait until we are told.but watever d case marriage requires patience so as nt to rush out afta rushing it.pls make ur mama happy,ur children will also make u happy

must he get married? one gets to choose when you want to be married not being stampeded into it. Guy take your time and ask your mum to relax.

In Christianity marriage is not a must, but you must hold yourself if you choose not to.

tlops:

must he get married? one gets to choose when you want to be married not being stampeded into it. Guy take your time and ask your mum to relax.

In Christianity marriage is not a must, but you must hold yourself if you choose not to.

BWAM YOU DON SAY AM ALL

tlops:

must he get married? one gets to choose when you want to be married not being stampeded into it. Guy take your time and ask your mum to relax.

In Christianity maririage is not a must, but you must hold yourself if you choose not to.

Please what does it mean 'to hold yourself'? I hear this a lot. Does it mean mastoorbation? Is that allowed in Christianity?

nep2ra:


Please what does it mean 'to hold yourself'? I hear this a lot. Does it mean mastoorbation? Is that allowed in Christianity?

n[i][i]ot neccessarily just means not engaging in crazy stuffzzz. BESIDES IS IT ONLY MATURBATION THAT IS A SIN [/i][/i]

Hello guy, perhaps ur mums tactics are extreme, almost desperate, u must realise that our society recognises certain milestones in life, marriage being probably the most hyped. Momsie thinks u make her/U/ur family look abnormal. Think, if all (even though not an absolute fact)seem to agree that marriage is good, then why would anybody refuse to. I would sugest u deeply examine urself to find why u do not want to. If its still negative, as a chriatian I would advice total abstinence from sexual union which is fundamentally defined in marriage.

to hold yourself means you must have self discipline,restrain from intimate activities including self-service. no fornication and lust,

nep2ra:


Please what does it mean 'to hold yourself'? I hear this a lot. Does it mean mastoorbation? Is that allowed in Christianity?

massturbation is a sin according to the bible!

i don't think marriage is must,cos God himself does not marry.

its is not a religios thing,it is a societal thing.
Our society places a MUST on it before you are labelled or classed responsible.
Op,make your mum happy.you and i know she wont get off your back until she gets what she wants or she's no more.best wishes!

freecocoa:

Guy go marry joor but seriously though your mum dey play rough o.

At least she would ve allowed me to clock 30 or 28

::Andrew:::

At least she would ve allowed me to clock 30 or 28

oh! you are even under 30! Take your time and shine your eyes as well, when the time comes nobody will tell you! cheers

::Andrew:::

At least she would ve allowed me to clock 30 or 28

wait o,you are not 28 yet?ha she should chillax o,I thought you were like 45 sef,I know one brother in this romance section who is almost 50 yet he's not planning to get married instead he keeps opening jonsing threads,if people like him are not rushing then you can take your time to choose a wife,but its seems like you are not even planning on getting married,may I ask why?

My guy check this out No marry ooo cause the present economy doesn't support marriage. If you go marry peren you will be drawn 5 years back especially if your folks no hold cash. Use my style give one girl belle end of story. with that you can go hustle round the world knowing you have enough to send to the mum to cater for the child. Might sound crazy but that works out a lot better.

freecocoa:

wait o,you are not 28 yet?ha she should chillax o,I thought you were like 45 sef,I know one brother in this romance section who is almost 50 yet he's not planning to get married instead he keeps opening jonsing threads,if people like him are not rushing then you can take your time to choose a wife,but its seems like you are not even planning on getting married,may I ask why?

Thank u jare, at least one person support me

The wahala even come be say she no want oyinbo ooo, she said tufiakwa and am not ready for any wireless relationship, how can i marry someone without dating?

freecocoa:

wait o,you are not 28 yet?ha she should chillax o,I thought you were like 45 sef,I know one brother in this romance section who is almost 50 yet he's not planning to get married instead he keeps opening jonsing threads,if people like him are not rushing then you can take your time to choose a wife,but its seems like you are not even planning on getting married,may I ask why?

who is this brother of yours?

::Andrew:::

Thank u jare, at least one person support me

The wahala even come be say she no want oyinbo ooo, she said tufiakwa and am not ready for any wireless relationship, how can i marry someone without dating?

you just need to look for a way to make her understand you need to choose your own wife,if you really want to grant her request of not marrying an oyinbo,then look out for decent home girls over there and you never know something could work out,but why is she not disturbing your elder brother?
P.s I could still hook you up with a good sister back here,I know plenty*winks*

coogar:

who is this brother of yours?

Ah oga coogar,na for my mouth you wan hear say sugar dey sweet? Anybody wey dey consistent for this section know who I dey talk.*walks out singing,if you ask me,na who I go ask?*

Marriage certainly isn't a must. It's pitful Nigerians can't simply get past that puerile thinking which puts marriage forward as a requirement for societal acceptance and happiness. People are and can be happy/fulfilled without marriage or association with one single partner!

From ur post i feel what ur mum needs is grand children. So u dont necessary need to marry, go get her grand children.