This Question goes out to the boys and men, and although it sounds ridiculous and scary, I want to know what you'll do if a girl steps up to you and tells you she wants to marry you.

that seems ridiculous

say yes or no . so that she will know what to do

cuul mamaput it's a no

mamaput, what do you say for yourself too

how is it ridiculous? is it because it is socially constructed just like how bad ppl say it is when a girl ask a guy out, simple, YES OR NO, she might have a reason, maybe da guy is nervous or da gurl wants to know if she is wasting her time

A girl will stay (to try later) or go or trap the man with a baby .
If am a man i will run and buy my condom or make sure she is taking her pill

Did i ask u girls?? Haba! well anyway, y'all free to say wut u got on yo minds. Where tha boyz @?

I am not a man but I have to add my own.
I think it is absolutely okay to do that. As a woman you definitely have to make it clear to a man that you are only interested in a relationship that has prospects. And if the man takes too long, then you have to make the first move.
As for me. I proposed to my husband the first day I met him and that is no joke.

It's not a problem as long as I am not obligated to say "yes". Such a thing can happen when the man is so shy that the girl just has to take the initiative. Women propose marriage all the time, they just don't do it directly or formally. "When are you going to ask me to marry you?" and "do you see this relationship leading to marriage?" are indirect ways of proposing.

Grizzly:

Did i ask u girls?? Haba! well anyway, y'all free to say wut u got on yo minds. Where tha boyz @?

This extremely hot model in UK, Jordan proposed marriage to her husband. She actually asked him outright. But that's oyinbo, it's kinda awkward for Nigerian girl o.

Hey Rhod, we aint fighting lol wut u looking at me like that for? lol

Thats weired, the guy cant say know like that but would be embarrased.

Grizzly:

Hey Rhod, we aint fighting wut u looking at me like that for?

you always do that remember?

WEll my husband was about finishing his post studies and would have had no more permit to stay in the country, that was why I made the proposal to him. It was to be a marriage only on paper
My husband took some weeks to answer me, he told me that if I was not ready to marry him with body and soul he was not interested.

nawah:

WEll my husband was about finishing his post studies and would have had no more permit to stay in the country, that was why I made the proposal to him. It was to be a marriage only on paper
My husband took some weeks to answer me, he told me that if I was not ready to marry him with body and soul he was not interested.

Does it mean ur marriage with him is not for real? Are u nigerian or german?

mamaput:

say yes or no . so that she will know what to do

mamaput nawa o

Does it mean your marriage with him is not for real? Are u nigerian or german?

If you read her posts, you'll discover that she appreciates him very much as a husband. The marriage is real.

what if? well, lets wait till then!

Sam here in the US,

Unheard of, if it ever did happen, it would probably be received with a no, unless the girl was some sort of celebrity or something. It's just not normal tradition, at least not here in the States. Is it any different there?

It screams desperation!

I have been asked before by a girl whom I considered a close freind. We weren't even sleeping together as I had just ended a long 3 year relationship and needed some breathing space to recuperate. We were working together in the same organisation and used to go for lunch together, during one of those lunch breaks she was unusually quiet and after a while she asked "Are you going to marry me", I was shocked and speechless for a while as I wasn't expecting it but I recovered quickly and ,

@ Nawah, I'm collating facts about you. Remember the divorce thread?

I'm not stalking you. But I've been reading your entries on so many family issues. I will draw a line later.

No harm intended. Cheers.

I am a German only on Paper .
I am a very proud Nigerian and my stay away from Nigeria has only made me love Nigeria the more. When you see how our brothers are being treated in Europe before they can get their stay .So sad.
I offered to help my husband because he was the oldest child from over 20 siblings and his parents had died long ago. All the family burden was on him.

A be na police you be @ ono
so if nawah step down from plan you go come put her in front of Shari court.
Ho sorry na Christin you be

@mamaput, actually, my Pa was a police officer. No be small thing o, I spent a bit of my childhood days in the barracks.

No wounder
anyway i was me that asked my husband "so when are we getting married"
I was me that told him I want to be married be4 the baby comes .
On christmas day he gave me the ring in march we got married.
Ten years later it was me that ended it all. I told him "no do no can do so please go"

@ mamaput, so u proposed and disposed eh?? thats cool. no big deal

I think it's weird for a woman to ask a man to marry her.

Will she pay lobola for the man, buy his suit and do the things men have to do, way toooo crazy?

I would never ask.

EH, if a girl proposes, whats wrong with that.

I will conclude that anyone(male/female) who would see a situation where a girl proposes to a guy as strange, is definitely in the stone age.

You know, some guys are extra "meek" nowadays. So i believe if a lady sees what she likes, cmon girl, go get it.

EH, if a girl proposes, whats wrong with that.

I will conclude that anyone(male/female) who would see a situation where a girl proposes to a guy as strange, is definitely in the stone age.

You know, some guys are extra "meek" nowadays. So i believe if a lady sees what she likes, cmon girl, go get it.

Yes, there are many fishes in the sea, but there is no other fish exactly like the one you want to catch, so rather than settling for something less/other than what you want, you better open your mouth and propose, abi ladies, what du u think, but not to directly on the other hand o, because a guy thats too shy to say "I love you", even if you know he really does, and by the time you say, , "are you thinking of marrying me", he might be too scared to jump out of his skin, so ladies, you should find some lady-like-extra-sweet-and-caring-salted-and-peppered way of putting it to him.