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This is horrible. The wife aborting a pregnancy and you painting a picture that makes me think that your story is very one sided. I don't know what can save this. I think this is just too deep and complicated for nairaland. Too intense. Why exactly is he still fighting for the marriage if she did all these horrible things and even aborted a pregnancy. SMH

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Assuming half of what you typed here is the truth,what advise are you even looking for

The lady is soooo done with your friend,moved on and your friend is still jumping around.
It hurts but he's got to move on. . .already.

true this is one side of the story, the other side, we will never get.

I feel the guy shld move on with his life. Some parents are over-protective though and one cant blame them as marriages is full of all sort

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This is horrible. The wife aborting a pregnancy and you painting a picture that makes me think that your story is very one sided. I don't know what can save this. I think this is just too deep and complicated for nairaland. Too intense. Why exactly is he still fighting for the marriage if she did all these horrible things and even aborted a pregnancy. SMH
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A lot more to the story. No MIL no matter how wicked will abort her own grandchild for flimsy reasons if at all.

As for the money issues, it seems like the husband was spending money that he didn't have just to impress his British Bride and the girl and her family found out that a lot of other things were built on lies. I have seen this happen twice before and both couples divorced within 6 months of getting married.
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Assuming half of what you typed here is the truth,what advise are you even looking for

The lady is soooo done with your friend,moved on and your friend is still jumping around.
It hurts but he's got to move on. . .already.
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true this is one side of the story, the other side, we will never get.

I feel the guy shld move on with his life. Some parents are over-protective though and one cant blame them as marriages is full of all sort




well, as bad as it may seem, i have told the guy to move on, but truth be told, should there be a cogent reason for such acts of the mother, husband to the mother told the son in law that his wife was too fetish hence he divorced her, yes one sided it may seem, but i guess the values placed on marriage dese days are like litter, women are far from what our mothers of the 70's are, there is trouble in the coming generation and it has started with ours, life trully as we know it is speeding to a halt.

Hmmm

Na wa oh. Someone gives his story just advice instead of looking for hidden meaning and trying to blame d victim. Nigerians re fond of this, esp in cases of abuse. Anyway please advice ur friend to take heart its abvious mama in law calls d shots. Marriage is hard enuf when two new pple are learning to live and understand each other without the influence of his mother in law. I don't care what he may ve or have not done, d role of parents in marriage is to advice and hands off, its left for us to take or reject d advice. My Dad I remember only adviced me I took my decision, in dis case d mother in law determines and controls what happens and staying with her daughter will make his life hell. Tell ur friend to sign d divorce papers and move on, such is life, its good both mother and daughter have carried their issues and gone. Don't become d bitter man her father is, am sure he went tru worse

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Life is too short. Your friend MUST move on. I agree with debrief08, He must get himself back on his feet and move on.

debrief08: Na wa oh. Someone gives his story just advice instead of looking for hidden meaning and trying to blame d victim. Nigerians re fond of this, esp in cases of abuse. Anyway please advice ur friend to take heart its abvious mama in law calls d shots. Marriage is hard enuf when two new pple are learning to live and understand each other without the influence of his mother in law. I don't care what he may ve or have not done, d role of parents in marriage is to advice and hands off, its left for us to take or reject d advice. My Dad I remember only adviced me I took my decision, in dis case d mother in law determines and controls what happens and staying with her daughter will make his life hell. Tell ur friend to sign d divorce papers and move on, such is life, its good both mother and daughter have carried their issues and gone. Don't become d bitter man her father is, am sure he went tru worse

thanks a bunch for this candid advice, related same to him

debrief08: Na wa oh. Someone gives his story just advice instead of looking for hidden meaning and trying to blame d victim. Nigerians re fond of this, esp in cases of abuse. Anyway please advice ur friend to take heart its abvious mama in law calls d shots. Marriage is hard enuf when two new pple are learning to live and understand each other without the influence of his mother in law. I don't care what he may ve or have not done, d role of parents in marriage is to advice and hands off, its left for us to take or reject d advice. My Dad I remember only adviced me I took my decision, in dis case d mother in law determines and controls what happens and staying with her daughter will make his life hell. Tell ur friend to sign d divorce papers and move on, such is life, its good both mother and daughter have carried their issues and gone. Don't become d bitter man her father is, am sure he went tru worse

Sometimes, it helps to hear both sides of the story in order to give a balanced piece of advice.

It's obvious from the tone of the story here that @poster expects us to all jump up and condem, curse, swear and blame the woman in question here.

@poster, based on what you've told us, there is nothing left holding your friend and his wife together. Ask your friend to move on and start afresh, with someone new. Life is too short to dwell on regrets.

What the heck has all that to do with the Mother-in-law?? According to your story, the girl was not into the man from during the courtship. . . so what did your "PRINCIPLED" friend, who got a girl he was not married to yet Pregnant, WHINING about?

Tell your friend to get a divorce, and learn from this mistake. He needs to know he is not an innocent player in the whole. It is despicable that half of the people I also know who are divorced,some of them living in London, have the same exact story to tell of how they were dumped by the woman they chose to marry.

Nigerians/Africans too love drama wey no get head or tail.

Spat on her. Thats very intense n not normal u don't spit on some1 u claim to love. N guess he must ve said some very hurtfull stuffs too.This story is truly very one sided. you won't achieve anything in telling us this lie. Like CC said no MIL will abort her own blood.