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Okay guys lets put a twist to this assuming there was no sex involved in the co-habitation arrangement would your views change?

No sex! what the U mean no sex?? so who's gonna reach the no-sex consensus? the CO-HA-BI-TA-TORS?? The name doesnt even sound good.

Lets call a spade a spade instead of calling it a garden spoon, what is not good is not good,there is no other name for bad!!!many people are trying to cover up the evils of co-habitation under the guise of one reason or the other!!!

Isn't it smarter to learn of any bad habits b4 marriage, rather than after?

Which is better, co-habitation, or a divorce? Or have you forgotten that divorces do happen?

Pre-marital sex is wrong by Christian standards. So if you're a Xtian cohabiting with your future partner is not advisable. However, if youre not concerned about xtian principles (or that of any other religion for that matter) there really isn't any big deal. Many times couples just want to spend as much time 2gether as possible. And what better way to do that than living 2gether?

@ Oasis, ur point is?

'COHABITATION' as you call it is a disgrace to womanhood. The men has little or nothing to loose if it fails. It steals the value of being a woman from ever woman who indulge in it. 'cohabitation' is an unreal coverage for every woman who seeks marriage.

CalabarMan:

Okay boys lets put a twist to this assuming there was no sex involved in the co-habitation arrangement would your views change?

Nope. I still would not cohabit because of all the reasons I previously mentioned & I like my space!

@ Oasis, your point is?

You know precisely what I mean. I don't see anything ambigious in my statement.

U aint still saying nothing.

U aint still saying nothing.

Of course I have said everything. You just need to read it when you're not sleepy that's all.

Better yet, when he's not high

It is definitely wrong from a christian perspective.

However, if you're not a christian you should be free to do what you like. . . even kill yourselves

Topic,

oasis:

Isn't it smarter to learn of any bad habits b4 marriage, rather than after?

Which is better, co-habitation, or a divorce? Or have you forgotten that divorces do happen?

i agree

Abroad, ok(for rent sake + other issues)

but in naija, i'm against it totally.

oasis:

Isn't it smarter to learn of any bad habits b4 marriage, rather than after?

Which is better, co-habitation, or a divorce? Or have you forgotten that divorces do happen?

This is a moot point - divorce can happen whether a couple cohabited or not. Living with someone before marriage is no guarantee.

It's a big NO NO. Does more harm than good. This sort of lifestyle is for those who scared of commitment, period.

@topic
First of all, I am not in favour of co-habitation before marriage.  I believe there are other ways of getting to know another person better than living together. 
On the other hand, there are positive aspects of this practice, depends on circumstances of parties involved. A few to mention;
it is economical, you pay less for rent by sharing a place and also sharing household chores
you can have company most of the time, as well as you maintain your space (hopefully) because you are actually not married
if you and partner decided to go separate ways at the end, it's probably less painful than having going through a divorce
you and your partner are together because you both want to, not being tied by the "I do" thing.

Well, that's it. 

it's a big NO. the disadvantages of it wayyy outweigh the advantage if any sef

~Sissy~:

it's a big NO. the disadvantages of it wayyy outweigh the advantage if any sef

what are the disadvanatages?

people involved in it know very well dat it's wrong.woteva way u choose 2 luk at it.d sorry part of it is dat wen d guy has had enof of d gal he can decide any moment 2 call it quit n d gal will be at d loosing end.i personally dont like it n wount encourage it 4 any reason at all

Co-habitation is very useful in relationships.That way, you both get to know yourselves better before you enter the finale.During this time, both partners come out from their shells (at least most do) and you have a clearly picture of who you will be spending the rest of your life with (hopefully).

Getting married and having the feeling that you're living with a stranger is not cool at all.A lot of homes have gone awry this way.Then you start hearing "he deceived me" or you hear " she was a pretender all along".With co-habitation, the risk of these unpleasant issues coming up is put at bay.

Hope this helps.

it seems to make sense to cohabit to get to know your partner's domestic habits.

but i'm not a fan of giving EVERYTHING to your bf. i believe a lady should withhold certain things. cohabitating b4 marriage is giving too much. a lady shouldn't hand herself to a guy, she must be courted. courting doesn't include cohabitation.

thats my 2 cents

Co wetin? Why buy the cow when the meat, bones and milk is up for free?? He'll cohabit with you then go ahead and marry the girl he met on a vacation in Spain. Na today??

^ gbam!

I could subscribe to the weekend stay over only (mini co-habitation if you like).
If you co-habit now what will be the fun when you finally tie the nuptial?

chika98:

Co wetin? Why buy the cow when the meat, bones and milk is up for free?? He'll cohabit with you then go ahead and marry the girl he met on a vacation in Spain. Na today??

LOL!