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Re: She Has Invested So Much In Me. Now She Want Marriage And I Dont Love Her Anymore. by Kx: 10:07am On Dec 06, 2011 |
If u could openly accept cash and other things from her when you "loved" her, why cant you face her and tell her straight to her face now that you no longer love her?? |
Re: She Has Invested So Much In Me. Now She Want Marriage And I Dont Love Her Anymore. by FrenchyL(m): 10:14am On Dec 06, 2011 |
Hi, i must say that you got yourself into this mess so you need to clean it up yourself.Nobody can impose them self on you, you allowed it simply because you felt you could suck the juice while it lasted and now you want to run away It is not fair and it is simply wicked. How would you feel if you were in her shoes Guy better just dey pray because a woman in her state is capable of so many things that even your mind cannot begin to fathom. God help you. |
Re: She Has Invested So Much In Me. Now She Want Marriage And I Dont Love Her Anymore. by Nosyke(m): 10:33am On Dec 06, 2011 |
I Love Nairaland See Advices from Left, right and centre. @OP, I really dont envy you at all, because right now you are in between the devil and very deep blue sea. @Dayokanu, why dont you start a comedy show, who knows? |
Re: She Has Invested So Much In Me. Now She Want Marriage And I Dont Love Her Anymore. by GloJH(f): 10:57am On Dec 06, 2011 |
May the gods of vengance shrivel ur dick, may u neva knw the joys of marriage if u dont marry dis money bag that u deceive 4 so long. Shame on u nd ur likes. Wen she was spending on u, u were in luv, fulfill ur part now, u r no longa in luv. Now that u r working, u knw how to carry small galz. Almighty God and ancestral gods will join forces together to punish until u hv no where to hide n it will b too late for repentance. Ungrateful son of a bitch. |
Re: She Has Invested So Much In Me. Now She Want Marriage And I Dont Love Her Anymore. by angelkay: 11:20am On Dec 06, 2011 |
Sorry Elizadath, didn't u know you can neva love her and that u can't marry her too. Did you ever ask her from the start the bases of her help at least you would have made up your mind on what you are about to see or go into. well u made mention of she not liking your mum when did you realize that, is it a reality or a means of eloping. My dear, this world has come to a stage where you don't promise what you can't keep blindly all in the name of pity. Marriage is not a bed of roses. There is more in marriage than just dating. be wise because law of nature is real. Just pray and may God help you. |
Re: She Has Invested So Much In Me. Now She Want Marriage And I Dont Love Her Anymore. by charlsecy4(m): 11:43am On Dec 06, 2011 |
Question: What do failed marriages and HIV have in common? Answer: Their numbers have increased dramatically in the last three decades! It is a pity that some ill-informed persons think that an institution as sacred as marriage is a business venture where you back out if it is not profitable. Little wonder, divorce rates are at an all-time high. No man should marry a girl simply because the girl has helped him in some way. For GOD's sake, marriage is not a payment tool that you should use it to reward someone who helped you. Marriages founded on such fake foundations are pre-scheduled for a very loud failure! Marriages based on any of these below-mentioned elements are failure-bound: He or she loves you. You want to be free from parents. To have sex. To ease loneliness. To be happy. To show you are an adult. Because of a pregnancy. To save or help someone. Because you want a baby. For money. Because all your friends are married. You've always wanted a fancy wedding. Out of fear that no one else will want to marry you. You think you are running out of time to get married. For immigration purposes. You are tired of being single. You don't want people gossiping about the two of you living together. Because the person helped you in the past. Instead, marry for these reasons: You are in love with one another. A desire to share your life with another. To have a lifetime companion. Realistic expectations. Willingness to help one another fulfill their own needs and dreams. Willingness to tolerate each other's weaknesses. The guy should put the matter in prayers. He should politely involve people close to the girl and explain to her why the marriage will not work. Be firm. If you marry out of fear, then it's an invalid marriage, that is, it was never a marriage in the first place! Such "marriages" don't even require divorce to be dissolved because it was never a marriage in the first place. Marriage must precede divorce. |
Re: She Has Invested So Much In Me. Now She Want Marriage And I Dont Love Her Anymore. by Afam4eva(m): 11:46am On Dec 06, 2011 |
This union must see the light of day. This one na jungle justice wedding. It must happen. |
Re: She Has Invested So Much In Me. Now She Want Marriage And I Dont Love Her Anymore. by Nosyke(m): 11:59am On Dec 06, 2011 |
afam4eva: By fire by force abi? The guy went to dine with the devil with a very short spoon infact he was dining directly with his hands |
Re: She Has Invested So Much In Me. Now She Want Marriage And I Dont Love Her Anymore. by Tabidavou: 12:19pm On Dec 06, 2011 |
Hmmmmm, u suddenly realised that she hates ur mum & she is authoritative? u ar so very wicked & am sure u ar still collecting her money [ u want 2 eat ur cake & still have it?] NO WAY!!!! U AR STUCK IN THERE, MARRY HER OR U DIE, u bloody greedy man. |
Re: She Has Invested So Much In Me. Now She Want Marriage And I Dont Love Her Anymore. by DaDoctor: 12:29pm On Dec 06, 2011 |
To the poster. why did u alllow her invets in u if u knew u didnt want any tin serious? why did u re invest in a 'smallie' now trying to leave the 'oldie'? how are you sure the 'smallie you invested in wont leave you later? To the house; do u advise this guy to marry a person he no longer feels love for? havent men invested in most of you only to be disaapointed?? do u want this guy to end up as the 'woman ' in d house? my take. Bro, look well and remember karma too. u may love the oldie but the smallie is really tantalising you. it may be infatuation! more so if you must continue. try and see that she is humble and able to respsct and accept you as the man. u too npo go dey form jugunu. |
Re: She Has Invested So Much In Me. Now She Want Marriage And I Dont Love Her Anymore. by Pa22(m): 2:43pm On Dec 06, 2011 |
We've had pple who're ĭϞ luv know that their spouses don't reciprocate. Therefore, they expect less even if it's for eternity! U̶̲̥̅̊ JƱڪτ̲̅ sat there, enjoyed her juice & cream without any form resistance ehn? A̶̲̥̅nd I'm sure U̶̲̥̅̊ encouraged her because U̶̲̥̅̊ were so helpless bearing ĭϞ mind |
Re: She Has Invested So Much In Me. Now She Want Marriage And I Dont Love Her Anymore. by Pa22(m): 2:58pm On Dec 06, 2011 |
We've had pple who're ĭϞ luv know that their spouses don't reciprocate. Therefore, they expect less even if it's for eternity! U̶̲̥̅̊ JƱڪτ̲̅ sat there, enjoyed her juice & cream without any form of resistance ehn? A̶̲̥̅nd I'm sure U̶̲̥̅̊ encouraged her because U̶̲̥̅̊ were so helpless bearing ĭϞ mind †ђξ consequence of not having a sponsor @ that sorry state right? Anyway, I won't advice U̶̲̥̅̊ †☺ do anything against ur will. Do a soul-searching a̶̲̥̅nd make sure U̶̲̥̅̊ are sure of W̶̲̥̅̊ђA̶̲̥̅t U̶̲̥̅̊ are feeling right now. Whatever, make sure she's well compensated & leads a healty, happy life afterwards, All on her terms! Goodluck! |
Re: She Has Invested So Much In Me. Now She Want Marriage And I Dont Love Her Anymore. by mkmyers45(m): 3:01pm On Dec 06, 2011 |
@OP: If thunder strike you no be bad thing oooooo, How will you finish her and now want to dumb her, i also believe you must have entered the place tooo abi? Na wa 4 u |
Re: She Has Invested So Much In Me. Now She Want Marriage And I Dont Love Her Anymore. by Nobody: 3:09pm On Dec 06, 2011 |
I don't see tha lady as a victim in this situation. Poster don't marry her otherwise your marriage will be sad for both of you. Even her that is settling for less because that is what you are for her will wonder why she forced herself on you. Marriage should not be a game of manipulation and threats she is getting it all wrong. If you used her to get along in life i will suggest you find a way to appease her, marriage should not be a " i bought you shoes when you had none , oya you must marry me". Move on somewhere along the way she may need your help or you can repay her by being kind to people you meet along the way who are in need of financial help. Sit her down and tell her or like the coward you are send her a mail or a text. I hope she is a strong woman and i hope she forgives you. Everybody deserves to be happy and oh another advise despise free things. Awwuf dey run belle afterall. |
Re: She Has Invested So Much In Me. Now She Want Marriage And I Dont Love Her Anymore. by Angelaoke: 3:12pm On Dec 06, 2011 |
Relationship has always been an investment, most people considered the financial investment more expensive than the emotional commitment(investment) (This insane woman) has spent financially and emotionally foolishly, reason being that she is supposed to have seen it clearly that the loverboy is nothing but a bastard who is only taking advantage of her cash with the lovey dovey talk, yes its sometimes very difficult to see the fakeness in loverboys. Now this is no amount of compensation,(financially) as am sure you do not even have enough to care for your self and your new claimed love and of course you never invested any of your true emotion, therefore you do not still have that to give, Mr Loverboy you are in a very big trouble here. If truly you appreciated your realationship with this said girl and only finding out after 6yrs that you do not love her enough to marry her and also that your mom don't like her then a huge compensation and proper explanation(heart felt discussion) to her, can you please tell me why do you think the said woman actually loves you and why do you think this your new girl you said you love loves you enough to marry you and if she would have been there during your school days when you had nothing? Am waiting for your reply as am very interest in this case. |
Re: She Has Invested So Much In Me. Now She Want Marriage And I Dont Love Her Anymore. by blacklion(m): 4:06pm On Dec 06, 2011 |
Angela oke: Are you in a similar situation? |
Re: She Has Invested So Much In Me. Now She Want Marriage And I Dont Love Her Anymore. by otitisteve: 5:14pm On Dec 06, 2011 |
Ole |
Re: She Has Invested So Much In Me. Now She Want Marriage And I Dont Love Her Anymore. by anafest: 5:42pm On Dec 06, 2011 |
now u know all these, |
Re: She Has Invested So Much In Me. Now She Want Marriage And I Dont Love Her Anymore. by Thespecialone(m): 7:21pm On Dec 06, 2011 |
@ OP You are an ingrate par excellence. Who are you trying to deceive? |
Re: She Has Invested So Much In Me. Now She Want Marriage And I Dont Love Her Anymore. by emmatok(m): 12:14am On Dec 07, 2011 |
What investment is the OP talking about. Did she pay for your education or start a business for you? It is buying stuffs, that is normal in a relationship.It is not an investment at all. The only difference is that she spends more that you. |
Re: She Has Invested So Much In Me. Now She Want Marriage And I Dont Love Her Anymore. by Konnektions146(m): 1:27am On Dec 07, 2011 |
@op, i dont want God to punish yu. yu wasted her years and hard earned resources, now yu found out yu dont love her. can i ask yu? have yu everloved her or yu re just gold-diggin? i f yu ever did, den find out what happened and bring the love back. have yu ever imagined it could be your sister? do yu think this your so-called dear love would've agreed to be with yu wen yu were struggling i am not sayin yu marry someone yu dont love but sincerely yu re heartless. |
Re: She Has Invested So Much In Me. Now She Want Marriage And I Dont Love Her Anymore. by Nobody: 2:43am On Dec 07, 2011 |
@poster you have to understand why so many men feel bitter about your actions. many have searched ALL THEIR LIVES for the kind of women you dated, it has been their dream all their life to find such lady, their financial situation is so hard that only finding such damsel can help them go anywhere in life. . . . . . . so they get truly PI[b]S[/b]SED when they hear that someone is tired of such lady. they can never understand that after taking all the money/gifts/comfort that you could get from this gal, it came to a point where even her money cant keep you with her (happy) any longer, and you need SOMETHING that makes SENSE to your life (aka being in love with the right person). |
Re: She Has Invested So Much In Me. Now She Want Marriage And I Dont Love Her Anymore. by texazzpete(m): 8:02am On Dec 07, 2011 |
MRbrownJAY: Exactly! The OP says he never promised to marry her. So why all the abuse directed at the fellow? As usual, double standards from NL ladies. Men are routinely expected and encouraged to spend money to keep a girl in a relationship. Now that the shoe is on the other foot these harridans are declaring fatwas |
Re: She Has Invested So Much In Me. Now She Want Marriage And I Dont Love Her Anymore. by obowunmi(m): 8:07am On Dec 07, 2011 |
Mr. Brown, You are too funny. LOL!! Hahaha, Too many yung'uns on NLD, I'm not feeling the responses from both men and women. The poor guy deserves to be happy and shouldn't marry anyone outta pity. |
Re: She Has Invested So Much In Me. Now She Want Marriage And I Dont Love Her Anymore. by Biabeke(f): 8:37am On Dec 07, 2011 |
The fact that you took her for a long and manipulative ride shows that your character is questionable. If you have never been honest in your life, then now is the time. Tell her that you are sorry and that you do not love her. Hopefully, God will give her the strength not to hurt you. (sighs) |
Re: She Has Invested So Much In Me. Now She Want Marriage And I Dont Love Her Anymore. by clip: 3:07pm On Dec 07, 2011 |
I Believe the feeling you have for this new girl is infatuation.If you can discover after 6years of relationship that you do not love her.What assurance that after 2years in this your new relationship,you will not discover again that you can not marry her or that you want a divorce. Please,does real love exist, it is easier said that practice.What makes a good home is understanding and determination to make the marriage work. Our fathers never new our mother before marriage and their marriage lasted till death do them part. Make your mother understood the role the lady played in your life. If you truly explain to your mother, she is a woman,she will understand and take as her daughter because what she and your entire family could not do she did it. Some women are wonderful before marriage and after marriage show their bad side A FRIEND IN NEED IS A FRIEND IN DEED. LOVE HER BACK. GOD BLESS YOU AND HAPPY MARRIED LIFE. |
Re: She Has Invested So Much In Me. Now She Want Marriage And I Dont Love Her Anymore. by MOM1(m): 1:20am On Dec 08, 2011 |
At poster, i believe you know the right thing to do before anyone condemns you on here. You dont love her and yet you take things from her and all.Were you trying to be smart or what? just keep it at the back of your mind "what goes around comes around", I always tell ladies a man you dont feel anything for just dont encourage him in anyway not to talk about you a guy taking advantage of a lady, I pity you so much, Ladies can make you and can destroy you within twinkle of an eye |
Re: She Has Invested So Much In Me. Now She Want Marriage And I Dont Love Her Anymore. by Nobody: 10:25am On Dec 08, 2011 |
Poster na Amadioha go really punish Ɣøû, better start setting your mind to love and marry her. Nonsense. |
Re: She Has Invested So Much In Me. Now She Want Marriage And I Dont Love Her Anymore. by Nobody: 12:01pm On Dec 08, 2011 |
Elizadath: So it took you six years to know this? Anu ofia. After choopping money you now want to do what is "Right"? Go nowwww, na death dey wait you eediottt |
Re: She Has Invested So Much In Me. Now She Want Marriage And I Dont Love Her Anymore. by sevule(m): 1:11pm On Dec 08, 2011 |
@poster all the curses heaped on you in this forum would have been enough to sink the titanic 3 times over. Na wa for Nigerians and cursing. Yes the poster has acted in a morally reprehensible manner but marrying a woman he doesnt love is a BIG NO NO even if she invested her entire life's savings on him. And please what is the deal with people saying he used her sex.ually? Last time I checked it is not only men that enjoy se.x. |
Re: She Has Invested So Much In Me. Now She Want Marriage And I Dont Love Her Anymore. by obowunmi(m): 1:21pm On Dec 08, 2011 |
Poster: ti e ba e |
Re: She Has Invested So Much In Me. Now She Want Marriage And I Dont Love Her Anymore. by queensmith: 11:33pm On Dec 08, 2011 |
i agree with ileke idi, the woman wasted time, its not the op's fault she invested on a fool! its a lesson some women must learn the hard way, i on the other hand will take this magas lesson and invest only on myself! win:win!! |
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