How do I let a guy down gently and nicely? Especially a BRO?( Christian brother)? Is being a christian a licence for bros to approach every sister in the church and expect a positive answer? And when you say no, why must they always try to blackmail you emotionally and spiritually? I'm normally not very diplomatic even as a christian and I tend to just tell someone I'm not interested in them in that way but many guys just don't want to take no for an answer. The fact that I am a christian does not mean I should not have taste, does it?

my sister as a very serious citizen of nairaland wait untill u hear from God.

No, being a christian does not mean you shouldn't have taste but the news is that there is no way you can let a guy down "gently and nicely"
If you try that approach, you'll find yourself back to the same guy and you'll be so frustrated yet, you won't be able to break up.

This is because when you try to be nice and gentle, the guy takes it that you still like him afterall and tries even harder to blackmail you spiritually and emotionally.

The best way to do it is do it face to face. Not in your house or his, but a neutral place like an eatery.  Tell him you're not happy in the relationship.

You don't have to be apologetic neither do you have to sound guilty, but at the same time, don't be rude or insulting. Just tell him the plain truth and if he tries to hold on, you may tell him you need some time off for yourself.

Any intelligent guy knows that once a lady starts saying she wants out of a relationship for a while to clear her head, she definitely does not want him anymore.

ehehhee.datz the passport for this pentecostal bros oooooooooooooo, Thye marry/date eachother, itz a social institution, lol

gurl just say NO i mean freedom of speech u av right to watever u want and u dont want him so shiit its on a punk dat's gon try 2 blackmail someone cos they didnt want to go with them so shiit do watever u want 2 do

quote from yimiton:
there is no way you can let a guy down "gently and nicely"
If you try that approach, you'll find yourself back to the same guy and you'll be so frustrated yet, you won't be able to break up.

That's quite true, I have experienced that.  
I guess the best is to tell him that you are commited to someone else or you not ready to go into a relationship.

If you don't love a guy, then try and tell him right from the very first day he approaches you; even if you don't have the courage to turn him down out rightly, tell him that you're in a relationship I think that would be more polite.

"No" is actually not a bad response, and people should learn to use it when necessary.

If he's the kind of brother who asks 5-10 sisters out at the same time, you don't need to be considerate.

its difficult 2 let a guy down nicely, <unless the guy is refined/culture>, 95% of the male population will still hang around tryin 2 stage a comeback,
the best thing is to call him, meet him somewhere open prefably outdoors n te;ll him whats on ur mind, as a christian he shud understand.if he has been good to u, u cud elaborate vn give him reasons, but if u have been leading him on previously then it might be a lil bit messy, no1 likes their heartz 2 be played with
good luck

Abeg, a NO is a NO.There's no alternative, it's left for da Bro 2 understand

If he feels bad 'bout it,tyme 'll heal, besides he has already gotten da msg & he'd be eyeing anoda Sista

Girl,Da moment u know wat u want- go for it,don't let people's opinion bother ur choice(but be responsible 4 da outcome too)

Be bless'd & don't mind dat Broda,let him look 4 anoda Sista wey go lyke am wellu wellu

earthrealm:

its difficult 2 let a guy down nicely, <unless the guy is refined/culture>, 95% of the male population will still hang around tryin 2 stage a comeback,
the best thing is to call him, meet him somewhere open prefably outdoors n te;ll him whats on your mind, as a christian he should understand.if he has been good to u, u cud elaborate vn give him reasons, but if u have been leading him on previously then it might be a little bit messy, no1 likes their heartz 2 be played with
good luck

nice one there

but may you never jam the stubborn ones. it can be annoying.

There are ways you can tell a guy off nicely. It depends on what he want. If it is just friendship, it is hard to do. But if he want a sizzling affair, you have to rely on your intuition.

Every man has a turn off button. Find it and you can easily get him out of your life. The trouble is, women expect all men to behave alike. It doesn't work all time. That is why they don't know where their (men) turn off button is.