quick question. I 'm not sure how to say no to " boy friends" who want to take the friendship further. I mean "no " as in to say "I don't think this can work, I don't think u are my match" . I try to respect people's feelings that is why it is difficult 4 me. besides I don't want to spoil the friendship .
thanks.

Rejection always leads to hurt feelings. You can just be honest and say what you feel and hope he understands or at least appreciates your honesty. But you don't need to close the door of possibility completely, do you? People change, you know.

Quick answer, just tell him, , but it could get awry x-persia-ly if u dealing wid a nut case.

i always go like this [i]is not that i dont like you or anything, im just not ready for relationship[/i] but in truth i mean to say you aint my kind of g u y

i don't think it will be easy, be honest as mentioned i don't think you'll regret it

How do u tell a guy?
Cheat on him with his Dad and he will get the message without bothering u ever again

dont be mean

You know wat baby girl?i know its very hard to let out that kinda message, Just tell him you have a lot of things on your mind at the moment and you need some space for a while, i am sure he will understand and eventually leave if he waits long enough and you still havent returned, trust me, segun

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i always go like this [i]is not that i don't like you or anything, im just not ready for relationship[/i] but in truth i mean to say you aint my kind of g u y

Nice one -Rhodalyn & segeonline but not all of them understand coded words like that.^{DOnt be amazed if he shows up months later and ask again} lol

I gues it ok to be nice but be sure he get the message!
reading between the lines is not a general human feature!

oh the naivety! Now that there's opportunity to break hearts, break oh. Because when your turn come, there'll be no mercy. I can assure you that much.

Only if she hangs out with people beings like you!

You can minimize the hurt, but you can't eliminate it. Who knows, he might be a useful ally tommorrow.

Dont hurt, be sincere, make friends and don't give wrong impressions, don't try to get too close if you don't want a relationship. share some other interests in business, career, dreams and so on,  Be plain, if he truly loves you he will resort to what you have to offer him which is friendship,  then things will sure happen when its meant to be ,

just tell him u're into a very serious relationship. he will not like to be an assitant boyfriend and for that reson he'll let u be.

him go feel bad bt u need to tell the bobo.

@ roses,

honey, there ain't no way that u're not gonna break hearts or hurt feelings , that's just life 4 u! right now, u might not be aware of it, but unconsciously, u've hurt loads a' people , but does that change who u are? definitely not!

so if there are guys milling around u that u don't want, then tell point-blank that u don't wanna have nada 2 do with 'em - u could tell 'em rudely or muster 'nuff guile 2 be nice, it's all good; but the important thang is that u let 'em get the message and let 'em know that u're dead-pan serious, else u'll never know no peace, 4 they'll just keep coming back and that girl, can be very infuriating!

do what u gotta do girl , most importantly though, do what's good 4 u!

He will get hurt, no doubt about it. But give him time to deal with his emotions and even if he yells at you, take it all in good stride. After some time, try to be his friend. By the, time would have healed his wound. Its not easy but one day, it will work out.

@ Opelovely

4rm ur views i can tell u are a very lovely person with nice caring thots 4 people, but if 4 any reason u're gonna break-up with a guy, never , never, ever go back & say u want y'all 2 be friends just cause u wanna help soothe his hurt , xcept dat bother is moi, d pope or Jesus Christ; he's gonna read ur intentions wrong , best u break-up with a guy & let him be - with time he'll get over it & move on; take it 4rm a bro. who knows a whole about dis gettin hurt business !!!

Jus Say I'm not INTERESTED Period---Which kian feelinz r u hurting?

gaybaby thank God my brother can never know you

change ur ph#, nah am just kiddin
am in same predicament too and i always end up leadin him on but not on purpose. i wish i can grow the ballz to let guys kno upfront that i dont be feelin them then my life will be so much better

try this . .

baby, there's something we need to talk about.
It is not u but me. . .
I ain't feeling u like that anymore
best u let me go now b4 its too late
and i hope u find someone that will make u verrrryyy happy
that person ain't just me.

i dnt think there is really a way of doing that
without hurtin their feelings

Busta:

try this . .

baby, there's something we need to talk about.

Baby Ke sm1 U'v never even said YES 2--U wan begin call am BABY?

i wonder o. . . that would hurt the guy the more. Any better alternative?. . ; this is a really serious matter cos not everyone including guys have that balls to tell the opposite that he/she is not interested.

Just give him one last free Bleep, then as he's getting ready to leave. Tell him this da last time you guys are going to be this close.

ugodaniel:

Just give him one last free Bleep, then as he's getting ready to leave. Tell him this da last time you guys are going to be this close.

dang, u such a playa

Just give him one last free Bleep, then as he's getting ready to leave. Tell him this da last time you guys are going to be this close.

Just d sorta thing u'll get 4rm a guy , why do we always have 2 go back 4 a last Bleep anyway?

Abi

u guys are full of crap, this girl is serious here. SOS please!!!!!

If you tell him yes,he'd cry for joy.
If you tell him no, he'd cry in pain.
Any which way, they'd be tears.
Do what you gota do.

You can't please him and displease yourself so tell him your mind,but in a decent way e.g well am not really ready for a relationship or i want to focus more on my studies or i need some emotional brake for now e .t .c