Etiquette Of A Gentleman
By Michael Bucci

Do not laugh at others' mistakes
This is perhaps one of the cruelest things one can do. When you mess up, the last thing you want is for someone not only to bring it to your attention, but to ridicule you on top of that.

Remove your hat indoors
This rule seems to have gone out the window these days. You should remove your headwear upon entering a building. Furthermore, never keep your hat on while at the dinner table. It reflects very poor etiquette.

Wait for seating before eating
When sitting down for a meal, you should wait until all the guests are properly seated and ready to commence the meal before eating. Everyone should start dining at the same time; this is a subtle but very important rule. the basics of chivalryIn addition to the aforementioned rules, gentlemen (in training) should follow these additional rules when in the presence of a lady. Chivalry may be on life support, but it is not dead yet. Be one of the few to keep this flame burning for many years to come.

Always open doors
This is perhaps the most basic rule of male etiquette out there. It is also one of the easiest to follow so you have no reason to forget it. Whether she is about to enter your car, restaurant, club, or anyplace with a door, you should always hold it open. If there are many doors, then hold them open one after the other.
Put on her coat
Always help a lady put on her coat or overgarment. This is a simple but powerful action.

Help with her seat
If an unaccompanied lady is sitting next to you, it is important that you help her be seated by pulling her chair out for her and gently pushing it back into place, with the lady seated of course.

Give up your seat
If a lady arrives at the table and there are no available seats, you should stand up and offer yours to her.

Stand at attention
Always stand when a lady enters or exits the room. This rule has been somewhat relaxed, so you can stand upon entrance but remain seated upon exit. Nonetheless, if you can do both, you should.

Give her your arm
When escorting a lady (that you know) to and from social events, you should offer her your arm. This is a little more intimate, but serves well when walking on uneven ground -- especially if she's wearing high heels.

Ask if she needs anything
This is one that most guys already do, but helps complete the gentleman in all of us nevertheless. When at social events, make sure to ask the lady if you can get her something to drink (or eat, depending on the event). Show her that you care about her comfort and needs.

Gentlemen, if I may call you that, these are the rules of etiquette you should observe in everyday life. Elevate yourself above the rabble and display the mannerisms of a true gentleman. The world will appreciate such a rarity and your career will most definitely benefit from your good manners and savoir-faire .

Culled From Askmen.com-
http://uk.askmen.com/money/successful/41b_success.html

Do you practice any or all of these?

Is your own definition of gentlemen someone who open door for ladies? Sincerely, that is a wrong definition.

By the way a thread had been created for this topic. Kindly locate it.

Is your own definition of gentlemen someone who open door for ladies? Sincerely, that is a wrong definition.

By the way a thread had been created for this topic. Kindly locate it.

oh, i didn't know, I tried searching for it with one seach engine on this site.

Ever heard of the book, ''The Beautyful Ones are not yet Born''. that applies to Nigerian guys.

@ thoniaslim,

why na? i have been born and believe me,i have the aforementioned etiquettes and even more

if you care to find out

Well am sorry i don't care to find out.

men nigerian gentlemen are hard to find, u don't even have to look for them, they'll find u if ur lucky

@ thoniaslim,

sry,i already withdrew the invite b4 you got to read the post

@ADESUWA: then this must be ur lucky day cos u av just met a true nigerian gentleman. 2dye4 @ ur service m'aam  

seriously though, i tot most ladies prefered rough-neck, ghetto 4real brothers?

unfortunately, they are in the minority, n, ,I AINT CLAIMING 2 BE ONE!!>

but i dey try shaa

u sure u dey try, eya score urself!!!!

I don't think its a very typical trait of Nigerian men. Nigerian culture focuses on men being providers, and I am yet to see Nigerian parents who stress ettiquette and chivalry in their sons.

i don't agree wiv u on that, etiquette is the background of informal education in nigerian homes, although chivalry is not as emphasized

Yes. Such as in the "rural" mindset kind of way. Help by carrying your bucket on your head when you are at the stream fetching water.

@Thoniaslim

I concur with you totally.

So until a guy opens a door for a lady to pass then he’s a gentleman.

In Nigeria here, guys have different ways of making their ladies feel proud of them than merely opening a door for her to pass through. So I would advise you to make more research on this issue before you begin to condemn Nigerian guys.

pointless asking for any because there aint none

maybe everyone has his own way, u can add ur special style

Eldee!!!

The truth of the matter is that i'm proud to say that i am one,i exhibit such everywhere i go,but i must confess to u it sometimes get my buddy peaced off,but i'm someone that doesnt live on other people's opinions,whatever i consider decent for myself i go ahead and do it.

Funny enough,everywhere i go,before i know what i have couple of decent and pretty girls around me and atimes i tend to wonder why that is so,after all i'm always myself where ever i am,i dont flaunt,i dont pretend and neither do get too pushy,i'm always myself,but i always get to realise that most of those damsels quite appreciate and adhore my uncommon disposition to them which they always claim attract them to me.

But,the truth is that most Nigerian guys arent like that,most of them are just too hostile in the way they approach or treat the girls around,and its pretty bad,they need to change 'cos it will definitly affect their marriage.

Cheers!!!

@ Topic.

It's true that Nigerian gentlemen like my humble self are quite hard to find. But we really are available. Am a perfect example of one

it seems like nigerian brovas feel been gentlemaly in behaviour reduces thier level of masculinity

ladies what do u think

eldee:

ladies what do u think

I think you can take it that the "ladies" silence on this forum "golden". You can take it to the bank any day!

Etiquettes are over rated!

yeah but they are meant to be part of our everyday life

how many men in the world do those things? dont be decieved by what you watch at Odeon cinema o

if nigerian men are bad, there wont be such a high demand for them at present

ladies, u heard that, do we have to beg before u speak up

If you are indeed talking about all those stuffs (etiquette),am afraid i can't see any Nigerian guy doing all those,they might do a few but not all.Shikena,

well we do exist,problem is dat d ladies can't seem to differentiate between someone who's tryna b a gentleman and someone who's tryn to get thier attention for a potential chase.Infact,if u try to be one,she immediately enters the chase mode!!!!and doesn't even know she's supposed to BE A LADY AND SAY THANKS, cos whatever u do as a gentleman was just your prerogative and not her right.U coulda decided not to,and it wouldn't have been noticed!!!!Sha,bobos,lets keep tryn,God dey!![b][/b]