My ex is a thorn in my flesh. We were serious, getting set for our intro when he committed a great misdeed and I had to breakup with him.
It wasn't an easy decision but I had to do it since he'd disrespected everything we stood for.
When he saw I was serious about leaving, he begged me to forget what happened and forge ahead with him. But I wouldn't budge because I had forgiven him too many times and moreover, this last deed was a big slap on the face of my whole family. Then he told me I wouldn't get another person like him and demanded back his gift, which I returned intact and unused.
I left mine with him though. After that, I decided not to have any contact with him. So I ignored all calls and texts from him.

Since then, I get all sorts of strange calls, texts and facebook requests.
He sends all these random people to toast and pursue me and I'm sure he wants me to fall for it so that they could sleep with and humiliate me. He's obsessed with setting me up because he feels humiliated that I called off the wedding.
Its a long story how I know he's responsible. I just want to be left alone, so I can move on. It's been a year since the breakup.

A year and you still get those messages?

Ngwanu osara oku.





Err mm OP,you know NL like amebo wella,do you mind telling us what he did that's unforgivable?btw if he's really doing all that then he's not yet a man,also it'll be cool to tell how you know he's responsible cos I mean,you can never be too sure even when you think you are sure,you know.

Oya sauer,tell me I just rambled as usual.

@sauer
Yes. Early this month, I was getting calls every night from a guy with a dodgy Hausa accent. When I asked how he got my number, he claims I flashed him first. I subsequently stopped picking.
Last week, I got a call from another number and the person at the other end kept silent while I was askin who was on the line. Things have tapered off now that he knows it's end of year and i'd be with my family. But I know he's only waiting for me to go back to where I stay in the new year to start again.
It's really affecting me because I'm now suspicious of anybody who tries to strike up a convo with me. Which isn't the way to go as a single girl.
One of his cronies successfully got me by lying that he was an old friend, requested that I add him on facebook and then proceeded to write an abusive comment on a perfectly decent headshot that I used as my profile pic.
Now I have erected a high fence around me but it's keeping away the good people too!

divalishis:

@sauer
Yes. Early this month, I was getting calls every night from a guy with a dodgy Hausa accent. When I asked how he got my number, he claims I flashed him first. I subsequently stopped picking.
Last week, I got a call from another number and the person at the other end kept silent while I was askin who was on the line. Things have tapered off now that he knows it's end of year and i'd be with my family. But I know he's only waiting for me to go back to where I stay in the new year to start again.
It's really affecting me because I'm now suspicious of anybody who tries to strike up a convo with me. Which isn't the way to go as a single girl.
One of his cronies successfully got me by lying that he was an old friend, requested that I add him on facebook and then proceeded to write an abusive comment on a perfectly decent headshot that I used as my profile pic.
Now I have erected a high fence around me but it's keeping away the good people too!

Too bad! Certainly not a way to go for a single girl. But am thinking it may serve you better to just drop off that Berlin wall, given you could stay this paranoid for even more months, only to his own benefit. Really, you need to stay relaxed. Enjoy those who try striking up convos with you and don't indulge unnecessary suspicions. Once these convos attempt to go over board, you can immediately register your discontent.
You could also issue him a stern warning. . .or have some really tough guy do that for you, only if you are completely sure he's the one behind all these stunts.
I wouldn't recommend adding those you dont know personally on facebook.
Hold yourself, rely on yourself to get out of this!

freecocoa:

Ngwanu osara oku.





Err mm OP,you know NL like amebo wella,do you mind telling us what he did that's unforgivable?btw if he's really doing all that then he's not yet a man,also it'll be cool to tell how you know he's responsible cos I mean,you can never be too sure even when you think you are sure,you know.

Oya sauer,tell me I just rambled as usual.

Actually, that's not a ramble. You made some sense . . . .except for the amebo part!

@freecoc
It's a very long story, what he did. It's not even a palatable one.
But I know he's the one responsible cause I carried out investigations of my own. I found one of the culprits in his facebook friend list and some of the strange texts have a very similar pattern to his past texts to me.
Apart from that, he called an old friend he suspected had a crush on me and described to him things we did sexually. Then told him to keep away from me cause I was a 'ho. The guy is crazy! I'm just looking for a peaceful way out without going ballistic.

@sauer
thanx for the advice.

^^^Now, that's certainly bad! Could you get a male friend to issue him a really deathly stern warning?
And just to remark, you do seem vulnerable!

Divalishis
Oh well,the dude clearly has issues plus he is really immature,sauer's pretty much said it all,I also suggest you get your family involved so atleast if he's thinking of doing something crazy,he'd know he has other people to worry about and not just you.

@OP:
Why not confront him head on. Call him, ask him for a sit-down in a public space and bring along a big dude who you will introduce to your ex as your current BF. That shuld make him realize he has no claim over you anymore.

^^^supported!

@The thing is; he does all these things anonymously through all his robots/hidden numbers, so that he can't be linked to me. He even denied the call he made to my friend.
And in all truth, I don't have a male friend with his type of razor-sharp mouth to warn him off. I'm extremely cool headed and those are the type of friends I have. Moreover (like a serial killer), he has a good facade put up in the eyes of the society. He has a great job, staying in a great neighborhood. Everything that would make him seem a 'responsible' man to people!
His mum is one of the few people who know the brutal side of him. But as her only son, of course she'd support him come what may!

Please can someone get that ediot posting p.orn images off my thread!

^thanx, telwisdom.
Never in a milion years wil i go back! Dem jaz me? Lol!

divalishis:

And in all truth, I don't have a male friend with his type of razor-sharp mouth to warn him off. I'm extremely cool headed and those are the type of friends I have. Moreover (like a serial killer), he has a good facade put up in the eyes of the society. He has a great job, staying in a great neighborhood. Everything that would make him seem a 'responsible' man to people!
His mum is one of the few people who know the brutal side of him. But as her only son, of course she'd support him come what may!

he sounds egotistical and you living him made him feel how it was to lose. he never thot for a sec that u will walk out on him but you did and that made him hit psycho mode. don't worry you don't have to mouth him off as that's what he is actually looking for. he knows you are mild mannered and in public brawl he knows you wont be able to talk his trash down. best avoid him. but if this doesn't work, contact me. i am good with words and a fist.
take care

Call the guy to order,
There is no two way about that.
Thats, if you are sure of that,

tellwisdom:

Oh my . Some dudes are just kid with grown Face!!. Op, never u return to that dude unless u wanna regret it later. #MyWord

word dude. first time of voicing a sensible word of advice in your entire life, .am impressed, kip it up

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^thanx, telwisdom.
Never in a milion years wil i go back! Dem jaz me? Lol!

It pains me to my bone marrow that, that guy doesn't appreciate you #Mbanuu, never again!   .

word dude.  first time of voicing a sensible word of advice in your entire life, .am impressed, kip it up 

Bro, U probably must have been trailing me! . Neways, i appreciate too

divalishis:

@The thing is; he does all these things anonymously through all his robots/hidden numbers, so that he can't be linked to me. He even denied the call he made to my friend.
[b]And in all truth, I don't have a male friend with his type of razor-sharp mouth to warn him off. I'm extremely cool headed and those are the type of friends I have. [/b]Moreover (like a serial killer), he has a good facade put up in the eyes of the society. He has a great job, staying in a great neighborhood. Everything that would make him seem a 'responsible' man to people!
His mum is orne of the few people who know the brutal side of him. But as her only son, of course she'd support him come what may!

Poster are u sure you wanna get rid off him , Badosky will b honoured

@all
Thanks for all the support.
I'm sure with all the advice, a solution is in the offing!

Idowuogbo

lol/ But R U sure you want to do that?

He even dealt with a lawyer who saved him from a lawsuit immediately he was acquitted (they were still even outside the court). Can you imagine that? By the time he caused a great scene, the lawyer took off and forgot about the fee he was asking for.

I think I'm so scared of him because I've seen him 'in action'!

OP, If his is such a person as u hav said, then u dont just need an ordinary boyfrnd to warn him.
u need to arrange if possible two militry men then invite him for talk and let them men sound the warning to his ears.

chuksikem:


word dude. first time of voicing a sensible word of advice in your entire life, .am impressed, kip it up

RTFLM

tellwisdom:

Oh my  . Some dudes are just kid with grown Face!!.  Op, never u return to that dude unless u wanna regret it later. #MyWord

tellwisdom:

It pains me to my bone marrow that, that guy doesn't appreciate you #Mbanuu, never again!   .



Bro, U probably must have been trailing me! . Neways, i appreciate too


OMG, diz dude is making alot of sense.
diz must b an evidence of new year or mayb new year resolutn.
dude if u continue lik diz, i bet u mi gonna fall in loff wit u soonest. :-

Idowuogbo:


Poster are u sure you wanna get rid off him , Badosky will b honoured 

Contract awareded!


Op, dat dude is inmatured & he needs to be warned off b4 him spoil show 4u.
get your family involved, so dey can go meet his own family & tell dem 2call deir son 2other.

divalishis:

Idowuogbo

lol/ But R U sure you want to do that?

He even dealt with a lawyer who saved him from a lawsuit immediately he was acquitted (they were still even outside the court). Can you imagine that? By the time he caused a great scene, the lawyer took off and forgot about the fee he was asking for.

I think I'm so scared of him because I've seen him 'in action'!

Darling fear no man na crase dey cure crase, if he sees me in action he go enter sempe mode dats one of the qualities of bin a Badosky.Gal dis dude is demented walai , if he try nonsense i will order bois to lock him inside washing machine and spin the mudafucka till his senses are clean and correct.Infact if all dat done and notin changes , we will lock him inside again and repeat process.Who does he think he his tryin to frustrate a fellow damsel,pass him over so i can roast him bonified monkey.

Idowuogbo:

Darling fear no man na crase dey cure crase, if he sees me in action he go enter sempe mode dats one of the qualities of bin a Badosky.Gal dis dude is demented walai , if he try nonsense i will order bois to lock him inside washing machine and spin the mudafucka till his senses are clean and correct.Infact if all dat done and notin changes , we will lock him inside again and repeat process.Who does he think he his tryin to frustrate a fellow damsel,pass him over so i can roast him bonified monkey.

Thanks, girl!

Idowuogbo:

Darling fear no man na crase dey cure crase, if he sees me in action he go enter sempe mode dats one of the qualities of bin a Badosky.Gal dis dude is demented walai , if he try nonsense i will order bois to lock him inside washing machine and spin the mudafucka till his senses are clean and correct.Infact if all dat done and notin changes , we will lock him inside again and repeat process.Who does he think he his tryin to frustrate a fellow damsel,pass him over so i can roast him bonified monkey.

smh! this girl never see anytin!

divalishis:

My ex is a thorn in my flesh. We were serious, getting set for our intro when he committed a great misdeed and I had to breakup with him.
It wasn't an easy decision but I had to do it since he'd disrespected everything we stood for.
When he saw I was serious about leaving, he begged me to forget what happened and forge ahead with him. But I wouldn't budge because I had forgiven him too many times and moreover, this last deed was a big slap on the face of my whole family. Then he told me I wouldn't get another person like him and demanded back his gift, which I returned intact and unused.
I left mine with him though. After that, I decided not to have any contact with him. So I ignored all calls and texts from him.

where do you girls pick useless men from?

disgruntled ex? in this man's world?
i laugh in boko haram's explosives.