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: And How Long Should It Be Before I Meet The Family by Zilja(f): 3:17pm On Jan 10, 2012 |
[i][/i][size=8pt][/size][color=#000099][/color] [font=Lucida Sans Unicode]I am an African American who have been dating a guy from Benin Nigeria for a little over a year now. I have a son who is 20 years and he has small ones 4 & 5 yrs. Just 3 months into the relationship he said he was in LOVE with me I'm no spring chicken so I'm waiting to see before I recipicate He and his wife are divorced (so he say) and he has the children along with his mom living with him. If we are both single adults parents, why am I not able to meet the family. We both are Christians but attend church in seperate places. I've invited him to my church several times and it's always excuces. I've ask to come to his church and more excuses. I'm big on communication no matter what the topic is. Several times such as Father's day, he said he was just going to church and back home. Well, later in the week I went on facebook and found pictures of he and the family, the wife and children enjoying themselves as if they were a happy family. OOO, did i say I found the wify on facebook. They are not friends but she post pictures of the family and he post pictures of just he and the children. Dont' get me wrong, I would have had no problem had he said they were going to spend some time with the children because of that day. There's no trust for the one who says first "i'm in love with you" I'm really ready to move on but yet I give him another chance, Is this typical for Nigerian men, want to have their cake and eat it too? OR are they that proud to tell the family they are in love with a non-nigerian women? Thanks for the ear |
Re: : And How Long Should It Be Before I Meet The Family by Eiregirl(f): 3:44pm On Jan 10, 2012 |
Sorry but I think you should move on, forget the other chances. Just my opinion though. |
Re: : And How Long Should It Be Before I Meet The Family by Mynd44: 3:55pm On Jan 10, 2012 |
Before the madness starts here, lemme advice you quickly. You should find out about this dude and be completely sure he is for real. Nigerian men don't go on family outings with their ex-wife and be smiling(divorces here are craziy). Why won't he come to your church? Why wont he allow you come to his church? If possible try to meet his kids, try to find out about this ex-wife of his cos they might still be married. Sheck if he has pappers if he does not, be extracareful and don't give him money. Nuff said |
Re: : And How Long Should It Be Before I Meet The Family by MrsChima1(f): 4:00pm On Jan 10, 2012 |
OP Are you saying you met a Nigerian from Benin? Because Benin is not in Nigeria. Zilja: |
Re: : And How Long Should It Be Before I Meet The Family by ebonyvibe(f): 4:01pm On Jan 10, 2012 |
You need to read this thread https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria?topic=840406.msg9928141#msg9928141 I can bet my £1000 on it this guy is married. if a man is in love with you he will be the one encouraging you to meet his friends, Like on friday when i was going to a party with my husband he was all please dress to impress let all my friends know you are the beautiful not all this hide and seek relationship. |
Re: : And How Long Should It Be Before I Meet The Family by MrsChima1(f): 4:07pm On Jan 10, 2012 |
Op I am going to tell you STRAIGHT, don't be a fool. You see all the signs and YET you want to give him another chance. This is a Nigerian brother telling you what you already know, are you going to listen to him? Mynd_44: |
Re: : And How Long Should It Be Before I Meet The Family by MrsChima1(f): 4:09pm On Jan 10, 2012 |
ebonyvibe: That's true Ebony, because if a man really love you, you will be a star to everyone in his life including his haters. Trust me I know. |
Re: : And How Long Should It Be Before I Meet The Family by freecocoa(f): 4:12pm On Jan 10, 2012 |
Mrs C dearie,there's Benin in nigeria its the capital of Edo state. OP does he have his papers complete yet? |
Re: : And How Long Should It Be Before I Meet The Family by Mynd44: 4:13pm On Jan 10, 2012 |
After all the advice if you still wanna stick around, let the madness begin |
Re: : And How Long Should It Be Before I Meet The Family by MrsChima1(f): 4:20pm On Jan 10, 2012 |
freecocoa: I have heard people say Benin city as reference to the capital in Edo state, so naturally I assumed she meant the country Benin. But it all good. |
Re: : And How Long Should It Be Before I Meet The Family by freecocoa(f): 4:35pm On Jan 10, 2012 |
^ Yeah that's true,its rightly Benin city but cos she said he's nigerian,I knew its our own benin and down here in nigeria people rarely add the city to it. |
Re: : And How Long Should It Be Before I Meet The Family by AYODEJI4LOVE(m): 4:36pm On Jan 10, 2012 |
My dear poster.the only advice i will give you is FLEE.i guess you understand what that means, |
Re: : And How Long Should It Be Before I Meet The Family by Mynd44: 4:38pm On Jan 10, 2012 |
@OP, there is fire on the mountain |
Re: : And How Long Should It Be Before I Meet The Family by MrsChima1(f): 4:42pm On Jan 10, 2012 |
freecocoa: Gotcha. |
Re: : And How Long Should It Be Before I Meet The Family by Jenifa1: 6:41pm On Jan 10, 2012 |
I'm really ready to move on but yet I give him another chance, what is this? these desperate old hags need to get a life. here she sees all the "green card" signs and she's still talking about "give him another chance." wth? |
Re: : And How Long Should It Be Before I Meet The Family by Mynd44: 6:49pm On Jan 10, 2012 |
At this point I would love to say that should the OP gets MAGAed, she deserves it |
Re: : And How Long Should It Be Before I Meet The Family by tellwisdom: 7:01pm On Jan 10, 2012 |
Mshew chima, will u stop giving this poor gurl a wrong advise?? |
Re: : And How Long Should It Be Before I Meet The Family by MrsChima1(f): 8:19pm On Jan 10, 2012 |
tellwisdom: What advice you want me to give her? |
Re: : And How Long Should It Be Before I Meet The Family by tellwisdom: 9:45pm On Jan 10, 2012 |
What is the story? . I didnt read it |
Re: : And How Long Should It Be Before I Meet The Family by Zilja(f): 10:53pm On Jan 10, 2012 |
Nigerian men don't go on family outings with their ex-wife and be smiling(divorces here are craziy). It's true! he's been on several outings with his (ex-wify) I'm sure he don't have the money to divorce her here in the states so they live apart. I've read all your responses and my mind was made up when i posted, I'm moving on. Like I said I'm not a spring chicken. I'm am actually 14 years his senior. I wasn't born yesterday. I've been in love before and know what to expect when love comes calling. Somehow that's all I attract is Nigerian men. Some I give a chance and others I don't. Thanks for the advice!!!!! |
Re: : And How Long Should It Be Before I Meet The Family by Mynd44: 11:10pm On Jan 10, 2012 |
Good woman |
Re: : And How Long Should It Be Before I Meet The Family by tellwisdom: 12:01pm On Jan 11, 2012 |
32years |
Re: : And How Long Should It Be Before I Meet The Family by Mynd44: 3:33pm On Jan 11, 2012 |
^^^ Mind ya business |
Re: : And How Long Should It Be Before I Meet The Family by buzzedoffbeauty(f): 4:27am On Jul 04, 2012 |
Zilja: [i][/i][size=8pt][/size][color=#000099][/color] Many of us christians settle because we like/love a guy but God first....ALWAYS! You should worship the person you love in church because the bible tells us not to despise the fellowship of saints...meaning you guys need to fellowship in groups. It's the foundation of who you are...if he say it's who he is two then after you guys have made that committment ( which shoudln't be too soon but not prolong either) that means you two are in argreement that you both want the relationship to end in marriage. I've never understood why people say I'm in a committed relationship yet they aren't "ready" for marriage, but that's just my own personal veiw. Wishing you the best. |
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