goodsegs:

One of My Colleague at work has been in a relationship for more than 8 years with His girlfriend, But the guy was telling me yesterday that he doesn't love the lady anymore,and he has tried everything possible to separate from the lady but the lady wont let go and the two family wont understand too.So i asked the guy whats really wrong with the lady,and how come he suddenly just stopped loving this girl, Because as at last year July,This guy was planning marriage with this same babe,He traveled to Nasarawa to see this babe many times while she was doing National service.So i asked why the sudden lost of love, He said he doesn't have any reasons,and in fact,he doesn't even have another girl (although he sleeps with LovePeddler almost on every weekend)the only he said is that,they hardly talk about anything,they only Be Intimate and more sex, And now he even prefer to go and sleep with a Slut than to sleep with her
How do you date someone for 8 years and you just suddenly  want her to leave you in one day,especially a lady going 30?
This lady is not Ugly,she is not fat,she has been very faithful to the guy(according to him),She stood by Him when he didn't have a job,

obowunmi:

Its obvious, the chick is boring. If you know her, ask her to spicy things up. I wonder if she's being purposely boring or "submissive" ---

goodsegs:

I met her once, and she didnt look boring .she was lively and full of life, and she looked nice that very day, But i am of the Opinion that the problem is with my friend, what if he had married her four years ago?would he be talking of leaving her now?

coogar:

yea. . . he wouldn't be talking of leaving her.
this is the reason some people preach against long-arse courtships.
after 2-4 yrs, something official should take place. . . .

obowunmi:

Its obvious, the chick is boring. If you know her, ask her to spicy things up. I wonder if she's being purposely boring or "submissive" ---

goodsegs:

well,my brother dated his wife for 12 years and are happily married today
if long courtship get boring,maybe marriage will be worse,

goodsegs:

well,my brother dated his wife for 12 years and are happily married today
if long courtship get boring,maybe marriage will be worse, 

coogar:

yes, there would be few exception - but generally, the longer it gets, the more likely the boat would hit the rocks.
if long courtship gets boring, marriage would be worse? long courtship seemed boring because your colleague knows it's easy to get out of it.

with marriage, he accepts his fate and strives hard to make it work. it must work!
if nigerians can all walk away from nigeria, they would but have they?

goodsegs:

What do you mean by 'it must work"? He accepts his fate and fake the rest of the marriage?

I still strongly Believe that the decision to get tired is primarily an individual choice, If you really want something to work,You make it work.either marriage or relationship,

My ex girlfriend once complained that i was acting like i was tired of Her,And immediately she said that,I started doing things that i used to do when i first met her,and it worked even though she eventually broke my heart

coogar:

it must work because divorce is not an option.
men tend to drift when they are presented with options. in courtship, there's an option to walk away.
in marriage, it's not that simple.

which relationship is easier to walk away from. courtship or marriage?
with kids in the equation(marriage), how do you intend to walk away from that?

Maybe Only In Nigeria,Kids or no Kids,people now walk away,
But really i don't see how the number of years of relationship affects true and Genuine Love,Marriage is even a Life time,
Divorce is now an Option and i am sure you know the divorce rate both in Nigeria and every other part of the world

if it worked she wouldn't have broken your heart.
it did not work!

goodsegs:

Maybe Only In Nigeria,Kids or no Kids,people now walk away,
But really i don't see how the number of years of relationship affects true and Genuine Love,Marriage is even a Life time,
Divorce is now an Option and i am sure you know the divorce rate both in Nigeria and every other part of the world

Ironi:

Dude got what he wanted for 8years, even some marriages don't last that long.

I bet this is a young guy who has been nyasing this girl free for 8years, he's had enough and tired of her, it's no more fun.

He wants to go on and nyas new ones.

Why would a young lady stay in a relationship that long?