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Re: I Hate Being An African American Woman by OneNaira6: 5:54pm On Feb 08, 2012
When reading the OP topic, all I read are nothing but stereotypes Africans have for African-Americans and knowing how people fake it so much on this forum, I can tell the OP is as African-American as I am.
Re: I Hate Being An African American Woman by ADM1(m): 5:15pm On Feb 11, 2012
DaRapture's "I'm-better-than-you-because-I'm-American" attitude is ridiculous. There are Africans who don't care for African descendants in the west and they too have a superiority complex. That's wrong, but it's also wrong for you to come on a Nigerian forum and say you're better than them because of where they came from and the environment they live in. The superiority complex is wrong on both sides. And just so you know, those particluar folks you met don't represent an entire continent. I know some black men from countries like Sierra Leone and Ivory Coast who are cool with me and have no qualms with Afro-Americans. Stop acting like every African person you meet speaks for the whole continent because they don't. That's like saying every Muslim is a terrorist.

You also said you're not interested in mingling with the natives. You might as well stay in the U.S. And what makes you think an AA nation will be the most prosperous or well developed? I don't know if you know this, but black communities in the U.S. are in dire straits. You got Arabs, Mexicans, and Koreans owning almost all the stores and salons in American black neighborhoods. They've pretty much taken over. The unemployment rate is still high among the youngsters. You got this silly gender war going between American black men and women, especially on the Internet (go to Youtube and you can see and hear the constant bashing they do to each other). You got black folks moving out of black neighborhoods because of the knuckleheads killing each other over nonsense. So no, Afro-Americans are not in good shape at all. I personally think it's over for blacks in the U.S. due to the things I mentioned, but I hope I'm wrong.

Now, I'm not attacking you. I'm simply stating the facts and why you shouldn't have a God complex. As you may know, I've come after Africans who feel the way you do. I've told them numerous times, especially Pagan 9ja, how they are ignorant and foolish, so don't think I'm being bias. I'm not.

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Re: I Hate Being An African American Woman by Nobody: 8:27pm On Feb 12, 2012
darapture,
i really think you are as bias as the africans you are attacking.
you have bought the negative stereotype africans are painted in in the world media
no wonder you posted those pics.
i am not denying that some parts of africa are slums.

you can search for Lagos;africa you dont see on tv and pls tell me what you think

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Re: I Hate Being An African American Woman by Nobody: 9:54pm On Jul 16, 2012
lol.
Re: I Hate Being An African American Woman by anonymous6(f): 11:11pm On Jul 16, 2012
A.D.M.:


First of all, this is a Nigerian forum. Why are you posting this bulls--t on a Nigerian forum? Second, you need to get a clue. Yes, there is self-hatred among AAs, but there's self-hatred among various non-whites throughout the world. There are Indians in India that wipe skin bleaching creams on their faces and bodies and Koreans in South Korea getting surgery to make their eyes look "western." You think it's only among AAs? As for Lil' Wayne, who cares what he thinks? He's a fool and anybody that listens to whatever he says is a fool. You may think blacks aren't dating each other, but that's false. Very false. Most couples I see are black couples. Seriously, stop caring about what others think of you. You can't control that. As long as you love yourself, nothing else matters. By the way, there are plenty black men that love dark-skinned women like me and there are plenty of blacks that want to preserve their culture.

Excellent response

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Re: I Hate Being An African American Woman by Blyss: 1:57am On Jul 17, 2012
anonymous6:

Excellent response

So what, you didn't like my DaRapture response? smiley
Re: I Hate Being An African American Woman by Blyss: 5:18am On Jul 17, 2012
I'm pretty sure this thread was started by MsDarkSkin under a different handle. cheesy
Re: I Hate Being An African American Woman by tearjerker: 8:23pm On Jul 17, 2012
TisaBone:  

You are a victim of the American establishment which has effectively convinced blacks that they are worthless. Hell, the Africans immigrate to the states even believe these stereotypes ,that they are spoon fed via American televison programming, about about AA's.
   And what's this about you not liking your natural hair? Chile please. I have dreadlocks and do you know how many compliments I get from both black AND white people? Just today I was walking to school, and a boy called out to me "Hi Ms. Natural."Another man called out to me "Hi Queen." So you see there is nothing wrong with being black. It's all in how you carry yourself and what you think of YOU. You care too much about what other races think of you. So what, let them say what they want.
 
For centuries, black folks have been cleaning up after white folk's mess. After the Bush fiasco, who did they choose as the next president? A proud black man with the charisma and fire of a southern preacher, who could make you believe that the sky is green. That's what we needed to boost the American morale;a black man.

So all in all, what I am trying to get at, is that you really need to know your history. Honey, what I need you to do is look up some of these people:


Also, may I suggest that you go and buy some video's of the comedian Paul Mooney. I love him because he pisses white people off =) he even made it on CNN!


You need to wake up,but more importantly, LOVE YOURSELF!!!!!

This was the perfect reply, I can't think of anything better to say! cheesy grin cheesy

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Re: I Hate Being An African American Woman by tearjerker: 8:31pm On Jul 17, 2012
Negro_Ntns: If you look in any African American neighborhood in US you will notice that the economy is usually around the following types of services - gas station and corner store, laundromat, cash checking place, bill payments and payday loans, fast tax filing and returns, hair, nail and saloon, barber shop, hotels and motels, pawn shops, restaurant and churches.

Apparently you haven't been to thriving black communities in the USA. For example, there are many neighborhoods in Atlanta, GA that are filled with successful doctors, lawyers, engineers, real estate agents, etc.

I'm an African American Female Mechanical Engineer, so I speak from experience. If the media and others would portray these parts of America, there would be more positive influences.

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Re: I Hate Being An African American Woman by Nobody: 10:50pm On Sep 01, 2012
Blyss: I'm pretty sure this thread was started by MsDarkSkin under a different handle. cheesy

Naw Msdarkskin will never be caught "shymmexing" (pretending to be a different NLder).

Anything I need to say will be under names that are OBVIOUSLY me when banned but strictly as "Msdarkskin".

The OP is an obvious troll though.
Re: I Hate Being An African American Woman by Nobody: 10:56pm On Sep 01, 2012
Brielle86: Another thing I wanted to share is that Dark African women and men are going to be extinct by 2050 or somewhere about that time. People who were born African American and their parents, their parents of the same color with me, Dark Skin, are going to be extinct. Because of low self-esteem, we are mixing with other cultures instead of our own. Dark skinned people are slowly getting lighter and lighter because that's what is in now.



Lol where did you hear that?

Or did you watch this video as inspiration to come up with bull?

lol. That is the fate of whites actually.

Africans and East Indians are expected to double/triple in size between 2040-2070.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t6pzPp1Q2ew

from the comments:

Damn white people better start playing nice cause their future don't look too good.

TheCia999

Im white and this is the first time black people have scared me.

MikeyMacization

why are you scared?

nyadet212 in reply to MikeyMacization

Because of all the shit they have done we better start treating the world better or where bleeped

MikeyMacization in reply to nyadet212


lmfao.

sh*t is NOT that serious.
If anything it really ought to be blacks and indians who should fear this.

So you think western nations will still be able to afford increasing food aid to Africa in 2060? lol the way things are going with EU economy it will be lucky to last another 5 year.Soon = mass starvation in Africa when food aid stops!

BassGoesBoom1

that's the sad reality.
Re: I Hate Being An African American Woman by somalia1: 7:41am On Sep 08, 2012
I dont blame you for hating yourself. Society portrays you as overweight, weave wearing, angry women.


you have been sold into slavery by your own people. You in a white mans world, same people who enslaved you. Your people were better off as slaves.



this is just an observation.
Re: I Hate Being An African American Woman by Adamskuty(m): 7:34am On Sep 07, 2013
Hmm! Lmaooo,this is serious!
Re: I Hate Being An African American Woman by MrsChima(f): 5:14pm On Sep 07, 2013
This is nothing new. There are colored women around the world who do not like themselves for dumb reasons.

It's not that serious. Let them kill themselves and keep it moving!
Re: I Hate Being An African American Woman by no1madman(m): 8:55pm On Sep 07, 2013
whoever is not proud of his Skin colour is simply dead and buried. . .

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Re: I Hate Being An African American Woman by Nobody: 1:16pm On Sep 08, 2013
DaRapture: ..We Black-Americans are about as African as Pizza Hut is an authentic Italian food spot..

Lol. Now that was funny.

lol@that debate on page one btn blyss aka darapture and amor4ce.

#hilarious and epic.
Re: I Hate Being An African American Woman by MamiWata: 2:04am On Sep 09, 2013
TisaBone:

I was once talking to a aquaintance of mine who is white. There was a certain man who was Nigerian, and she mistakenly referred to him as African American. I quickly corrected her. Do you know what her response was? " Same difference."

It is us that draw lines and make distinctions, when we really should be working together.

We are all Niggas.

I am a nigga who resides in America.

You are a nigga who resides in Africa.

This is where you make your mistake. You have a view of self based on how white people view you. Imagine how different your views would be if you would allow yourself to make a decision without their blessing. I'll never be a n****. This is the different between an enslaved/colonized mind and one that is not.

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Re: I Hate Being An African American Woman by Nobody: 10:10am On Aug 07, 2014
word
NegroNtns: If you look in any African American neighborhood in US you will notice that the economy is usually around the following types of services - gas station and corner store, laundromat, cash checking place, bill payments and payday loans, fast tax filing and returns, hair, nail and saloon, barber shop, hotels and motels, pawn shops, restaurant and churches.

Out of all these it is only the churches, restaurants, the hair sallon and the barbaer shop that is owned by the black people. The gas station and corner store, laundromat, cash checking, bill payment, pay day loan, tax filing, hair and nail shop as well pawn shops are wholly owned and controlled by foreigners. This is today! It wasnt like that at all in the 60s. Blacks controlled most of the economy in their hoods. . . except a few in the hands of Jews. When the Jews started to leave they sold ownerships to the Indians and Pakistanis. In fact blacks businesses started going bankrupt and they sold out their control to the new comers. The damage had a lot to do with narcotic drugs and crime into the hood.

Now, take that concept and overlay it into Africa. You get the exact same outcome! Our drug is not narcotics. . . . we are addicted to corruption and self interest. We kicked colonial masters out and they were replaced by well educated and meaningful leaders with great vision. . . but we killed them off one at atime until there is nothing left to guide us and in that state of vulnerability and loss. . . a new master stepped in and filled the gap. Now we have new colonialists. So your picture of Indian, Chinese, Koreans controlling our continent is accurate.

What I mean by vulnerable is to say that you cannot operate a mini America within Africa, you will kill of your designated zone if you do that. You must by nature of preservation interact and partner with rest of Africa for viability. Africans today fight 100yrs old wars on disputed territorial ownership. So to get a safeguard against a claim on your land. . . . there has to be a protectorate that all parties signing the trearty agree to. This will have to be done at an institutionalized level to succeed. The authority responsible to carry that out is addicted to the corruption fed by chinese and korea and america and eruurope. . . . Africa is high on its own crack!

Approaching this question in the alternate path of individual sponsorship and adoption removes the risks of that communal vulnerability and reduces it to individual level. The damage, if any, is far smaller and the gains are far greater.
Re: I Hate Being An African American Woman by anonymous6(f): 1:29pm On Aug 07, 2014
no1madman: whoever is not proud of his Skin colour is simply dead and buried. . .

Lmao
Re: I Hate Being An African American Woman by anonymous6(f): 1:32pm On Aug 07, 2014
MamiWata:

This is where you make your mistake. You have a view of self based on how white people view you. Imagine how different your views would be if you would allow yourself to make a decision without their blessing. I'll never be a n****. This is the different between an enslaved/colonized mind and one that is not.

Amen, so cause a white woman said same difference we all should see each other's as Ni$&@$, whatever lol. What she doesn't understand is this sentiment by some whites are nothing new. Some african Americans have done it to some foreign whites, and I have witnessed these whites tell and correct them that they are white British, Russian, and etc so I feel black Africans have a right to demand that respect as well when we are grouped together with non-black africans and etc. I've seen Africans correct some whites about this and they respect it and don't cross that line, regardless of how they feel. Tisabone had the chance to correct her but accepted it cause she agrees since her community identifies with being identified by their race and being labeled NI$&@&@, and feels Africans should since a white lady told her that. What she doesn't understand is that shows lack of respect on that ladies part in not respecting the differences in black cultures when it comes to identification. Any way I've bumped into white people that Respect and know the difference between a Haitian, Jamaican, and Nigerian.
The only blacks I see embrace the label ni&&@ amongst themselves is Africans Americans, some not all, especially with the young generation and hip-hop/rap industry but get mad when white Americans step and mention it to them. I don't get how you can embrace a negative word amongst your community then get mad when whites mention it. Any way their issue, they just shouldn't drag africans into that nonsence.
Re: I Hate Being An African American Woman by davidif: 8:47am On Aug 08, 2014
amor4ce: Unmarried black women
Down or out
A black male professor kicks up a storm about black women and marriage

Oct 15th 2011 | LOS ANGELES | from the print edition



AT SOME events on his book tour, black men have accused Ralph Richard Banks of advocating genocide. In fact, the Stanford professor of family law has merely written a book called “Is Marriage for White People? How the African-American Marriage Decline Affects Everyone”. But abuse is what you get for suggesting, as Mr Banks does, that black women—not only the “most unmarried” group in American society but also the one that least intermarries with other races—should look to white, Latino or Asian men as potential mates. After all, the alternative is often no marriage or relationship at all.



The collapse of marriage among blacks is well documented (see chart), but not the sexual, psychological, emotional and social toll this has taken on black women. Seven out of ten are single. Of the others, many are forced into “man-sharing”.

This crisis in the black “relationship market”, as Mr Banks calls it, starts with a “man shortage”. About one in ten black men in their early thirties are in prison. As a group, black men have also fallen behind in education and income, just as black women have surged ahead. Two black women graduate from college for every black man. As these women rise into the middle class, the men stay in the lower class, becoming less compatible.

Many black women respond by “marrying down, but not out,” as Mr Banks puts it. But that makes bad marriages. Two out of every three black marriages fail, about twice the rate of white marriages.

The real problem is the behaviour of those few black men who are considered good catches. They often stay unmarried for the opposite reason: they have too many options. As one man told Mr Banks: “If you have four quality women you’re dating and they’re in a rotation, who’s going to rush into a marriage?” Even black men who nominally commit to one woman are five times as likely as their white counterparts to have others on the side.

One way or another, many black women thus become, or stay, single (as two of Mr Banks’s three sisters are). As one woman tells him: “We focus on our careers, our friends, go back to school, whatever. We fill our lives with other things.” But in the hundreds of interviews Mr Banks conducted, he found pervasive sadness.

The most obvious solution, he discovered, also runs into the greatest taboo: intermarriage. This is ironic, because black men are statistically very open to marrying outside their race—more than one in five does. But fewer than one in ten black women intermarries.

For some black women, a white husband brings bad memories of slavery and Jim Crow. Others have conditioned themselves to find non-black men unattractive (lacking “swag”, in the argot). Still others fear that men of other races find black women unattractive, or that their children might be “not black enough”. But by far the most common reason seems to be that black women still regard intermarriage as tantamount to betraying the race. “My black heart,” says one black woman as she contemplates marrying out, “I would need to turn it in.” “We know it’s a struggle,” says another, “but we women got to stand by the black man. If we don’t, who will?"

http://www.economist.com/node/21532296?php%20$this-%3EincludeSnippet%28%27Publishers_Omniture%27%29;%20?%3E

Nice couple.
Re: I Hate Being An African American Woman by tpia6: 3:26am On Nov 08, 2014
amor4ce:
Unmarried black women
Down or out
A black male professor kicks up a storm about black women and marriage

Oct 15th 2011 | LOS ANGELES | from the print edition



AT SOME events on his book tour, black men have accused Ralph Richard Banks of advocating genocide. In fact, the Stanford professor of family law has merely written a book called “Is Marriage for White People? How the African-American Marriage Decline Affects Everyone”. But abuse is what you get for suggesting, as Mr Banks does, that black women—not only the “most unmarried” group in American society but also the one that least intermarries with other races—should look to white, Latino or Asian men as potential mates. After all, the alternative is often no marriage or relationship at all.



The collapse of marriage among blacks is well documented (see chart), but not the sexual, psychological, emotional and social toll this has taken on black women. Seven out of ten are single. Of the others, many are forced into “man-sharing”.

This crisis in the black “relationship market”, as Mr Banks calls it, starts with a “man shortage”. About one in ten black men in their early thirties are in prison. As a group, black men have also fallen behind in education and income, just as black women have surged ahead. Two black women graduate from college for every black man. As these women rise into the middle class, the men stay in the lower class, becoming less compatible.

Many black women respond by “marrying down, but not out,” as Mr Banks puts it. But that makes bad marriages. Two out of every three black marriages fail, about twice the rate of white marriages.

The real problem is the behaviour of those few black men who are considered good catches. They often stay unmarried for the opposite reason: they have too many options. As one man told Mr Banks: “If you have four quality women you’re dating and they’re in a rotation, who’s going to rush into a marriage?” Even black men who nominally commit to one woman are five times as likely as their white counterparts to have others on the side.

One way or another, many black women thus become, or stay, single (as two of Mr Banks’s three sisters are). As one woman tells him: “We focus on our careers, our friends, go back to school, whatever. We fill our lives with other things.” But in the hundreds of interviews Mr Banks conducted, he found pervasive sadness.

The most obvious solution, he discovered, also runs into the greatest taboo: intermarriage. This is ironic, because black men are statistically very open to marrying outside their race—more than one in five does. But fewer than one in ten black women intermarries.

For some black women, a white husband brings bad memories of slavery and Jim Crow. Others have conditioned themselves to find non-black men unattractive (lacking “swag”, in the argot). Still others fear that men of other races find black women unattractive, or that their children might be “not black enough”. But by far the most common reason seems to be that black women still regard intermarriage as tantamount to betraying the race. “My black heart,” says one black woman as she contemplates marrying out, “I would need to turn it in.” “We know it’s a struggle,” says another, “but we women got to stand by the black man. If we don’t, who will?"

http://www.economist.com/node/21532296?php%20$this-%3EincludeSnippet%28%27Publishers_Omniture%27%29;%20?%3E


I don't see how intermarriage is regarded as betraying the race unless someone expressly sets out to do so.

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