How do you break up with a girl without hurting her feelings?

Suggestions are urgently needed.

FXKing2012:

How do you break up with a girl without hurting her feelings?

Suggestions are urgently needed.

breakup+ girl = hurting her feelings

ahh crap! i have no idea! if she likes you she will certainly be hurt!!

how long have u guys been together?

Well you can try being a jerk and just ignoring her from now on, if she has an ounce of respect for herself she will automatically hate you and move on with life.

you can be complicated and just tell her its not working, or that youve found someone else, she will automatically hate you and move on with her life.

you can try not showering for days and smelling like a ogre that lives in a gutter- she may be the one to dump you!

queensmith:

ahh crap! i have no idea! if she likes you she will certainly be hurt!!

how long have u guys been together?

Well you can try being a jerk and just ignoring her from now on, if she has an ounce of respect for herself she will automatically hate you and move on with life.

you can be complicated and just tell her its not working, or that youve found someone else, she will automatically hate you and move on with her life.

you can try not showering for days and smelling like a ogre that lives in a gutter- she may be the one to dump you!

Nice suggestions but the problem is she's still gonna hate me which is what I'm trying to avoid. The 3rd suggestions seems good though cos if she gets to dump me then she's not gonna hate me. But problem with smelling is that the smell also gets to those u wouldnt wanna smell bad to such as family, friends and any prospective new girl.

queensmith:

ahh crap! i have no idea! if she likes you she will certainly be hurt!!

how long have u guys been together?

Well you can try being a jerk and just ignoring her from now on, if she has an ounce of respect for herself she will automatically hate you and move on with life.

you can be complicated and just tell her its not working, or that youve found someone else, she will automatically hate you and move on with her life.

you can try not showering for days and smelling like a ogre that lives in a gutter- she may be the one to dump you!

Lmaooooo

:PU make an ass of urself till she breaks up with u, den u cry and ask her y she, make sure u don't overdo it else she'll take ur sorry stupid ass back

snthesis:

:PU make an Bottom of urself till she breaks up with u, den u cry and ask her y she, make sure u don't overdo it else she'll take ur sorry silly Bottom back

lolzzz

Just start behaving badly. I Am sure she will dump you and you will still be friends

Mynd_44:

Just start behaving badly. I Am sure she will dump you and you will still be friends

So how do I behave badly? Do I ignore her? abuse her? allow her catch me wt another girl? All these will still cause her to hate me.

Mehn. . .that's bound to be tough.

But, how you do it depends on the size of your liver,

FXKing2012:

So how do I behave badly? Do I ignore her? abuse her? allow her catch me wt another girl? All these will still cause her to hate me.

try to seduce her mum.

Their is no way u break up without her not feeling hurt, unless if it's the other way round

Give me her number and she wont run after you again (no offence, am just trying to help a brother)

she's going to hate you if she has feelings for you.

Tell her she can do much better than you because someone else will love her more

and once you've broken up with her DO NOT contact her ever! wait for her to contact you. the last thing you want to do is send her mixed messages

but 1stklass is right, she will respect you for being honest.

good luck with all that

queensmith:

she's going to hate you if she has feelings for you.

Tell her she can do much better than you because someone else will love her more

and once you've broken up with her [b]DO NOT contact her ever! [/b]wait for her to contact you. the last thing you want to do is send her mixed messages

but 1stklass is right, she will respect you for being honest.

good luck with all that

Please can you throw more light on the above highlighted line? . . .   Also what if  the poster wants to get back with her months after the break up? 

Just curious because a friend of mine is in a similar situation.  Thanks!

^^ you 'friend' huh? Lol
Well it seems the posters main intention is to avoid hurting her. Some men atimes don't realise their confusion can be hurtful. If you dump her you cannot then toy with her emotions months later by calling her to get back together.
If you feel like you may want to be with her, then you can ask that you take a break (find a suitable excuse) or travel for some time to clear your head.
Breaking up with her should be irreversible, if your meant to be then maybe in future you will meet but it's a decision you take with a sacrifice. That your selsfish intentions may just cost you the love of your life.

i'm not just that into you, again

its not you, its me

your not my type anymore

lets be friends

i'm incapable of loving now

what we have is not working out

your way too good for me, you deserve better

queensmith:

^^ you 'friend' huh? Lol
Well it seems the posters main intention is to avoid hurting her. Some men atimes don't realise their confusion can be hurtful. If you dump her you cannot then toy with her emotions months later by calling her to get back together.
If you feel like you may want to be with her, then you can ask that you take a break (find a suitable excuse) or travel for some time to clear your head.
Breaking up with her should be irreversible, if your meant to be then maybe in future you will meet but it's a decision you take with a sacrifice. That your selsfish intentions may just cost you the love of your life.

Nawa ooo . . .
Why shouldnt EXs be good friends after a break up??
Why should breaking up be irreversible? . . I think the word forgiveness still exist!

queensmith, a personal question for you: Would you accept back an Ex who broke up with you for reasons that doesnt relate to cheating? ( ie during the hiatus, he or she didnt get involved in another relationship )

Again, thats a predicament a friend of mine has found himself in . . . He needs our sincere advice like the original poster

Metalgoong:

Nawa ooo . . .
Why shouldnt EXs be good friends after a break up??
Why should breaking up be irreversible? . . I think the word forgiveness still exist!

queensmith, a personal question for you: Would you accept back an Ex who broke up with you for reasons that doesnt relate to cheating? ( ie during the hiatus, he or she didnt get involved in another relationship )

Again, thats a predicament a friend of mine has found himself in . . . He needs our sincere advice like the original poster

They can be friends, of course they can. But she has to instigate the friendship. She will be the one to say whether they can be good friends or not.
What exactly is being forgiven here? The mans stupidity and confusion? I dont think women should forgive such nonsense, in such a case its obvious the man is trying to toy with her emotions.
No i will not, because the dude isn't convinced that im worth his time. Breaking up and getting back together won't change that. If there were genuine emotions in the relationship, the solution will have been to talk and work things out.
Yea yea your 'friend' and his 'predicament! :p

If you've been buying her stuff, electronics, taking her out to take aways, for groceries, clothes, make up etc. she will be hurt she may even contemplate suicide, the best way is by giving her money to soothe her broken purse heart, if you're a broke guy, I can guarantee you that she will be happy you're gone

This is the same situation i find myself. Even though i've been keeping her at arms length, changing my sim card so as to tell her i don't care anymore, she still insist she loves me. And i don't just want to hear her cry, it makes me think i've been cursed. She lost her Dad last year december and it seems like i'm the only one she cries to and breaking up will add more salt to the injury. Sometimes, after making up my mind to tell her, i'll be confused at the sound of her voice. I wish she could understand but all she wants is me by her side. I'm tired of the pretence, what is all this?? I need help!!

if her feelings aren't hurt, she probably never loved u in the 1st place.

if u break it up and she seems fine and not hurt, she may be pretending.

Ch@nges:

This is the same situation i find myself. Even though i've been keeping her at arms length, changing my sim card so as to tell her i don't care anymore, she still insist she loves me. And i don't just want to hear her cry, it makes me think i've been cursed. She lost her Dad last year december and it seems like i'm the only one she cries to and breaking up will add more salt to the injury. Sometimes, after making up my mind to tell her, i'll be confused at the sound of her voice. I wish she could understand but all she wants is me by her side. I'm tired of the pretence, what is all this?? I need help!!  

Aww changes, thats a tough one. In this case you have to be cruel to be kind. She doesnt care that you dont love her, thats too bad she should. But shes in a bad place so it makes sense she will desperately cling to the man in her life.
You changed your simcard but you obviously didnt stick with it? You still spoke to her? Its better for you and her to cut off communication completely until you both move on.
Imo you should explain your feelings and if she likes she should listen. Good luck with all that

You guys are awesome, lives are being touched and changed here.

Someone like @Changes and @Metalgoong (if itz indeed his friend) are gaining something just as I am. @Queensmith seems to be the person to go to for advice on this issue.

Smh at peeps looking for an easy way out! there isn't! sometimes we get into stuff with the best intentions, but somehow it doesn't work out. if u care about her enough to not want to hurt her feelings, my advice is for u to let the relationship die a natural death or heal itself, cos it's possible u realise that u still love her later on and ur happy again. however, if there is no going back, and uv given it serious thought, deciding that breaking it is the only way, you need to bite the bullet. she would hurt, but sometimes life is about doing what's necessary. eventually she would move on, like you would if she broke up with u! but looking to eat ur cake and have it, you may end up procrastinating and wasting valuable time.

queensmith:

Aww changes, thats a tough one. In this case you have to be cruel to be kind. She doesnt care that you dont love her, thats too bad she should. But shes in a bad place so it makes sense she will desperately cling to the man in her life.
You changed your simcard but you obviously didnt stick with it? You still spoke to her? Its better for you and her to cut off communication completely until you both move on.
Imo you should explain your feelings and if she likes she should listen. Good luck with all that

Yea i undestand you, but may be i'm too emmotional. I'm considering her feelings and it's just because of the death of her Dad and it'll look as if i left her when she needed me most. Her siblings knows who i am and she's the first Child. They'll defintely take me for a devil which is my ultimate concern. And coming to my contacts, i have contacts that i can't stand to loose. So when is the perfect time to discharge her?? @all i need ur help too

FXKing2012:

So how do I behave badly? Do I ignore her? abuse her? allow her catch me wt another girl? All these will still cause her to hate me.

if she catches you with another girl, she would not break up, she will kill you

I'm yet to see a lady who wasn't\isn't hurt when a guy she loves breaks up with her,the only way she won't be hurt is if she's on the same page with you about breaking up, in which case there shouldn't be fear of her feelings getting hurt.