Dr. Joe:

when I complain to her about some of her misbehaviors she simply replies me that  we are not married yet so I should do fast so she can do as I wish.
This morning she sent countless of love sms asking for forgiveness and telling me how much she loves me. Am really confused, will she change with time or

Dr. Joe:

I have been living outside Nigeria for years though I used to return occasionally but now am back and I want to stay here invest the little I have, settle down, get married and build my own family. My headache is finding a wife, due to my absence here for long, I have no girl just last month my sister found one for me,

Mistake number 1. Being too hasty to settle down and build a family! That requires a lot of patience. You dont have a girl friend as a result of your absence, no that you are back, what's the excuse? The girl your sister will find or any girl at all that has a premeditated knowledge of your stay abroad will even give you more headache! You are her "maga" in the making. Concentrate on your other projects and you'll find a wife in due time. Desperation leads you no where, except of course to your own detriment! Avoid loopholes!

Dr. Joe:
since then we are in relationship but the girl is putting a lot of pressure on me to hasten the marriage process so she can settle down with me, I barely know her and I cannot tell if she is faking,
when I complain to her about some of her misbehaviors she simply replies me that  we are not married yet so I should do fast so she can do as I wish.

For the fact that she said "we are not married yet so I should do fast so she can do as I wish." tells me that she is[b] FAKING![/b] A lady that truly loves you has your own best interest at heart, even above her own. Pressurizing you to hasten the marriage process is bullshit, and is a very common statement from ladies who have lived useless lives and are looking for an innocent man to share the consequences of their abject lives with! Reject that motion she is setting, else that'll be Mistake number two! Dont even tell her you need to know her better before you marry her, because she has already shown you her real self. . . Free of charge!

Dr. Joe:
Just last night I called her and she said she was in a wake-keep with a friend, I didn’t like that so I asked her to go home because it’s late, she cuts the phone and stopped returning my calls.

Dropping the phone on anyone is rude, disrespectful, objectionable and -for someone you plan on getting married to, who is still thinking of the possibility of asking you to be his wife, i'll add- sensationally st[i]u[/i]pid! Even a faker would obey you and go home, just to make you believe she is obedient. But this presumptuous good-for-nothing already thinks she has won the "Battle of the new wife" and is making hasty and whipper-snappish decisions! WTF! Mistake number 3 is marrying a lady that doesnt give a sh[i]i[/i]t about your concerns for her safety. She just gave you a sneak peek preview of what she is gonna show you when you marry her and that my brother, is what? PEPPER!   She already told you "we are not married yet so I should do fast so

Dr. Joe:
This morning she sent countless of love sms asking for forgiveness and telling me how much she loves me. Am really confused, will she change with time or

Tell her i said she is what? A FOOL! Asking forgiveness in the morning? How about telling you where she was going to in the first place? How about a reasonable explanation as to why she needed to be out late at that hour? How about calling and asking for forgiveness for cutting the line on you, immediately it was cut? Even a faker would call and tell you "it's network!" But this girl is irrevocably DUMB! She knows nothing. . .SMH! What the hell does she know about love? Love is not selfish, Love is not proud, Love does NOT look out for it's own personal interests. Love is NOT "I LOVE YOU". Forgive her, and then do what? End the gaddamn relationship! She WONT change with time, she'll only get worse and then worst!

Dr. Joe:
Should I look for another person? Pls advise.

Dr. Joe:

Thanks for the replies, i really appreciate.
in addition, since i came back i stay with my people(family) so i can set up 1 or 2 biznes before getting a place of my own, but [size=17pt]could you believe this girl once asked me to get an apartment first. [/size]everything about her is going against my original plan.

LMAO!

~Killz~:

Who's phil?

bandiejay:

OP like a fugitive and patiently look for a girl that would stay by you and never give any of the impression that you yourself is involve in SSS program.

MRbrownJAY:

@OP
what you see now is what you will get AFTER MARRIAGE, dont get it twisted.

IMHO, i think you should drop this desperado gal (who obviously dont give a damn about you) and look for someone BY YOURSELF. . . . . . in due time, a gem will come your way naturally. when you finally find her, take your time in studying her, discovering her and finding out if she has all the important traits you desire in a wifey.

being desperate to marry and have a family will only have you settle for less and regret it in the (near) future, so CHILL!!!!

henryhemon:

@Mr.brownjay,
Most of our gals see only a man that has dough is ready for marriage,u hear words like ''i can only marry someone with the dough,i don't want my children to suffer like i did'',so 9ja hustlers now tend to be influence by that.

MRbrownJAY:

as i always said, someone who doesnt value you when you are down/poor, doesnt deserve you when you suddenly are up/rich.

Dr. Joe:

I have been living outside Nigeria for years though I used to return occasionally but now am back and I want to stay here invest the little I have, settle down, get married and build my own family. My headache is finding a wife, due to my absence here for long, I have no girl just last month my sister found one for me, since then we are in relationship but the girl is putting a lot of pressure on me to hasten the marriage process so she can settle down with me, I barely know her and I cannot tell if she is faking, when I complain to her about some of her misbehaviors she simply replies me that we are not married yet so I should do fast so she can do as I wish.
Just last night I called her and she said she was in a wake-keep with a friend, I didn’t like that so I asked her to go home because it’s late, she cuts the phone and stopped returning my calls. This morning she sent countless of love sms asking for forgiveness and telling me how much she loves me. Am really confused, will she change with time or
Should I look for another person? Pls advise.
Thanks….