My guy and i where hanging out at our usual spot, an he told me about his girl. He said she spends more than her budget and at times makes him pay for the debt she owes . He says the most recent one was that she bought things from his cousin and after waiting for her to pay the remainder of what she owes ( 48k), the cousin now reverted to my guy. And has been on my guys neck to pay up. Although some items she took where for him, he says he s not gonna pay. He is thinking of staying away from her, She s really a nice person, but her exhorbitant spending is an issue. Besides my guys funds are really down now, he saybs he has a project he s working on and will not channel his funds to payin off debts. Is it good to pay up your partner's debts? Will you do it without grudge?

If one wants to help a partner to pay off their debts and start on a clean slate of financial discipline, then that's not a bad thing.

However, continually rescuing a partner because of their lack of financial discipline is a recipe for disaster. Money is one of the major things that breaks down relationships.

She's always going to expect him to come to her rescue and not be financially responsible. He has his own plans for the money (his money!), so there's no reason why he should keep putting his goals on hold for her. Right now, they're only bf/gf. If they get married it would be an even bigger problem, if she doesn't change now.

Only if the person is my husband.

Your friend case small, i have been original mugu,if i swear on what i did to ex girlfriend, you people will pity and even some nairaland will cry for me, me being a bad boy is not ordinary, i suffered from ex girlfriend no bi, i was one of the greatest mugu, she drain my life even my friend talk said my case worst than the person they used juju for, thank GOD bad boy has made me a better version,i can not be 100% good any more, i suffer for funmi hand o, na GOD go judge her, na she turn my goodboy to badboy

rokiatu:

Only if the person is my husband.

SMH sadly

only if the debt was incurred for a productive reason and i can afford it!

slimyem:

only if the debt was incurred for a productive reason and i can afford it!

Best answer i read thus far. .

Nah, There must be strong commitments. . .But sometimes an Aid is an Aid.

We've all gone extra lengths to please or make someone happy at some point in time.

@Fortun4all At Close to 6m Annually, shouldn't u be resting?

The Guy need to be careful with this type of lday if not she will wreck him.

@ Poster, what is your problem? Do you pay every time you insert your rod in her hole? Thats the payment you are making now. You better call her to order urgently to be sure if she really loves you. I once had a parasite like that, One night i just ensured i banged the hell out of her after using some bad roots. In the morning she left, i deleted her number and refused to call her or pick her calls. You better be wise.

iice:

Only in worthy situations.
spending over one's budget is that person's wahala.

And your friend is going to drain himself all in the name 'bf/gf relationship'.
She's not his wife or daughter. Even then some lines must be drawn. He is enabling her.

well said

NO!

God Punish her!!

She know my financial situation?!

Her papa!!

I will even call the police to arrest her jor!!

And stand as a material witness for the prosecution at her trial.

Okija_juju:

NO!

God Punish her!!

She know my financial situation?!

Her papa!!

I will even call the police to arrest her jor!!

And stand as a material witness for the prosecution at her trial.

for what now

Thank you all for your views, what iice said was exactlly what i told him. But you see people are difèrent and so is the way they reason. If he doesn't help her, she would say he doesn't care about her. And if he does , it is to his own deteriment. But thats the way it is. We all have to sacrifice something for those we care about.

I think I know the girl

^ u ll sure pay 4 me

Yes as long as the debt wasn't incurred whilst she was trying to live above her means.

I'm always for worthy causes so ain't got a problem with footing bills

Cut ur coate according to ur size

dyt, don't i already pay

i got one last nyt

Send the invoice over

ryt away
btw
wats 4 val?

she isnt nice if she is incurring debt for him

Paying off a girlfriend/boyfriends debt is never a good idea. It does not matter if it is for a productive reason or not. If you guys get married then that is something else. Even after marriage you still have to draw the line somewhere.

No fuckin way,Unless she get 2 vaginas!

Ofcourse if the debts are worthy & not extravagant.

only if she is my wife. Otherwise, Zap her

You should change the title of your thread by adding the adjective "irresponsible" before debt.

I can pay (and I have paid) ex-girlfriends debt before but no way in hell would I pay for anyone's irresponsible debt.