queensmith:
This is your truth not mine- I'm not religious.
So long story short, op should read the bible and the quaran to accept, but not actually justify that it is her duty in this God given world to stress and suffer while her husband puts his feet up as the Lord your God has intended it to be. All things not being equal women should be subject to slavery.
Kinda makes me wonder what the incentive is for being religious. It's not like religious men have good qualities compared to non- religous ones.

I beg to disagree.
A man who is TRULY following the bible would help his wife.
The man's role, according to the bible, is tougher than the woman's being that he was instructed to love his wife the way Christ loved the Church, and sacrificed His life for it. Christ served the church by loving her so much that He gave His life up.

The man's role is to ensure his wife isn't made uncomfortable even if he has to give up his personal comfort to ensure this.

For the woman not abuse this privilege, she was admonished to submit to her husband, in the hope that he loves her more than he loves himself. But trust those Nigerian men who attend church to warm the benches, or who are hopelessly selfish to quote only "wives submit into your husbands" without getting an indepth understanding of their major duty.

my dear i feel u, is not really easy to be a married woman as well a career woman .
i found myself in d same shoes and am also thinking otherwise But u dont really need to complain since there
are no kids yet.if ur husband is d type dat assist at home den it can at least work out and also try to plan ur schedule,
get a food time-table for d week (morning and night)prepare and store ur soup in d refrigerator for d week and wash ur cloth daily
before ur night bath.Try dis, i believe it will work out'

This topic just cracks mi up! Ofcourse nothing good comes easy.
I work in a Bank, n so does ma hubby!
Besides, am someone da does not believe in 'house-helps'...not with all d stories u hear from day to day (I no fit shout). But, wot I can't do maself, I pay for.
I do ma cleaning every weekend...bt, 2 mthly, I get someone to do d general cleaning... I ave a wash-person as well... Though I do d little I can during d week. Bt by Sat. She does d rest.
Don't believe in frozen food/stew, bt ma pepper is eva ready for anytin. So I make quick meals...
I wake up 4.30am daily, cos I ave to prepare ma boy for creche.
So, tecnically, we all move in n out togeda. All 3of us. And its works very well.
Hubby is also very understanding, n helpful around d house. So, am not so complied to anythin I don't ave strength for, especially after work.
So, dats it for mi n ma household!

juleze:
Same way a man is lazy if he comes back from work earlier or same time with his wife and can't cook or clean up.
Rubbish!
Most Nigerian men only know how to say "I'm a man", yet they are butt lazy.
Where's your conscience when you expect your wife to contribute financially, while you wouldn't make things easier for BOTH of you by cookin, washing or cleaning?
Kudos to the men who aren't like this.

Well said!

Sagamite:

Well said!

Sagamilo....where have you been? welcome back.

ronkebp:
Sagamilo....where have you been? welcome back.

Thank you jare.

The Child Support Agency was looking for me again ni o for 15 different cases. I had to go underground for a while.

Sagamite:

Thank you jare.

The Child Support Agency was looking for me again ni o for 15 different cases. I had to go underground for a while.

Infact, it shows you are a strong man....i support you jare, let me know if you need more women to test your abinibis' on.

Saga-AMUuuuuuuuuuuuuu

@mutter you are those judgmental women that cause problems for other people...madam correct home training, most people that talk like u usually come from broken homes and front for others to derive pleasure u really have issue'!!

ronkebp:
Infact, it shows you are a strong man....i support you jare, let me know if you need more women to test your abinibis' on.

Thank you jare.

Like if we agree make dem born. Useless women unilaterally go get belle for me and dem expect me to cough up. They are so selfish.

Dem think say I am ready to share my stored bags of garri.

jennykadry: Saga-AMUuuuuuuuuuuuuu

juleze:

I beg to disagree.
A man who is TRULY following the bible would help his wife.
The man's role, according to the bible, is tougher than the woman's being that he was instructed to love his wife the way Christ loved the Church, and sacrificed His life for it. Christ served the church by loving her so much that He gave His life up.

The man's role is to ensure his wife isn't made uncomfortable even if he has to give up his personal comfort to ensure this.

For the woman not abuse this privilege, she was admonished to submit to her husband, in the hope that he loves her more than he loves himself. But trust those Nigerian men who attend church to warm the benches, or who are hopelessly selfish to quote only "wives submit into your husbands" without getting an indepth understanding of their major duty.

I was only responding to what Ninapha said. Apparently its a justification to state 'well the bible says so' as a reason to a man not doing any chores. The Christian sentiments do not help anybody. *eye roll*

hbabe:

I am based in Lagos, I resume 8am and close officially at 5pm but don't get to leave the office till 6.30pm. No kids yet.


I have tried that but it is still stressful.

E b like say u lazy then, if u refrigerate ur soups n stews n u still stressed to cook....get a nanny den....an elderly woman oooo

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