i've heard and i believe that the days of ladies playing ;hard-to-get' is gone in nigeria - a lot of ladies have lamented about how Nigerian men are unwilling to tie the knot and finding a responsible man is becoming more and more difficult. Recently i read a story about a guy who registered with a dating agency and within a short period, he had been introduced to over 8 ladies. Within weeks, he had slept with five of them. I'm amazed too at the ease at which i make friends and collect numbers of 9ja girls on facebook - it's the ladies who even make the move nowadays. The suitors are not coming and the ladies are becoming increasingly desperate and would do anything to hook a man

so guys, what's the reason for this trend? your thoughts 

Have i not been sounding the alarm for ages now about the shortage of marriageable men in nigeria.

We may soon have to start importing african men from elsewhere to fill this void.

Lol, or rome will give nigerian men only polygamous rights

key word here is marriageable men.

hahahaha

@Op

Bachelorhood has never been sweeter

Shortage indeed.

More like shortage of respectable women too. Two plays the game, but sensible Nigerian men are more at risk for extinction.

mamalola u nailed it. Wat their friend will say abt d man in their life matters most to them than anyton else. No wonder they say ''pride cometh before a fall'' that is d reason our ladies r fallin.

@Op: Several factors led to these

1. Our daddy factories ar just too busy producing females. For every 1boy born, there ar abt 3-8 girls

2. D few boys around got bad due to heartbreak from some bad girls; hence they run from commitment

3. Ladies eyes are overclouded with a lot of unrealistic expectations I.e. Rich, handsome, must av a car, his own house, his personal business, infact, a personal jet. Even when d right person comes along, they wld never see him.

Not until they become 28/29 with no serious relationship in view
. Then, desperation sets in and at that point, they would gladly accept watever comes their way.

Afterall, half bread is better than chinchin or kokoro!

Nevertheless, we have good guys/ladies who despite fallin in to wrong hands, still have a good heart and wld make a good hussy/wife IF their future partners are wise enough to locate them

@op
there's too much competition amongst girls.
girls nowadays read book too much, university graduates and all. bit intimidating for men.
wealthy men tend to marry foreigners: less wahala with inlaws.

If it counts for anything, many Nigerian males die before the age of 5.

Utter s.hite Logic mind,, what kind of dude becomes intimidated just because a lady's a graduate?

Ileke-IdI:

Shortage indeed.

More like shortage of respectable women too. Two plays the game, but sensible Nigerian men are more at risk for extinction.

Thank you.

@ everybody av u read the book of isaiah chapter 4,verse 1.it give answer to that question asked by the op.mind u if u r not bad,god can never give u a bad partner,am sure of that because av witnessed it,

shortage of marriageable men in nigeria also means/includes shortage of marriageable nigerian men in general [including the diaspora].

i think some of this can be attributed to the fact that many are turning gaay, many prefer to marry and date non-blacks or non-nigerians, many are delaying marriage due to finances, fear or unwillingness, etc etc.

some are simply too cynical due to exposure or having seen what obtains in other marriages/relationships.

and yes, girls are getting desperate and resorting to all kinds of stratagems to hook a man.

i was thinking about this the other day and came to the conclusion these are an indication there is a severe shortage of marriageable men from nigeria.

i think the govt [at various levels including the local one], has to do something.


check around and see if we can get men from other african countries where there is a shortage of wives.

if anywhere like that exists, they should send their surplus men over.

actually there is shortage of Good lookin men in Nigeria. The home based once are naturally too ugly (no oofencse)

shadrach77:

i've heard and i believe that the days of ladies playing ;hard-to-get' is gone in nigeria - a lot of ladies have lamented about how Nigerian men are unwilling to tie the knot and finding a responsible man is becoming more and more difficult. Recently i read a story about a guy who registered with a dating agency and within a short period, he had been introduced to over 8 ladies. Within weeks, he had slept with five of them. I'm amazed too at the ease at which i make friends and collect numbers of 9ja girls on facebook - it's the ladies who even make the move nowadays. The suitors are not coming and the ladies are becoming increasingly desperate and would do anything to hook a man

so guys, what's the reason for this trend? your thoughts 

it has always been like this - it's a phase of life.
at a point in your life, you would be the one doing the chasing. . . .after a while, they would be the ones chasing you.
just eat what you can and don't get trapped in their fishnets.

I did say its the lack of decent women these days n most women lacks knowledge n don't undstnd that men are wiser,once u marry a woman u inherit all her liabilities frm buying of her panties to buying her a diamond ring,ipad,bb porche e.t.c n for most Nigerian women u must own a range,a villa,wrk with chevron before they wil marry u bt wise men value a woman who helps him build his dreams n achieve it nt one that do nt knw how i made my money n wants me 2 marry her.

Ashawo[girls] dey every where, even G4ys dey fear say ashawo go collect al d boys finish 4 dis year.

- Boko Haram are taking the lives of these men.

- Nigerian men in diaspora are getting married to white women etc

- Nigerian men are not ready for marriage/propose simply because most Nigerian women always want 10 over 10 in men which cannot be possible.

- ^Thats why there are loads of single mothers, baby mamas across the nation & these baby mamas are no more conceiving male kids.

- The ageing Nigerian women are crying in the night at the edge of their beds 4 no suitors to come around, even the thick make-ups they apply al day don't work again.

pu**y yanpia™

Tosinville:

- The ageing Nigerian women are crying in the night at the edge of their beds 4 no suitors to come around, even the thick make-ups they apply al day don't work again.

pu**y yanpia™

[b][/b]My broda dia make up na die, na so dem go just pack the tin full face like odun egun. If you tell dem nko dem go tink say you get bad belle.

shadrach77:

Recently i read a story about a guy who registered with a dating agency and within a short period, he had been introduced to over 8 ladies. Within weeks, he had slept with five of them.

Bruv, wats d dating agency- me wan score 10 over 10

snthesis:

Bruv, wats d dating agency- me wan score 10 over 10

Believe me you don't need an agency. Just get ouside and start speaking to ladies. You will be amazed. Before you know it, they will start fighting each other because of you.

^^HIV, Staphylococus, syphillis & all other STDs are smiling at u, beware bro & use 2 CDs at a time. Deuces.

snthesis:

Bruv, wats d dating agency- me wan score 10 over 10

well, my brother, i can't remember the name of the agency but check the story i'm posting below, you might find it in it or better still check the web via google

More Ladies Desperate For Husbands, Offer To Bankroll Wedding Ex

Vivi Nash

24 posts

February 18, 2011 7:10:30 PM EST
The desperation of Nigerian ladies for husbands has become alarming, P.M.NEWS investigation has revealed. Some are so desperate that they even offer to foot the wedding bill if the men agree to marry them. Ladies like these are in desperate search for husband.

But a lot of factors have resulted in the notion that there are fewer men willing to tie the nuptial knot.

Investigation reveals that the desperate ladies, who are between 25 and 40 and have not seen any man to call their own are ready to do anything including wooing men and7 going spiritual just to get married.

Some of these ladies register with social internet sites with their photographs and data and detailing the kind of men they would want for a husband.

They also take advantage of radio phone-in programmes to give details of their height, weight, genotype, occupation, age and skin colour and the type of men they want to marry.

Latching on to this situation, match making agents are daily springing up in several parts of Lagos State.


P.M.NEWS learnt that after successful registration, the women are directed to female seekers who also come to register for wives.

It has also been revealed that some of these women, at a stage in the pursuit of a husband, do not care about the wealth of a man as long as the man has a vision or bright prospects.

“It does not matter if the man cannot meet this vision. All that matters is the fact that the man has plans for the future,” Mr. Victor Sunday, a marriage agent and counsellor in Lagos told P.M.NEWS.

According to Sunday, more than 40 marriage agents have opened offices in the state between last year and now.

He further told P.M.NEWS that it has become necessary for counsellors to help the ladies seeking husbands because most of them would not be bold enough to ‘toast a man’.

“You know society frowns at this. Most times, the impression some men would have of ladies who approach them for marriage is that the ladies are prostitutes. They forget to realise that just as they are human beings with emotions, so are the ladies.

“In my five years on this job, I have come to realise that 90 per cent of women admire men at a point in time but not up to five per cent of them can summon the courage to approach the man for fear of the presumed wrong signals they would be sending out,” he added.

He explained that since he began as a marriage agent, he had successfully got husbands for several women both within Lagos and other states.

But within the last two years, the demand for husbands by mature women has doubled to the extent that each week, an average of 15 women go to register with him as against the two or three that he got weekly the first two years he went into the business.

“If I get 20 people in a week, be sure that 15 would be women.

“Mine is not a religious thing. I am strictly doing it for business,” he explained while putting the total cost of registration at N10, 000 for the women, saying that this expires every four months.

The men pay half that amount for the same registration.

“If you can pay this, be ready to get a man, but the challenge would be whether the man would like you,” he added.

If the man does not like the woman, she is redirected to somebody else while another lady is sent to the man.

Akpos, a 35-year old female seeker who this reporter met in the office, said he only registered three weeks ago.

However, within this period, he has met 12 different ladies.

Thinking our reporter was on a similar mission, Akpos opened up by telling him that he is even thinking of not getting serious about marrying yet.

“Bros, this thing is sweet. Out of the 12 girls that have reached me through the agent, I have slept with five. Two even told me they would not mind even if I want them to get pregnant before we get married,” he said gleefully.

Asked how the agents operate, he said after registration, they would take the phone number of the man, which they make available to the women.

A journalist (name withheld) who met a woman in such circumstance told P.M.NEWS that the woman, the daughter of a retired Army General, offered him N2 million and promised to foot the wedding bills the first day they met,

“But I refused because the lady, based in Abuja, is 11 years older than me,” the journalist said, adding rather humorously, “why should I marry a grandmother who will boss me around at home?”

Ikem Bernice, a businessman in Ikotun while confirming that women were desperate for husbands, said it is common in churches.

“You need to see their reaction when a pastor declares that those seeking husbands would get before the year ends. I was at a vigil in my church when the pastor asked that those who desired husbands should pray for the men to be available.

“I couldn’t bear what I was hearing from a lady beside me. She mentioned a man’s name and was praying that he should forget a particular lady and concentrate on her.

“I had to stop praying and watch the ladies in the church who became uncontrollable in their prayers for husbands to come their way at all costs. It was then I knew that men are scarce.”

Reason for the desperation? An unmarried woman who only gave her name as May, posted on the internet this reason: “For us Nigerian women, there is a huge pressure to tie the knot.

“Post twenty-five annum, an unmarried status often calls for expression of concern from family, friends and sometimes even ‘kind’ strangers.

“This concern can be terribly annoying and in the case that one is single and desperately searching for a partner, distressing.”

Jerome Codjo-Onipede, who teaches about marriage through various singles programmes, said women could become desperate due to societal values that tend to have more respect for married women than single women, the thought of not being able to have children after a certain age and the need for companion.

“But she doesn’t have an excuse to stay desperate because desperation isn’t going to get her a husband,” he said.

Advising the ladies to be careful, he said a lot of men are now lazy preferring to search for a lady who is wealthy or can make money.

“It is not surprising that most ladies, today, are dating guys that are six to 13 years younger than them. It may be ridiculous but not for those who indulge in it.

“As a personal counsellor, I know the dangers this so-called remedy poses but that is what happens when we try to find solutions to our predicaments without dealing with the original problem from the root,” he said.

@snthesis, you can also check the story below



More Ladies Desperate For Husbands, Offer To Bankroll Wedding Expenses
The desperation of Nigerian ladies for husbands has become alarming,P.M.NEWS investigation has revealed. Some are so desperate that they even offer to foot the wedding bill if the men agree to marry them. Ladies like these are in desperate search for husband. But a lot of factors have resulted in the notion that there are fewer men willing to tie the nuptial knot. Investigation reveals that the desperate ladies, who are between 25 and 40 and have not seen any man to call their own are ready to do anything including wooing men and7 going spiritual just to get married.

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Some of these ladies register with social internet sites with their photographs and data and detailing the kind of men they would want for a husband.They also take advantage of radio phone-in programmes to give details of their height, weight, genotype, occupation, age and skin colour and the type of men they want to marry. Latching on to this situation, match making agents are daily springing up in several parts of Lagos State.

P.M.NEWS learnt that after successful registration, the women are directed to female seekers who also come to register for wives. It has also been revealed that some of these women, at a stage in the pursuit of a husband, do not care about the wealth of a man as long as the man has a vision or bright prospects.

�It does not matter if the man cannot meet this vision. All that matters is the fact that the man has plans for the future,� Mr. Victor Sunday, a marriage agent and counsellor in Lagos told P.M.NEWS. According to Sunday, more than 40 marriage agents have opened offices in the state between last year and now. He further told P.M.NEWS that it has become necessary for counsellors to help the ladies seeking husbands because most of them would not be bold enough to �toast a man�. �You know society frowns at this. Most times, the impression some men would have of ladies who approach them for marriage is that the ladies are prostitutes. They forget to realise that just as they are human beings with emotions, so are the ladies. �In my five years on this job, I have come to realise that 90 per cent of women admire men at a point in time but not up to five per cent of them can summon the courage to approach the man for fear of the presumed wrong signals they would be sending out,� he added.

He explained that since he began as a marriage agent, he had successfully got husbands for several women both within Lagos and other states. But within the last two years, the demand for husbands by mature women has doubled to the extent that each week, an average of 15 women go to register with him as against the two or three that he got weekly the first two years he went into the business. If I get 20 people in a week, be sure that 15 would be women. Mine is not a religious thing. I am strictly doing it for business, he explained while putting the total cost of registration at N10, 000 for the women, saying that this expires every four months.
The men pay half that amount for the same registration. If you can pay this, be ready to get a man, but the challenge would be whether the man would like you, he added. If the man does not like the woman, she is redirected to somebody else while another lady is sent to the man.

Akpos, a 35-year old female seeker who this reporter met in the office, said he only registered three weeks ago. However, within this period, he has met 12 different ladies. Thinking our reporter was on a similar mission, Akpos opened up by telling him that he is even thinking of not getting serious about marrying yet. Bros, this thing is sweet. Out of the 12 girls that have reached me through the agent, I have slept with five. Two even told me they would not mind even if I want them to get pregnant before we get married, he said gleefully.

Asked how the agents operate, he said after registration, they would take the phone number of the man, which they make available to the women. A journalist (name withheld) who met a woman in such circumstance told P.M.NEWS that the woman, the daughter of a retired Army General, offered him N2 million and promised to foot the wedding bills the first day they met. But I refused because the lady, based in Abuja, is 11 years older than me, the journalist said, adding rather humorously, why should I marry a grandmother who will boss me around at home?

Ikem Bernice, a businessman in Ikotun while confirming that women were desperate for husbands, said it is common in churches. You need to see their reaction when a pastor declares that those seeking husbands would get before the year ends. I was at a vigil in my church when the pastor asked that those who desired husbands should pray for the men to be available. I couldn't bear what I was hearing from a lady beside me. She mentioned a man's name and was praying that he should forget a particular lady and concentrate on her. I had to stop praying and watch the ladies in the church who became uncontrollable in their prayers for husbands to come their way at all costs. It was then I knew that men are scarce.

�Reason for the desperation? An unmarried woman who only gave her name as May, posted on the internet this reason: For us Nigerian women, there is a huge pressure to tie the knot. Post twenty-five annum, an unmarried status often calls for expression of concern from family, friends and sometimes even kind strangers. This concern can be terribly annoying and in the case that one is single and desperately searching for a partner, distressing.

Jerome Codjo-Onipede, who teaches about marriage through various singles programmes, said women could become desperate due to societal values that tend to have more respect for married women than single women, the thought of not being able to have children after a certain age and the need for companion. But she doesn't have an excuse to stay desperate because desperation isn't going to get her a husband, he said.

Advising the ladies to be careful, he said a lot of men are now lazy preferring to search for a lady who is wealthy or can make money. It is not surprising that most ladies, today, are dating guys that are six to 13 years younger than them. It may be ridiculous but not for those who indulge in it. As a personal counsellor, I know the dangers this so-called remedy poses but that is what happens when we try to find solutions to our predicaments without dealing with the original problem from the root, he said.

�Eromosele Ebhomele

Lord have mercy.

It has also been revealed that
some of these women, at a stage
in the pursuit of a husband, do
not care about the wealth of a man
as long as the man has a vision or
bright prospects.
“It does not matter if the man
cannot meet this vision. All that
matters is the fact that the man
has plans for the future





This is so true.

Their papa! Devil don catch them.

About a decade ago, ladies were picking and choosing what kind of men they wanted to marry, hence there arose what is obtainable today: guys avoiding ladies because of their high standards and greed. Now the tables have turned.

These days, the mere words "I want to marry you" makes a lady throw away all her pride and get on her knees to suck off the guy or take it from behind. Women have now become s3x objects because of their desperation. What a shame.

LADIES, just remember that you brought it upon yourselves. Live with it.