ronkebp:

Hmmmm!!!! this is a serious matter, it is better the woman tells her hubby instanta, about what the mother has said, And she should have her own properties, who says a woman cannot own her own business and have properties all over the world in her name and her childrens' names.
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Seconded!

mutter:


This is a very kind MIL if you ask me.!!!!
To be forewarned is to be forearmed.
She has told the girl the truth and nothing but the truth. This is the reality of life and life can be cruel. When the marriage gets older the man will be on the look for a male child.
As far as I am concerned the wicked one here is the man. He wants the wife to invest with him and at the same time has ended his family planning
I smell a big RAT!!!
The woman should try having a male child or get herself some solid legal advice. She should also get property on her own. The reality with property in Nigeria is that the in laws can take possession of the property and you might find yourself donkey years in court. During this period the may have wasted your life and besides the property would not benefit the girls much. They might even not be in the position to fight for it.

Virtuous Woman:

Good Nigerian people, your candid opinion is needed in this super-sensitive matter.

A young wife (married for the 5th year) gave birth to her third child and daughter.
Her mother-in-law came for omungo and told her that "in their village, any wife who gives birth to only girls is counted amongst the barren women, because female children do not inherit landed properties". That if the man dies, whatever landed property he had will be shared amongs his brothers and other male relatives.

Now the couple do not plan to have another child and they also plan to build.
The wife is skeptical about adding her cash to this project but her mother-in-laws words keep ringing in her ears. Meanwhile the husband is not aware that his mother has told his wife this "cultural practice"

What should she do.

mutter:


This is a very kind MIL if you ask me.!!!!
To be forewarned is to be forearmed.
She has told the girl the truth and nothing but the truth. This is the reality of life and life can be cruel. When the marriage gets older the man will be on the look for a male child.
As far as I am concerned the wicked one here is the man. He wants the wife to invest with him and at the same time has ended his family planning
I smell a big RAT!!!
The woman should try having a male child or get herself some solid legal advice. She should also get property on her own. The reality with property in Nigeria is that the in laws can take possession of the property and you might find yourself donkey years in court. During this period the may have wasted your life and besides the property would not benefit the girls much. They might even not be in the position to fight for it.

TokyoBulls:

My mind tells me the woman has a plan.  First, the lady needs to be open and brave, and raise the discussion when her mother-in-law and the husband are present.  She needs to watch how the husband react during the discussion.  The man too might have a plan.  If she discovers that the man does not have any evil plan, she can invest in the business/house, but the documents MUST carry their names; as joint owners and partners, and she must be sure that she's the man's next-of-kin. Some people are better 'helped' in their quest for death.  The mother-in-law has earned a place among those qualified to be poisoned.

purefella:

It won't work!!! one will kill another .,Money is good at killing love!!!! , if you has a man combine your assets with your wife own and she noticed you are messing up with her , maybe going after another woman and she knows if you die she has the right to the entire properties , you are a dead meat and if it's the man that thinks his wife his disturbing him from flexing all around , he can do something silly
Money and Love are very good friends same time worst enemies

hbabe:

I won't do it, except the house is in my name or in the name of the children.  The world is a very wicked place.
Even if you speak to the man and he says no problem, who knows how things will turn tomorrow?

blacklion:

The MIL's story is pure BS meant to intimidate the wife and possibly drive her out of the son's house.

Yes, family land in the village in Igboland which was passed on from the ancestors can be inherited only by males but Igbo girls/women do inherit landed properties from their late fathers in urban areas from Enugu to Owerri to PH to Lagos. Igbo customary law does not automatically apply to landed properties outside of Igboland.

I have not seen in the last two generations where a dead man's family came to Lagos or Kano to drag with his widow or daughters over land that the man bought on his own and developed. Possibly, one may encounter this sort of BS only among semi-literate or unexposed families especially where the widow is timid and allows herself to be bullied but I have not witnessed this scenario in recent times.