Odunnu:

You are an adult for God's sake, learn to act like one and your parents would have no option than to pipe down! You have a job, thank God! Get ready, make preparations, you are about to be a mom. Whatever you choose to do, make sure you dont as much as think of aborting the baby.  

Van snickers:

SMH,  The Advice you see People give on NL, can you give your Sisters this kind of Advice!!!

@op.

Don't abort the Child, if you feel you can't take care of the Child, give it up for Adoption once it's born.

moremi2008:

the errant spermatozoa that fertilized your egg.

Sheenyids:

Guys and ladies, really need sound advice please, Just opened this account for obvious reasons but I ve been an avid follower of the inputs SOME of you make to people in distress and I think it's useful. The situation is this,

I am a single lady, late twenties , had a intimate encounter 2 weeks ago with someone and used protection but now I ve started getting a skin rash which I only get when I am pregnant, how is it possible after using a condom which didn't burst, I am baffled. Similar thing happened years back as a student and let me just say I was practically disowned by my parents for 'bringing disgrace and shame to family' , lost that pregnancy, now I am working but not in a relationship

The koko is that I am not in a relationship now so goes back to me becoming a single mum which will complete the disowning process for me (my family are the type you havent seen, my age is just a number to them) or I find someone to accept me and baby and get married for sake of it, although am not in a relationship, someone has been pestering me to be in one with him and I don't really like him but seems beggars can't choose

(I will ignore insulting comments)

Van snickers:

SMH, The Advice you see People give on NL, can you give your Sisters this kind of Advice!!!

@op.

Don't abort the Child, if you feel you can't take care of the Child, give it up for Adoption once it's born.

davidylan:

If my sister got pregnant due to a one-night-stand you bet i would be adamant that she gets rid of the baby. Its absolutely not right that the irresponsible father of the baby gets to go ahead living his own life while my own sister has to radically alter hers just to bring a baby into a world of uncertainty. Why put urself in a virtual prison for life?

Richvkunt:

[b]@OP,

1.On the issue of condoms,people need to get it into their skulls that they are not a 100% effective birth control system,the only 100% birth control system I know is abstinence!
2.You are not in any kind of relationship right now,but you are pregnant! Have you thought about getting in to contact with the man responsible? How do you know his mind set? Have you tried talking to him?He might want you to keep the child or is he a married man?There are lots of loose ends to this story.
3.While I would never encourage you to dishonour your parents because I am a parent too,I have to say you appear too tied to the apron strings of your parents,according to you you are in your late twenties and you have a job.Right now you are pregnant and even if the father of the unborn kid accepts his responsibility,the two of you will still have to face your parents and explain issues to them-To me it appears you are more scared of your parents than the man who knocked you up.Certainly you need to conquer this fear and approach your parents like the adult you are.If you have decided to keep this baby,trust me your folks will come around to accepting the child and you,although it may take some time.
4.Finallyabout the guy that has been pestering you for a relationship,and in the backlash of your problems you want to start a relationship with him so that he can accept you and your baby? My advise DO NOT TRY IT!-He certainly is not the father of the kid so why would you want to give Ibas child to Osun?You want to start your new relationship on a foundation of lies?I bet in your heart you know what the result will be.

I do not pretend to have all the answers to your problems but my suggestion is that you search for the real father of your baby and have a heart to heart talk with him.All other steps will follow from there.
PEACE!!![/b]

davidylan:

why not? what sort of life does this baby stand to have?

jennykadry:

^^Good one. When I was on school prac in the hospital during my Uni days, Abortion was one of the procedure I ticked off as not interested to see/watch. I would go into the theatre and watch every procedure but abortion and I will never be a partaker of it physically.

Our neighbours Daughter was preggers @ 16, her mother made a deal with a health professional to either kill the baby or give it out immediately she is brought into this world. I remember hearing that it was an old Benin midwife that told the girl the truth. This girl ran away from lagos and had her baby in another state. Fast forwrd to present day, this same girl they wanted to kill after she was born, finished her secondary school education with scholarship. Her mother and step dad sent her to UK to study medicine and she came out as one of the best student, she actually was the best i think they said in her 5th year. She is a well known Dr in the UK as we speak, come and see her grand parents claiming grand daughter, someone they never wanted to hear, cry her first cry.

Tufiakwa