adosjun:

Yawn.,,,nnnnn, Young man leave nairaland ? go look F job, Because U?? most really be jobless post this long text when ur mates are out there hustling, Its only an advice.

~Killz~:

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Wrote this from the office. . . NEXT!


Chima, It doesn't suck. But if you fail to define your priorities, it sucks BIG time.

adosjun:

Yawn.,,,nnnnn, Young man leave nairaland ? go look F job, Because U?? most really be jobless post this long text when ur mates are out there hustling, Its only an advice.

~Killz~:

It’s good to be in love. It’s good be feel loved. Getting into a relationship based on love for each other is wonderful. Let’s face it.  A relationship cannot live on that love alone. It needs money. Don’t get me wrong. I like money, you like money, we all like money. But I don’t love money, I can not love money. Do you love money? Should you love money? Love is an emotion, not for inanimate objects like money but for beings with feelings and the capability to reciprocate that emotion in return. Therefore, the love of money is bad. But we do have people that have the love of money, and they bring this love into a relationship, and now, they will have two loves: The guy/girl they are in a relationship with and Money. When the love of money overshadows the love the have for a fellow human, what happens? Your guess is as good as mine.
There is a need for a balance. You shouldn’t go into a relationship if you cannot rightly sustain it. There is a time for everything. If you are in school, that is the time for you to read. I’m referring to guy’s in particular. Most of the heartbreaks guys face is as a result of lack of money to sustain the love.  A man’s life is different from that of a woman. Nature has given you the responsibility to cater for the needs of a woman, of course when you get married to her. What happens when you decide to disobey nature and start trying to take care of a woman when it is not your time? Duh! When a guy who it’s his time comes along, that woman will leave you. How about working hard to achieve your goals, aims and dreams. Get comfortable with your money, realize that natural need to settle down and then enter into a relationship proper? Does that make more sense than spending your school fees on a random lady?
Develop the right attitude towards dating. Dating should be with a view to getting married. If you cannot handle the responsibilities of a home, why saddle yourself with financial expenses of a girl you aint thinking of marrying?  You both may be madly in love with yourselves, but financial problems are real too. If you don’t have a steady source of income pls pls and pls, avoid any form of relationships. You can have friends you hang out with, at least no one is expecting anything from you, but then, deciding to settle for a relationship proper comes with responsibilities. Love will not pay your bills. Economic situation in the world today is dwindling and getting worse. . .
When you are finally ready to get married, have it at the back of your mind that money is the leading cause of disputes, quarrels and what have you in the home. Realistically talk about budgets and how bills will be paid, and how you will manage you accounts. If you fail to plan, you have planned to fail. . .
If you get into a relationship with a lady, and you can’t afford to buy a gift for her you don’t love her. Ok. You may love her, but you are not showing it. Damn, Sex is NOT love so don’t even go there. Romantic outings, eat outs, movies pizza/sharwarma dates, blah blah blah all require money. Don't buy gifts you cannot sustain. Don’t be ostentatious. If you base that relationship on money, you only have your self to blame. Cultivate the balance between Love & money . . .

~Killz~:

It’s good to be in love. It’s good be feel loved. Getting into a relationship based on love for each other is wonderful. Let’s face it.  A relationship cannot live on that love alone. It needs money. Don’t get me wrong. I like money, you like money, we all like money. But I don’t love money, I can not love money. Do you love money? Should you love money? Love is an emotion, not for inanimate objects like money but for beings with feelings and the capability to reciprocate that emotion in return. Therefore, the love of money is bad. But we do have people that have the love of money, and they bring this love into a relationship, and now, they will have two loves: The guy/girl they are in a relationship with and Money. When the love of money overshadows the love the have for a fellow human, what happens? Your guess is as good as mine.
There is a need for a balance. You shouldn’t go into a relationship if you cannot rightly sustain it. There is a time for everything. If you are in school, that is the time for you to read. I’m referring to guy’s in particular. Most of the heartbreaks guys face is as a result of lack of money to sustain the love.  A man’s life is different from that of a woman. Nature has given you the responsibility to cater for the needs of a woman, of course when you get married to her. What happens when you decide to disobey nature and start trying to take care of a woman when it is not your time? Duh! When a guy who it’s his time comes along, that woman will leave you. How about working hard to achieve your goals, aims and dreams. Get comfortable with your money, realize that natural need to settle down and then enter into a relationship proper? Does that make more sense than spending your school fees on a random lady?
Develop the right attitude towards dating. Dating should be with a view to getting married. If you cannot handle the responsibilities of a home, why saddle yourself with financial expenses of a girl you aint thinking of marrying? You both may be madly in love with yourselves, but financial problems are real too. If you don’t have a steady source of income pls pls and pls, avoid any form of relationships. You can have friends you hang out with, at least no one is expecting anything from you, but then, deciding to settle for a relationship proper comes with responsibilities. Love will not pay your bills. Economic situation in the world today is dwindling and getting worse. . .
When you are finally ready to get married, have it at the back of your mind that money is the leading cause of disputes, quarrels and what have you in the home. Realistically talk about budgets and how bills will be paid, and how you will manage you accounts. If you fail to plan, you have planned to fail. . .
If you get into a relationship with a lady, and you can’t afford to buy a gift for her you don’t love her. Ok. You may love her, but you are not showing it. Damn, Sex is NOT love so don’t even go there. Romantic outings, eat outs, movies pizza/sharwarma dates, blah blah blah all require money. Don't buy gifts you cannot sustain. Don’t be ostentatious. If you base that relationship on money, you only have your self to blame. Cultivate the balance between Love & money . . .

A-ZeD:


In the article, you kind of contradict yourself. You say one should learn to balance between love and money and then you say if you dont have a steady source of income don't date. That statement can be transcribed to mean love is for only people with money.

I know that two reasonable people who are dating know each others financial capability and they know what not to expect from their partners. It would have made sense to say don't GET MARRIED without a steady source of income.

Mr, Cork:

killz. is this your school homework?

I some what agree with the poster, money makes a relationship less fustrating and reduces stress. However we all should adopt the right notion towards money. Dating someone because of the size of their purse should never be encouraged. A Relationship that is based on funds can never survive, however the real bond in a should be genuie love, trust and friendship. We should never see dating someone as a means to success or an increase in the bank account.

I agree.

~Killz~:

Being ostentatious means a pretentious show of wealth you don't really have. More like spending to impress. If you spend above your means, and you give in to her every demand, she naturally feels you have it. Now when she makes a demand based on the assumption you made her believe and you say no, what do you think will be the resultant effect?
Doing something for someone special is good. [color=#990000]But do so within your means. If you want to really really do something extraordinary, be honest about it. Avoid ostentation! [/color]

~Killz~:

^Hehe. i think you misunderstood me. There's a difference between liking money, and loving it. I like money too, but i believe my life should not be centered around it. For example, it would be wrong for me to choose Love of Money over Love of Spouse, Friends or Family! The satisfaction you get from all that is a reciprocation of your hard work. You choose to work hard for that money, it has come and you have to enjoy it. Now, will you choose to love someone or to love money and all it can give you?. . . . . . . . That's the point i was trying to pass across.

It's good if people can really see money for what it is, and put it in it's rightful place. . . Balancing!

Ammyng:

May suffering and poverty be your portion IJN .  Amen