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Is This List True About Igbo Traditional Marriage by IRAPADA(m): 6:18am On Mar 10, 2012
I got these from another site [Tradional Marriage List
People , help oo. My friend
has just fainted. He just
received the following list
from his in-laws for their
traditional marriage next
year.
This is after he and said wife
have been married for about
3 years and 2 kids later.
Insult to the Family For
making her have a baby
before "marriage"
1. One She Goat
2. One bottle of St. Remy
3. Two Carton of Star Beer
4. Two crates of soft drinks
5. One bottle of native gin
6. Two Bottles of wine
7. N10,000.00
Consultation marriage
list for the father
(MBUP)
1. 2 bottles of three in one
whisky
2. 1 carton of Explendido
Brandy
3. 10 litres of native gin
4. 10 cartons of star beer
5. 6 bottles of Gordon Gin
6. 3 cartons of small stout
7. 1 carton of wine
8. 10 Jars of palm wine
9. 3 Heads of Tobacco
10. 3 line stones
11. 3 bunches of cola nuts
12. 1 bottle of grinding sniff
13. 1 roll of Benson and
hedges cigarettes
14. 1 packet of matches
15. cash of N5,000.00 for
breaking of cola
Full Proper Marriage List
for the father
1. 2 pieces of hollandis Wax
2. 1 Chieftaincy shirt
3. 1 hat
4. 1 big towel
5. 1 pair of shoes and socks
6. 1 walking stick
7. 1 wrist watch
8. 1 dozen underwear
9. 1 she goat with N10,000
for cutting goats head
10. Matchet with cover and
beet
11. 15 cartons of star beer
12. 5 cartons of champion
beer
13. 2 cartons of brandy
14. 3 bottles of 3 in one
whisky
15. 1 caron of wine (Don
Morris)
16. 5 crates of minerals (Soft
drinks)
17. 4 crates of Guinness malt
18. 4 heads of Tobacco
19. 1 bottle of grinding snuff
20. 4 line stones
21. 4 bunches of cola nuts
22. 1 smal basin and knife for
the cola nuts
23. 15 Jars of palm win
24. 20 liters of native gin
25. 1 modern brief case with
N150,000
For the mother �
consultation (MBUP)
1. 6 bottles of campari
2. 4 crates of minerals (soft
drinks)
3. 2 crates of Guinness Malts
4. I piece of English wax
5. 1 blouse
6. 1 basin with cover full of
crayfish
7. 1 Head tie
8. 2 bags of salt
9. basin with pepper
For the Mother � Full
marriage (proper
marriage)
1. 2 pieces of Dutch Wax and
one lase
2. 3 assorted blouses
3. head tie (canopy)
4. 2 Paris of shoes
5. one wrist watch + 1 dozen
of brassiers
6. 1 hand bag and 6
underwear
7. 1 big basin full of crayfish
with cover
8. 1 big basin full of pepper
with cover
9. 3 bags of salt
10. 1 umbrella
11. 1 suit �case with N50,000
12. 1 caton of Eva wine
13. 1 big bottle of Yago wine
14. 4 crates of Guinness malt
15. 4 crates of minerals (soft
ddrinks)
16. 1 bag of rice
17. 5 tubers of yams
Nto Ete (family
members)
1. 3 cartons of star beer
2. 1 bottles of St. Remy
3. 3 Jars of palm wine
4. 1 roll of besson and
hedges cigarette
5. 1 packets of matches
6. Nka Ekong of N10,000
Youth
1. Football
2. 1 bottle of gin
3. 1 roll of St. Morris
cigarette
4. 1 packet of matches
5. N2,000
Iban Nda Usung (Women
Vanguard)
1. 1 bottle of wine
2. 1 crates of minerals (soft
drink)
3. N1,500 in cash
Grand Father (Uncle)
1. piece of wax loin cloth
2. 1 long sleaves shirt
3. 1 bottle of brandy
4. 1 wrist watch.
EDem Eka
1. 1 carton of beer
2. 1 bottle of brandy
3. 1 Jar of palm wine
4. 1 piece of English wax
5. 1 long sleaves shirt
6. 1 bag of salt
HELP!!!!!!!]
Re: Is This List True About Igbo Traditional Marriage by Goldieluks: 6:25am On Mar 10, 2012
No this is not true! shocked
Re: Is This List True About Igbo Traditional Marriage by bekay911(f): 6:43am On Mar 10, 2012
^^ tot as much
Re: Is This List True About Igbo Traditional Marriage by InkedNerd(f): 6:57am On Mar 10, 2012
Of course that is what we ask for for traditional weddings. In fact, one of the most important request is a private island grin tongue
Re: Is This List True About Igbo Traditional Marriage by Gboliwe: 7:09am On Mar 10, 2012
The list is incomplete. They didnt include a BB for the sister and a camry 2001 for the brother
Re: Is This List True About Igbo Traditional Marriage by Andrew3(m): 7:33am On Mar 10, 2012
I swear if u see akwa-ibom list you wish to have this your ibo list. angry angry angry angry angry
Re: Is This List True About Igbo Traditional Marriage by IZUKWU(m): 8:06am On Mar 10, 2012
IRAPADA:

I got these from another site [Tradional Marriage List
People , help oo. My friend
has just fainted. He just
received the following list
from his in-laws for their
traditional marriage next
year.
This is after he and said wife
have been married for about
3 years and 2 kids later.
Insult to the Family For
making her have a baby
before "marriage"
1. One She Goat
2. One bottle of St. Remy
3. One Carton of Star Beer
4. One crates of soft drinks
5. One bottle of native gin
6. Two Bottles of wine
7. N10,000.00
Consultation marriage
list for the father
(MBUP)
1. 2 bottles of three in one
whisky
2. of Explendido
Brandy
3. 10 litres of native gin
4. 1 cartons of star beer
5. 2 bottles of Gordon Gin
6. 3 cartons of small stout
7. 1 cartoo of wine
8. 20 Jars of palm wine
9. 3 Heads of Tobacco
10. 3 line stones
11. 3 bunches of cola nuts
12. 1 bottle of grinding sniff
13. 1 roll of Benson and
hedges cigarettes
14. 1 packet of matches
15. cash of N5,000.00 for
breaking of cola
Full Proper Marriage List
for the father
1. 2 pieces of hollandis
9. 1 she goat with N5,000

11. 5 cartons of star beer
12. 5 cartons of champion
beer
13. 2 bottles of brandy
14. 3 bottles of 3 in one
whisky
16. 5 crates of minerals (Soft
drinks)
17. 4 crates of Guinness malt
18. 4 heads of Tobacco
19. 1 bottle of grinding snuff
20. 4 line stones
21. 4 bunches of cola nuts
22. 1 smal basin and knife for
the cola nuts
23. 15 Jars of palm wine
For the mother �
consultation (MBUP)

2. 2 crates of minerals (soft
drinks)
3. 2 crates of Guinness Malts
4. I piece of English wax
5. 1 blouse
6. 1 basin with cover full of
crayfish
7. 1 Head tie
8. 2 bags of salt
9. basin with pepper
For the Mother � Ful
8. 1 big basin full of pepper
wi
13. 1 big bottle of Yago wine
14. 2 crates of Guinness malt
15. 2 crates of minerals (soft
ddrin
17. 5 tubers of yams
Nto Ete (family
members)
1. 3 cartons of star beer
2. 1 bottles of St. Remy
3. 3 Jars of palm wine
4. 1 roll of besson and
hedges cigarette
5. 1 packets of matche
1. Football
2. 1 bottle of gin
3. 1 roll of St. Morris
cigarette
4. 1 packet of matches
5. N2,000
Iban Nda Usung (Women
Vanguard)
1. 1 bottle of wine
2. 1 crates of minerals (soft
drink)
3. N1,500 in cash
Grand Father (Uncle)
1. piece of wax loin cloth

3. 1 Jar of palm wine
4. 1 piece of English wax
5. 1 long sleaves shirt
6. 1 bag of salt
HELP!!!!!!!]

depending on the capability of the man and the family that list can still be tampered with , very few items are written in stone.
Re: Is This List True About Igbo Traditional Marriage by Nobody: 8:22am On Mar 10, 2012
@op
are sure this is ibo list,
this is more like a calabar list
Re: Is This List True About Igbo Traditional Marriage by Goldieluks: 8:23am On Mar 10, 2012
Inked_Nerd:

Of course that is what we ask for for traditional weddings. In fact, one of the most important request is a private island grin tongue
grin shocked grin
::Andrew:::

I swear if u see akwa-ibom list you wish to have this your ibo list.  angry angry angry angry angry

I guess the akwa-ibom list will be completed with ' a bag of human head, or a 1 acre land' because
that list up there has exceeded normalcy.
Re: Is This List True About Igbo Traditional Marriage by Killz3(m): 8:50am On Mar 10, 2012
This list is outrageous, and so not true. But hell, so many forum members are quick to jump into biased conclusions. The reason for this list is down below. A little reading would have allowed us see why this list is so damn long. . .
IRAPADA:

I got these from another site [Tradional Marriage List
People , help oo. My friend
has just fainted. He just
received the following list
from his in-laws for their
traditional marriage next
year.
This is after he and said wife
have been married for about
3 years and 2 kids later.
[size=14pt]Insult to the Family For
making her have a baby
before "marriage"
[/size]

It would not have been this way "if" he had married her the "right" way. It's an insult to have a baby before marriage in the igbo tradition. Other traditions and cultures may permit it though. . .
That said, this list is NOT complete without a Range Rover Sports for the father, and a Toyota RAV4 for the mother. . . cool
Re: Is This List True About Igbo Traditional Marriage by MrsChima1(f): 10:31am On Mar 10, 2012
As I read the list, even the greediest Igbo wouldn't ask for such.

Why ask for food when you can ask for a car/house/money?

Rice is almost free!!

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Re: Is This List True About Igbo Traditional Marriage by IRAPADA(m): 12:37pm On Mar 10, 2012
doxime:

@op
are sure this is ibo list,
this is more like a calabar list
how much do u think can be use to settle the list
Re: Is This List True About Igbo Traditional Marriage by iykay4455(m): 1:49pm On Mar 10, 2012
IRAPADA:

I got these from another site [Tradional Marriage List
People , help oo. My friend
has just fainted. He just
received the following list
from his in-laws for their
traditional marriage next
year.
This is after he and said wife
have been married for about
3 years and 2 kids later.
Insult to the Family For
making her have a baby
before "marriage"
1. One She Goat
2. One bottle of St. Remy
3. Two Carton of Star Beer
4. Two crates of soft drinks
5. One bottle of native gin
6. Two Bottles of wine
7. N10,000.00
Consultation marriage
list for the father
(MBUP)
1. 2 bottles of three in one
whisky
2. 1 carton of Explendido
Brandy
3. 10 litres of native gin
4. 10 cartons of star beer
5. 6 bottles of Gordon Gin
6. 3 cartons of small stout
7. 1 carton of wine
8. 10 Jars of palm wine
9. 3 Heads of Tobacco
10. 3 line stones
11. 3 bunches of cola nuts
12. 1 bottle of grinding sniff
13. 1 roll of Benson and
hedges cigarettes
14. 1 packet of matches
15. cash of N5,000.00 for
breaking of cola
Full Proper Marriage List
for the father
1. 2 pieces of hollandis Wax
2. 1 Chieftaincy shirt
3. 1 hat
4. 1 big towel
5. 1 pair of shoes and socks
6. 1 walking stick
7. 1 wrist watch
8. 1 dozen underwear
9. 1 she goat with N10,000
for cutting goats head
10. Matchet with cover and
beet
11. 15 cartons of star beer
12. 5 cartons of champion
beer
13. 2 cartons of brandy
14. 3 bottles of 3 in one
whisky
15. 1 caron of wine (Don
Morris)
16. 5 crates of minerals (Soft
drinks)
17. 4 crates of Guinness malt
18. 4 heads of Tobacco
19. 1 bottle of grinding snuff
20. 4 line stones
21. 4 bunches of cola nuts
22. 1 smal basin and knife for
the cola nuts
23. 15 Jars of palm win
24. 20 liters of native gin
25. 1 modern brief case with
N150,000
For the mother �
consultation (MBUP)
1. 6 bottles of campari
2. 4 crates of minerals (soft
drinks)
3. 2 crates of Guinness Malts
4. I piece of English wax
5. 1 blouse
6. 1 basin with cover full of
crayfish
7. 1 Head tie
8. 2 bags of salt
9. basin with pepper
For the Mother � Full
marriage (proper
marriage)
1. 2 pieces of Dutch Wax and
one lase
2. 3 assorted blouses
3. head tie (canopy)
4. 2 Paris of shoes
5. one wrist watch + 1 dozen
of brassiers
6. 1 hand bag and 6
underwear
7. 1 big basin full of crayfish
with cover
8. 1 big basin full of pepper
with cover
9. 3 bags of salt
10. 1 umbrella
11. 1 suit �case with N50,000
12. 1 caton of Eva wine
13. 1 big bottle of Yago wine
14. 4 crates of Guinness malt
15. 4 crates of minerals (soft
ddrinks)
16. 1 bag of rice
17. 5 tubers of yams
Nto Ete (family
members)
1. 3 cartons of star beer
2. 1 bottles of St. Remy
3. 3 Jars of palm wine
4. 1 roll of besson and
hedges cigarette
5. 1 packets of matches
6. Nka Ekong of N10,000
Youth
1. Football
2. 1 bottle of gin
3. 1 roll of St. Morris
cigarette
4. 1 packet of matches
5. N2,000
Iban Nda Usung (Women
Vanguard)
1. 1 bottle of wine
2. 1 crates of minerals (soft
drink)
3. N1,500 in cash
Grand Father (Uncle)
1. piece of wax loin cloth
2. 1 long sleaves shirt
3. 1 bottle of brandy
4. 1 wrist watch.
EDem Eka
1. 1 carton of beer
2. 1 bottle of brandy
3. 1 Jar of palm wine
4. 1 piece of English wax
5. 1 long sleaves shirt
6. 1 bag of salt
HELP!!!!!!!]


This is an outright exaggeration.It's not normal

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Re: Is This List True About Igbo Traditional Marriage by dealordea(m): 2:09pm On Mar 10, 2012
gbam!! igbo's in the making
Re: Is This List True About Igbo Traditional Marriage by Nobody: 8:13pm On Mar 10, 2012
This list is for akwa ibom people. Nevertheless,some ibo group demand as much. Such pathetic scenerio is replete with greedy parents,traditional believers etc. If you want to marry,locate a born again christian home and all this outrageous reap off will be reduced drastically and curtailed.
Re: Is This List True About Igbo Traditional Marriage by Nobody: 8:57pm On Mar 10, 2012
An ibo man I entered into a discussion with told me the total cost is a function of what the girl has studied to become. A lawyer or doctor would be worth more than a teacher, for instance. And a doctor would infact be worth more than a lawyer, or so, with price ranges in the millions. I sensed he also was attempting to justify this pricing mechanism and I found that rather strange and funny  undecided. This is really true. . . .
Re: Is This List True About Igbo Traditional Marriage by aleroo(f): 9:53pm On Mar 10, 2012
JESUS LORD!!!!!!!! What does the bride have to say about this? shocked
Re: Is This List True About Igbo Traditional Marriage by Mayflowa(m): 10:07pm On Mar 10, 2012
I actually thought the eastern and akwa ibon part of Nigeria were only guity of this. Later, I realise that this thing happen in many country of the world.

e.g, In China, young men cannot even talk about marriage because they need to have a house, car and in fact be rich before that can ask any hand for marriage.

In Iran, the ladies are married off as virgins. Very terrible offense to do the do before marrying and the man sign a court agreement worth over N30M to be
given the woman if he ever divorces her.

In india, women pay for men according to the man's education. Most times, the girl mother go look for a husband for her daughter.

So these are just custom and culture but we must know culture is dynamic. We should free those that make life harder for humans to be happy.
Re: Is This List True About Igbo Traditional Marriage by Exponental(m): 9:07am On Mar 11, 2012
Carry ur children, tell dem u dont av money yet, dat they can av their child till u are ready. I bet, d woman go escape come meet u. Just end all in d court.
Re: Is This List True About Igbo Traditional Marriage by IRAPADA(m): 12:43pm On Mar 11, 2012
Exponental: Carry ur children, tell dem u dont av money yet, dat they can av their child till u are ready. I bet, d woman go escape come meet u. Just end all in d court.
then u shd just pray nting happen to the woman cos if she died u are in big troble
Re: Is This List True About Igbo Traditional Marriage by dabrake(m): 12:47pm On Mar 11, 2012
::Andrew:::
I swear if u see akwa-ibom list you wish to have this your ibo list. angry angry angry angry angry
you are mad grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin
Re: Is This List True About Igbo Traditional Marriage by kiara11: 2:40pm On Mar 11, 2012
I am dizzy
Re: Is This List True About Igbo Traditional Marriage by Nobody: 2:46pm On Mar 11, 2012
grin grin grin
My wedding list contained some shizz like that cheesy

But of course it was just a formality. We beat all that shitt down to the minimum.

Note that in Igboland, you don't have to buy everything on the list but the most imortant.
Re: Is This List True About Igbo Traditional Marriage by dabrake(m): 6:09pm On Mar 11, 2012
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
the highly exalted pDude of Adamawa Girls fame. When did you get married
Re: Is This List True About Igbo Traditional Marriage by SAFO(m): 6:21pm On Mar 11, 2012
Chei Igbo are wicked grin
Re: Is This List True About Igbo Traditional Marriage by cantell(m): 6:34pm On Mar 11, 2012
sauer: An ibo man I entered into a discussion with told me the total cost is a function of what the girl has studied to become. A lawyer or doctor would be worth more than a teacher, for instance. And a doctor would infact be worth more than a lawyer, or so, with price ranges in the millions. I sensed he also was attempting to justify this pricing mechanism and I found that rather strange and funny  undecided. This is really true. . . .
The man is probably from Imo.
Na so dem dey do.
Re: Is This List True About Igbo Traditional Marriage by gaddafe(m): 9:50pm On Mar 11, 2012
Exponental: Carry ur children, tell dem u dont av money yet, dat they can av their child till u are ready. I bet, d woman go escape come meet u. Just end all in d court.
The day you meet the parents is the day they collect those kids from you. So when you are ready, you come for the marriage and collect your kids.
Re: Is This List True About Igbo Traditional Marriage by mykejones(m): 12:56am On Mar 12, 2012
Saw the thread..
Gladly opened it..
Reading
Gasping..
Shakin my head..
Shoutin 'WTH?!'
Read futher..
Thought about my present relatnshp..an igbo girl.
Fainted!
Called her,pleaded..'am nt exactly sure about any wedding now nkem,maybe wen am 35 and Ua 33'.
Re: Is This List True About Igbo Traditional Marriage by IRAPADA(m): 9:52am On Mar 12, 2012
mykejones: Saw the thread..
Gladly opened it..
Reading
Gasping..
Shakin my head..
Shoutin 'WTH?!'
Read futher..
Thought about my present relatnshp..an igbo girl.
Fainted!
Called her,pleaded..'am nt exactly sure about any wedding now nkem,maybe wen am 35 and Ua 33'.
go borow money 4 ur wedding
Re: Is This List True About Igbo Traditional Marriage by Nobody: 11:29am On Mar 12, 2012
Lier u are @OP

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