why do we have to marry? why cant we just have kids without marrying
my peeps what do you think

well you dont have to get married but if you are having children the word "bastard" comes into play and besides why do people get so tense about marriage you are already together why not just make it legal in the eyes of God and man.

omega25red:

well you don't have to get married but if you are having children the word "bastard" comes into play and besides why do people get so tense about marriage you are already together why not just make it legal in the eyes of God and man.

good reply

that a good reply but the question here is WHY

habibi777:

that a good reply but the question here is WHY

Cos is illegal in the sight of God and man as one poster wrote and we dont need our kids to be called bastard by others that were born legitmately.
Hope question answered.

what you are trying to say now is every kid born out of wed lock is a bastard ?

Sad to say, but the term bastard is still used in such cases, although it doesn't carry nearly as much influence as it once did. It still suggests that the children suffer for the putative "mistakes" of their parents.

The social construct of marriage is deep-rooted and one that, for better or worse, is culturally fairly ubiquitous.

Clearly, one doesn't have to be married to make children. It happens a lot.

bro i feel you

drrionelli:

Clearly, one doesn't have to be married to make children. It happens a lot.

That why we have too many bastards dis days.

We have to marry so we can bring up children in the best possible environment - with a dad and a mom.

My Guy! E no compulsory.
Even Apostle Paul in the Bible no Marry.
Just be sure you have a good life while u're on this planet.

Honestly, I have no idea!!! ,Just a stage we supposed to pass through.It's totally okay to have kids without getting married.

i feel u poster

I'm scared of the word marriage

aside d fact of raising children, society considers that until u're married, u're not yet settled down to begin a life on ur own as a man.

@jkpretty,
are u that scared,
dont mind, am coming to marry you soon.

WE GET MARRY IN OTHER TO FULFIL THE COMMANDMENT OF GOD. simple!

it is a sad thing to say that kids born out of wedlock are bastards -


what you mean to say is that a child born outside a legally consumated marriage - when that marriage remains undesolved- that child is often refered to as a bastard -not when a child is born by two people who live together without getting married.

we have to marry to fulfil Gods commandments.

we have to marry to help us curb loneliness.

we have to marry to make and raise children in a family enviroment.

we have to marry to have helpmate and to be of help.

we have to marry cos its a societal norm.

we have to marry cos we have to MARRY.

@ poster,

u are asking for you can now consider the option of boning every jane,janet and judy abi?

if u like, marry if u no like, no marry

Joey82:

@jkpretty,
are u that scared,
don't mind, am coming to marry you soon.

I'm waiting for u dearie

@Topic: There's a lot to look into b4 actually saying yes
There's more to marriage than loving ur spouse
There's more to marriage than raising kids
There's more to marriage than fulfilling God's deal that we multiply
There are more & more things which needs to be considered & not overlooked, in order to make it real.

saucekid:

@ poster,

, "if u like, marry if u no like, no marry"

Abeg help me tell them o!
Na you dey wear shoe, na you know wey e dey bite, so like sauce kid said, "if u like, marry if u no like, no marry"

jkpretty:

I'm waiting for u dearie

@Topic: There's a lot to look into before actually saying yes
There's more to marriage than loving your spouse
There's more to marriage than raising kids
There's more to marriage than fulfilling God's deal that we multiply
There are more & more things which needs to be considered & not overlooked, in order to make it real.

U're now getting me scared
what're those more n more things that needs to b considered in order to make it real

@topic, this is my opinion and pls noone should attack me oh! We dont all have to get married, its not compulsory. If you get married, thats good, but if you dont get married, its still good, when you die, God is not going to judge you on if you got married or not. Marriage is one of the hardest institutons, you will ever get into, and you have so much work to do. I admire people who stay married for years! I have a chronic phobia for getting married to the wrong person, so I'm taking my time oh!  
As for the bastard thing, yes oh! the literal meaning of bastard is a child born out of wedlock, but in reality, I have met more 'bastards' who were born to parents who were married!!!

There are those working on changing marriage as we know it, Who know it might catch on, even in Nigeria.

http://today.reuters.com/news/articlenews.aspx?type=oddlyEnoughNews&storyid=2007-09-20T161412Z_01_HAR057822_RTRUKOC_0_US-GERMANY-POLITICS-MARRIAGE-1.xml

Joey82:

You're now getting me scared
what're those more n more things that needs to b considered in order to make it real

One of them is compatibility, its just funny how two peeps seemingly go together b4 they get married. And once they are in its "i never knew u were like this" God help us.

BabyCakes:

As for the bastard thing, yes oh! the literal meaning of bastard is a child born out of wedlock, but in reality, I have met more 'bastards' who were born to parents who were married!!!

Funny, funny girl

@jkpretty,
compatibility isnt our problem, is it? u remember the hornbeam tree stuff by vindoheney?

Joey82:

@jkpretty,
compatibility isnt our problem, is it? u remember the hornbeam tree stuff by vindoheney?

Ooops i now remember dat darl, we'll definately make it work.

No marriage, no agreement!

No marriage, less commitment!

No marriage, its not legalised!

No marriage, it's not binding!

No marriage, not married!

@jkpretty
so what're we waiting 4, lets get d ball rolling!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

@joey82

right behind ya

We have to get married because its a trend. How would you have felt if you were born out of Wedlock? Bad i guess. Lets not subject our kids to societal degradation.