~Killz~:

Are you really a yoruba girl or are you a "remixed" version of a yoruba girl? Yoruba girls know the koko, pls stop falling their hand. . .

What if he wants to stay? Would you beg him or not? Pls answer. . .

chucky234: I don't know why ladies out here keep lying pretending to be hardy while they break down in tears at the least beaf with their BF or hubby.
They come out here and say hmm I can't beg him,why kneels down,he should go bla bla bla
I know so many of them who cried,kneeled,even gather their entire families and friends to beg the BF/hubby to stop him from leaving.
Why come here with your pride to lie on here,you can never be truthful for once,na wa

ifihearam: I have carefully read this thread and this is my 1 kobo:

@queensmith:this babe said there are many fishes in the sea,I pity you,dem go count many men and failed marriages for your head.

~Killz~:

Culture is just a way of life. Don't blame anyone for being born into such culture. The act on it's own is NOT demeaning. It only means respect in such culture. I think you take it to mean belittling the woman, while it's not. Jesus can see hearts. . . Humans cannot! Humans tend to work with what they can see. Don't blame them for that! BTW, some ladies see kneeling as the best way they can appease a man they love! Would you blame them for that too? Save your relationship the way you deem fit. Know the man you are in it with. Is he the tears alone type? Pray you meet a man like me who is sold out on tears alone!

okuya: Why not I've had girls go down on their knees with tears begging me not to walk away, especially when they've seriously wronged me!. I sometimes go on my knees to say sorry when I go wrong. [size=19pt]I believe pride causes a lot of problems to go out of control, using d word "sorry", and going down on knees has saved a lot of relationships[/size]

Idowuogbo:

Taaaaa!!!!!

Bck to sender, I reject dat curse.

Y wud u say such? Listen everybody get dier way.

Don't start raining heavy curse on her cus she no wan beg, wetin u b wey u dey judge am?

Abeg shift>>>>>>>>>>

Mstewwwww!!!

slimyem: at least you don senior me reach sugar mummy levels.
how old are you again sef?43?
Enu e bi iwo idi mi!
Mtcheeeeeeeeeeeeew

tpacalipse: Women only beg a man not to leave only if he has money. But if the man is broke, they really don't give a fffkk.

sexlog:
see the kin word wey dey come out from your mouth.

~Killz~:

Well, save your relationship anyway you deem fit. . . Doesn't change the fact that kneeling is a Nigerian culture that cannot die! And i don't buy that he is not worth begging line. . . What warranted her crying her eyes out in the first place? If she's really at fault, nothing is too big to do, just to show that remorse. . . Pray you meet someone like me who needs only tears and a puckered face. . .

Miss EZ:

Nah Kills, you kinda get my point but you misunderstand my motives. I don't think that kneeling down is necessarily demeaning in every context. The dignity aspect is usually defined in the context in which a person kneels down. For instance if you kneel down during your marriage ceremony, kini big deal? My qualms with it is when this is the only acceptable mode of apology. I honestly cannot fault someone for kneeling down to appease another, that is not what i am saying at all. Like i said earlier, everyone should be free to express apology as they deem fit. If kneeling down is your way, fine and good. What i am against is the fact that kneeling down is a prerequisite used in judging the sincerity of my apologies.. I mean look at some answers in the forum, the refusal to kneel down is equated with pride or lack of humility. [b]My question is what makes kneeling down more superior to tears during an apology?[/b]Are we more concerned with the action itself, or the intent behind the action? I have seen people go speechless because they cannot find the words to express their regret, but the pain in their eyes and their body language says it all. Should i now reject that apology because they didnt kneel down?


Just as a general note to some other posts: The issue here is not just about begging, its the issue of kneeling down to beg. I dont think most people are saying they cannot apologize for wrong doing. But for some, the issue is why they must kneel? Everyone answers this question differently and no one should be insulted because of their opinion. Do what works for you and your significant other. Cest Finir

Kneeling down is a non verbal gesture that can be interpreted in various ways depending on any given context. I just think that in Nigeria, sometimes we major on the minor and minor on the major. To all who wish to kneel o, by all means do. whatever works for thee and thy loved one.

Nice self-hype Kills, will surely keep the "sold out on tears alone" character in my prayers....lol

Kneeling, whether done by a man or woman, whether greeting an elder, or whether kneeling in prayer is a sign of respect and humility. Do you believe that?

I can greet while standing and i can also pray standing. It depends on the depths i want to take it to. Kneeling is not a prerequisite, but culture teaches that kneeling signifies sincerity, and even at that, i don't think any man would say to a woman "YOU MUST KNEEL". . . No! The woman or whoever kneeling does it out of her own want and sincerity.
It takes a lot of humility to kneel before anyone, do you agree? That is why when a woman begs a man to the extent that she kneels, she has thrown all manner of pride to the wind, and that is why kneeling is kinda appreciated. . . kinda. Kneeling is a form of apology, given the context in which the kneeling is done, and it is NOT a must. But for you, who offended someone, the act of kneeling could signify the extent to how sorry you really are. . . Could, not must!
Like i said earlier, tears does it for me. other males on this thread abhor a woman kneeling for them, so it's dependent on who you are, and who you are appeasing. But on a general level, kneeling is a sign of humility.
If a woman chooses to beg her husband with tears in her eyes, fine. If she decides to kneel and beg with teary eyes, fine. But i've never ever seen any man that will ask a lady to kneel before him to show she is remorseful. It's the ladies that play that out to show how sorry they are.

freecocoa: Err mm i don't think you get my point,I'm not saying its not alright to kneel,I'm just saying I've never done that and i don't pray i should but in the end i never say never.

She's prolly cried her eyes out cos she was truly remorseful for whatever wrong she must have done,now are you saying kneeling has a quicker effect than shedding genuine tears?a guy that would not accept my apology while seriously crying but would if i kneel down without a tear in my eyes, is not looking for a partner but a house maid or slave and if i notice this i'll use the last strength in me to wave goodbye to him.

~Killz~:

Kneeling, whether done by a man or woman, whether greeting an elder, or whether kneeling in prayer is a sign of respect and humility. Do you believe that?

I can greet while standing and i can also pray standing. It depends on the depths i want to take it to. Kneeling is not a prerequisite, but culture teaches that kneeling signifies sincerity, and even at that, i don't think any man would say to a woman "YOU MUST KNEEL". . . No! The woman or whoever kneeling does it out of her own want and sincerity.
It takes a lot of humility to kneel before anyone, do you agree? That is why when a woman begs a man to the extent that she kneels, she has thrown all manner of pride to the wind, and that is why kneeling is kinda appreciated. . . kinda. Kneeling is a form of apology, given the context in which the kneeling is done, and it is NOT a must. But for you, who offended someone, the act of kneeling could signify the extent to how sorry you really are. . . Could, not must!
Like i said earlier, tears does it for me. other males on this thread abhor a woman kneeling for them, so it's dependent on who you are, and who you are appeasing. But on a general level, kneeling is a sign of humility.
If a woman chooses to beg her husband with tears in her eyes, fine. If she decides to kneel and beg with teary eyes, fine. But i've never ever seen any man that will ask a lady to kneel before him to show she is remorseful. It's the ladies that play that out to show how sorry they are.

naijasexy: ^^ You would think less of a woman that kneels for you? Really? wow!

~Killz~:

To make my self clear, i'll only recommend kneeling for someone who has paid your bride price. . . but some ladies choose to kneel for their boyfriends and that's also acceptable.
Kneeling without tears in the eyes? WTF.

tpacalipse: Women only beg a man not to leave only if he has money. But if the man is broke, they really don't give a fffkk.

Miss EZ:

Seen and duly noted. It all boils down to each doing their own. Abeg o make i write my paper finish before i have to go and kneel and beg the professor to not give me zero o...lol

Abeg o. . .

Akpaamu: My Wife may not beg me if it happens to us, but that doesnt mean shes not hurt or unhappy, thats her make up and i have come to understand that, she would must likely come back to say thanks for not leaveing.

Honeycity: yes i can go on all fours to beg my man not to leave even if it was his fault and he feels he does not deserve me