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Re: How Was Your First Year Of Marriage? by maryswags: 7:22pm On May 31, 2012 |
im just clocking my first year in marriage...hmmmmm...dated my husband for bout 6 years, wen we were going to get married, his family esp mother and sisters became monsters(wondering how people can pretend to be nice for that long)...had 3 miscarriages, how many can i say? it has been hell situations wise, but i must confess i have a wonderful husband (that his mother will end up marrying and having kids for cos shes so stupid!)..but in all i give thanks to God 2 Likes |
Re: How Was Your First Year Of Marriage? by beckytoyon(f): 5:09pm On Jul 18, 2012 |
We clockd 1yr on July 9. It was awesome,wonderful,splendid,interesting and at d same time full of challenges. My hubby loves me 2 a fault n shows it always. Initially there was fear of d unknown on my part bt i av learnt to trust God in everthing. He's always patient with me as im d worrying type n gets angry easily bt God has put a stop 2 dat. Still trusting d Lord 4 fuits of d womb bt im more dan sure dat our joy is around d corner. 3 Likes |
Re: How Was Your First Year Of Marriage? by ferhyntorlah(f): 7:22pm On Jul 19, 2012 |
deybowlah: Why if I may ask? |
Re: How Was Your First Year Of Marriage? by Nobody: 9:00pm On Jul 19, 2012 |
Dramakwin, The man you married to is not acting like a husband! God will help you out. I recommend you go and take a medical exam asap so as to shame this man because most likely he might even be the one who can't impregnate you. Statistics have shown that the male is usually the cause of most barrenness in a family. People just have to realise that children don't make a family complete, they only extend it, when God created Adam and Eve on the 6th day God said everything he made was good. In short family starts with and is complete with a man and woman with or without children. Don't let the immature boy that calls himself your husband harass you jare!If he complains again you too complain that he has been unable to give you children! 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Was Your First Year Of Marriage? by deybowlah: 5:28pm On Jul 20, 2012 |
[quote author=ferhyntorlah] in nigeria, people believe once married, next thing is to start raising kids but it shouldnt be so. caring for kids is not easy task. it needs lots of money and even time. marriage on the hand is challenging, combining the two can be tasking. couples need to sit down and discuss what next after marriage, when should we start raising kids,can we manage kids with our current job/school, can we afford to drop job/school to raise kids etc in my case i guess we were too excited about getting married and getting pregnant for my love and not taking time to plan properly. imaging combining wedding plans with post grad nd pregnancy and raising my baby and planning relocation to join my husband. Too much at the same time. Don't get me wrong my daughter is the best gift God has given to me . 2 Likes |
Re: How Was Your First Year Of Marriage? by ochallo: 8:43pm On Jul 20, 2012 |
Jemibee: My 1st year was great with little or no quarrels(none that i can remember). Also got pregnant immediately after my wedding so things were really going as planned. Mom in law came in 2wks b4 i gave birth and her son had bought her a 4mths ticket(without informing me of the period). Even when i got to know, i didn't think it was too long a time to stay with us(even if i did, she was already with us). Did i mention we live outside 9ja and it was her 1st time travelling abroad. She came and was initially very nice only for her to also interrupt when we're discussing, wanting to know what/who we're talking about. You need to be very prayerful. Let your husband and you pray together every morning and night. Then always commit your marriage to God,this issue of family can really destroy a marriage, then maybe you are also stressed because you dont have a mother to talk to, find a woman who can be a good model for you, that you can talk to. 1 Like |
Re: How Was Your First Year Of Marriage? by omalicha2: 8:45pm On Jul 20, 2012 |
Juton: It was hell, the only good thing was my girls nd my head that came out of it. I also appreciate others wonderful experience nd i expect to have a blissfull one in my next marriage ( if there wud be any)@juton i feel 4 u but d lord is ur strenght 2 Likes |
Re: How Was Your First Year Of Marriage? by ochallo: 9:20pm On Jul 20, 2012 |
ayobase: You clearly have a serious deficiency of common sense, intuition and discretion. first you marry someone because of her beauty, second you are complaining that she has not gotten pregnant under 7 months and now you want to run away . Wow your childishness has escaped into your adulthood and your mind is now a widower.(Madness of the mind).[ This is a literal translation of a local indigenous proverb}. wake up and love your wife like a real man should. 3 Likes |
Re: How Was Your First Year Of Marriage? by LewsTherin: 11:57am On Jul 21, 2012 |
I dated my wife for 8years! Long distance for that matter. But through out that time, we tried to know more about each other, decided never to lie or withold info from each other, and listened to every marriage and family sermon we could. (Fortunately, my pastor is a trained marriage counscellor). Anyways, been married just under a year and I can tell you, the 8 years were bloody worth it! Can't stand being away from each other. Still wear and-co! (both western and African), go to market together, cook together (but she does the laundry!) and we get closer everyday. Nothing like having the right foundation from the begining. I am praying these last 11 months will be the worst dys of our lives. With that in mind, I can't wait for our next century together!!! 20 Likes |
Re: How Was Your First Year Of Marriage? by Id4: 3:28am On Jul 22, 2012 |
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Re: How Was Your First Year Of Marriage? by favoredgal: 2:21pm On Mar 12, 2013 |
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Re: How Was Your First Year Of Marriage? by mercifull(f): 5:46pm On Mar 14, 2013 |
My first year was mostly good,esp the 1st first 6 months.We were apart so it still felt like we were dating-seeing only during weekends.The next 6months needed a lot of adjustments.Had misunderstandings due to expectations that were not met.In all,I give glory to God cos we r waxing stronger. 1 Like |
Re: How Was Your First Year Of Marriage? by shybee: 1:47pm On Apr 15, 2013 |
First year of marriage has been horrible. Sometimes I have the feelings of regret. Its barely 4 months of marriage and my husband is still having a hard time letting go of most of his bed mates. He made me believe he's a God fearing man but he's not. Its very depressing and I feel betrayed. He keeps saying he has let go but I end up finding out otherwise. I wish I could end d marriage. 3 Likes |
Re: How Was Your First Year Of Marriage? by justsmile(f): 5:33pm On Apr 15, 2013 |
shybee: First year of marriage has been horrible. Sometimes I have the feelings of regret. Its barely 4 months of marriage and my husband is still having a hard time letting go of most of his bed mates. He made me believe he's a God fearing man but he's not. Its very depressing and I feel betrayed. He keeps saying he has let go but I end up finding out otherwise. I wish I could end d marriage. Hey......read your thread where you had a concern about your then boyfriend. Seem like you later married him. Or did you later marry someone else?! If you did marry him, then am not surprised the marriage is already having issues! Don't be depressed my dear! Just find a way to best communicate your dissatisfaction with his behaviour! Above all, talk to your heavenly father about it and pray for his change! 1 Like |
Re: How Was Your First Year Of Marriage? by Nobody: 5:41pm On Apr 15, 2013 |
shybee: First year of marriage has been horrible. Sometimes I have the feelings of regret. Its barely 4 months of marriage and my husband is still having a hard time letting go of most of his bed mates. He made me believe he's a God fearing man but he's not. Its very depressing and I feel betrayed. He keeps saying he has let go but I end up finding out otherwise. I wish I could end d marriage. This is disheartening ..... how are you coping? where are you located? Do you have occasional blood work for std screening? Have you guys talked bout this , one on one? @Topic.... First year was Trying :- |
Re: How Was Your First Year Of Marriage? by shybee: 1:04pm On Apr 16, 2013 |
jydogirl12: Reside at maryland in lagos. Its a trying period. We've spoken about it but nothing has changed. |
Re: How Was Your First Year Of Marriage? by shybee: 1:12pm On Apr 16, 2013 |
justsmile: Married to someone else. 1 Like |
Re: How Was Your First Year Of Marriage? by ZUBY77(m): 2:28pm On Jun 29, 2013 |
Disclaimer. My post here was a work of fiction. |
Re: How Was Your First Year Of Marriage? by Nobody: 2:37pm On Jun 29, 2013 |
ZUBY77: Disclaimer. All of this? you are gifted. ZUBY77: Week 12 and 13 - We went to a native (medical) doctor to confirm that the period was actually lost. The first doctor encouraged us to have hope because we will find it after nine months. The second doctor also said the same, so we resigned to waiting (we are still waiting even now). My concern is that her belly is swelling and that makes the waiting a one sided affair for me. The downside is that the whole blame of loosing the period is on me. I couldnt disagree because she made me understand that she had been seeing the period monthly for the past 12 years and that it couldnt just have disappeared less than three months after she came to live in my house without me having a hand in the disappearance. Come to think of it, i think she was right. ZUBY77: Week 20 - BY now, it has occured to me that watching Manchester United is no longer in our programme. First in line is Magic Africa, followed closely by some gossip station which i cant recall the name right now and finally the Emmanuel Tv by a man called TB Joshua (the station i hate with passion). This station was forced down my throat by mrs zuby. My anger is that each time you open this station, this black man is healing someone, cripples, mad people, deaf people, dumb people, people with aids etc etc. C'mon even Jesus cant do all that. ZUBY77: Week 7, 8, 9 passed without much except that i prepared stew one Sunday. I encouraged Mrs zubby to go out with three of my friends, 1 male and two females, which she did. |
Re: How Was Your First Year Of Marriage? by aduaba(f): 11:19pm On Jun 29, 2013 |
Thanks rokiatu for opening this thread. Reading the responses here gives me hope of a better future. .im still in my first year of marriage and believe me its a mixture of feelings sometimes sweet, at times sour but I guess it will pass soon. . 1 Like |
Re: How Was Your First Year Of Marriage? by Nobody: 11:25am On Jun 30, 2013 |
Really learnt a lot! I know marriage is not easy but i know by God's grace i would pull through. My prayer is that i marry a responsible and understanding man. I also pray for a mother in law that Is exactly like my mum. My greatest wish is that my husband should not change after marriage. I am scared because even though i act strong, I can be very emotional. I like to talk about everything and it will be hard to adjust to a husband who likes to bottle up anger. I rarely get angry and even when i do, I can't raise my voice and my anger never lasts more than a few minutes. Even though friends and family (especially my dad ) tell me i won't have problems in marriage due to my nature I am still scared that i might marry the wrong person and be unhappy forever. Marriage is just a different ball game. I want a life where it is just i and my husband. I would be his bestfriend and he will be mine. We will go through everything together; the good and the bad times. We should work as a team. We will disagree to agree but i expect us to come back stronger. God help me! 4 Likes |
Re: How Was Your First Year Of Marriage? by Nobody: 9:10pm On Jun 30, 2013 |
Gr8!!! |
Re: How Was Your First Year Of Marriage? by soreola(f): 7:42pm On Aug 14, 2013 |
Nice! |
Re: How Was Your First Year Of Marriage? by Bootylicious(f): 6:01am On Aug 15, 2013 |
Now I wanna get married |
Re: How Was Your First Year Of Marriage? by Nobody: 6:22am On Aug 15, 2013 |
davidylan: threads like this are good for those of us on the sidelines. The only reason i havent married now is because of paralyzing fear . . . fear that i might make a mistake, fear that she may not be the one, that i may stop loving her after a few yrs. Broz... are we eating rice very soon? 2 Likes |
Re: How Was Your First Year Of Marriage? by othenok(f): 8:45am On Aug 15, 2013 |
First year of marriage was very challenging for us. We were both last kids of our various homes and Hubby was a bit more spoilt than me. Hubby loved having everything go his way and so we had waay too many arguments. On my side, I learnt the hard way that marriage isn't" Boyfriend & girlfriend" matter. It was very difficult taking instructions when I was used to dishing them out. 9 years down the line, I ve learnt that with a dose of humility you can turn your man to butter. My marriage sweet pass anything now. My Bobo follows me to the market, helps take care of the kids and even makes dinner for us sometimes. Our sex life is da bomb even with the kids unlike when we just started. 15 Likes |
Re: How Was Your First Year Of Marriage? by Tgirl4real(f): 11:29am On Aug 15, 2013 |
othenok: First year of marriage was very challenging for us. We were both last kids of our various homes and Hubby was a bit more spoilt than me. Hubby loved having everything go his way and so we had waay too many arguments. Ohh! Good to know... I am happy you are having it easy now. 1 Like |
Re: How Was Your First Year Of Marriage? by Treasure19: 8:26pm On Aug 19, 2013 |
@OP, tanx for starting dis thread, I had to digest everything frm d first page to d last. Quite insightful n educating. Am single n ave always had cerious fears abt marriage, but ave learnt a lot frm dis thread |
Re: How Was Your First Year Of Marriage? by LewsTherin: 9:36pm On Aug 19, 2013 |
LewsTherin: I dated my wife for 8years! Long distance for that matter. But through out that time, we tried to know more about each other, decided never to lie or withold info from each other, and listened to every marriage and family sermon we could. (Fortunately, my pastor is a trained marriage counscellor). Anyways, been married just under a year and I can tell you, the 8 years were bloody worth it! Can't stand being away from each other. Still wear and-co! (both western and African), go to market together, cook together (but she does the laundry!) and we get closer everyday. Nothing like having the right foundation from the begining. I am praying these last 11 months will be the worst dys of our lives. With that in mind, I can't wait for our next century together!!! I didn't know this thread was still around. Anyways, Year 2 now!! I'm still in love with the same woman who's still in love with me. Moved cities but still working together, still wearing and-co, stil shopping together, still eating together, still sleeping together, anyone does the laundry now thanks to a litle thing called a washing machine and ahhhhh. All I can say is I'm Blessed. 16 Likes |
Re: How Was Your First Year Of Marriage? by LewsTherin: 9:45pm On Aug 19, 2013 |
beckytoyon: We clockd 1yr on July 9. It was awesome,wonderful,splendid,interesting and at d same time full of challenges. My hubby loves me 2 a fault n shows it always. Initially there was fear of d unknown on my part bt i av learnt to trust God in everthing. He's always patient with me as im d worrying type n gets angry easily bt God has put a stop 2 dat. Still trusting d Lord 4 fuits of d womb bt im more dan sure dat our joy is around d corner. I hope your prayer has been answered. But why the rush? Having children immediately after marriage deprives both of you of some real pleasure and puts a crimp in your learning to live with each other. |
Re: How Was Your First Year Of Marriage? by Connoisseur(m): 11:53pm On Aug 19, 2013 |
Pheeew and i read all 9 pages. interesting thread by the way 10 months in marriage and we are in the middle of a very big challenge. I hope to talk about it when it all fades away 1 Like |
Re: How Was Your First Year Of Marriage? by mummyf(f): 11:14am On Sep 19, 2013 |
Onederful thread! My fiirst year in marriage was hectic! As soon as we did our introduction, we decided to start trying for a baby b4 our wedding proper.by the time we got married, I was pregnant and it was a bit stressful on me.then the fights started.we fought on everytin,and I was always crying that I made d wrong choice.my husby is a very sturbborn one.always complaining abt everytin.eventually I learnt to be the MAN by keeping quiet when he starts or I walk away. I had to refuse a very juicy job offer so I can move to another state with my husby. It was difficult living only on my husby income cos it wasn't much then. I eventually had to do some partime stressfull jobs just to support the home. Baby came, and things started getting better.we understand and love each other more. We both learnt there is no perfect man or woman anywhere and eventually we learnt to live and deal with our differences and accept the other person for who they are.since then, it has been lovey dovey. Even his people kip praising my perseverence. We are in our third year now and happy for it. 5 Likes 5 Shares |
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