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Caught A Fellow Nigerian Woman Cheating On Her Husband . Can I Tell Him by manure: 12:30am On Mar 28, 2012
For a disclosure . I am not close to this family in any form and shape . we are just a distant acquintances. But I'm baflle and concern about their family set up and I want to discuss it here .
Husband happened to be a doctor here in ireland with a good GP practice . Wife is a trained nurse and function as the husband practice manager .
I managed a travel agency in Ireland and the wife happened to be my good customer. I have noticed over the past 5 years her alternate month journey back to Nigeria and I was thinking she may be doing a very good bussiness in Nigeria .I finally got a break in the case when her sister came to make a booking for Nigeria travel plan in December and I asked her inocently what sort of business is her siter doing in Nigeria . The lady could no longer keep the family secret as She's is very disgusted with her sisters double life . She told me that her sister is effecively keeping a double husband for 10 years . One is a naval officer in Nigeria and the seond is the doctor in Ireland .I asked why didn't you tell the Irelnad husband ? she told me She's tried but the sister have a lot of control on what goes on in the house and It Is like she's using Juju ( jaz)on the man .I felt so sorry for this quiet easy going man that i don't know how to tell him . I was thinking of written an annonymus letter to his email telling him what is happening . The Naija Naval husband has sent his wife packing because of this woman which i think is very eveil and decietful .To Make the matter worst she came to Nigeria in Decmeber with her chuiildren and introduce the Naval man to them as their uncle . Chilldren 6 and 4 couldn't understand what their mother is doing . For all intent and purpose the kids may not belong to the doctor . I see this man everyday and I am very anguish knowing what i know and how to tell him. i hope to get a good advice form forum members
Re: Caught A Fellow Nigerian Woman Cheating On Her Husband . Can I Tell Him by rokiatu(f): 1:36am On Mar 28, 2012
You say you are not close to the family in anyway, I suggest you mind your business. If the man have been blind all this while, we can only hope his blind eyes open one day.
Re: Caught A Fellow Nigerian Woman Cheating On Her Husband . Can I Tell Him by Ilekokonit: 4:52am On Mar 28, 2012
You can't tell the man whether directly or indirectly as they will turn the blame on your head in the long run. Couples always do. The man may not even believe you and he is bound to confront the wife and tell her that you told him.

Let nature take its course and expose this woman naturally which will eventually happen sooner or later. Bi iro ba lo fun ogun odun ijo kan ni otito ma ba. Meaning it takes only 1 day for the truth to catch up with a lie of 20 years.

Worse has happened in the past and it took just one unplanned careless day to reveal the truth that had been hidden for so long.

What goes around comes around and whilst you can fool some of the people some of the time, you cannot fool all of the people all of the time.
Re: Caught A Fellow Nigerian Woman Cheating On Her Husband . Can I Tell Him by GboyegaD(m): 5:02am On Mar 28, 2012
I would suggest you do not interfere in this case particularly as they are only your customers so that you wouldn't be seen as monitoring their affairs all the while. If her family would not inform the doctor and he is also not bothered about what the wife goes to do in Nigeria then it is a very sorry case. He is a medical doctor and should be wise enough to do a paternity test on the kids particularly with the wife's continuous travel every other time.
Re: Caught A Fellow Nigerian Woman Cheating On Her Husband . Can I Tell Him by M.O.M(m): 5:26am On Mar 28, 2012
Mind your business... Sell your ticket and stay mute
Re: Caught A Fellow Nigerian Woman Cheating On Her Husband . Can I Tell Him by Don Carlos: 5:49am On Mar 28, 2012
What God has joined together, let no man/woman put assunder. No condition attached.
Re: Caught A Fellow Nigerian Woman Cheating On Her Husband . Can I Tell Him by ZUBY77(m): 6:34am On Mar 28, 2012
Hypocites. So you are all telling her not to do the right thing because its not her business. Shame. And one wonders how this country can move forward.

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Re: Caught A Fellow Nigerian Woman Cheating On Her Husband . Can I Tell Him by brainchild78(m): 7:04am On Mar 28, 2012
if u r sincerely concerned about d irealand husband, write an anonymous letter 2 him recommending dat he secretly follows her when she travels 2 nigeria. or perhap conive wit d wife's sister 2 take pictures of her n her alleged 2nd husand, den post it anonymously 2 d irealand husband.
Re: Caught A Fellow Nigerian Woman Cheating On Her Husband . Can I Tell Him by chaircover: 7:14am On Mar 28, 2012
Hmmmmmmm no one knows what happens between closed doors o!

Have you considered that the Dr may be impotent and he actually knows and agreed that the woman has affairs so long as its not on his doorstep. Who knows, the kids may even belong to the Naval officer.

Personally I dont get involved in couples issues. If everyone knows about the affair, how come he is the last to know? So many things go on between couples that you and I as outsiders just wont understand. If She is going to Naija as often as 6 times a year; then the husband must know what she is doing in there.
Re: Caught A Fellow Nigerian Woman Cheating On Her Husband . Can I Tell Him by horny4u(f): 7:22am On Mar 28, 2012
I see why some people do not loyally patronise some businesses.
Falana....you got to sew your own....ran ti e
How does it concern you?
Do you want the Doc?
When men marry 3 wives in 3 diff countries their men folks.....keep it mute for them.
Women and our wahala.....the silly lady should have being buying her tickets from Opodo online.
She has wronged you by buying constantly from you.
Her sis is a sell out....she probably helped this sis to get to ireland o.
Abeg as a business woman concentrate on your numbers.....ofofo is my hobby
Go and tell him....dalerudaleru aka brother's keeper
he who has no sin oya throw the 1st stone
smh angry
 
Re: Caught A Fellow Nigerian Woman Cheating On Her Husband . Can I Tell Him by Airpure(f): 11:00am On Oct 17, 2012
If u are not in anyway related to the family pls mind your business. the fact that someone regularly buys ticket to Nigeria from you does not make u a detective. by your own writing u seem to be nosy.you could try and get a hobby or something. just wondering if the case was reverse will you be so willing to tell the wife.i ve seen cases where this backfire and the husband ends up hating u.cos nobody likes a gossip n a bearer of bad news.
Re: Caught A Fellow Nigerian Woman Cheating On Her Husband . Can I Tell Him by ifyalways(f): 11:18am On Oct 17, 2012
I know this family and if i look in more closely, I'll fish out the OP.

@OP, you showed your aproko tendencies when you got interested in knowing " what or why your client travels often for" . Now, you've got someone elses burden on your amebo head.

Now that you know, DEAL with it!

After this, you'll focus on your Amadeus and finding cheap fares as opposed to cheap gossips.

The sister is an adult, if there's any truth in what she's saying, you think she wouldn't have done something anonymously all these days? You go soon fall into big trap courtsey of your "big ears and long tongue" lol

Looking at your thread title, one would think you caught anyone red handed.
Re: Caught A Fellow Nigerian Woman Cheating On Her Husband . Can I Tell Him by ifyalways(f): 11:33am On Oct 17, 2012
Lawdhavemercy!

Its an old thread. Who fished it out ?

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Re: Caught A Fellow Nigerian Woman Cheating On Her Husband . Can I Tell Him by tasandra: 3:52pm On Oct 17, 2012
@ Hot 4 u,jor ma ferin kpami oo grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin op, abeg mind ur bizness oo.
Re: Caught A Fellow Nigerian Woman Cheating On Her Husband . Can I Tell Him by tasandra: 4:01pm On Oct 17, 2012
I mean,@ horny4u grin grin grin
Re: Caught A Fellow Nigerian Woman Cheating On Her Husband . Can I Tell Him by plaetton: 5:15am On Oct 19, 2012
ZUBY77: Hypocites. So you are all telling her not to do the right thing because its not her business. Shame. And one wonders how this country can move forward.

Na wa O. Nigerians are the strangest group of humans on this planet. It just amazes me how we reason. Someone has a chance to right an ongoing wrong, and everyone is saying she should mind her own business.
I just cannot fathom it.
Re: Caught A Fellow Nigerian Woman Cheating On Her Husband . Can I Tell Him by plaetton: 5:21am On Oct 19, 2012
chaircover: Hmmmmmmm no one knows what happens between closed doors o!

Have you considered that the Dr may be impotent and he actually knows and agreed that the woman has affairs so long as its not on his doorstep. Who knows, the kids may even belong to the Naval officer.

Personally I dont get involved in couples issues. If everyone knows about the affair, how come he is the last to know? So many things go on between couples that you and I as outsiders just wont understand. If She is going to Naija as often as 6 times a year; then the husband must know what she is doing in there.


Na wo O.
I shake my head.
So now it must be the husband's fault?
How many excuses does the Op , or anyone for that matter, need in order to avoid doing what is clearly a moral and ethical imperative?

Where is our moral compass if we cannot call a spade a spade?
Re: Caught A Fellow Nigerian Woman Cheating On Her Husband . Can I Tell Him by nairabacks: 9:00am On Oct 19, 2012
Op
Get creative, there are lots of stuff u can do to alert this man without revealing your identity.
Re: Caught A Fellow Nigerian Woman Cheating On Her Husband . Can I Tell Him by OYINBOGOJU(m): 9:18am On Oct 19, 2012
If you tell her husband you definitely lose a regular customer.

Don`t mix business with poke nosing.

Stay focus and make your money.
Re: Caught A Fellow Nigerian Woman Cheating On Her Husband . Can I Tell Him by Nobody: 11:53am On Oct 19, 2012
leave him to find out on his own
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Re: Caught A Fellow Nigerian Woman Cheating On Her Husband . Can I Tell Him by moonbaby(f): 1:01pm On Nov 23, 2012
manure: For a disclosure . I am not close to this family in any form and shape . we are just a distant acquintances. But I'm baflle and concern about their family set up and I want to discuss it here .
Husband happened to be a doctor here in ireland with a good GP practice . Wife is a trained nurse and function as the husband practice manager .
I managed a travel agency in Ireland and the wife happened to be my good customer. I have noticed over the past 5 years her alternate month journey back to Nigeria and I was thinking she may be doing a very good bussiness in Nigeria .I finally got a break in the case when her sister came to make a booking for Nigeria travel plan in December and I asked her inocently what sort of business is her siter doing in Nigeria . The lady could no longer keep the family secret as She's is very disgusted with her sisters double life . She told me that her sister is effecively keeping a double husband for 10 years . One is a naval officer in Nigeria and the seond is the doctor in Ireland .I asked why didn't you tell the Irelnad husband ? she told me She's tried but the sister have a lot of control on what goes on in the house and It Is like she's using Juju ( jaz)on the man .I felt so sorry for this quiet easy going man that i don't know how to tell him . I was thinking of written an annonymus letter to his email telling him what is happening . The Naija Naval husband has sent his wife packing because of this woman which i think is very eveil and decietful .To Make the matter worst she came to Nigeria in Decmeber with her chuiildren and introduce the Naval man to them as their uncle . Chilldren 6 and 4 couldn't understand what their mother is doing . For all intent and purpose the kids may not belong to the doctor . I see this man everyday and I am very anguish knowing what i know and how to tell him. i hope to get a good advice form forum members

As you've said in your post, you are not close to the family so my advice will be stay out of it. Surely her secret will be out soon, just stay well out of the issue and mind your business... smiley
Re: Caught A Fellow Nigerian Woman Cheating On Her Husband . Can I Tell Him by Kx: 1:09pm On Nov 23, 2012
You say you are not close to the family in anyway, I suggest you mind your business.
You can't tell the man whether directly or indirectly as they will turn the blame on your head in the long run. Let nature take its course and expose this woman naturally
I would suggest you do not interfere in this case
Mind your business... Sell your ticket and stay mute
How does it concern you?Do you want the Doc?
he who has no sin oya throw the 1st stone [/b]smh angry
If u are not in anyway related to the family pls mind your business.
Don`t mix business with poke nosing.
[b]Stay focus and make your money
.
abeg mind ur bizness oo.



The pattern abi oneness of the response(s) is worrisome.Again most of the advocates for "dont interfere" are female.
One should mind one's business no doubt but what happened to morality?
The husband deserves to know even if the info gets to him from an anonymous mail.
How is this siddon look, dont interefere idea different from the action of those that stood and watched while those 4 young boys were being burnt to death in ALUU?

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