drnoel:

I agree with u totally. This lady the OP must have been a very stubborn lady as a single girl and does not know that d[b]oes not work in marriage[/b]. OP u made a very grave mistake.
Number 1 rule, ladies pls listen, never directly accuse ur husbands sister(s) of thievery (whether she stole or not). Pls incase u are asking where thievery came in this thread, once u say she went 2 take food without asking u and they would take all the meat. U have accuse her of stealing (that is how husband's sister will see it). Once she reports u 2 all the other sisters, u are in deep soup cos ur husband can't protect u again. U have taken the matter out of his hands. Ur hubby tried 2 be neutral in this issue but u didn't allow him. U felt it was ur house and so u can do and undo right, well u where wrong. There is something they call Umu ada in my place. They are the toughest group of women in the family. Once a wife of the brothers get in2 their matter, they would deal with the wife.
Number 2 rule, ur husband is ur ally. No matter how bad a situation looks ur husband will always be ur ally. Cos its his family and only he can press them 2 allow u or leave u alone or ask them what should be done 2 let bygones be bygones.
Number 3 rule, never bring ur own family in2 the issue. Once u do that, u have just escalated the issue beyond proportion. Ur family is only allowed 2 come in, if and once ur hubby has tried and his family and sisters insist on dealing with u and actually start doing so.

jennykadry:

You are an eediot. May me and my "cabals" continue to give you stoopid people night mares. Tell me now, who here has even mentioned divorce except you? who here has told the OP to leave her husband? you are a certified slowpoke f00l. Just because I told her not to apologise you have already concluded like those daft colleagues of yours that we want her to get a divorce. This is why you could not pass simple WAEC AND JAMB in Nigeria, because they ask a question and you answered something completely different from what was asked. Born f00l

I thought you were just a f00l but you have proved me wrong, you are worst than an imbec1le

Don't even mention my kids here if you don't want sickness to visit you and your smelly nyash in your bed tomorrow morning bast@rd

Shameless woman married to an azzhole. May both of you continue to live a frustrated and dumb life till thy kingdom come. ANu ofia. Devil fart on your empty brain. fcking ashew0 two kobo.

Let me go and drink my VitaMalt first. ODE

Outstrip: Sigh.[b] I don tire. There is never any excuse to manhandle your wife especially when she is nursing a child. He is not a man. I[/b]f he was a man his sisters will not have the liver to call the house and chastise his wife. Your husband does not realize that he has screwed up majorly. All you need is to give trouble makers an inch and you are finished. In my opinion do not apologize. Absolutely not. If you apologize you are just giving him the go ahead to continue that bahavior. Physical agression only progresses over time. This is nothing compared to other trying issues that can happen in a marriage. What will he do then? Come at you with a matchete? Nip this in the bud. I don't like the idea of you moving to your parents home. It gives the impression that that is his house not yours. I would defintiely move to another bedroom though and continue with life. Ignore him until he decides to be a man and apologize. You guys have to set the rules together for you home. I personally do not care if someone who lives with me dishes their own food but I know with the culture thing it is almost a taboo for someone to go dish food from another womans cooking pot. Pele my dear. take it easy. Focus on the baby before you run mad.

reinedamse:
madam, was all that really necessary?u don't share an individuals point of view so the next thing is to curse out the person's soul?i fear for ur kids.They must really find it shameful and frustrating to cope with an uncouth mother on a daily basis.i hope their dad is more refined.
@OP,be wary of the kind of advice u receive here on nairaland.Many of these women are internet warriors.They tell u to do this and that to your husband but when you get to their homes,you would be shocked to see that they dare not cough when their husband is speaking(I'm sure your mother must have warned you against this kind of women when you were getting married).
I'm a Lady like u,i agree ur husband crossed a line but two wrongs can never make a right.protect ur home.There are ways you can correct him.Fight in love,correct in love.
DO NOT ALLOW THEM TO INITIATE YOU INTO THE DIVORCEES CLUB.

ibrahim007: @ poster,out of all the men in the world u tied the knot with a retard.Honestly,ur hubby is a boy jor.My advice,u're in a deadly position ma'am u either bi their bitch(very dangerous option) or toughen up with the support of your husband.Naw that your hubby is acting like a boy "double wahala.My mum was a victim,believe me I know what your situation is like.Plus,my father protected my mum.He lost when he was bedridden for 7yrs before his death.Try to win that boy over to ur side,if not it won't be an easy ride ma'am.Ur sista inlaw is a bitch,a good sista inlaw relate with mutual respect not power play.And of course you started a war which is not going to go down well since all the sisters have their heads in the same basket.And ur hubby who is suppose to draw lines or better still be a mediating factor is acting like a boy.If u were my sister I'll make sure that boy doesn't see his child till he's 94 that's if he can make it

jennykadry:

You are an eediot. May me and my "cabals" continue to give you stoopid people night mares. Tell me now, who here has even mentioned divorce except you? who here has told the OP to leave her husband? you are a certified slowpoke f00l. Just because I told her not to apologise you have already concluded like those daft colleagues of yours that we want her to get a divorce. This is why you could not pass simple WAEC AND JAMB in Nigeria, because they ask a question and you answered something completely different from what was asked. Born f00l

I thought you were just a f00l but you have proved me wrong, you are worst than an imbec1le

Don't even mention my kids here if you don't want sickness to visit you and your smelly nyash in your bed tomorrow morning bast@rd

Shameless woman married to an azzhole. May both of you continue to live a frustrated and dumb life till thy kingdom come. ANu ofia. Devil fart on your empty brain. fcking ashew0 two kobo.

Let me go and drink my VitaMalt first. ODE

Sisi_Kill: I have a question for the guys and I hope you answer sincerely. . .How would you react if your wife's younger brother comes to your house, not greet you or acknowledge your presence, I mean giving you serious attitude, after all the house belongs to his sister too. Ten mins later, you hear a car starting and before you can say Jack Robinson he has driven away with your car without asking permission.

Please be honest and don't say it is not the same thing. . .we've already established that this is about being territorial.

reinedamse:
Hehehehehehehehehe
I got her exactly where i wanted her.see her raving and ranting like a mad woman.
Cabals What's she talking about? Unlike u dear,i don't spend my whole life on nairaland jumping from thread to thread and wasting away.i actually have a real life in the real world.so i may not know who or what ur cabals are all about.
U seriously need to relax so u don't develop HBP over pple u don't even know.
U remind me of someone about to be sacrificed to amadioha.
Ur children have a shameful mum i must confess

jennykadry:

eeyaaaa, see who is talking. She has a real life yet she is spending time replying an uncouth mother. Curse be the day your mother conceived you without a condom, if only she gave the impotent f00l that fathered you a condom to wear, we wouldn't be in this situation. And then another gorilla had to take you in for a wife, unbeknownst to him you come from a cursed wasted family with generational curse hanging above everyone's head, oma se oooo, e go better. Sweetheart, the last time I checked my BP which was 20 minutes ago it was 126/84 and my pulse was 82, no signs of blood pressure or heart attack so chillax already, it ain't happening too. Agu nwanyi like me BP? you never sabi, common carry that cursed body fruitless body with no iota of fertility in it and go sh@g that castrated imbechile you have in the house as a husband. Oh yea, he is castrated, well try his mouth and make sure to remove his artificial dentures lest he bite you with them.

And nope you did not get me where you wanted me, I got you were I wanted you and you know where? you coming back from your "jobful" life to reply me, yea I wanted to know how important I am and thank you very much for sparing me 2 minutes of your time, 2 minutes you will never get back. That showed me you care about me ennough to log off and log back on just to say hello

I love you too

ibrahim007: @ luckgames,aw old are you son??.

luckgames:

You can fight with your wife's brother or sister
Or mange the situation by talking directly to your wife's brother
or Tell your wife what the brother did and explain to her why the brother was wrong
Tell her, you don't ask her to fight the brother but let his brother know that his attitude is unacceptable
Or take it to your parents in law

Sisi_Kill:

Read your post then go back and read OP's Post again, this time. . .SSSSSLOOOOOOWWWWWWWLLLLLYYYYYYY and tell me what is different between what you wrote here and what she did.

dayokanu:
OP you have a problem with intolerance and thats how a small cut has turned into a huge wound and if you are not careful it would turn to a cancer

Your SIL went to take food from the pot is now a reason to fight her?

She didn't fight her; according to her post. She only called her to tell her what she did was very idiotic.

Take a look at Sisi_kill's scenario. What sort of uncivilized behavior is that?

The sister in-law didn't necessary have to go her and say "m'aam, I observed that you're done cooking. May I please have a portion of your nicely prepared soup?"

The SIL could have gone to the kitchen while OP was cooking and jovially said "Haaaa.. there's no way I'm not finishing that food. Better start preparing another round for your husband and yourself. It smells so good! Chei My brother is lucky".

I'm sure the SIL just dashed into the kitchen frowning, with an attitude, and mounted a hip of goat meat on her plate. See ehn, the problem here is not the food. It's common courtesy. The relationship you have with a person determines the kind access you'll have to the person's things.

You can't be giving me serious attitude all they long and jump at my food. You no get shame? Which kind shameless behavior be that?

Some people need to be put in there place, and apparently the husband is no where near putting his sister(s) in check.

ndidibabe: There must be another side to this story. The OP is hiding something from us. What exactly did you to your husband? The humilitaion is just too much for committing no crime.

BABE!:


She didn't fight them; according to her post. She only called them to tell them what they did was very idiotic.

Take a look at Sisi_kill's scenario. What sort of uncivilized behavior is that?

The sister in-law didn't necessary have to go her and say "m'aam, I observed that you're done cooking. May I please have a portion of your nicely prepared soup?"

The SIL could have gone to the kitchen while OP was cooking and jovially said "Haaaa.. there's no way I'm not finishing that food. Better start preparing another round for your husband and yourself. It smells so good! Chei My brother is lucky".

I'm sure the SIL just dashed into the kitchen frowning, with an attitude, and mounted a hip of goat meat on her plate. See ehn, the problem here is not the food. It's common courtesy. The relationship you have with a person determines the kind access you'll have to the person's things.

You can't be giving me serious attitude all they long and jump at my food. You no get shame? Which kind shameless behavior be that?

Some people need to be put in there place, and apparently the husband is no where near putting his sister(s) in check.

BABE!:


She didn't fight them; according to her post. She only called them to tell them what they did was very idiotic.

Take a look at Sisi_kill's scenario. What sort of uncivilized behavior is that?

The sister in-law didn't necessary have to go her and say "m'aam, I observed that you're done cooking. May I please have a portion of your nicely prepared soup?"

The SIL could have gone to the kitchen while OP was cooking and jovially said "Haaaa.. there's no way I'm not finishing that food. Better start preparing another round for your husband and yourself. It smells so good! Chei My brother is lucky".

I'm sure the SIL just dashed into the kitchen frowning, with an attitude, and mounted a hip of goat meat on her plate. See ehn, the problem here is not the food. It's common courtesy. The relationship you have with a person determines the kind access you'll have to the person's things.

You can't be giving me serious attitude all they long and jump at my food. You no get shame? Which kind shameless behavior be that?

Some people need to be put in there place, and apparently the husband is no where near putting his sister(s) in check.