Gud communication is very integral 2 a successful r/s.Thoes who share a gud communication process tend 2 njoy a deep nd lovin r/s. Yet many couples 2day face d problem of poor communication nd it is one of d main reasons 4 conflict nd high divorce rate in socity 2day. When two ppl are datin or are married,dey ve 2 interact daily nd closely wit each oda. Dey ve 2 face daily issues nd challenges. It's vital dat dey ve gud communication nd understandin wit each oda 2 tackel dese issues. If a communication gap develops,it may faster into conflict nd den result even in destroyin d r/s completely. Conflict due 2 poor communication has been observed 2 lead clinical depression nd dangerous habits like alcoholism.
There are different ways in which partner has trouble communicating nd a gap develops nd widens into conflict.
1. SILENCE ND ASSUMPTION:ur partner witdraws into silence nd adopts d behaviour of a computer hidin his/her true feelins. He is makin assumption abt u nd believes he can read ur mind witout actually communicating. U react 2 dis kind of behaviour by tinkin dat wat he is communicating is "i am'nt interested in d issues"or i ve notin 2 say". Dis gap is d startin of a disagreement nd fight.
2. OPEN DISAGREEMENT: smtimes conflict over certain issues is out there in d open, wit both partners adoptin opposite views on issues. D issues may be as follows:a)i need closeness nd intimacy/i need my space, dont bother me(b)i must ve control over u/dont tel me wat 2 do(c)we must keep secrets/lets discus evytin(d)conflict nd anger should b expressed/dont get angry.
3.COMMITMENT:disagreement also arise if both are not equally commited 2 discusin nd solvin d issues. If one is ready nd d oda complacent, a communication gap develops.
4.CLARITY OF PURPOSE:while discusin an issue,each partner must b clear in his mind abt his aims, intentions, views nd stands, b4 he embarks on d discusion. If u're confused in ur mine abt d issue, u wil ve trouble ammunicating.
5.HIDDEN AGENDA:if ur partner ammunicates wit u a certain issue but has a hidden agenda,d communication is doomed 2 failure. If d hidden agenda comes out in d open, it wil lead 2 frustration nd bitterness nd even destroy d r/s.
6.AWARENESS GAP:very often,d two of u disagree bcuz ur operating @ different awareness levels. Ur awareness level is shaped by ur upbringin,education,xperiences nd values nd dis may b above or below dat of ur spouse wit respect of a particular issue. One of u has 2 come down or rise up 2 d awareness level of d partner,4 proper communication.
7.BODY LANGUAGE/NONVERBAL COMMUNICATION:if u're forced 2 come arnd 2 am opinion,ur body language nd nonverbal actions al give u away, ur stiff, cold, rigid posture or composure belies ur worm speech.
8.GENDER BASED DIFFERENCES:sociologists nd psychologists ve observed a number of fiddsence in d communication patterns of men nd women.Regardin content, men luv 2 report on events give information nd state facts.Women talk 2 gain information nd build r/ss wit does dey talk wit. Men luv 2 talk abt business,politics,technology nd sports but women luv 2 speak abt ppl nd r/ss. Men are obessfe wit facts, women wit feelins. Dats y men complain dat women talk too much nd women complain dat men "does not open up". Regardin d way of talkin men talk 2 d point nd dont hypothesize. Women are ready 2 give details nd 2 speak abt hunches nd intuition. Men are assertive, independent nd objective nd women are cooperative, dependent nd subjective in d mode of communication.
9.ATTEMPTS 2 CHANGE D PARTNER:one of d most common reasons of conflict btw couples is bcuz each one does not accept d difference of d oda nd attempts 2 change nd mould d oda 2 their likin. Dey use harsh communication tools like shoutin, criticizin etc 4 dis purpose, Therapist who wish 2 bridge d communication gap ve suggested d followin methods 2 tackel an issue
. Share ur feelins abt d issue
. Send clear straight 4ward message
. Talk only abt d issue being discused
. Acknowledge/validate wat ur partner says
. Try 2 see ur partners point of view
. Take time 2 kul down nd return 2 talk
. Keep d focus on findin a solution.
Proper communication is vital 2 any r/s. Couple must learn 2 embrace their differences. Dey must constantly appreciate each oda 2 heal emotional hurts. One must pay attention 2 d partner's words nd empathise wit their point of view. Dey must find a common ground nd arrive @ a consensus. Proper communication is d path 2 true understandin nd intimacy btw couples.

Wat den are your thoughts as to communication dat should be established in A̶̲̥̅ new relationship.. Hw do you build that.. Wat topics do u think wld interest her most to discuss on? Basically seeking ur views in my own case..