You won’t believe it, but every woman has the in-built ability to get any man she wants. But it is so sad that too many women just settle for any thing that comes their way or nothing at all. If you do decide to get married, it should happen.You don’t have to be embarrassed, pressured and feel useless because you are not married.

Your good qualities should be more than physical beauty. Inner beauty is a meek and quiet spirit - You are not threatening those around you, you do not compete, you don’t demand your rights, and get your way all the time. Meekness is not weakness. It is strength under control.

Most women re their own problem. They don’t act right, look good, and are very greedy. Some women are naturally gorgeous. But majority have to make an effort. Men are sight motivated. Your looks will attract him before he gets closer to know the real you. Some men might watch and study a woman for years without her knowing before finally making any move.There are 2 kinds of attitude.

One attitude says "here I am."    (the focus is on "Me."

The other says "here you are." ( the focus is on others.)

Which one are you? Many men are thrown off by the here I am woman. She is good for a fling, but not good enough to be a wife.
In your entertainment and social life, watch what feeds your mind. You find out that the most useless men are the ones you find in most useless places. If you're sure your circle of friends are good people. A good man will locate you.

Here re tips on what women do to put off a man.

To attract a husband, you must have the qualities of a wife & be able to submit. Men don’t like aggressive and domineering women. For some women, every man that shows a little interest, they see as a potential husband. That will scare any man away. even if you like a man, At that stage of the relationship, don’t show it. Be smart.
secret. If you treat all men you meet as a brother and a friend, you will win the heart of some man.and he will begin to imagine you as wife.

Some women are just so talkative. They talk a mile a minute. You will always get into trouble if you talk too much and anyhow. If a man is interested in you, and you act nice, but not interested, believe me, you got him.
All men love challenges. It is that lovely well behaved woman, that everyone says is hard to get, that most men will go all out to try to get. Men I lie?

Pinky,
I don't think i agree with what you say. The game of Relationship is not a predictable thing, that are no ground rules. You cant say that if you play hard to get that you are guarantee husband /boyfriend also you cant say that if you are too loose that you are guaranteed a husband/boyfriend. Men are different some like hard to get girls some like girls that are easy going. Some guys like girls that show them alot of love while some like guys like girls that are tough.

So in attracting your kind of guy, you have too know the kind of girl he likes. if you know you like to be all over your guy then determine from your first few early dates to know if his that kind of person that does not get pissed of by that display of affection. Vice verse too.

Just to add Men are generally confused they marry Good girls, but leave their wifes at home to follow the suppose bad girls,causing the good wife heart ache.

I believe there's a difference between the kind of girl one would want to marry, and the kind of girl one would want to have fun with..

If you can get both in the same place [or in the same person rather].. then you are blessed for life...

Not every girl would a guy want to "take home to mama"... [if u get my drift.. ]

Be yourself, don't fall in love in haste, and surely you would attract the kind of man.

All those "How to attract your kind of man for dummies " doesnt work in real life. Because humans are different from one another, we react to things differently, we have different tastes. One thing that would attract one man is the same thing that would repel another man. we are unique creatures of God.

For Ladies? hum why

kazey: One thing that would attract one man is the same thing that would repel another man

Very true. For example, I'm the kind of person that simply doesn't appreciate the 'hard-to-get' game. I believe that if a lady wants a relationship she should go for it, otherwise she should simply say "I don't know, ask me again next month" if she's not sure or "no" if she's sure she absolutely doesn't want you. I find the idea that you should say "no" when you really mean "yes" absolutely ridiculous!

Pinky, ever watched Vivica Fox and Taye Diggs in "Two can play that game" Love and relationships dont follow rules. Life itself is a rollercoaster ride, up today, down tomorrow.

Attracting you man in any outlined procedures read in a book or gotten by any means either as an item of advice from a friend or as a calculated procedures in your mind will make you, the lady, appear as a babe material to the man and not a wife material

He would simply say "this lady is in her heat period. If I were not available any other man, his social disposition not a factor, would have done it for her. But I am lucky to be around, she is a notorious flirt after all."

And he will not remember such a lady when he considers the issue eof getting a wife.

So, let's dance to the rhythm of the drum in relationship matters.

If not he will assume the lady is crazy dancing off rhythm

wat's all da noise about in the house i only gave general rules......not something to adhere to for every relationship to work,, mind u all... those seeking a good wife will see light in those rules.........

humm, sounds good. But I still think it's better everyone should be themselves. One man's food is another man's poison. There are no rules in relationships...except if you are playing games.


uhmm Uncle jogego. Taye diggs [U]Isn't[/U] in "two can play that game." It was Morris Chestnut and Vivica A. Fox.

Aunty HotAngel!! I stand corrected.

Uncle Jogego.. It's all good.

keep it coming please, i'm enjoying all your posts. I like being myself shah......

Pinky sorry to say not all men like hard to get girls. In fact u could see some guyz who get pissed off by a girls excessive hard to get game and go after her continuosly just to punish her afterward 4 putting them through much stress . Life does not follow one particular pattern. What one guy is crazy about is a complete turn off 4 others.

you have got to show them what they can have but you deny them that.. get what i mean.. you give them a taste only.. and you have got to be charming and not seem affected by them. it is not really playing hard to get but somewhere there........ men that is good stuf. and you have got to look good too just be smart about it.

@sage trust me most men like girls that play hard to get.. but of course there is a limit.. that is why i said that you have to be smart about it

Cheap and not cheap mentality abi. Hum not all men. But i love sophisticated, hard to get type. But my reasons has nothing to do with cheap or not cheap. Just that, i love adventure, and stubborn ladies, that eventually melt.

SO what after 3 months or 6 months she hasnt melted, are you saying, you will continue? What is the longest time, you have chased a babe?

hum still chasing one. . thats how long.

i cld prbly have said me sexy legs but wrong. he has not seen me b4 so i wld say me lovely personality .

I love playing hard to get...It makes me feel so goooooood!! Have a number of guys who wouldn't give up, you know....Some have been on my neck for almost a year now.... And new ones keep coming up almost everyday...

twinkledew:

i cld prbly have said me sexy legs but wrong. he has not seen me before so i would say me lovely personality .

the legs are sexy though.....

Well i think attraction is on the inside and not the physical,despite most guys see the physical i do think u shuld be able to keep up with your looks and at the same time work on the inside(MIND).

Hey, why hasn't anyone asked pinky if she belongs to the category of the hard to get?

Play am small small and cool too

Yea i think De king is right?
Answer the question.

DE-KING":
Hey, why hasn't anyone asked pinky if she belongs to the category of the hard to get? 
Play am small small and cool too

i am here to answer all ya questions. i don't intentionally play hard to get.... at times the approach of a guy makes me play hard to get {not very hard} & there re times i will do it unintenitonally, but then, when it comes to playing hard to get for some thingies {like kisses hmn mnn} am a PRO
u need to see how guys become babies wen am playing hard to get.. it's fun for me tho

Hum once you are official with a guy, why would you deny him a kiss etc? Are you not sure of him, as in trust etc? Or is it a way to make you more precious to him? Just curious.

kazey, When it's official, i can't deny him..wont i look stupid doing that?? when i say i play hard to get in some thingies, am talking about the wee {early}times of the relationship i.e when the courting process is still on. have i answered your question?

Hum? Must must you play it hard? Setting boundaries is not playing it hard? It is......................

Kazey,what are you saying?If you want to represent men,be sure you really knw what u are saying cos you sound like one of those "i too know kind of ppl"

haha.......Kazey if i were u, will take the back seat immediately.

how to attract your kind of man?

just be yourself no add jara at all because some Nigeria babes too dey do trying to be what they r not if they see a guy they like,after you add all the jara if he gets to know you better, wahala go dey because you were not you in the first place.