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Re: Couples Please Encourage Me With Your Financial Struggles Stories. by Nobody: 7:20pm On May 21, 2012 |
Re: Couples Please Encourage Me With Your Financial Struggles Stories. by dannywest: 7:41pm On May 21, 2012 |
Ruthabokoku: Thank you all ever so much. I've nothing to contribute here as I'm far from married, but when I do get married, I pray its to someone like you. Your husband is like fish out of water, Nigeria might favour him more. 1 Like |
Re: Couples Please Encourage Me With Your Financial Struggles Stories. by norrisman: 7:43pm On May 21, 2012 |
To all the morons cussing OP's husband, life is not ABC. In real life, 2 + 2 hardly ever gives you 4. It somtimes give you 0 or sometimes 10. 3 Likes |
Re: Couples Please Encourage Me With Your Financial Struggles Stories. by debosky(m): 7:50pm On May 21, 2012 |
chaircover: One year ke? Madam Iyalaje Mother-in-Israel CC? You fit born me oh! |
Re: Couples Please Encourage Me With Your Financial Struggles Stories. by Nobody: 7:53pm On May 21, 2012 |
Re: Couples Please Encourage Me With Your Financial Struggles Stories. by dayokanu(m): 7:57pm On May 21, 2012 |
David, Jenny. I think i disagree with you. Several times lifr throws curve balls and you cant predict where you would be the following day I know several people with plum jobs that lost it and never recovered for life. I know a friends brother who was a Manager at Oceanic always flying his family for vacation to UK etc that got laid off and cant just get back on his feet he now teaches at primary schools making less than 40K naira a month Would you now say he wasnt educated, smart or was he lazy? I know a person who had a BS and MS in Engineering from the best Universities in the UK way back in the 1970's lost his top management job in Nigeria in 1994 and never got anything till date after pushing buttons and going everywhere Those two examples are ppl properly educated and hardworking but life just happened. Would you be wrong to have given your daughter in marriage to either of them? The husband might have been a top exec in Nigeria when they were getting married. Imagine a couple a Top Banker marries a Nursing school graduate in Nigeria, The man would be earning like time 5 of whatever the woman earns now both of them migrate to the West US, UK etc chances are that due to the demands of the new society the woman might be the one earning more money So the champions of yesterday has become the Sluggard of today and vice versa, Thats life 2 Likes |
Re: Couples Please Encourage Me With Your Financial Struggles Stories. by debosky(m): 8:08pm On May 21, 2012 |
chaircover: Because I have a teen, you people think that I was born in the old Testament Thank God Mr CC still sees me as his sisi ologe Opelope Mr CC. . . .I hear say na you deliver Isaac for Sarah sef. |
Re: Couples Please Encourage Me With Your Financial Struggles Stories. by xyloxloto(m): 8:17pm On May 21, 2012 |
constructive and good advice from you all i read all what everyone has contributed i am really happy knowing there are nice matured people here that can offer good advice to the poster God bless everyone of you. and to ruth it is well take heart you are a good wife to your husband please continue showing him all the love and support he needs you more now than ever i feel for him as well just hope for the best for him God bless. |
Re: Couples Please Encourage Me With Your Financial Struggles Stories. by eureka: 8:18pm On May 21, 2012 |
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Re: Couples Please Encourage Me With Your Financial Struggles Stories. by xyloxloto(m): 8:19pm On May 21, 2012 |
norrisman: To all the morons cussing OP's husband, life is not ABC. In real life, 2 + 2 hardly ever gives you 4. It somtimes give you 0 or sometimes 10.true talk bruv |
Re: Couples Please Encourage Me With Your Financial Struggles Stories. by vizion: 8:38pm On May 21, 2012 |
Ruthabokoku: Hello guys, During my IT days, i was though by my boss to always pay myself when i get money. By this he meant i should keep aside a percentage of my earnings. things to remember 1) your income next month may double, but if ur not careful ur expenditure may triple still leaving you in deficit 2) you may suffer shortfall in income next month, but if you plan well would still get by (just trying to say u can still make a savings from your current income) 3) those who spend money without thinking, got to that stage by thinking how they spent their initial earnings |
Re: Couples Please Encourage Me With Your Financial Struggles Stories. by Nobody: 9:14pm On May 21, 2012 |
chaircover: Ruth Sweetheart Big hugs to you. You are a good woman and You will reap the fruit of your labour soonest Amen. that part got me... You are a blessing, CC. @Ruth, Praying to God to give you your heart desires and grant your requests in Jesus name. Amen. O ga dinma... |
Re: Couples Please Encourage Me With Your Financial Struggles Stories. by redsun(m): 9:34pm On May 21, 2012 |
You guys have a great chance in your country of origin.With knowledge,experience,hard work and good drives,you will be able to create ample lots of opportunities in undeveloped world like nigeria.All you need to do is just take a dive,it is risk worth taking. Living in europe or america as an africans is a vicious circle of hand to mouth.The money you get is disigned to be absurbed by the system.There is no explosion,there is no fulfillment,there is no game"" to play.Just working for people and nobody is working for you. |
Re: Couples Please Encourage Me With Your Financial Struggles Stories. by mbulela: 10:15pm On May 21, 2012 |
dayokanu: David, Jenny.The way you make sense sometimes just amazes me. If only you will be serious more often. 1 Like |
Re: Couples Please Encourage Me With Your Financial Struggles Stories. by Nobody: 10:18pm On May 21, 2012 |
Madam CC - u are dashing cake baking equipment out without consulting me. I said it - as soon as I don't post for 2 weeks people on NL will forget me. As for the poster don't know what advice to give you. Look into tax credits look for anything to increase ur income without taking u away from ur children (extremely hard I know) |
Re: Couples Please Encourage Me With Your Financial Struggles Stories. by mbulela: 10:21pm On May 21, 2012 |
@Ruth, whatever steps you settle on,it should not be at the detriment of the family life you seem to have. I may not have gone through all your posts but it seems you have a happy home devoid of plenty money. Believe me that is more than all the money in the world can buy. Make sure you preserve that while exploring all the possible options discussed here. |
Re: Couples Please Encourage Me With Your Financial Struggles Stories. by mbulela: 10:35pm On May 21, 2012 |
redsun: You guys have a great chance in your country of origin.With knowledge,experience,hard work and good drives,you will be able to create ample lots of opportunities in undeveloped world like nigeria.All you need to do is just take a dive,it is risk worth taking.with 2 children under 5, i don't think it is a risk worth taking. As long as they can pay their bills, i think it is better outside now for them. |
Re: Couples Please Encourage Me With Your Financial Struggles Stories. by mbulela: 10:37pm On May 21, 2012 |
eureka: Hello madam I will give you wise counnsel that has never embarrassed me in the last 15 years. PLEASE PAY YOUR TITHE. The God we serve(the father of Jesus) is not a God of chance. In 3 months let me have progress report email-olucinda@yahoo.comI would not want to derail this thread, as much as i am a tither too, i do not agree that it is a money doubling scheme. |
Re: Couples Please Encourage Me With Your Financial Struggles Stories. by redsun(m): 11:12pm On May 21, 2012 |
mbulela: Then they gonna have to wait for their lottery ticket to come through for their breakthrough.They don't have to make the move at the same time.One of them can make the first move to lay the foundation and smooth ground,while the other remains abroad with the children and supports the one in the field whichever way possible,until something tangible gains groud for them to move back fully.It doesnt have to be conglomerate business but sustainable and essential businesses that the people need to survive. The heavens are open in africa,especially nigeria.That is it is so painful that these animals have come with their dangerous and retrogresive ideology of bombing at this point in time. |
Re: Couples Please Encourage Me With Your Financial Struggles Stories. by Nobody: 11:32pm On May 21, 2012 |
chaircover: Jenny, you will be surprised at the number of people who jointly dont earn up to £4200 a month. How many Nigerian Doctors are around compared to the total number of immigrants. What the poster is going thorough is not uncommon, she just has to find a way round it. |
Re: Couples Please Encourage Me With Your Financial Struggles Stories. by teeflak(m): 11:38pm On May 21, 2012 |
Great story lady! I would want you to consider network marketing. There are several of them out there like A2W, Green world, Forever living products and you can build a stable income out of it if you just dedicate a little of your time to it.All the best and God bless |
Re: Couples Please Encourage Me With Your Financial Struggles Stories. by Nobody: 11:49pm On May 21, 2012 |
A part of all you earn is yours to keep, and if you cannot save money, the seeds of greatness are not in you.--- W. Clement Stone. |
Re: Couples Please Encourage Me With Your Financial Struggles Stories. by cfours: 12:02am On May 22, 2012 |
The average income for a British family with two adults working is £40,000 a year. £4200 a month is about £50,000 per year. That's plenty to me by UK standards... someone correct me if i'm wrong. |
Re: Couples Please Encourage Me With Your Financial Struggles Stories. by mbulela: 12:02am On May 22, 2012 |
redsun:they must not wreck their family life in the name of making it big. it is not worth it. If they have to live from hand to mouth while maintaining a quality family life,i'll say let it be. All this money dem dey carry am go grave? I think it ain't worth it. |
Re: Couples Please Encourage Me With Your Financial Struggles Stories. by bandely(m): 12:47am On May 22, 2012 |
Nice thread, very educative. OP, please I need to find out something from you. You can drop your email or send me one at bamsdell11<at>yahoo.com Thanks. |
Re: Couples Please Encourage Me With Your Financial Struggles Stories. by Freesia(f): 1:22am On May 22, 2012 |
Ruth you shall be hearing the good news soon IJN. @ Aunt CC,Debosky & Dayo you have all said it well.No amout of advance planning of the future is guaranteed. |
Re: Couples Please Encourage Me With Your Financial Struggles Stories. by Lisa1: 1:46am On May 22, 2012 |
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Re: Couples Please Encourage Me With Your Financial Struggles Stories. by Nobody: 3:31am On May 22, 2012 |
teeflak: Great story lady! I would want you to consider network marketing. There are several of them out there like A2W, Green world, Forever living products and you can build a stable income out of it if you just dedicate a little of your time to it.All the best and God bless The word "stable" should not be associated with pyramid schemes. |
Re: Couples Please Encourage Me With Your Financial Struggles Stories. by Nobody: 4:42am On May 22, 2012 |
Dayo, good examples but that is one reason why we Nigerians make make mistakes financially. How can a man who earns millions every month not have an investment on the side? When you get laid off work you cry foul. I know of many Nigerians who work in top oil companies like chevron who are landlords and estate owners. If their job disappoints them They have something to fall back on. Let me use CC for example, she has a shop in Nigeria that is growin strong, she also works part time in the Uk. God forbid something happens to her job in the UK, she has a successful shop to fall back on. The problem we Nigerians have is putting all our eggs in one basket and praying to and hopin on God that, that basket does not disappoint us. Financial Planning is were a lot of us fail as Nigerians. Heaven helps those that help themselves. Don't rely on your bible to give you manna, gt your hands busy with a lot of things and let God take it up from there. Excuse my errors. I am mobile 1 Like |
Re: Couples Please Encourage Me With Your Financial Struggles Stories. by brabus(m): 5:30am On May 22, 2012 |
Thanks to everyone who has contributed to this wonderful thread. @OP, this is the time your husband needs you most. Be there for him and God will see you through. @all, In life we often make plans for future and we foolishly assume that it is we who can decide and control our future but one thing I do know is that God upsets our plans so that we can put him first. I have a story to support this. My sister only worked 1 year after her youth service in Nigeria as a Lab Technician and was able to genuinely (she's a born-again christian) save money to finance her husband relocation to UK and put up a house and roof it. Her husband came to relocate the family shortly after to the UK in search of greener pasture. It is 8 years after they'd relocated to UK (even with higher qualifications and better job in UK), the house hasn't been completed. And the story is not different from what I read above. They can barely survive. It was another story of 'had I known' The moral of this story is that God laughs when we make plans. Proverbs 16:9 |
Re: Couples Please Encourage Me With Your Financial Struggles Stories. by Nobody: 5:34am On May 22, 2012 |
Nice suggestions all around. I used to live in the UK and even as a citizen i still had to work extra hard to live a comfy life even with a post grad. Anyway, my family and I relocated to Nigeria some years back and i must confess, no regrets. I suggest you start keeping in touch with your Naija pals, especially those in the corporate world. Start looking for naija jobs online too. You don't need much money and formalities in starting a biz here unlike abroad. All you need is a hustling spirit which your husband has already. Your husband could go into business while you do the office work. If you're lucky to get a good job you'll knock yourself over and over again for not relocating earlier. Most corporate work is just weekdays and you don't need more than one job. In the UK those who work are suffering while those on benefits are having a ball. How laughable. The only thing you'll miss is a system that works. Over here you have to suffer things like unstable light, bad roads etc. I guess you can't have it all. Anyways, i just thought i should bring in the Naija angle considering it's working for me. I know you said you don't have the money to relocate but i just felt you might want to hear from one who has tasted both worlds. Ignore my post if it's totally out of line with what you want. Good luck and God be with you. 4 Likes |
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