Oft sieht man eine Frau beim Einkaufen, in der Fußgängerzone, am Bahnhof, wo auch immer, die einem besonders gut gefällt. Nachher ärgert man sich, sie nicht angesprochen zu haben. Nun würde mich speziell von den Frauen interessieren, ob ihr es begrüßen würdet ab und zu angesprochen zu werden, oder wäre euch das sehr unangenehm. Ich meine jetzt nicht eine plumpe Anmache, sondern zum Beispiel eine nette Einladung auf ein Getränk in ein Cafe, um jemanden kennen zu lernen.

talina: I dont see anything wrong with that as long as its tastefully done. You could possibly miss out on a great relationship, if you are afraid to approach the person.

talina: I dont see anything wrong with that as long as its tastefully done. You could possibly miss out on a great relationship, if you are afraid to approach the person.

sauer:
Good one. Does "tastefully" not vary from woman to woman? how can one know "tastefully" anywyz?

sauer:
Good one. Does "tastefully" not vary from woman to woman? how can one know "tastefully" anywyz?

pendo89:

true true

pardon me talina am still laughing



Now that is subjective. I know for sure that if one poster tried chatting me up dressed the way he is I wouldn't give him a chance.
Taste starts from outward appearance.

Now you have me laughing!

talina:
I suppose it would vary for each woman.
Hmmm,Id say, tastefully as in,not feeling stalked.
That he is genuine in his interest and is confident in himself.
Or even kinda shy but not too shy to approach.

Really,just be yourself , staight forward and friendly.Well dressed,clean and with a mind boggling swag.

pendo89:

Rocktation: Hmmmn...idk. I mean, why not just ask for my digits first off and get going already? You're supposed to be random, remember?

Mynd_44:
How about you give me yours

Rocktation:

Nice try The thing is, you're worse than random right now. Why! I don't even know what you look like.

Mynd_44:
Okay lets see, I have two hands, ten fingers, a pair of legs and ten toes. I have a head with hair on it on that head, I have a nose with two nostrils, two ears a mouth two eyes and a mouth with 32 teethand one tongue inside.
Now you have an idea of what I look like

Rocktation:

Yeah...Osama Bin Laden had thesame features

Rocktation:

Nice try The thing is, you're worse than random right now. Why! I don't even know what you look like.

Rocktation:

Nice try The thing is, you're worse than random right now. Why! I don't even know what you look like.

kilimanjaro:
He look like a telephone pole with a wide fore-head

Ileke-IdI:
I usually just pretend deaf. I do not like being "chatted up" by potential kidnappers, thank you.

Mynd_44:
That will explain the signature

Ileke-IdI:


And ppl still ignore it.

pendo89:

true true

pardon me talina am still laughing



Now that is subjective. I know for sure that if one poster tried chatting me up dressed the way he is I wouldn't give him a chance.
Taste starts from outward appearance.

Rocktation: Hmmmn...idk. I mean, why not just ask for my digits first off and get going already? You're supposed to be random, remember?

Ileke-IdI:
I usually just pretend deaf. I do not like being "chatted up" by potential kidnappers, thank you.

Mynd_44:
They probably think it's a joke

Ileke-IdI:

Ekiti women do not joke, we're dead serious.

Ileke-IdI:
"Where else" is the real question. Glad you recognized.

sauer:
Someone did have this kind of answer on the same forum, but isn't it just weirder asking for digits when there is no getting-to-know-each-other just yet?

sauer: I saw this question on a German forum and saw the respective answers given by women there. Am kinda curious what answers Nigerian women would give to the same question, so I pose it hear again. Make it easy and be polite.

Question:
Sometimes we see a girl we like while shopping or going on the street, wherever. We pass. Then later we start regretting why we didn't strike up a conversation or chat her up. Now, am quite interested in what ladies think about being chatted up now and again, or whether this would be unpleasant to them. I don't mean a rash approach, but say a decent invitation to drink in a bar just to get to know each other. What do ladies think about this?

Original question

Rocktation:

Yeah, it'd be awkard in both instances. But to a lesser degree if he just asks for my number....after a little bit of chatting up though. That's the least of the tasks that any supposedly suave enough man can manage. I mean, what hope will there be for a good conversation-over-tea, if you cannot wring my digits out of me?