OK=2=NV:
why not try dating real men for a start.

but on the other hand, welcome to the club.
this is what we guys go through endlessly and continuously

Miz_JaY: My first r/l was a flirt, he disappointed me so bad, I didn't date for almost 3 yrs and wen I realised I was not getting any younger, I decided to enter anoda r/l, which lasted for almost 5 yrs. During this period, I was paying d bills even when I had no job. I am too calm & cool so he took advantage of that. I decided to go my way though it was a tough decision because of all the sacrifices I've made for almost 5yrs and I'm 28, couldn't imagine I wasted almost 5yrs on a r/l dat ended up no where, I snobbed enough guys that period because I chose to stay faithful, I don't double date & also he promised me marriage. I am supposed to be a very pretty gal but I don't always look good cos I'm always worried about what he will eat or wear etc so instead of using d money to take care of my looks, I channel it to him. Was I being stupid for 5 yrs? ? Its not just about love though it was compassion because I couldn't stop helping him as I couldn't watch him suffer. I didn't think I was getting a fair treatment as he scolds me at any slight mistake I make making me feel like a mumu when I'm a smartass. Sometimes I wished I Can just have babies & take care of them myself without marrying? I can't seem to meet any really good guy, my dream guy. I've suffered in d hands of my 2 relationships and I'm tired of men, even if I decide to date, I can never date a broke arsse anymore, I used to hate d talk dat a guy has to really have cash b4 u date him but omo I second that now as I have seen Oba.. I am wrecked cos I took care of a guy for 5yrs and I'm suffering for it. By now I should have a land and at least a small ride & some cash saved up in my account if I had invested all dat money I spent for 5yrs on dis guy. I am so devastated....what guys do to gals...Mtscheww...Smh...now I'm wondering where I would start from. Sometimes Why do some really good girls go through baad relationships? I just feel like d world should end already

smsgrouper: Are you pretty ?

davidylan:

Many superbly beautiful girls end up like her too.

Goldieluks: @ Post, its a pity you went through such difficulties with your relationships. But I must say you were a dunce for spending on a guy for 5 good years without paying attention to yourself. Maybe he dumped you because you were beginning to unkempt by the day. Why would someone take the role of a mother upon a boy friend. If he is your husband that is a different issue entirely. Yes guys likes caring girls/women, but if you should over do it, he'll start to see you as his mum rather than is girlfriend/lover. Its all about creating boundaries next time you land yourself in a new relationship. Good luck and don't hesitate to look good too.

davidylan:

I dont agree with you at all. Her problem was not being a mother but hooking up with an irresponsible ideeot. A better man would appreciate her and love her more for being who she is. She doesnt need to change.

Miz_JaY: My first r/l was a flirt, he disappointed me so bad, I didn't date for almost 3 yrs and wen I realised I was not getting any younger, I decided to enter anoda r/l, which lasted for almost 5 yrs. During this period, I was paying d bills even when I had no job. I am too calm & cool so he took advantage of that. I decided to go my way though it was a tough decision because of all the sacrifices I've made for almost 5yrs and I'm 28, couldn't imagine I wasted almost 5yrs on a r/l dat ended up no where, I snobbed enough guys that period because I chose to stay faithful, I don't double date & also he promised me marriage. I am supposed to be a very pretty gal but I don't always look good cos I'm always worried about what he will eat or wear etc so instead of using d money to take care of my looks, I channel it to him. Was I being stupid for 5 yrs? ? Its not just about love though it was compassion because I couldn't stop helping him as I couldn't watch him suffer. I didn't think I was getting a fair treatment as he scolds me at any slight mistake I make making me feel like a mumu when I'm a smartass. Sometimes I wished I Can just have babies & take care of them myself without marrying? I can't seem to meet any really good guy, my dream guy. I've suffered in d hands of my 2 relationships and I'm tired of men, even if I decide to date, I can never date a broke arsse anymore, I used to hate d talk dat a guy has to really have cash b4 u date him but omo I second that now as I have seen Oba.. I am wrecked cos I took care of a guy for 5yrs and I'm suffering for it. By now I should have a land and at least a small ride & some cash saved up in my account if I had invested all dat money I spent for 5yrs on dis guy. I am so devastated....what guys do to gals...Mtscheww...Smh...now I'm wondering where I would start from. Sometimes Why do some really good girls go through baad relationships? I just feel like d world should end already

Vikin:

I feel for you...it has happened, no need to go back. Just start moving forward.

1. Be yourself. Love because you want to love. Do whatever makes you happy.
2. Take really good care of yourself. Look clean, have a good sense of fashion. Know that you have a responsibility now which is 'YOU'.
3. Be open minded. relate to people normally whether old or young. Just love because its the best thing to do not because you want someone to love you back. Never expect anything in return that way you wont be too sorry for yourself if anything happens.

follow these steps and you will see what comes your way.

n/b. If having a child outside wedlock will make you happy. Then go for it weighing the option of such.

All the best dear, may love locate you.

Vrikins, If u dont yansh me, nothin for you Take it or leave it

Dyt: ^^ lol

Idowuogbo:
wots funny?

Dyt:

If i were u, i would be praisin the male folks for what they go thru all their lives just to make u gals/women happy.
So u just expirienced it now and feel the world should come to an end??

And mind u, am NOT sayin u should remain with broke folks, but if u Channel ur search for new bf to rich guys, then BEWARE of ritual men.

I wish u, NOT just best, but BESTEST of luck!

Ujchief: The first few lines of ur post was great, u started messing it up towards the end, when u started sounding harsh and pompous.

I gues theres more to it than u're makin us believe.

As someone else pointed out, this is what we guys do for u gals always, take care of u, suport u emotionaly, financialy, physicaly, (sexualy) and otherwise. Welcome to our word