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Tallest9: evn if na AGBANI..those sayin u wil teach her,what d heck was she doin while growin up dat she didnt learn 4rm her mumsi?..slimyem i jst hpe u dnt live wat u say cos I JST WONDER

u get mouth jare....
What didnt the lady learn 4rm her mumsi, she is an african woman 4 cryin out loud, she is not oyinbo....
I can marry a villager, very ugly, but can pound yam all alone and cook delicious egusi soup, even some educated women will neva allow their husbands to eat outside, cos that may end their marriage....

Why would I do that? so dat who go come dey cook the food?

Ileke-IdI:
No, I cannot marry a man that cannot cook and wash my undies.

There you go

Mynd_44: Yes I can. I did not marry her so she can cook did I? Cos If I wanted someone to cook for me, I will move back with my mum or hire a cook.
I will marry because I want to spend the rest of my life with the woman not because of food

" I will move back with my mum"
Hope u heard urself?
Just a question: Who is ur mum to ur dad?

It is amazing what westernization has turned Africans into.šo,a woman that can not cook should be referred to as a good wife.what a bad trend.how do ur female children learn how to cook.every man and woman has their responsibilities in a marriage.all of u saying d world has changed,would u marry a man dat expects u to take care of the family upkeep?we should just not forget our roots when we embrace d oyinbos.don't get me wrong,a man should always help his woman.but,ow do you help an ignorant woman?

Ileke-IdI:
No, I cannot marry a man that cannot cook.

You harsh o!

Nor think am o!!!!!! If she can not cook when married when will she learn how? In marriage, ryt? Really pity ladies that can't cook and not even ready to learn.

The question can be asked in a different way; what is the woman you married or about to marry to you? Who technically is she to you? Some lady that you will subject to the imprisonment of the kitchen and the bedroom alone? Some un-presentable personality that you paid a heavy amount for and suppose you own her? Someone you can control and manipulate at your will? Some chicken brain person that requires you to think for her? Some dependent personality that will attain nothing in her life except in bedmatics and children rearing?

If you have these mindset or have borrowed this from your parents, i am sorry you have been misled. According to the word of the Lord, the woman is a helper and not a slave, a puppet or a tool that can be utilized as we deem fit. Yes she will have her troubles like you would, she will reveal her inner being and so will you but in a relationship between a wife and her husband, it is basically built upon the Love of God and the understanding they have come to.

Can she cook? No. Fine, if i can then i will teach her. I f i cannot and because i am busy, i send her to catering school. But if the both of us are working class and we can spare the time to enjoy some fun time together, it will be deliberated upon and she will surely want to upgrade fast cause the woman is competitive and will get attune with every thing required to hold on to her man if her man is willing to walk the daring path with her most likely.

The issue here is not the relationship, but i choose to chip it in cause a successful relationship between husband and wife is not in the cooking but in the general understand between these two who has become one before man and God. If you know what is right for your relationship, you will magnet your wife and cherish her cause you cannot have a better wife than your first wife. Before you go, i must add that the woman is simply created to be a multiplier and wonderful processor of little things into grand ones.

Give a woman a seed(sperm), she will allow you a child.
Give a woman a thought, she will drive you insane with a grand plan.
Give her a set of groceries, she will make you a wonderful meal.
Give her troubles, and she will render Hell all over you.


God bless you all.

Sagytarius:

" I will move back with my mum"
Hope u heard urself?
Just a question: Who is ur mum to ur dad?

my parent are separated so that does not count.

Lagusta:

u get mouth jare....
What didnt the lady learn 4rm her mumsi, she is an african woman 4 cryin out loud, she is not oyinbo....
I can marry a villager, very ugly, but can pound yam all alone and cook delicious egusi soup, even some educated women will neva allow their husbands to eat outside, cos that may end their marriage....

How can eating outside end anyone's marriage?

[color=#990000][/color]marry woman wey no sabi cook na!after all sugar is applicable in soup

@chimithen.

When did a woman cooking for her husband become a slaving duty?

Mynd_44: Yes I can. I did not marry her so she can cook did I? Cos If I wanted someone to cook for me, I will move back with my mum or hire a cook.
I will marry because I want to spend the rest of my life with the woman not because of food

Why moving back with your mom? So you prefer a cook's food for your children? Do you know the bond and psychological effects it will have on your kids. BBC decided to introduce I can cook in CBeeBee as a way to teach young ones how to cook. Cooking should be part of your wife NOT MOTHER!

Ladies,wats all dis21st century crap,we aя̩̥̊ε̲̣ african and will always be,if an afrIcan cant cook,she's screwed already,cept γφυ wanna be a 2nd wife...!

Mynd_44: Yes I can. I did not marry her so she can cook did I? Cos If I wanted someone to cook for me, I will move back with my mum or hire a cook.
I will marry because I want to spend the rest of my life with the woman not because of food

And you and your wife will eat out for the rest of your lives ?

EW for me..mehn,d scene ws funny..she sd it is d duty of d housegal to prepare food

Mynd_44:
my parent are separated so that does not count.

now that we know more about you......

i dont see myself falling in love with a lady then no marrying heer cos she cant cook! i tink the most important thing is if she is willing to learn. u cannot tell, there might be a good reason she dint know how to, and maybe willing to learn, conversely, a woman dat can cook and refuses to nko? this is similar to askin : can you marry a woman that cant Be Intimate?

any woman without good culinary skills and prides herself in it, is a disgrace to womanhood.

warrior101:

now that we know more about you......

ROFLMAO. . . .I'm sure his pop left the mum because she cant cook ! Imagine someone from a broken home advising people on stuff that can crash marriage !

Mynd_44: Yes I can. I did not marry her so she can cook did I? Cos If I wanted someone to cook for me, I will move back with my mum or hire a cook.
I will marry because I want to spend the rest of my life with the woman not because of food

Mynd_44:
my parent are separated so that does not count.

"I will marry because I want to spend the rest of my life with the woman"

Hope u don't separate frm ur wife or wife-to-be.

fellis:
How can eating outside end anyone's marriage?

Eating outside(at your mistress house) may never make you come home again my bro

neva

fellis:
How can eating outside end anyone's marriage?

if a husband eats at a lady friend's place, no strings attached, and finds out that she can cook well compared to his wife, wont the man go chopping in that lady's house, then one night together, then weekend together, then.....

I expected this topic to be in the family section where MATURED married couples can advise the young ones on the importance of cooking/food and how it impact on their family lives not opinions from some libido-driven schoolboys !

Soyedele1: When ma galfrnd told me she doesnt knw ao to cook,i tot she ws joking until d day she came to my house and told her to prepare STEW for me..mehn,d scene ws funny..she sd it is d duty of d housegal to prepare food for me.datz ao we broke up

in 2008 i was engaged to a lagosian schooling at UNAD, she also claimed she couldn't cook so i was going to teacah her... i did it many times with a little teasing until she angry told me that i was fooling myself and why would i actually think she couldn't cook and am i the one cooking for her in school? We usually eat out, i was carried away but those cant happen again... Any tells you she can not cook is lying...

The western medias bring up all sorts of theories that creates fighting/revolution within the elders and younger, parents and children, husband and wife is for a good reason... it was meant to make the oppressed group think independently and creatively but some dumb as$ will hijack and use it weirdly...

21st century women:

They ve successfully turned everything in a relationship upside down all in the name of civilization.

Very soon, they will claim they don't want to carry babies in their womb, afterall, technology can take care of that.

But I think as they grow older and become more matured, these things that their men desire in from them ( cooking, cleaning etc) are the main things that made them desirable partners.

And they keep wondering why the modern men to hardly stay committed.

I see in not to distant future, the whole essence of getting married not worth it anymore.

We are gradually eroding family/marriage values with this modernization attitude.

I look forward to the time when a male and a female get together, Be Intimate like chickens and they both go their separate
ways.

If any of these ladies were raised in homes where their mothers cooked, served meals and the dinning table and everyone eats together, they would not come online and write rubbish. These moments provide serious bonding for members of such
Family and I wouldn't trade it for any thing.

Once she can conceive, no problem. We go dey go mama put go eat.

Lagusta:

if a husband eats at a lady friend's place, no strings attached, and finds out that she can cook well compared to his wife, wont the man go chopping in that lady's house, then one night together, then weekend together, then.....

That's the angle many protagonists of a bad cook have failed to see. I don't think anybody marries just for food but it remains an important igredient that spices up married life.

it has to do with the culture and tradition and individual differences. Some men dont give a dam.n about whether the wife can cook or not, wheareas, in yoruba culture, if a woman cant cook, then she risks losing her hussy to gbokogbokos outside who are ready todo anything to hook him

rman: 21st century women:

They ve successfully turned everything in a relationship upside down all in the name of civilization.

Very soon, they will claim they don't want to carry babies in their womb, afterall, technology can take care of that.

But I think as they grow older and become more matured, these things that their men desire in from them ( cooking, cleaning etc) are the main things that made them desirable partners.

And they keep wondering why the modern men to hardly stay committed.

I see in not to distant future, the whole essence of getting married not worth it anymore.

We are gradually eroding family/marriage values with this modernization attitude.

I look forward to the time when a male and a female get together, Be Intimate like chickens and they both go their separate
ways.

If any of these ladies were raised in homes where their mothers cooked, served meals and the dinning table and everyone eats together, they would not come online and write rubbish. These moments provide serious bonding for members of such
Family and I wouldn't trade it for any thing.

Nigeria girls are only trying to belong;copying a bad culture from so called 21st century black women that end up in broken marriages/ single mums.mschew

if the food between her legs is sweet i won't mind if the food were she cook for kitchen no sweet.