I stopped over to have a drink very close to my house. As I was packing, my wife drove by and had this funny look on her face and went off. When I got home she asked me who I was going to her house? I didn't get it because it was a bar I was going to. She insisted that she saw me park and noticed I was looking at a woman who was driving into her compound who her kids came to open the gate for. It was then that I remembered that I saw one car and a woman in the car horning by her gate. I was not even near her nor was I even looking at her. I thought it was a joke until she flared up. I wondered. If I was with a girl would it be the woman who was just entering into her house opposite the bar? She claimed she saw me enter the house with the womann that was when I got pissed threw the food away. If she said she didn't like me drinking at the bar that's one thing. Why would you accuse me of entering with one random woman who was just entering her house. I was really angry and sad. I just couldn't imagine why she acted like that or what can you say? Honest response please

First of all have you ever cheated on your wife or given her any to not trust you? Do you have friends who see it as no big deal to cheat on their wives? Did you stop at a joint known for fornication? If your answer to any these is yes, then that is why she acted the way she did. By the way ,I dont think she acted right. What you can do is, shelve your pride, give her a big hug and tell her there is no one else in the world for you. Tell her everyday and her insecurities will vanish.

Daresh: First of all have you ever cheated on your wife or given her any to not trust you? Do you have friends who see it as no big deal to cheat on their wives? Did you stop at a joint known for fornication? If your answer to any these is yes, then that is why she acted the way she did. By the way ,I dont think she acted right. What you can do is, shelve your pride, give her a big hug and tell her there is no one else in the world for you. Tell her everyday and her insecurities will vanish.

strongly agree!

I have not cheated on her before at least since we have been married which is over a year now and the bar is not a brothel. Of course you and i know that there are always girls at the bar all over the world be it swanky or claasy. Secondly,I am sure she didnt know about the joint. The joint is just on the street and sincerely we just moved into the neighborhood. The catch was just that as i was locking my car and getting out so was she driving by. I have asked a few people about what transpired and to be honest with you, their responses were just like you mentioned( i Mean reassuring her that I love her to death...which I have always tried to do. Its not easy doing that all the time when your wife can be petty or blow trivia issues out of proportion). I have had my past life and weve talked about so many issues regarding being faithful and all that. Her linking me with a random woman in a car was just totally outlandish and unfair. This is actually my first topic and i appreciate your comments. However its really uncalled for being uneccesarily suspicious and using the " but you know I am a woman and i need assurance" cover to want to police a guy. Dont guys need assurances too that come what may i think you cant cheat on me? If you have the mind set that all men her cheats from day one...how can you help that kind of person change their opinions because they can reel out several instances where or how men have cheated or acted wrongly even as close to their fathers or brothers. The truth is that cheating is not a gender thing. It is a personal thing. Thanks anyways but I will appreciate more comments.

ayobams: I have not cheated on her before at least since we have been married which is over a year now and the bar is not a brothel. Of course you and i know that there are always girls at the bar all over the world be it swanky or claasy. Secondly,I am sure she didnt know about the joint. The joint is just on the street and sincerely we just moved into the neighborhood. The catch was just that as i was locking my car and getting out so was she driving by. I have asked a few people about what transpired and to be honest with you, their responses were just like you mentioned( i Mean reassuring her that I love her to death...which I have always tried to do. Its not easy doing that all the time when your wife can be petty or blow trivia issues out of proportion). I have had my past life and weve talked about so many issues regarding being faithful and all that. Her linking me with a random woman in a car was just totally outlandish and unfair. This is actually my first topic and i appreciate your comments. However its really uncalled for being uneccesarily suspicious and using the " but you know I am a woman and i need assurance" cover to want to police a guy. Dont guys need assurances too that come what may i think you cant cheat on me? If you have the mind set that all men her cheats from day one...how can you help that kind of person change their opinions because they can reel out several instances where or how men have cheated or acted wrongly even as close to their fathers or brothers. The truth is that cheating is not a gender thing. It is a personal thing. Thanks anyways but I will appreciate more comments.

You see from what I have been made to understand, the same way men need respect, women need attention. She knows you are a catch and that other girls want you so can u blame her? Sit her down, tell her you love her but her policing will kill you. Tell her you love her EVERYDAY! Tell her you need reassurance of her love too that you too need it.Ol boy I gotta tell you that marriage is like that o! Either you make things smooth or you ignore and things get worse. One person should be the mature adult and in this case it has to be you. Please no matter how much she suspects don't cheat because some DAFT men ( yeah I said it, daft men) use it as an excuse to cheat. So my good man, take it easy ehn, she's just a woman, she needs some softness and petting, like it was when you were dating, she loves you, love and reassure her!

Sometimes, it is not that they suspect that you are cheating but they simply want attention. They might feel you don't spent enough time with them or the time you spend with them has reduced.
When was the last time you spent time with her? When was the last time you took her out and did what she wanted? Women get high off things like that and when it is not forthcoming, they throw tantrums

Guys its been over a year I started this topic and your advises were frank and honest. I appreciate you all. My marriage is over two years now and we are waxing strong.I have been tempted a lot these past years and have ran like a kid. I discovered that when two people decide to come together they do so at a great risk and also compromise. I also know that you have to daily fight temptation if you socialise a lot I.e. Drinking and partying because you will always find willling girls and guys as the case may be. Also friends should be choosen with caution because a lot of people lack morals. Above all love prevails and it goes beyond saying but also doing

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It's logical the way she reasoned, of course she is scared. Like other posters, just reassure her that you love her and that nothing transpired. You sound like a good man, create more time for her also.