Nairaland Forum

Sagamite:

What utter rubbish!

We should use one case to shape our perception of an obvious regression to socially "acceptable" and "embraceable"?

coogar:

you were shagging a baby-mother?

jmoore: Genevieve Nnaji was pregnant at the age of 17, She gave birth to the baby.

dayokanu: Actually I think Teenage abortion should be enforced.

if I were to be in power any pregnancy where the parents cant show any means of livelihood should be terminated.

If my daughter gets pregnant at 15, I would drive her to an abortion clinic and might even have her tubes tied till she is an adult.

The cost of teenage pregnancy to the society is just too much. In America where they have a good welfare system, the single mothers and children out of wedlock still suffer greatly not to talk of in Nigeria.

For every single mom story that made it, there are thousands who fell by the wayside. Life is hard enough on its own for single people not to talk of when you have a burden a child birthing a child

PHIPEX: Several reports on Nigerian teenagers has it that 50% of Nigerian teenage girls have been pregnant atleast once by the age of 20. If those reports are true then we have a greater problem on our hands.
1. What did they do to those pregenancies?
2. How are they sure they are HIV free because its only someone who had an unprotected sex that can get pregenant?
3. what can be done to checkmate the rise in promiscuity among the youths of today?

As for me, any girl who is bold enough to get pregnant should be bold enough to carry her baby, I can't soak my hands in blood in other to save someone else from shame.

davidylan:

IMO, the generous welfare system is what is driving the increase in teen pregnancies in America. you can have a baby... do no work and receive government benefits, free healthcare, food, housing e.t.c. for the first 2 yrs of the child's life all the while paying $0 in taxes. What is the incentive for me to go work hard when i pay 40% of my wages so single parents/idiots can have a nice life on the government teat?

Fhemmmy: ^^^ I think that is drastic . . .
I can understand how you feel, but to now drive the girl to the clinic for such, that will be too much, as a matter of fact, better to have the kids, but make sure she feel the pain, i will not babysit for a child that is still at school cos of her stupidity

davidylan:

My guy, i once knew a 3 yr old kid who begged me (with tears in her eyes) to be her father... bro that day i realized one thing... it is not by coincidence that we have 2 parents. A week after i broke up with the mother, the child had a mental breakdown in school because she thought she would never have a father again. Stop chatting rubbish. You are not the one who has to live the life of pain and mental anguish that child will have to go through all because some adults quit using their brains.

davidylan:

What is drastic is letting her have the child which will be a constant source of sorrow to her. Have you seen the guilt that eats at the mothers who realize their child will forever pay the consequences for their own folly? Me i will drive my daughter to the clinic and sit there until i see a scan showing her belly has no baby there again. No foolish man should be tied to my daughter for life just by virtue of donating some sperm.

Fhemmmy: ^^^ I think that is drastic . . .
I can understand how you feel, but to now drive the girl to the clinic for such, that will be too much, as a matter of fact, better to have the kids, but make sure she feel the pain, i will not babysit for a child that is still at school cos of her stupidity

davidylan:

At 18? She can only make such a decision if she is clothing herself, feeding herself, has her own house and husband. As long as i am still responsible for school fees, food and co... she is not carrying another man's wahala.
Once a woman has a child outside wedlock, her chances of marrying a decent, hardworking, responsible dude automatically drops by more than 90% while mr. bobo can go on with his life as if nothing happened. My daughter should not be another man's used spare part abeg.

davidylan:

IMO, the generous welfare system is what is driving the increase in teen pregnancies in America. you can have a baby... do no work and receive government benefits, free healthcare, food, housing e.t.c. for the first 2 yrs of the child's life all the while paying $0 in taxes. What is the incentive for me to go work hard when i pay 40% of my wages so single parents/idiots can have a nice life on the government teat?

dayokanu:

I dont think its drastic, If you have seen what single mothers go through even in places like America not to talk of a place like Nigeria, you would know its not drastic

Miss EZ:

Although Davidylan sounds really harsh, atleast he has the guts to be honest about his thoughts towards this issue. Alot of people are quick to shout against abortion, but when found in the situation are very quick to do it. As for me i think that abortion is wrong, better still avoid fornicating all together to avoid such wahala. It is not easy for single mothers anywhere in the world, not to talk of teenagers who are not ready for such responsibility. The children also suffer especially in a place like Nigeria where he/she will be reminded that they were born out of wedlock.

I agree that teenage mothers should not be treated poorly or inhumanely, but i think the emphasis should be on prevention rather than tolerance of immoral behavior. Once these kids know that they can get away with it, what stops them from having another one. In the united states, you see young girls below 21 already having 2 kids and are on welfare or some kind of assistance.

As for the prolife/prochoice debate. I am prolife, but i also believe that women should be given a choice especially in despoil and molestation cases. It is not easy to have a kid born out of such circumstances because they will always be a reminder. For some the experience alone is traumatic, then to have a child come out of that, double wahala.

durobraham: This thread is so hilarious its unbelievable!! Its amazing how those like sagamite &Co who are supposedly pro choice are in here acting like every unplanned/teenage pregnancy must be aborted.
what happens to a womans choice?
seriously u guys, pregnancy is an opportunity to be a mother , what ever the circumstances, its important we help&support those we love & help them make the choices THEY can live with.
Dads; forcing a teenager to have an abortion is a terrible thing, i know u think u will be doing her a favour but have u considered that ur little girl may never get married baby or no baby, she may never go to college or work in a world class firm& then on those nights when she hates her 38 yr old life, she will long for the baby she lost&hate u the more!
Bottomline the decision to be a mother or have an abortion has lifelong implications for most people, so stop propagating this useless urban myth that abortion is some kind of bullshit panacea! smh!

dayokanu:

Actually most people dont know what a family means any longer.

The boy I mentioned earlier was checking my facebook with me and saw all my siblings and he asked

"Mr Dayo, why is it that everyone in your family have the same last name?". I looked at the mother and she yelled at the boy and scolded him for being a smartypants who asks to much questions.

I wont blame the guy cos its strange to him cos all his siblings have different last names. I now wonder where you want to start re-orientating that 9yr old Josiah

davidylan:

hillarious! I dont blame the guy, here it is "normal" to have kids bearing a different surname from the mother, their siblings and even the guy shacking their mama.

durobraham: This thread is so hilarious its unbelievable!! Its amazing how those like sagamite &Co who are supposedly pro choice are in here acting like every unplanned/teenage pregnancy must be aborted.
what happens to a womans choice?
seriously u guys, pregnancy is an opportunity to be a mother , what ever the circumstances, its important we help&support those we love & help them make the choices THEY can live with.
Dads; forcing a teenager to have an abortion is a terrible thing, i know u think u will be doing her a favour but have u considered that ur little girl may never get married baby or no baby, she may never go to college or work in a world class firm& then on those nights when she hates her 38 yr old life, she will long for the baby she lost&hate u the more!
Bottomline the decision to be a mother or have an abortion has lifelong implications for most people, so stop propagating this useless urban myth that abortion is some kind of bullshit panacea! smh!

durobraham: This thread is so hilarious its unbelievable!! Its amazing how those like sagamite &Co who are supposedly pro choice are in here acting like every unplanned/teenage pregnancy must be aborted.
what happens to a womans choice?
seriously u guys, pregnancy is an opportunity to be a mother , what ever the circumstances, its important we help&support those we love & help them make the choices THEY can live with.
Dads; forcing a teenager to have an abortion is a terrible thing, i know u think u will be doing her a favour but have u considered that ur little girl may never get married baby or no baby, she may never go to college or work in a world class firm& then on those nights when she hates her 38 yr old life, she will long for the baby she lost&hate u the more!
Bottomline the decision to be a mother or have an abortion has lifelong implications for most people, so stop propagating this useless urban myth that abortion is some kind of bullshit panacea! smh!

durobraham: This thread is so hilarious its unbelievable!! Its amazing how those like sagamite &Co who are supposedly pro choice are in here acting like every unplanned/teenage pregnancy must be aborted.
what happens to a womans choice?
seriously u guys, pregnancy is an opportunity to be a mother , what ever the circumstances, its important we help&support those we love & help them make the choices THEY can live with.
Dads; forcing a teenager to have an abortion is a terrible thing, i know u think u will be doing her a favour but have u considered that ur little girl may never get married baby or no baby, she may never go to college or work in a world class firm& then on those nights when she hates her 38 yr old life, she will long for the baby she lost&hate u the more!
Bottomline the decision to be a mother or have an abortion has lifelong implications for most people, so stop propagating this useless urban myth that abortion is some kind of bullshit panacea! smh!

coogar:

7 kids from 7 different fathers.....
let's be honest - family values have been devalued.

davidylan:

My barber had 11 kids from 4 women at the age of 34. his idea of "raising" his kids was having a fridge stocked with food so they can eat. I shook my head in sorrow. I kept asking him how he remembered all their names, doctors appointments, schools...

davidylan:

My barber had 11 kids from 4 women at the age of 34. his idea of "raising" his kids was having a fridge stocked with food so they can eat. I shook my head in sorrow. I kept asking him how he remembered all their names, doctors appointments, schools...

beblessed: I called my female cousin this morning and was informed she just put 2 bed her fourth child. She is now happily married 2 her childhood sweetheart who put her in the family way about fifteen years ago. When it happened, hell was let loose and infact she was disowned by family members. Only a distant childless aunt nurse her and a baby until she was sent 2 husband's mum. My cousin suffered hardship. The gist is that life has turned better for her and she is doing so well wit her husband,whereas some of us who made mockery of her condition are yet 2 settle down! Am happy she did not abort her now beautiful daugther. How do we make life easy 4 pregnant teenagers, especially in our culture n family?

coogar:

what a man!
11 kids from 4 men. the funniest thing is the 3rd and 4th women
knew of his history but do they care? the more, the merrier....

your barber reminds me of desmond hatchett - he's got
30 kids from 11 different women. desmond is only 33.
american taxpayers must love him....not!!!

dayokanu:

Actually that your barber is a nice man.

The girl I am talking about her baby daddies dont even give her nada, They work under the counter so you cant get Child support and one of them is even a jailbird and threatened her that if she files anything on him, he knows people who know people.

The girl actually begs for them to show up on his sons birthday to give him a gift

coogar:

what a man!
11 kids from 4 men. the funniest thing is the 3rd and 4th women
knew of his history but do they care? the more, the merrier....

your barber reminds me of desmond hatchett - he's got
30 kids from 11 different women. desmond is only 33.
american taxpayers must love him....not!!!