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Why Do Men Reduce Their Commitment After Wedding? by odeexpress(m): 11:20am On Jun 15, 2012 |
I have seen several men made concerted efforts to impress their women before they marry. But after the wedding, I have observed that most men reduce their efforts and commitment. Is it normal? What could be responsible? 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do Men Reduce Their Commitment After Wedding? by Freiburger(m): 8:14pm On Jun 26, 2012 |
Because expectations from the men are set too high. 4 Likes |
Re: Why Do Men Reduce Their Commitment After Wedding? by coogar: 8:52pm On Jun 26, 2012 |
odeexpress: I have seen several men made concerted efforts to impress their women before they marry. But after the wedding, I have observed that most men reduce their efforts and commitment. Is it normal? What could be responsible? boredom....people crave for what they don't have....and get bored of what they have acquired. eating the same brand of bread everyday can be tedious. 5 Likes |
Re: Why Do Men Reduce Their Commitment After Wedding? by 2goodbobo(m): 4:22am On Jun 27, 2012 |
Complacency and Law of diminishing returns are the two basic factors i think is responsible. 3 Likes |
Re: Why Do Men Reduce Their Commitment After Wedding? by Afam4eva(m): 6:57am On Jun 27, 2012 |
It's really not about boredom like someone put it. Rather it's like a trophy. This behaviour can be likened to a team that plays really had to win the world and after they've achieved that, you don't see them training everyday. 4 Likes |
Re: Why Do Men Reduce Their Commitment After Wedding? by odeexpress(m): 8:21am On Jun 27, 2012 |
afam4eva: It's really not about boredom like someone put it. Rather it's like a trophy. This behaviour can be likened to a team that plays really had to win the world and after they've achieved that, you don't see them training everyday. I love ur description. Maybe the training during the process of 'preparation for the tournament' was so tedious. |
Re: Why Do Men Reduce Their Commitment After Wedding? by superior1: 9:07am On Jun 27, 2012 |
Because his eyes don c wetin e dey look for |
Re: Why Do Men Reduce Their Commitment After Wedding? by solayemi(m): 9:12am On Jun 27, 2012 |
they exert so much energy into dating and courtship,so when married it is mission accomplished. |
Re: Why Do Men Reduce Their Commitment After Wedding? by inspirenet: 9:13am On Jun 27, 2012 |
coogar: |
Re: Why Do Men Reduce Their Commitment After Wedding? by JideTheBlogger(m): 9:13am On Jun 27, 2012 |
Not normal but most women also reduce their efforts in impressing the mean after wedding. They start giving silly excuses why they cant cook, have sex, most of the time compared to the pre-wedding. 4 Likes |
Re: Why Do Men Reduce Their Commitment After Wedding? by born2boink(m): 9:13am On Jun 27, 2012 |
It happens to everything, the same goes for house, car , cloths and you could even turn your 50k shoe to slippers, something you cherish as Gold before buying it. 7 Likes |
Re: Why Do Men Reduce Their Commitment After Wedding? by 2good(m): 9:13am On Jun 27, 2012 |
odeexpress: I have seen several men made concerted efforts to impress their women before they marry. But after the wedding, I have observed that most men reduce their efforts and commitment. Is it normal? What could be responsible? Women enter into marriage with so much fantasies and men discover that they cannot live up to such fantasies all their life after marriage, so they adjust to a level that will make them have some personal gratification. 5 Likes |
Re: Why Do Men Reduce Their Commitment After Wedding? by Nobody: 9:16am On Jun 27, 2012 |
Because we didn't know any better of what we were getting ourselves into before marriage. After wedding and over time, we realize this institution(marriage) is inherently bias, provides a great deal of benefits for women at the expense of men. Besides, most men though they will never tell this, are unhappy in their marriages and feel they being held hostage against their will. 4 Likes |
Re: Why Do Men Reduce Their Commitment After Wedding? by Copiousworld: 9:19am On Jun 27, 2012 |
Situation varies, maybe the wife stop caring for herself and doing those warmhearted things she use to do b4 marriage thinking she is already "IN" so nothing to worry much about. This attitude certainly will put the man in a state of stagnancy when expectations diminishes. |
Re: Why Do Men Reduce Their Commitment After Wedding? by younge1(m): 9:23am On Jun 27, 2012 |
2goodbobo: Complacency and Law of diminishing returns are the two basic factors i think is responsible.[img] 2goodbobo: Complacency and Law of diminishing returns are the two basic factors i think is responsible.[/img] 2goodbobo: Complacency and Law of diminishing returns are the two basic factors i think is responsible. |
Re: Why Do Men Reduce Their Commitment After Wedding? by Nobody: 9:24am On Jun 27, 2012 |
2goodbobo: Complacency and Law of diminishing returns are the two basic factors i think is responsible. Lmao @ law of diminishing returns. . . .as in you look at your wife and feel like you wasted your money marrying her ? 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Men Reduce Their Commitment After Wedding? by folowo(m): 9:25am On Jun 27, 2012 |
May be money is no more flowing in as it used to be and our woman too should not stop praying for their hubby |
Re: Why Do Men Reduce Their Commitment After Wedding? by sayso: 9:27am On Jun 27, 2012 |
it works on both sides. |
Re: Why Do Men Reduce Their Commitment After Wedding? by redcliff: 9:28am On Jun 27, 2012 |
superior1: Because his eyes don c wetin e dey look for Puss |
Re: Why Do Men Reduce Their Commitment After Wedding? by justifeany: 9:38am On Jun 27, 2012 |
Some Ladies demand soooooooooooooooo much from their man before marriage. I mean, they put them to crazy test and stretch their would-be man beyond the limits in the name of making sure he is right. By the time the man might have passed the test, he will be drained completely and he would want to rest from the strenuous test. That is why they reduce their commitment after marriage. Trust me, this is what happens. 4 Likes |
Re: Why Do Men Reduce Their Commitment After Wedding? by semid4lyfe(m): 9:40am On Jun 27, 2012 |
The chase is more interesting than the catch. . . . 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Men Reduce Their Commitment After Wedding? by TechRev: 9:42am On Jun 27, 2012 |
@OP, it depends on what you mean by commitment. A man may use up his resources (love, money, emotions) to woo the wife to be. Once he is married to her, those resources need to be diverted to building a strong and as secure home as he can (especially if not a silver spoon man). He has to channel them to ensure that the family doesnt suffer in the long run. At least that's what is happening to me, and i made sure my wife understands that. Eg i reduced frequency of taking her out and buying new wares and gifts cause the money has to be channeled to new investments to secure our future and that of our kid(s) God willing. Many women dont understand this though and initially my wife didnt till i painted the picture for her. Women love pictures so if you paint it for her she wont say you reduced commitment. 10 Likes |
Re: Why Do Men Reduce Their Commitment After Wedding? by Samito247(m): 9:45am On Jun 27, 2012 |
odeexpress: I have seen several men made concerted efforts to impress their women before they marry. But after the wedding, I have observed that most men reduce their efforts and commitment. Is it normal? What could be responsible?I think they simple reduced their commitment into bits dat should last 4 a life time... 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do Men Reduce Their Commitment After Wedding? by Maxdiamond(m): 9:46am On Jun 27, 2012 |
It's always like dat b/cos most women feel that when they are married all the responsibilities now goes 2 d men..they start telling the man i need this and i need that without remembering that money is hard to get.so the man in question might want 2 reduce the way and often the wife talk abt this items & goodies by acting in a strange way and manner so that d wife wldn't b able to ask for the items n goodies n by so doing,there will b problems in the house n making it nt functioning as expected b4 marriage.2 make a marriage work 4 d better,the woman must learn to work and take care of so tins in the house not dat she wld jst base all her needs or family needs on her husband.she must be ready to assist the family when the need arises bt nt jst in terms of cuking,washing etc bt in term of serious issues dat need serious intervention.thanks.that's my point.i am max'diamond. 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Men Reduce Their Commitment After Wedding? by George3464: 9:46am On Jun 27, 2012 |
Marriage is like a seed planted by men but it takes d elfort of a woman to water it and make it grow,but most women are very careless about dis. All because they we take d man 4 granted dress any any,no more respect 4 d man and dey we shift all their love to d children. 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Men Reduce Their Commitment After Wedding? by free2ryhme: 9:50am On Jun 27, 2012 |
well both spouse have a lifetime of experience to share together so there is no rush rush to impress... |
Re: Why Do Men Reduce Their Commitment After Wedding? by stillme(m): 9:51am On Jun 27, 2012 |
Because most men sees their wives as intimacy gadget not as friends 4 Likes |
Re: Why Do Men Reduce Their Commitment After Wedding? by ifihearam: 9:51am On Jun 27, 2012 |
Complacency and the law of diminishing return. Hmmmmm I fink I agree with you here |
Re: Why Do Men Reduce Their Commitment After Wedding? by honeric01(m): 9:55am On Jun 27, 2012 |
Another angle can be likened to getting disappointed especially if you were the type that didn't see "your trophy" well enough before getting married to her.. seeing the "real deal" ends up causing disappointment and silent anger like you wasted all your time chasing a "physical shaft". During courtship = she was always putting on "pretense" and armor After marriage = You end up sad and angry after seeing the real deal without "pretense" and armor 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do Men Reduce Their Commitment After Wedding? by Rahmatuparker: 9:55am On Jun 27, 2012 |
D luv after marriage will only increase if dey r concious of themselves, xpecially d woman. If she take care of herself very well n give d man wat he needs @ home, they will be no need for him to luk outside. 1 Like |
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