Nairaland Forum

charlesfreeman0: I am 29yrs old, a 9ja man but not living in 9ja, I am good looking, smart, romantic or let’s say a gentleman, I comfortable with a good job I would say. I save at least three thousand naira cash equivalent every month after all my monthly expenses.
I have always wanted to marry a Nigerian but have not been lucky to meet the right one for me in the country I live.
I visited 9ja some months ago and stayed for about two months, one of my reasons for visiting my beloved country was to hopefully hook up with som1, unfortunately I wasn’t lucky to meet som1 I feel would be compatible until my last week of visit. I meet this pretty, smart, elegant lady with a strong sense of humour n lovely, she caught my eyes and I was lucky to go out for a date with her, we talked and she told me she has a boyfriend. well, I also told I her my intentions, that I really don’t need anything from her but to get married to her if she gives me the chance, though it’s crazy because we hardly know each other, I feel so bad, I don’t live in 9ja n I don’t have enough time to prove myself and let her know me beta, I guess she doesn’t have that mutual feelings for now.
People, I just believed she is the perfect match for me, beside we all don’t end up getting married to the people we ones dated so why give up because she said she has a boyfriend? She is a very pretty lady and that she knows, she is 23yrs old and a final year student of a university in 9ja.
I have been trying to make things work but to no avail, she is just not helping out, she has changed her phone numbers I guess, though she told me her phone got lost but she does use a mobile phone to reply my messages on Facebook. She still reminds me of her boyfriend, am not sure if he really wants to marry her, because to me I won’t waste a day if she says yes to me.
I am just confused, I don’t know if I should continue bordering her or let go? I am not getting any younger and I don’t want to settle for less in terms of marriage. I have planned visiting 9ja ones in a year or twice until I get married. Now I know finding a wife is not an easy task.
What do you guys’ advice on how to get this babe? Or should I let go, even though I love her this much?

charlesfreeman0: I am 29yrs old, a 9ja man but not living in 9ja, I am good looking, smart, romantic or let’s say a gentleman, I comfortable with a good job I would say. I save at least three thousand naira cash equivalent every month after all my monthly expenses.
I have always wanted to marry a Nigerian but have not been lucky to meet the right one for me in the country I live.
I visited 9ja some months ago and stayed for about two months, one of my reasons for visiting my beloved country was to hopefully hook up with som1, unfortunately I wasn’t lucky to meet som1 I feel would be compatible until my last week of visit. I meet this pretty, smart, elegant lady with a strong sense of humour n lovely, she caught my eyes and I was lucky to go out for a date with her, we talked and she told me she has a boyfriend. well, I also told I her my intentions, that I really don’t need anything from her but to get married to her if she gives me the chance, though it’s crazy because we hardly know each other, I feel so bad, I don’t live in 9ja n I don’t have enough time to prove myself and let her know me beta, I guess she doesn’t have that mutual feelings for now.
People, I just believed she is the perfect match for me, beside we all don’t end up getting married to the people we ones dated so why give up because she said she has a boyfriend? She is a very pretty lady and that she knows, she is 23yrs old and a final year student of a university in 9ja.
I have been trying to make things work but to no avail, she is just not helping out, she has changed her phone numbers I guess, though she told me her phone got lost but she does use a mobile phone to reply my messages on Facebook. She still reminds me of her boyfriend, am not sure if he really wants to marry her, because to me I won’t waste a day if she says yes to me.
I am just confused, I don’t know if I should continue bordering her or let go? I am not getting any younger and I don’t want to settle for less in terms of marriage. I have planned visiting 9ja ones in a year or twice until I get married. Now I know finding a wife is not an easy task.
What do you guys’ advice on how to get this babe? Or should I let go, even though I love her this much?

charlesfreeman0: I am 29yrs old, a 9ja man but not living in 9ja, I am good looking, smart, romantic or let’s say a gentleman, I comfortable with a good job I would say. I save at least three thousand naira cash equivalent every month after all my monthly expenses.
I have always wanted to marry a Nigerian but have not been lucky to meet the right one for me in the country I live.
I visited 9ja some months ago and stayed for about two months, one of my reasons for visiting my beloved country was to hopefully hook up with som1, unfortunately I wasn’t lucky to meet som1 I feel would be compatible until my last week of visit. I meet this pretty, smart, elegant lady with a strong sense of humour n lovely, she caught my eyes and I was lucky to go out for a date with her, we talked and she told me she has a boyfriend. well, I also told I her my intentions, that I really don’t need anything from her but to get married to her if she gives me the chance, though it’s crazy because we hardly know each other, I feel so bad, I don’t live in 9ja n I don’t have enough time to prove myself and let her know me beta, I guess she doesn’t have that mutual feelings for now.
People, I just believed she is the perfect match for me, beside we all don’t end up getting married to the people we ones dated so why give up because she said she has a boyfriend? She is a very pretty lady and that she knows, she is 23yrs old and a final year student of a university in 9ja.
I have been trying to make things work but to no avail, she is just not helping out, she has changed her phone numbers I guess, though she told me her phone got lost but she does use a mobile phone to reply my messages on Facebook. She still reminds me of her boyfriend, am not sure if he really wants to marry her, because to me I won’t waste a day if she says yes to me.
I am just confused, I don’t know if I should continue bordering her or let go? I am not getting any younger and I don’t want to settle for less in terms of marriage. I have planned visiting 9ja ones in a year or twice until I get married. Now I know finding a wife is not an easy task.
What do you guys’ advice on how to get this babe? Or should I let go, even though I love her this much?

kpolli:

Pere and u want to marry a uni student. . . . Ko jo mehn

gree-die:

nd wat is wrong wit dat?

op, did u say u make d equivalent of 3 thousand naira monthly?

gree-die:

nd wat is wrong wit dat?

op, did u say u make d equivalent of 3 thousand naira monthly?

kpolli:

Would u marry a man that can only save 3k monthly in naira. . . FYI, that's equivalent to BIS for both of u

Mynd_44: Here is something for the OP, if you were her BF, what would you do if a guy was disturbing her to leave you and marry him?
Thanks for coming to NL

charlesfreeman0:

Well, u r ryt i wil surely feel bad but to me i dnt a reason a man will keep promisin to marry a woman for ages.
if u claim to love her jus do d ryt tyn n stop wastin her tym.
i feel bad being an intruder but der tyns u jus cnt let go or feel r urs for real.

Mynd_44:
You will feel bad right? But you still find no evil in doing it to Someone else. Dude you are evil, selfish and silly

Konnektions146: at 23, i dont think dat lady is ready yet.

i just hope u wont waste yur time for a long time waitin and if u beg a lady for a long time,l it may just get into her head and i hope she can contain it..i like wen its mutual(u want me and i want u),

please plunge yur effort into other searches and dont be desperate or u make mistake, free yur mind and it will come.

charlesfreeman0:

Alryt, now u r being mean. whn u meet a lady for d first tym, i beliv u cnt tell if she is truly engaged?
Beside, would u jus turn away whn u meet a lady dat really caught ur eyes jus because she told u she has a boyfrnd?
Pls grow up b4 u start insultin urself.

Sijo01: Op, mynd_44 is vry right.
she made it clear 2u dat she hs a bf, pressurizn her 2marry u is uncalled 4. 'Remba d law of karma'

jst b calm n let d event unfold itsef.

Mynd_44:
Being mean? Dude you asked her out and she said no. She continually mentioned that she has a BF and yet you want to STEAL her away from the guy and you call me mean? If you want to see mean, look in the mirror

charlesfreeman0:

Alryt, now u r being mean. whn u meet a lady for d first tym, i beliv u cnt tell if she is truly engaged?
Beside, would u jus turn away whn u meet a lady dat really caught ur eyes jus because she told u she has a boyfrnd?
Pls grow up b4 u start insultin urself.

charlesfreeman0:

Alryt, now u r being mean. whn u meet a lady for d first tym, i beliv u cnt tell if she is truly engaged?
Beside, would u jus turn away whn u meet a lady dat really caught ur eyes jus because she told u she has a boyfrnd?
Pls grow up b4 u start insultin urself.

ayobase:

What do u tag a guy trying to get ur gel at all cost?
One thing abt is dat, its left for her if she is lying or not, but I back off once she says she is into a relationship....I wldnt want another guy out there to start bothering my gel likewise.
Think abt this!

Wislet: what boyfriend?
The one that would come up tomorrow and give her bull stories of how he loves another girl...meanwhile a more serious person would have gone?
Women are not meant to be courted for a long time. If u're serious about her..then do the honourable thing and get her off the market.
Not tag her along till her time passes.
If u aren't working or still a student with no intention of marrying anytime soon, then face ur books and make something of yourself before carrying on a project u haven't reached its stage.
Do not jump lines. Most of y'all end up not marrying ur so-called school girlfriends.

Wislet: do not mind the boy.
He's still very young...adolescence is still controlling his words and actions.