Idowuogbo: ^so get ready to bounce o!

sexkillz: It's wrong.

Except you want to lie to yourself and keep lying to yourself, there is no way a guy and a lady will remain friends for so long without feelings developing. Making it more wrong is the fact that he is a married man, and his wife should be his best friend and not you.
For the fact that you are here asking this question also shows that your conscience tells you, you are wrong. And you are here to get contrary opinions so that you can put your conscience at rest. But factually, when your conscience tells you to back off, pls back off, else, it would stop nudging you even in seemingly small matters.

The wife may say she has no problems with it, but that's not an approval for you to continue, cos one day, when her husband reduces the attention on her, the first suspect is you, and when that happens, "sorry" is your name. Do you have plans of getting married? Do you plan to make your future husband your best friend, or will you stick to another married man? If that happens, you two would only be fooling no one but yourselves.

There's nothing like happily ever after in marriage, so problems are bound to arise. A wise man or woman who loves his partner and his marriage, would seek those holes where problems could creep in from and what? And close them!

Realize that there are some things that has to come to an end, he is your best friend, yes, but it could cause problems. People are talking, and that's not because they are poke nosing, but because they are concerned and may have been in such a situation themselves. . . Do not disregard the voice of reason!

Deedee49:


On d contrary, i'm not here to put my conscience at ease.

In my heart of hearts, i know there's notin oda dan friendship btw us.

but d conscience i have is wats makin me ask questions. He gives his wife his undivided attention, while makin sure, i get my share of his attention, every once in a while.

I'd neva do anytin to jeopardize his marriage, cos i plan to get married some day too! With all said and done, i done plan to stop bin his friend anytime soon because some people can't just mind their business, except there be oda reasons!

sexkillz: why?

Idowuogbo:

Cos we cant b bbf's anymore after i

I know, but Till then. . .

i could even get before you.

Deedee49: And there is NO STRING ATTACHED!!!

tpia@:
Why did you title your thread "her husband is my best friend" and not "my best friend got married"


Women and their destructive behaviour, may God help us.


In any case, when are you going to find your own man, or are you waiting for this so-called "best friend" to marry you?

sexkillz:
A married man owes you NO SHARE of his attention, to the point of MAKING SURE you receive yours. What nonsense! The guy is just confused.

You cannot say you are not here to put your conscience at ease, and then again, you say the conscience you have is making you ask questions. . . That is some pure undiluted discombobulated ramblings! If you know something is right, you DO NOT ask if it's wrong. . .

If you have no intentions, can you say the same about him? What if he develops intentions? And don't you tell me he cannot develop intentions, because he is human as well. So what will you do when he develops feelings for you?

What will you do when you get married ? And your husband refuses the friendship with this guy?

What will you do or how will you feel if your husband's best friend is another woman?

I could learn from you, so pls answer.

ijebabe: I agree with killz when he says in a marriage the wife is supposed to be the best friend (even though that is not always the case these days). Once you're married your priorities change and the lifestyle you led when you were dating has to change to include your spouse. We can't all maintain the same kind of friendships we had with the opposite sex when marriage is in effect.

I am not saying you are doing anything wrong by being his friend and I am glad you guys understood the change your relationship would take from the beginning, but you would have to distance urself a little bit more from him because your statement "while makin sure, i get my share of his attention" shows you're possessive over him. It's not ur fault as you guys have been that way with each other for a long time but it has to be kept in check so that there are no issues in the future between you and his wife.

If he doesn't call you in 2-3 weeks do you call him upset demanding why you haven't heard from him all the while?

Your relationship with him now doesn't seem like an issue, I'm only speaking about what may result in the future if something goes wrong.

tpia@:
the op should get her own man, end of.

jealousy is her main motivation here.

if the guy didnt take your friendship to the next level and propose to you, then let him be.

yes, it hurts but that's one of the risks that come with being friends with the opposite gender.

especially if you're both of marriageable age?

dont mean to sound harsh but you really have got to move on. If you really like/love this guy, you wont attempt to destroy his relationship.

slimyem: smh@everyone screaming a NO STRINGS ATTACHED relationship cannot exist between a male a female!
Smh seriously @ your dirty mind,self-control issues and fear of slipping up ultimately!
Smh@the usual nairaland style of somebody posts something and others thumbs up after without any personal conviction of theirs just to avoid being bashed!
What would you say about friendships that have existed for as long as ten,twenty years between opposite sexes,with NO STRINGS WHATSOEVER ATTACHED and with both parties in unthreatened and happy marriages till date?
What would you say?
I'm sure your lips would be so widened it'll make your whole face scare the hell out of a new born child.
Smh!

Deedee49:


So in essence,wat are u saying?!

Deedee49:


So in essence,wat are u saying?!

joeydozzy:


this is too shallow even for you