well you might be wondering what i'm talking about...

point is .. my mother wants me to keep my options open even when she knows i'm currently in a relationship..the funny thing is even my friends are saying the same thing that their mothers are of the same opinion..
they surely have a point anyways, because your boo might just up and leave anytime ^{boys of nowadays!}. but then, i feel nowadays its practically impossible to be juggling more than a guy; personally i think its emotionally draining and too much hard work plus how possible is it to have a relationship with guys these days without them breathing down your neck about sex?.. totally impossible!!!
i have tried keeping male friends, it has never worked. they are all sexually attracted to me.. that's why i don't bother with the notion again... even casual dates are no longer innoceent ..

the point is, how do you keep your options open wiv raging testosterones?

self-control is the key

sweetchicks: the point is, how do you keep your options open wiv raging testosterones?

If ur mom is the understanding type, then why not? She can be of help interms of problem u know?

jmoore: self-control is the key

How do you self-control somebody else?

@OP
While I don't hold water with your mummy and friends advise, I don't think keeping your options open means double dating. I think it just means have male "buddies" you can talk to and if it comes to it you can have an emotional bond with. From this pool of "friends" when the need arises you could choose to be intimate with any. Just remember I am not advocating cheating.

sweetchicks: the point is, how do you keep your options open wiv raging testosterones?

Was this not easier to type than the story you typed up there?
@Question, since its your mum that gave that suggestion, ask her to tell you how nah

Waiiiit! Lemme ask,dont you qot a serious relationship,i wanna know frst before i come in

I have said it before that mothers are at the root of our ladies moral decay!

My father also wants me to keep my options open.. He said having about up to 5 girlfriends isn't a bad idea

bennyraz: My father also wants me to keep my options open.. He said having about up to 5 girlfriends isn't a bad idea

No be only dem parents sabi advice na

Why should your mother encourage promiscuity? I'm having great difficulty understanding her point of view.

Mynd_44:
No be only dem parents sabi advice na

abi o

bennyraz: abi o

I swear

women! women! women! So ur moda wants u 2 double date?sha go and double date but if u get pregnant and lose ur mr rite because of dat wuld she share d pregnancy and d pain wit u?think

No. Ours fathers wants us to keeps it closed!

Chimezie198: No. Ours fathers wants us to keeps it closed!

I think what her mother meant was for her not to devote all her time and energy on a particular relationship that may not work (putting all your eggs in one basket?) Not necessarily for her to double date or so, but instead of her having one serious relationship that may not work out, she should have many platonic ones where one may work.

@poster, there's no getting it right. Just do what you want to do.

Gbagaun_catcher:

Mine has been closed too, why must u permanently open it??

sweetchicks: well you might be wondering what i'm talking about...

point is .. my mother wants me to keep my options open even when she knows i'm currently in a relationship..the funny thing is even my friends are saying the same thing that their mothers are of the same opinion..
they surely have a point anyways, because your boo might just up and leave anytime ^{boys of nowadays!}. but then, i feel nowadays its practically impossible to be juggling more than a guy; personally i think its emotionally draining and too much hard work plus how possible is it to have a relationship with guys these days without them breathing down your neck about sex?.. totally impossible!!!
i have tried keeping male friends, it has never worked. they are all sexually attracted to me.. that's why i don't bother with the notion again... even casual dates are no longer innoceent ..

There are women who are in relationships with men they are not sexual with it is your mindset that carries how your will function in your relationship. Of course men would want to have sex with you....if you are giving vibes that you are an easy play...why wouldn't they not take heed to that?

It is not complicated to have sex nor get someone who is h0rny. You just have to know the type of dudes you are befriending and establish boundaries...if that is not what you want then enjoy life.

Amya: I think what her mother meant was for her not to devote all her time and energy on a particular relationship that may not work (putting all your eggs in one basket?) Not necessarily for her to double date or so, but instead of her having one serious relationship that may not work out, she should have many platonic ones where one may work.

@poster, there's no getting it right. Just do what you want to do.

It is more wise to keep all ur eggs in a basket and watch that basket closely. Whoever chases two rats always ends up with nothing eventually. Promiscuity is promiscuity no matter how u might want to paint it. It is now a known fact that mothers have become more greedy than their naija daughters and the result is the wrong advise.

Now mothers are advising their daughter to be whoring.
Nice

Are you sure she wants you to keep just the options open? What about the kitty? Because options can't be open while kitty is closed. Doesn't work that way.

basisop: Are you sure she wants you to keep just the options open? What about the kitty? Because options can't be open while kitty is closed. Doesn't work that way.

Her mum has great advices

Mynd_44: Now mothers are advising their daughter to be whoring.
Nice

don't think so. it'S just that you can keep your eyes open. don't make your heart a slave to someone who you haven'T married. what for?

carefreewannabe:

don't think so. it'S just that you can keep your eyes open. don't make your heart a slave to someone who you haven'T married. what for?

And if the guy decides to do that, yall will start running around and ranting

Mynd_44:
And if the guy decides to do that, yall will start running around and ranting

are u minding them

All of you ladies in here are just hiding under the canopy of semantics! If your mom wants you to cheat, go ahead by all means if it suits you. But remember you will dance to the tune alone, no matter how hard you try to get support.

bennyraz: are u minding them

What is more amazing is that they have found an excuse to have more than one boyfriend/fiance

Mynd_44:
And if the guy decides to do that, yall will start running around and ranting

this is what many many guys are doing all the time. especially those who are scared of commitment.
it's only logical to keep your eyes open before you marry. and this is not the same as double dating. before you engage in a long-life commitment, check if the person you're with is the best option for you. dating is for the purpose of finding out if your partner could become your wife / husband. this means everything is still open.