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Is it alright to cheat if your not in love

I was talking to one of my girlfriends (as in friend, girl, nothing more ) Today, we started talking about relationships, then I asked her if she had ever cheated on her boyfriend and she said yes.

Curious I asked her why, (you know, to get a females point of view,) and she told me it was because she didn't love the guy she was cheating on her boyfriend with. As far as she was concerned, it was OK to cheat on her boyfriend so far she wasn't in love with the guy she was cheating on him with.

Personally I fail to see the logic behind this reasoning, but then again, maybe it is a girl thing?

A girl or woman is more focussed on the emotional aspect of a relationship, while men are more focussed on the physical aspect.

So sometimes it's possible for a girl to forgive a cheating partner if she's convinced that he's not "in love" with the girl, and maybe she just "seduced" him or something. In the same way, a guy might not feel threatened that you like other guys a bit, provided the other guy doesn't make any attempt to 'touch' you. But when he 'touches', fire will fall from heaven.

So your lady-friend is rationalizing her cheating from a woman's point of view but her boyfriend won't accept such nonsense because he's a man and men look at things differently. When you're in a relationship, you need to be able to look at things from the point of view of someone of the opposite sex.

So if you're a man and you're cheating against your girlfriend just make sure you don't fall in love with the other woman and all will be well. And ladies, please feel free to feel attracted other guys, but do not let them touch you or else you will be in trouble and I won't be there to beg for you!

When you know, you are not in love?

It is not right. It  has never been and it will never be right to cheat on your partner. You are not being true to your words.

If you love someone no matter what temptations there are you always keep away from them. You are still hooked up and when you cheat you are only hurting yourself and your boyfriend more and you are more likely to loose him. So it ain't worth it..

It is just plain wrong!

thank Goodness she didnt say it is Sinful

Ok I will say it:

It is wrong and sinful. If you are married, it's adultery. If you are not, it's fornication and you should not even be Being Intimate in the first instance.

Yeah yeah, it goes against all I have been saying before, so arrest me.

I agree with Jogego that it is wrong and sinful; and I add that it is uncalled for. 

Excuse me in here, if you do not love the damn party and you are cheating on him or her, you are messing yourself up because for the fact that he/she is going out with he/she is a favour to both parties and if you feel it not warrantable (if am allowed to use that word), drop the relationship and move ahead.

A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage.

Let me correct a motion here, if a guy is a friend to a girl vice versa, no matter hw they seems to ascribe there feelin to each other in words they still seems to be standin alone. My reasonin of sayin this is that, there is no legal covering on friendship.

So u see anytin can go, as long as there is comfort at both end.

i hv seen girls with serious date, yet still hvin fun with a temporal Mr. Nice and after that moment still click back to there date, no happens, is life for u. But i strongly oppose my opinions for the married ones.

it is neva ok to cheat on anybody........

no matter wat...

When you have celebrated 100 yrs wedding anniversary

It's not right no matter what. So, stay clear such a thing .

Have I made myself clear?

there is no right time to cheat on a guy. i do not expect people to be cheating. so me reply will be when u urself feel that u are a dumb Bottom person then that is the right time for ya

It's okay to cheat on your partner when your partner is cheating on you. Just remember that :

1) HIV/AIDS is in town, and
2) You are offending God ( Fornication/Adultery).

When it's OK to cheat? No time!

Of course it's ok to cheat on your girlfriend but not your wife.

When he starts cheating on you of course. Though I know two wrongs don't make a right.

It is not ok to cheat, no matter the circumstances. If you're not in love with the person anymore, or if you're no longer interested in the relationship, freaking end it!

Cheating makes the game fun,u know what i mean...HIDE & SEEK

haba is never o.k

Latoya common be serious for once is someone hrt here we talkin abt not just a log of wood!!!!!!!!!!!!

Uche i know it someones heart involved,i was just kidding.But come to think of it... dont u think it is fun to cheat??
but do it in such a way that u neva get caught

@ Latoya - What if you get caught?

ASK LATOYA WHAT WILL HAPPEN IF HE IS BEEN GOT. AND EBI LIKE SAY LATOYA DEY CHEAT HIS GIRL, PLEASE LATOYA IF YOU ARE DOING SO PLEASE STOP IS NOT GOOD AND IS NEVER GOOD

i hate cheating,in all the ways i can cheat my patner

hey Goldenoc first of all i am a girl so i don't cheat on a girl because i am niether les nor bi.
cheating is just for the fun of it and that is it!!! do it in a smart way you know    that is if you really have to cheat on your partner.

It's like totaly wrong to cheat on your partner. But uhmm, imma flow with the topic and say it's okay to cheat when, you feel you are not really into the relationship anymore.

Cheating, oh, what  a bad taste and sinful world we are.

solo..u made me laugh..ha..funny. I dunno why it is.

If you would learn the secret of right relations
look only for the divine in people and things,
Do not cheat and you will never be cheated
and leave all the rest to God.

is not right at all,
whether u are in love or not.if u are not in love with ur guy what are u

doing with him then, is better for u to get out of the ralationship than

to be cheating on him.




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cheating is not good.

it's okay to cheat on your partner when you're not partners anymore.

There is never a right way to do a wrong thing

Its never ok to cheat on your partner.