Looking at the ever increasing number of marital issues, relationship issues, divorce cases today, I'm deeply bothered to ask "what is wrong with this generation ?" It is a general fact that the days of our parents were better in this line. What is your opinion on this and what are we not jusyt doing right? Good morning.

They stayed together. . .even when it was wiser to have split!

RuuDie: They stayed together. . .even when it was wiser to have split!

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Today's people do not have the kinda enduring spirit our parents have.
We can't swallow the kinda crap our parents swallowed..
We have option and we do not hesistate to browse them as soon as the situation becomes a little uncomfortable.
Blame it on 21st century and the digital age!

Multifaceted...

-The pressures of modern life
-Lack of good quality mentors
-Lack of credible moral institutions
-Lack of commitment, forbearance
-Misinterpretation of financial well-being as a reason for lack of submission on the part of women
-Hazy or poorly defined boundaries esp materialistic attitudes, living off a woman or inadequately providing for her and the family, no moral codes

List goes on......


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Our fathers left the nagging to the women and faced more devious things like providing all forms of security

Mynd_44: Our fathers left the nagging to the women and faced more devious things like providing all forms of security

Mynd_44: Our fathers left the nagging to the women and faced more devious things like providing all forms of security

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RuuDie: They stayed together. . .even when it was wiser to have split!

Gbam!!!

The moment you empower your daughter with education without telling your son that women should be respected and treated as an equal friend even though men and women are different but some men treat their male colleagues with more respect than their wives....but because of material provisions the women stayed.

Also since contraceptive became popular women have a choice in choosing to have kids or wait.

So contraception, more financial power, yet old cultural bad habits.

RuuDie: They stayed together. . .even when it was wiser to have split!

slimyem: +100
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Today's people do not have the kinda enduring spirit our parents have.
We can't swallow the kinda crap our parents swallowed..
We have option and we do not hesistate to browse them as soon as the situation becomes a little uncomfortable.
Blame it on 21st century and the digital age!

That isn't necessarily/always a good trait. I'm sure a lot of us have mothers or grandmothers who were victims of various kinds of abuse. Atrocities happened in our parents' and grandparents' days, similar to today. However, there was lack of exposure (social media) and a greater fear of the "s" word. Shame.

I wonder how many parents would tell their daughters to stay in an abusive relationship as it will benefit her in the long run (if ever). I know for a fact that my grandmother would never wish that on my mother or me and wouldn't advise either of us to endure it.

I doubt that many of our parents would have remained together if they were in the current age. Remember that they were deemed "too loose" by their parents' generations.

Mynd_44: Our fathers left the nagging to the women and faced more devious things like providing all forms of security

They believed in for better for worse and the fear of what people will say about them if they dare to leave their matrimonial home, kept them in an abusive marriage..

our parents were not materialistic, and their primary goal was to keep d family. But nowadays we are way too busy chasing a married man dat can buy blackbery or rent an apartment or buy brazilian hair 4 us. We are nt even botherd abt how we can raise gud families any more. We nw rub shoulders wit our husbands cos we earn higher than them. We now want them to do the cookn aswell all in the name of civilizatn. So sad

It was an understanding tht marriage was a life long journey. It was an understanding of the roles both sexes had to play in order to make it in one piece. It was an understanding that running away solves no problems. It was an understanding that the man's strength came from his leading the home. It was an understanding that a woman's strength was in taking care of the details the leader never and cannot see. It was a willingness to do whatever was necessary to keep the home out of shame.

There were definitely bad cases, abusive cases. But compare the statistics with our enligtened-won't-take-snot-from-anyone-it's-nobody's-business-I-must-follow-my-heart-my-needs-must-be-met-by-hook-or-crook-walk-away-when-the-going-gets-tough concept of what marriage and family means.

IMHO, the comparism is flawed considering the different settings.
If they were exposed to what we were opportuned to, don't you think that might have behaved differently?
The present time came with it's own disadvantages, just like their lack of it then has it's own disadvantages..