justdream: AM GAINFULLY EMPLOYED AND THINKING OF SETTLING DOWN.

pendo89:

Chance? can't rule it out but maybe small. See the bolded? That is where the trouble will brew from.

At 30 you are employed and thinking of marriage.
What do u think a 16 yr(is it even legal)is thinking of right now or in the next 10 years? when ul be 40 and she 26?
You know,there is a very thin line between love and care.
She is still in her teenage, can't even classify her as a young adult yet.Give her time and space to go through the very crucial young adult phase or else ur gonna have a wife that wants to go clubbing/partying daily with friends.And it will be wrong to restrain her.
You don't rush ahead of time but live each stage of life accordingly. Now that uv lived through ur stage,Don't choke hers.

Idowuogbo:
Pendomania y bother? He is obviously a psychopath. D angry emoticon used at d end speaks volume.He shud b locked up in a black room wiv treatments.

pendo89:

oh I didnt see it.He really really wants to marry a teen but he is fighting his conscience that's why he is asking the forum.
well at the end of the day, at least he was advised.
The 16 year old girl will be posting here in 10 years to come, complaining about how she left her old husband for her agemates because he was more a father than partner.
Or better still, she will be searching in the dating section as a sugar mummy since she will be having 7 kids but a very wild mind and body.

justdream:

tanx very much for your advice. for the records am not a pervert, just that we have been very close family friends for long. i got attraceted to her, thats all.

Idowuogbo:
Pendomania y bother? He is obviously a psychopath. D angry emoticon used at d end speaks volume.He shud b locked up in a black room wiv treatments.

justdream:

tanx very much for your advice. for the records am not a pervert, just that we have been very close family friends for long. i got attraceted to her, thats all.

justdream:

tanx very much for your advice. for the records am not a pervert, just that we have been very close family friends for long. i got attraceted to her, thats all.

mcnepow:
At what age did this attraction start
.
Abeg, no expose yourself anymore jooor

justdream: PLEASE LOVELY FAMILY(NAIRALANDERS), THIS ISSUES AM ABOUT TO LAY DOWN HAS BEEN A BURDEN TO ME. AM IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A 16YR OLD. SHE GOT ADMISSION TO STUDY MEDICINE IN THE UNIVERSITY RECENTLY. I LOVE HER SOOO MUCH, CAN WE BY ANY CHANCE GET MARRIED? CONSIDERING THE AGE DIFFERENCE AND SOCIAL STATUS? AM GAINFULLY EMPLOYED AND THINKING OF SETTLING DOWN.

justdream: PLEASE LOVELY FAMILY(NAIRALANDERS), THIS ISSUES AM ABOUT TO LAY DOWN HAS BEEN A BURDEN TO ME. AM IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A 16YR OLD. SHE GOT ADMISSION TO STUDY MEDICINE IN THE UNIVERSITY RECENTLY. I LOVE HER SOOO MUCH, CAN WE BY ANY CHANCE GET MARRIED? CONSIDERING THE AGE DIFFERENCE AND SOCIAL STATUS? AM GAINFULLY EMPLOYED AND THINKING OF SETTLING DOWN.

You need your head checked! She's not even 18 yet.

jmoore: Most eyes are focusing on 30 years and 16 years which is 14 years gap.

40-26 years
50-36 years
60-46 years
70-56 years
80-66 years

All the above have a gap of 14 years. The main issue here is not about the age gap but when he wants to marry her. To settle down with her you should be looking at when she has turned 20 and above.

bennyraz: which issue are we talking about here? In all honesty, if ur sister was 16 & a 30yrs old man like Op comes proposing to her or he comes to ask for her hand in marriage in the presence of your family, what will you do? Merely even knowing that a 30yrs old man is wooing your 16yrs sister will make u go mad! Is 40-26yrs not different here? 26yrs old girl has seen life compared to a 16yrs old girl. The difference is 10yrs man! What is bad is bad! Yarn realities and stop coaxing the op into doing what is morally wrong!