CFCfan:
Diaris god o
How I go compete against a Marine?

I wonder
No chance
Unless he doesn't wear deodorant

maclatunji:

If he does not come for you, he will come for the kids. I doubt he will disappear from your life 100%. You should prepare for his coming.

@ OP,Nigeria has changed a lot for the better
There are NGOs out there that will help you keep your children
Don't ask him for any upkeep and if he doesn't provide anything,he up has no claims to the kids till they are of age and if you do your job well,they won't miss him
My aunt was abandoned and her kids taken away by husband but she eventually got them back thanks to the NGO
My best friend from high school was abandoned with three kids,she eventually remarried 4 years after and changed the kids first and last names and got her new husband to adopt her kids legally and the ex is gone from their lives forever.
This is 2014
Men can no longer walk off then return and want to claim relationship with kids they didn't raise or try and snatch them by force
The law today will work against him
Give him a year or two to establish relationship with the kids,if he doesn't,you are free to legally terminate his parental rights through the court and these NGOs will help you

Do not worry about this just yet but make enquiries later about what I am saying



As far as I am concerned a man who abandons me and kids has lost the children forever
I will take every legal route to make sure it stays that way

I remember a young lady here who was marrying into another culture and was asking who she should kneel for and not kneel for and how long she should kneel and people were giving all sorts of advise including kneeling for husband's sisters and relatives younger than her
I said Nne,if this kneeling thing is not your style bow your knees and greet everyone that appears older than you respectfully and move on from day one.
If you kneel today and stop kneeling tomorrow,you become a bad wife.
But if from the very first time you stand on your two feet,the way you feel comfortable and greet everyone,they know this is your style from day one and they will get used to it.
People should simplify their lives as much as possible

Let the young ladies, learn from this story.
Do whatever is within your power to live with your husband and husband only, in the first years of marriage
No inlaws or outlaws on permanent basis and absolutely not in you MIL's house

Jobless and living with your MIL and her grandchildren and your husband under the same roof
A suicidal combination
You are strong o

Glitterdust:

I put up with a lot of things just so that I could keep my marriage.

If your hubby comes home everyday between 12 and 3 am, would u be obliged to make food for him, and massage his feet till he sleeps? Then wake up tomorrow afraid of what will happen next...

I thank God for everything.

My dear you did too much ,next time don't do all that servant and slave sumtin
Women think they win a loving place in a man's heart by becoming lower than dirt


Hear this from a veteran who has been in this marriage business a while


Men love and respect a woman who loves and respects them and is also strong woman who can hold their own
The biggest mistake you made was agreeing to be a housewife
Don't ever allow yourself to be controlled financially ever again
There is a level of respect you gain by having some independence
No matter how much a man provides,you must bring something to the table to be respected
The same man will turn around and call you a liability when the thing go shele ,don't put yourself in that position
Men by nature are controlling
It takes the wisdom of a woman to set limits to his control
You have to subtly lay down the rules of what you will put up with and what you will not
If a man decides to come in at midnight ,he certainly won't be getting dinner from me and if I were to massage his feet,it will be with razor blade
You could be doing these things and always trying yo please because you think by not working,you are somewhat diminished so you need to "love more"
That is not love, love doesn't hurt
If you had a job,at the end of the day,the last thing on your mind is massaging any feet
Did he ever massage yours?
Let that be the last feet you ever massaged Nne,you have massaged enough


[b]Just before my wedding,I would sit Up and talk with my mom well into the night and she would tell me words of wisdom night after night
One of the things she said is " my daughter, you go into marriage because you love but you stay in it and enjoy it with 100% wisdom and commonsense" and that is so true.Marriage needs a whole load of commonsense .
Another word my mother said was " my daughter,anything you know will be going out yourself to do and anything you know will cause problems when you stop doing it,don't ever start it" then she told me a story of how she used to wash and iron my father's clothes till the babies started coming and she was Still working full time and washing and ironing his clothes and finally had to tell Him to wash his own clothes and the man sparked, a major argument ensued but she stuck to her guns.
I learned a lot from that.
Don't take on more than you can handle from the get go
Love and also apply a whole load of sense and use style to teach the man to do things for himself and not to disrespect you.
[/b]
He may kick against it at first,they all do but eventually he will go along with it,I am speaking from experience here
You need to train your man to respect you.

CFCfan:
I wear deodorant o

Of course na

MrRenaissance:

Who invaded your privacy? That's the same thing I asked myself when loretta was ranting because you denied the details as yours. So why is she now suddenly irked over some false accusation if not for her hypocrisy?

Go there and look for you? You must be high if you think I've something against you to the point of taking this issue offline. I don't live in the States and even if I do, what happens on NL, stays on NL. Stop thinking I dislike you so much I'd take it offline to get at you. You are just a faceless moniker to me. If I knew you offline and see you at the mall/roads, I'll greet you and move on with my life. Even when someone pointed out that you are bigot, I agreed but said it's none of my biz. My problem on this thread is your condescending attitude to an old woman, your invasion of her privacy and your insults on her kids et al. Prior to this thread, I've never quoted you. So stop deluding yourself that you are important I'll take this issue offline. I just don't support the acts you exhibited and there's a reason 99.9% of the posts here were against you. Even if you were so ashamed of this woman, speaking to her in Igbo and correcting her will mean so much to her than your disgrace of her family just so you can have a good laugh. Stop it, it ain't right.

Your rantings mean nada
The woman's ID was not revealed unless you know the nyash and pants
Nobody here can pick her up from a line up
The thread is still up as you can see,no laws were violated
There are pictures and videos everywhere online of people behaving badly,this is just one of them
You folks just have to deal with it
The same way I am a faceless moniker to you is the same way you all are to me,nameless faceless people
When I log off,none of you exist and there is nothing anyone can say or do here beyond pounding on their phone or keyboard angrily
If it causes anyone high BP,na for dia bodi
I don't write for anyone's viewing pleasure
Even if 99.999% of you are pained,I won't be moved,will still say my mind always
I promise you that much in consistency
Anyone that can't handle it should avoid my threads
Because it is not about to end
Simple!

jieta: i have a little money on me(30,000). i just want to go some where were no body knows me and start a new life.so please if you are from kwara and you have any ideas to share with me i will be very grateful

Let them not use you for rituals o

shakol91: @ Baby Mama,the advice i gave to him was to apply for admission (I think is working on that now) pay all the necessary fees,visit embassy with documents to confuse the VO like the certificate he was given by California Highway patrol after the training,also the photo's he took in the college during training,with officers and also on patrol,he also has some CHP officers contact card given by them to him when he was leaving. Also the photos he took at the california government house. His present job employment letter, (All this just to confuse VO why he wanted to study the course and to confirm that he has truly undergone intensive training there b4. Pls ur suggestions

First I thought you were asking for yourself
I don't know why you kept saying "to confuse the visa officer"
That shouldn't be anyone's intention as those people are very well trained and can tell when one is trying to pull stunts
Going for an interview ,just be yourself
People can tell when you are sincere
On my very first visit to the British embassy,I was turned down and before I left I asked the interviewer why he turned me down and he told me I didn't apply correctly and that I needed to reapply for the right visa and that was what I did and got the visa

I dislike that we don't have the tradition of men using their wives to do Kola for visitors as is done in some Benue community
Na to target one berra bobo and ask him to visit often


Hahahahahahaha

Jollof: Like me, I bet you've all run around with your bathing towels wrapped above your shoulders like a cape and pretended to be Superman (and if you haven't then it's never too late!). Ever since I was a little brat I wanted to take to the skies. Air travel is the next best thing and I'm always looking forward to having a glass plastic cup of ice-cold apple juice which always tastes better at 10,000 feet. What could possibly disrupt this moment of long-awaited bliss? Cue the Nigerians... On my recent return trip from New York alone I encountered 7 annoying things Nigerians did on the plane:

1. Securing beds...in Economy Class! There's a game Nigerian passengers play whenever they're on-board a semi-full airplane - It's kind of similar to Musical Chairs...but without the music. Passengers snub the seats assigned to them and scout for a stretch of three to four empty seats before take-off. Handbags and other luggage items are strategically placed on empty seats in the hope for that Business Class experience - pathetic.

2. Making dramatic Nollywood scenes. Whoever said 'Rules are meant to be broken' must have been a Nigerian. We're pretty damn good at breaking rules...into smithereens, just for good measure. There was one woman sat at the front of economy class with her less-than-a-year-old baby. She put her baby down on the empty seat next to her when the seat belt light was off (not sure if that's proper in the first place but I'll let her off on that one). The moment the seat belt light was back on, however, one of the air hostesses called her to order and told her to strap her baby in place - RED ALERT! RED ALERT! MAY DAY! MAY DAY! You knew from the way the irritated mother turned her neck with that 'oh-no-you-didn't' expression all over her face that cabin pressure was under serious threat. Needless today she told the air hostess to mind her own business - ironically, that's what the air-hostess was trying to do in the first place...Safety of passengers...DUH! I can't remember if the thud I heard later on was due to turbulence or because the baby had rolled off the chair...

3. Taking pictures. You can imagine trying to enjoy a good book when suddenly the corner of your eye picks up the flash photography of some newbie whose obviously hell-bent on convincing everyone back in Nigeria that he/she indeed travel abroad. Newsflash! There may be people with photosensitive epilepsy on-board or nearby pilots wondering if there is a terrorist hijacking, with one unfortunate Nigerian who decided to break one simple rule 'DON'T MOVE!' (go figure!)

4. Farting. It's bad enough you left your assigned seat at the front and decided to come behind me and stretch yourself across four empty seats. Now you're so generous as to share your flatulence with me in small doses of ammonia-laced farts...not a one-off...periodic discharges which could catch choke me unawares if I dare yawn. FYI, avoid fizzy drinks on the plane if you know you can't handle your abdominal tract like few pros among us.

5. Drink to stupor. Is it the sheer pettiness of wanting to get one's money's worth that would make a passenger drink like a fish? (Remember, its Nigerians we're talking about here). Of course, it's not the drinking that bothers me but the mindless banter and laughter at completely 'unfunny' things that drives me up the Berlin wall (just like that - after a couple of drinks you'd be in stitches when you read 'drive me up the berlin wall').

6. Leaving toilets unlocked. Common sense consistently fails to prevail when most Nigerians use the airline's restrooms. It all boils down to refusing to acknowledge the instructions/directions carefully displayed all around them. It's quite simple - you enter the restroom and close it behind you. Right there on door is a slide lock which denotes 'Slide left to lock and right to open'. Why wouldn't I be interested in making sure that no one accidentally sees my 'bits'? Didn't they notice the green 'vacant' or the red 'occupied' sign before entering the lavatory? At my last count I've walked in on 3 unfortunate passengers who forgot to lock behind (but they all did once I exposed them...makes you wonder, eh?).

7. Sitting ovation. I'm not sure if you can relate but you're nearing your flight destination and as soon as the plane lands successfully passengers around you start to clap until virtually everyone joins in. Why are they doing this, you ask? beats me - for landing safely or for not crashing into the deep blue sea or for getting their money's worth after usurping the mini bar...I dunno. The clapping is cheesy in my opinion. I'd much prefer passengers go one by one to shake the pilot(s) for a job well done plane well-landed.

And coming in at a surprise number 8 is Irregular exercise. Make no mistake about it, Nigerians are terrified about premature death, more so than the average civilian (if that makes any sense). I've seen the most bizarre repetitions performed from kicking mid-air to punching only your left arm over the seat head in the same direction. Deep Vein thrombosis is no laughing matter so I guess all I have to do is close my eyes next time if I don't want to behold seemingly amateurish 'Kung-fu'.

See you on the next flight and God help you if you're sitting next to me, lol.

My thoughts exactly and someone beats me to it

How about


8.dragging for overhead compartments for their hand luggage and cussing each other out

9. Refusing to buckle up despite continuos announcements and seat buckle sign clearly up

10. Walking to the bathroom when they have been asked numerous times to sit their behind down

11. Taking over someone's window seat and doing open eye when asked to move

12. Screaming on the phone and Refusing to turn off their cell phones

Glitterdust: I am in my early 30's, married with two kids. Living with my MIL and two of my husband's nephews... (btw, I am a stay-at-home mum at the insistence of my husband..

My husband and I have always had issues but the basis of my story isn't the constant battery, emotional and psychological assault.

On thursday night, I had a minor misunderstanding with one of my husband's nephews and it resulted into a fight where the two boys pounced on me and beat me up. Hubby was not at home at the time so I called him but the phone went off after I mentioned what happened ..I called him severally but he refused to answer so I called my folks who advised that I should wait for him to come back.

That night, he didn't come baick but from the telephone conversations I heard, he was calling and speaking with MIL and his nephews.

On friday, I called him and spoke with him briefly. I was already fed up with the marriage and had decided that if he makes it back home that friday night that i'd tell him that since he was clearly unhappy in the marriage and constantly reminded me that he made a mistake marrying me that we should separate for sometime. He didn't come back that night and also didn't take my calls.

So on saturday, I packed my things and left with my kids for my parent's house.

On sunday, I did a test and found out that I was pregnant. I haven't called him and he hasn't called us either because he always made it clear that he didn't care about me or the kids.

I want to send him an sms and tell him about the pregnancy. What do I do?

Stay with your parents
Have your baby
Intensify job search
Move on with your life

The man doesn't care a thing about you,you could be dying and he will walk over you to go about his business
You have to love your self.It may have even been a plan with his relatives to beat you up,what else could explain the reason he didn't show up after the beating.

Move on Nne!
You married a goat,you didn't know it then,now you know,you do better
let this give you the strength to succeed

armyofone: lol... generally speaking, can you imagine someone trying on a top without deodorant?
only for you to end up buying it...oh man

And sadly most Nigerians don't wear any and be smelling funky

Yum

cococandy:

To me callling a spade a spade is to say that when I see something going over board I know. I don't find the pictures amusing and I won't lie I liked some of the mature critical posts that I read.
The guy you liked his post and a few others like him are full of hate and for them this isn't about the pictures but more personal stuff.
It is as simple as that.

For you to even know,the thread had been dead for days and he came back to wake it up.
Mr renessaince Dude what's your problem?
Pls this is weird even if you guys don't see it.
I do.
It's too personal for them. One has to just wonder why.
If the MOD didn't think it was weird too he wouldn't have hidden or banned the poster that made the post which led to my hate comment in the first place

Besides I don't know babymama from anywhere so the allusion that she's my friend by some posters is just plain silly.
Cest finis!

You don't need to explain anything to them
If a thread offends you move on
If they choose to stay,let them
It is now in it's 8th page and they are still crying
Well I am back to wipe their tears

@ armyofone did I hear you went to forum park west to look for me
Please o
That part of town is dangerous ,don't dare
Ndi ashawo may attack you ,they do drive by shootings in broad daylight that side o
Don't near that place lai lai

MrRenaissance: what's my problem? It's simple, GET A LIFE and stop being biased!! It's shameful!! Me taking it personal? So asslicking like you will make it non-personal? So when people speak against evil, it becomes personal? So babymama invasion of someone's privacy is not her taking it personal, but when another person pays her back in her coin, it becomes personal? Damn!! Your hypocrisy is in 3D.

I'm back!


Who invaded my privacy please?
Posting a block of apartments as my address is an invasion?
Mukina banned me for a thread and I kept off and refused to sign on a new name and tried my other handle now and it works,at least for now
What is that address again
Forum park west
Last time I lived in an apartment in this city was in 1996
I passed that stage long time ago,Jehovah lifted me higher since
No privacy was revealed at all but you can go there and look for me
If you come out with only one gun shot wound only,you thank your stars

MrRenaissance:
thank you for proving the liar wrong. She's so pained she'd to accuse me and pickabeau1of liking our posts, but forgot her posts are being liked.

You are telling loretta to call a spade, a spade? Someone whose hypocrisy stinks to high heaven due to her head is far up babymama1's asss. Babymama1 called the woman's husband a tout. Cococandy saw it, kept quiet, said nothing. She never spoke about it. Didn't call babymama1 to order. The same cococandy saw Babymama1 invade this poor woman's privacy, like a hypocrite, she NEVER spoke out. But when someone invaded babymama1's privacy, cococandy started ranting. Talking about hate and criticism. So who's now the hater and the hypocrite? So it's fair for her lord to invade someone's privacy and insult her kids and husband, but it becomes hate for another person to do the same crime her lord does? Do you see where grouse with her came from?

I've never criticised babymama or CFCfan in all my time on NL till this thread. If I'm lying, you can ask them. I was just fed up with both of them attitudes on this thread so I don't get the hate cococandy is ranting about. When I criticised CFCfan, I didn't say anything to cococandy. Though I saw her hypocrisy, I understood babymama is her E-pal and I didn't expect her to criticise her if she doesn't want to. To be honest, I wouldn't have done that if I was in her shoes. I would have responded the way Ezeed did to babymama. Another reason why I didn't attack cococany was cos I used to like her former E-personality, as someone that's opinionated and stands for the truth. So seeing her asslicking shocked me.

Now imagine my shock when I came back to this thread to see cococandy, whose parents, herself, and her village; babymama1 called USELESS now standing up with her hypocrisy when babymama's privacy was invaded. Lord knows I'd never have mentioned cococandy in my posts if she'd kept mute as well just like when babymama was invading a poor woman's privacy. My only grouse with her is her hypocrisy. If babymama can invade another person's privacy and that of her family, and she keeps quiet, why didn't she STFU when her lord was given back her own dose of bullshitt?

Her hypocrisy is akin to saying: if a man murders a guy of 25-years-old, he should be put away for 25 years; but if another man murders a 3-year-old, he'd be given a 3 years imprisonment because though it's murder, the child is 3-years-old and so the murderer should be given 3 years sentence. Do you see why her dumbness is mammoth?

Bikpnu who invaded my privacy?
Na so una dey foolish reach?
See why I said Nigerians are bush
I live in Forum park west ?
Tua!
Even my ghost won't live anywhere near there

The building was originally a bungalow before it was converted to a 2 storey building. The labourers and menial workers were trapped(about 4 of them) and sadly, all the government could provide were axes for digging. One of the trapped guy even called someone with his phone. Everybody pick shovel,axe begin dig.

This is the problem right there
They dig a foundation and pour slab for a one level house then they keep adding on to it
The landlord and the person who gave him a permit to build should be arrested and charged with manslaughter if anyone died,endangering the lives of people willfully should be the other charge

He should also look into the falling building in Lagos and find out if they were built with Dangote cement.

JUO: sub-standard materials

[size=18pt]Is it the Dangote cement or what[/size]

Chineke Mee

ChEkWaS IyKe :
Fellow NL, I don cook my own post waiting to see if it wil mk front page. If na Ini Edo or Jim Iyke cook post, it will mk front page even witout any comment. Is it bcus am not an actor or actress? On my own am a celebrity.

Thank you all for ur understanding n reading my post.

Good job
I wish many young men could learn how to cook.
Looks delicious

That was my jollof ice

This one look like she don born pikin
See her neck,evidence of good living
I see her as madam in a supermarket wey her millionaire husband open for her

These are the two prettiest IMHO
Judging from these head shots o
Natural and flawless beauties
The second girl reminds me of a youthful me

Virgin Finder:

It does!

I havent used body cream in 18 years and believe me my skin is fresher than yours.

Also, I hardly use hair cream.

@Afam
Just be yourself!

Aren't u the same guy that told us in another thread that u don't use deodorant/ anti perspirant too

tanidabi: truth is people looking for children are desperate,i've been trying to conceive for 5yrs now and i've been offered this same option.How on earth will i be pregnant and they will tell me no scan can see the baby and that i must deliver there?There are so many stolen babies in the hands of desperate parents,what i do not know is if they are aware.My family friend did the same and after my husband abused me that am not serious that so and so person is pregnant,i called them to introduce me to the doctor,lo and behold na herbal way they used,ministers in the house of God,though there's was somewhere in Ondo State,long story short,i could not sleep the night they told me,me that am anxious by default before,how will i be pregnant and no scan will see my baby,ijump am pass o,what i do not know is if they know na stolen pikin dey born or na der pikin,loads of people dey dis tin.My prayer is that they catch all of them

I pronounce the blessings of Hannah upon you
May you be blessed with children of your own
May this post here be a point of turn around for you
May your own hands carry your own children in Jesus's name
Amen