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|Politics / Re: Michael Oluwatobi Adebowale Is The 2nd Woolwich Suspect by Busy_body(f): 9:03am On May 24|
dhardline: I think i know where all this is going.By accusing Nigerians in this recent events and possible in more to come it will make the world see us as a terrorist country and hence a gradual hatred for Nigerians starts to arise around the world then they will have the full support of the world nations to invade Nigeria with their drones and armies just like they did in Iraq and other places.
Mutallab story who was on their radar yet flew across 3 continent to bomb US was not credible enough so ...
BOKKO HARAM were the Chadians and Nigeriens who fled to Nigeria when there was famine in their Country about a couple of years ago, this story was on Nairaland, and no sooner than Jonathan start millitary operation did we read on this same Nairaland that 2000 "refugees" has fled to Niger...MISSION ACCOMpLISHED... Go figure...
|Politics / Re: Micheal Adebolajo Father's House Sealed-off By Police by Busy_body(f): 11:07pm On May 23|
My first point was addressing the "oh he is Nigerian and has further soiled Nigeria's image", hence reason for the (,)comma sign, that instead he is an African Migrant.
Now my second point is also applicable to the white people as well. Every child is supposed to have an idyllic chilldhood and a safe loving home and parents who love them unconditionally, but if the rug is pulled under the child's feet or if they have never experienced this basic comfort that is their natural birthright, they encounter a rollercoaster of emotion and need lots of emotional and psychological support so thhey would not be left floundering.
Now with a male child with no positive role model, faced with parental rejection or parents too pre-occupied they tune out of their children's emotional needs, and with the unspoken rule that boys/men are not supposed to cry and take everythng on the chin, this children's self-esteem reaches rock bottom, they feel marginialised, empty, worthless, lonely, unloved, their hormones start to go into overdrive, vital neural pathways in the brain starts getting altered, they start getting depressed and start self-destructing to feel in control, so they venture out into the unknown world trying to seek validation and look for where to belong to create the family they never had, and this types of gap are easily filled by Gangs on the lookout for members, Mosques, Cults etc, looking for vulnerable people to brainwash...
...And the rest they say is history
|Politics / Re: Micheal Adebolajo Father's House Sealed-off By Police by Busy_body(f): 5:56pm On May 23|
Oops, off to go check rightaway Sirree
|Politics / Re: Micheal Adebolajo Father's House Sealed-off By Police by Busy_body(f): 4:31pm On May 23|
You just brightened my day with this post. Thanks for the comic relief
|Politics / Re: Micheal Adebolajo Father's House Sealed-off By Police by Busy_body(f): 4:19pm On May 23|
You with your naughty streak, good? Lol, I'll be in touch
frankkky: i beg to disagree,everyone has an excuse in this world,obama did not have a father figure but look at what he is today,i know many people were grew up without both parents but made something out of their lives.lets stop creating excuses where there is none,a child brought up under the watchfull eyes of both parents can still err,let GOD just take be taking care of our kids for us while we do our best
It is what it is, when the Government keep meddling and telling you how to raise your children and the man that is supposed to be the Head cannot be arsed or has been crippled by the laws skewed in favour of women, children will look elsewhere to "belong".
The percentage of people you are talking about is negligible. Black men are too selfish, self-centred and self-absorbed and need to step up to the plate or zip up! This is the same way charitable organisations are always raising money for their children in Africa
|Politics / Re: Micheal Adebolajo Father's House Sealed-off By Police by Busy_body(f): 4:08pm On May 23|
Hey Mr V, long time no hear, how are you and your old man. And how are "they"
Don't mind your yeye unpatriotic Nigerians jare with their pull-him-down mentality. All they know how to do is whinge and moan about our woes and badmouth the Country and then continue with their own criminally inclined agenda, tschewww.
|Politics / Re: Micheal Adebolajo Father's House Sealed-off By Police by Busy_body(f): 3:58pm On May 23|
Hey sugarplum, missed you loads , how ya been babe
I know how you feel, but fortunately/unfortunately, this is not deemed a Nigerian problem, but an "African Migrant" problem and a "black people" problem, centred around family and the lack of positive male role model.
|Politics / Re: Micheal Adebolajo Father's House Sealed-off By Police by Busy_body(f): 3:44pm On May 23|
Ricky_Ross: I once told someone that all Muslims have the same mentality and the person didn't believe me. From what we have gathered so far, this guy is a Yoruba guy eventhough he may be born in UK but his parents are Nigerians of Yoruba origin. In that regard, I want to know what prompted this guy to act like this? It will be more understandable if he came from Northern Nigeria. Dont get me wrong I love people from all tribes and cultures but this guys action is going to affect ALL Nigerians. I just wished he is not a Nigerian.
1) Family Breakdown. Most black males in the UK don't have a Father figure or a positive male role model to look up to!!!
2) UK government has been aware of the alarming rates Black men especially are being radicalised and forced and bullied to convert to Islam, but they bury their heads in the sand in instances like this to prevent being accused of racism. US too has this same issues...
|Family / Re: Dilemma - Candid And Honest Advice Needed by Busy_body(f): 4:45am On May 22|
pslm23: thank you all for you points and concerns. the parties involved (my cousin and her husband) will definitely read your comments and handle this issue however they best want to. all we can do is give our tots and advice. As for me, i will support her cos she has done no wrong except fall in love and even that is not a crime!
Hmmmm, my only advice is these kids have been through a lot in their short existence on earth and already from the tone of the posts, it seems the 16 year old spy is heading for Camp Gulag as punishment hence reason Dad is still in limbo as per snatching them off the Mum begging to offload them like pure water
|Family / Re: What Do I Do, I Don't Have A Supportive Family? by Busy_body(f): 4:16am On May 22|
So its just Mum alone and the rest of you children!
Mama-gee, you are human so it is your fundamental right to feel the way you do because not having a dependable background can shake our basic sense of self, but i want to congratulate you and tell you it is very brave of you to have BOLDLY stepped out of the shadows of this emotional betrayal from your parent whom are supposed to have unconditional love for us and spoken up. Many in your shoes would have succumbed to peer pressure and fallen off the wagon and would have started keeping bad companies such as joining gangs to get a sense of family, you could have latched yourself onto any random man for security and validation, but are still holding on strong, not letting anything deter you in achieving your goal, you are one strong lady who is not just aware of her strength. And inspite of all you are passing through, you are still selflessly striving to do your best and keep your head up and prevent yourself from falling through the cracks. (((Kudos to you for this)))
What sometimes helps is trying to picture yourself in that persons shoes that maybe they too could be amongst the walking wounded blighted by their childhood and might not have had the best of childhood too, hence their poor parenting skills, or it could be that being a lone parent has left them too preoccupied to tune in to your emotional need or that perhaps life didn't present them a glimpse of the template on how to be good parents, hence reason they couldn't perform up to par when life threw them the curve ball of parenthood…
So please these circumstances are beyond your control and none of it is your fault, so It is natural to feel the way you do, but don't be too hard on yourself, rise above the feeling of rejection, the rage, the insecurity, the feeling of worthlessness, the profound sense of loss, etc. You are on the cusp of adulthood yourself, you would soon graduate and get a professional job and find yourself immersed in a new world, you will soon start thinking about settling down and starting your own family, giving you have a chance to forge new relationship and get your own family. And of course feel free to let more out and pour your heart out, so you can be relieved from all these burden you have been carrying on your shoulders all these years. You can also pour out your heart to your parent as someone helpfully suggested, and hey you have us here in the family section too, we are one hella crazy, looney, cuckoo lot, but we love you babe.
|Family / Re: Dilemma - Candid And Honest Advice Needed by Busy_body(f): 2:25am On May 22|
Please quit it with the sob stories already, we have heard everyone else is to be blamed except you, heck even your 16 years old child wasn't spared in this blamegame because he committed the crime of the century by telling his Mother that his Dad was married
Now moving on swiftly, why haven't you dived in headfirst to rescue the children God gifted you from the clutch of this woman you have painted worse than the worst demon out there What are you waiting for I have read about 5 separate posts of how much you love them, besides they have all been dumped in boarding school, meaning that you would only be having them for the school hols, so whats the delay
You are the only child, you got s lady pregnant out of wedlock, she was caught cheating on you when your baby was 7 months old, this in your family is a taboo and since then your family have hated her and some of them have vehemently refused to support you marrying her! Have you ever considered whether tnis this taboo backfiring hence reason you both have been having trouble since or ould their be something diabolical behind this!!! And what do you do, you keep getting drunk and sleepwalking to her house thereby introducing 3 further innocent baby into the already heated, dangerous territory
|Family / Re: What Do I Do, I Don't Have A Supportive Family? by Busy_body(f): 2:09am On May 22|
Awwwww babe(((hugs))), do you have other siblings or has things always been like this or did you have to relocate to another Country for studies?
|Family / Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Give Up Custody Of My Little Boy, What Should I Do? by Busy_body(f): 1:24am On May 22|
*THE PRECIOUS SUBJECT MATTER IS A VERY VERY VERY VERY STILL YOUNG 3 YEARS OLD BABY
*HIS DAD CAN'T HAVE HIM BECAUSE - He was abusive to the boy's mother whilst they were together hence reason they parted ways eventually, he is in the Military and lives in an Army Barrack, so we can easily deduce that he is an unfit dad.
*HIS PATERNAL GRANDPARENTS ARE NOT COMPETENT ENOUGH TO LOOK AFTER HIM BECAUSE - According to the OP, the only time she was forced to send him to stay with them at his Dad's insistance, he came back sick, malnourished, frightened and traumatised and that was for a couple of weeks. Which begs the painful and heart-tugging question - Was it his grandparents idea to have him over or did his Dad force him on his grandparents hence the outome
*HIS MATERNAL GRANDMOTHER REFUSES TO TAKE HIM IN - Although she herself is not in good health, hence she could have used this as an excuse, but she categorically and blatantly and emphathetically said no BECAUSE she knows "whats up" aka "she knows that this is a clearut case of what the adult sees whilst sitting down matter" HENCE reason she told her daughter to take her son if she travels
*HIS MUM'S SIBLINGS AND COUSINS CAN'T HAVE HIM - because they are still young and funding their own feet too, understandably...
*HIS STEP-DAD-TO-BE DOESN'T WANT HIM yet - according to the OP, he can afford it and he would have taken the boy along if he was his son/BUT instead revels in INSISTING the boy's Mum return this too young boy to his Father's family/repeatedly berates her that she will regret it if she turns his offer down/tells her she is overly worried that her baby will be fine/tells her that travelling with her baby will scupper her chance of getting the visa/that travelling with her baby will cause unneessary hardship?blah/blah/blah/dsng he seems so sure of all these variables
*WHERE IS THE BOY'S MOTHER IN ALL THIS
All these talks of providing 3 months worth of food, bribing your mum against her consience, etc, is heart-rending to say the least, thinking about it sef is leaving me emotionally traumatised... This baby is still too young for all this in his short time on earth. You have something on the table regarding your Nigerian masters degree, which takes after that proverbial saying that states that "A bird in the hand is worth..." Cast your mind back to when you first beame a Mum, remember disovering how vulnerable one can get, seeing that we are now responsible for these tiny cute bundle of joy, but then their smiles and the way their fingers grip ours help us realise what strength we have and helps us take them to unknown depth, they beoome our main priority, our ambitions shift, and every moment with them recreates this bottomless pit of happiness, and we wanna get it right and make sure we give them the world... please think deeply whether this is the time to rock that boat now..,.
I have read your last post as well, but going back to the other posts and your boyfriend's utterances, you have supplied loads of information about him that is screaming out that "he has strong controlling tendencies", you on the other hand oozes this "too nice/eager to please" character. Wish you the best of luck, whatever you decide
|Family / Re: Please Post Your Complaints In Here : Please Get It Off Your Chest by Busy_body(f): 11:27pm On May 21|
Tgirl, why was my post addressed to ileobatojo deleted?
She called me a Christian hypocrite and i responded that i am not a christian yet and is still on the fence, that i have decided to get off the fence and since she is the perfect Christian, her mission is to win my soul for Christ Her paranoid self, jumps on me everytime I post claiming my post is addressed to her, I reminded her I only post once a month for the past year, that I have clashed with virtually everyone in this section, so why is she always shitting her pants that it is her i am talking to and what makes her special enough to think I am addressing her punk forgettable self!!!
So have you deleted my post because you don’t want me to make heaven ni?
Besides, how is my post that you removed different from yours that you left for jidegirl pleading with her to kindly get off your back
|Family / Re: Please I Need Ur Urgent Advice by Busy_body(f): 7:59am On Apr 07|
JOHN MASON: Hello nairalanders, please I need your matured advice on my marriage that is collapsing day by day,I dated a girl for good four years and during the years we were very happy building our future together with plans to have a great family in the future, but immediately after our wedding my wife became a different person, infact I can't believe what I began to experience.we weeded january and our problem started February and because I am a very patient person I called her to know why she has suddenly change and I couldn't get any good reason. She use to go and stay with my family but since after our wedding she has abandoned. My family even to call on fone, the worst of all is that she doesn't cook for me any longer nor wash my cloths as she use to do before our wedding but while dating her I started a business for her and the business has grown so big that she doesn't come back home on time sometimes 10pm or some minutes to 11 and I can't continue with this rubbish, I have tried to talk to her family but because of little money they use to get from her they refuse to confront her with the truth so please my people what will I do?, this is the fourth year of our marriage no child whenever I tell her about that she complain that the stress will be too much for her to carrying a baby up and down for now that I should wait. What have I done wrong to this sadist. I have made up my mind to divorce but I think I ve been fooled seriously. I want to revenge before we call it a day. Thanks for your matured advice in advance.
Why do you wanna revenge Why! What does that solve!!!
|Family / Re: Marriage by Busy_body(f): 7:52am On Apr 07|
Db boy: I think marriage is a selfish institution created by a woman to personally own men.What is your take on marriage let us know[/color][color=#000099]
Lips sealed# The grammar in this succinct post is too much for my pea-sized brain to comprehend, so i will pass on this one
|Family / Re: My Ex Wants Me Back ! by Busy_body(f): 7:49am On Apr 07|
Na wetin, bush small wife from the village, I am just trying to prove that I know the Bible more than Kobojunkie with her "thou shall not covet" Bible verse, and I am doing a good job and heck have done a better job than her if I may say so myself, for which I deserve to pat myself on the back
Now if you would excuse me, it's Sunday, so I'm off to go and decide whether its Church or the shopping mall on my agenda this morning
Dear Baba God, if they split my brain open now, I am 100% positive na cottage cheese go full the place, hence reason for my permanent penthouse in yabaleft, but who am I to complain, you are the "I AM THAT I AM, AND YOU HAVE MADE EVERYTHING BEAUTiFUL IN YOUR TIME OR IS IT SIGHT
|Nairaland / General / Re: Women Help Me: I Know I Can Invest In My Children's Lives. by Busy_body(f): 6:48am On Apr 07|
Last warning, I have trademarked and patented this busy_body name, and no one is allowed to use it on Nairaland without my express permission, otherwise I will sue Seun oh
Okay seriously Jidegirl, whats this latest one about? Cos all I remember is that time of your first post in the family section and there was that clash about sperm/towel/baby/etc, so what's this latest one with Jenny all about?
And hey, I saw somewhere you were called a bully, hey you might have a naughty streak but you are not a bully, unlike the person accusing you, who loves nothing more than throwing their fellow ladies "under the bus" under the guise of "difference of opinions"... but it is well sha, God dey...
|Nairaland / General / Re: Women Help Me: I Know I Can Invest In My Children's Lives. by Busy_body(f): 6:34am On Apr 07|
jennykadry: My fellow women I need prayers...... I need serious prayers and I need you's to join me in prayers.
Hehehe, it's times like this me see dey confuse say Jennykadry is Busy_body But I have learnt to embrace my flaws and weakness, after all God still loves me the way I am
So It's no biggie, we only live once, so if that is the way you wanna indulge yourself, go right ahead. Some people waste their money on cigarettes, drinks, women, gambling, etc. Just make sure you invest in quality top end designer gears, which in future can be an asset and you can sell off as "vintages". And the fact is you can sell them for more than you pay for them too, so it's a shrewd investment which is a win win situation all round
|Family / Re: Are Most Women Emotionally Selfish? by Busy_body(f): 6:25am On Apr 07|
As far as Tunde and Wumi's case is concerned, something might have happened to trigger the onset of Wumi's decline into that pathetic state...
As for the rest of your post, it's mainly due to the ways people have been raised these days... For the male of the Nigerian specie, it's about getting money from "anywhere", otherwise you cannot put a ring on "anything", and as for the females, it's about getting that ring from "anywhere", at all cost... So there is no longer any need for careful research or due diligence, because everyone is in a race to "belong"
So what you deem "selfish" is infact "preventative measures or buffer", which is used as a cushioning effect by ladies for the future, in case their needs to be a safe-landing of some sorts...
|Family / Re: Single Parenting, Love, Life And Career. by Busy_body(f): 5:58am On Apr 07|
Wow, such amazing eye-opening tales, kudos all round.(((hugs)))
#gulps whilst sobbing genuinely#So this is what it feels like huh, awwww, no wonder he wants me dead sometimes, well I better get in there first since the race is to the swift Death certificate thingz on ma mind
|Family / Re: I Beg You's To Join Me in Praising and thanking God by Busy_body(f): 5:50am On Apr 07|
Na wah, what will I not see on Nairaland ehn kwa, dem tell Jennykadry of yabaleft say she is still a novice who has only been riding a bicycle for 34 days, and that she should still keep the training wheels on her 3-wheel bicycle until she has learnt how to balance properly, but she dey do strong head, now she fell off her bike, we no fit hear word again
Okay seriously, Whatever your lot, God has taught you to say IT IS WELL WITH YOUR SOUL. You shall live to proclaim the name of our Lord God, amen.
But please tell me your back is out of action for a year so that I can have Vitamin Saga all to myself, finally
|Fashion / Re: Victoria Oke Is Philipines' Miss Dinagyang 2013 by Busy_body(f): 7:25pm On Feb 02|
Tsk, tsk, tsk, doubling up and crumbling to the floor in laughter
|Business / Re: List Of Known Scammers On Nairaland. Pls Beware! by Busy_body(f): 5:21pm On Feb 02|
|Family / Re: I feel Cheated by Busy_body(f): 3:57pm On Feb 02|
If you can be bothered to read what i wrote again after you have calmed down, you would see that I wasn't talking about "you" nor "speaking" against you...
|Family / Re: Please Post Your Complaints In Here : Please Get It Off Your Chest by Busy_body(f): 3:45pm On Feb 02|
I have never been wrong about anyone's sex before, even now, this username is always in the sports section and can write a book on the most boring football team in the world Man united... yeah its a man, my eyesight's not playing up again, and nah i don't need goggles yet Happy new year Sir Mikuna2
|Family / Re: Please Post Your Complaints In Here : Please Get It Off Your Chest by Busy_body(f): 2:03pm On Feb 02|
Ok, now i know why "that" thread was closed.
|Family / Re: I feel Cheated by Busy_body(f): 2:00pm On Feb 02|
Hmmm, watching the thread in 4D motion, sifting through the chaffs and sorting the hunted's from the hunters
Back to the "other thread" again to check if it is really Chaircover and Greatgod2012............
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