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JOHN MASON: Hello nairalanders, please I need your matured advice on my marriage that is collapsing day by day,I dated a girl for good four years and during the years we were very happy building our future together with plans to have a great family in the future, but immediately after our wedding my wife became a different person, infact I can't believe what I began to experience.we weeded january and our problem started February and because I am a very patient person I called her to know why she has suddenly change and I couldn't get any good reason. She use to go and stay with my family but since after our wedding she has abandoned. My family even to call on fone, the worst of all is that she doesn't cook for me any longer nor wash my cloths as she use to do before our wedding but while dating her I started a business for her and the business has grown so big that she doesn't come back home on time sometimes 10pm or some minutes to 11 and I can't continue with this rubbish, I have tried to talk to her family but because of little money they use to get from her they refuse to confront her with the truth so please my people what will I do?, this is the fourth year of our marriage no child whenever I tell her about that she complain that the stress will be too much for her to carrying a baby up and down for now that I should wait. What have I done wrong to this sadist. I have made up my mind to divorce but I think I ve been fooled seriously. I want to revenge before we call it a day. Thanks for your matured advice in advance.

Why do you wanna revenge Why! What does that solve!!!

Db boy: I think marriage is a selfish institution created by a woman to personally own men.What is your take on marriage let us know[/color][color=#000099]

Lips sealed# The grammar in this succinct post is too much for my pea-sized brain to comprehend, so i will pass on this one

Efemena_xy: hmmm...

Na wetin, bush small wife from the village, I am just trying to prove that I know the Bible more than Kobojunkie with her "thou shall not covet" Bible verse, and I am doing a good job and heck have done a better job than her if I may say so myself, for which I deserve to pat myself on the back


Now if you would excuse me, it's Sunday, so I'm off to go and decide whether its Church or the shopping mall on my agenda this morning










Dear Baba God, if they split my brain open now, I am 100% positive na cottage cheese go full the place, hence reason for my permanent penthouse in yabaleft, but who am I to complain, you are the "I AM THAT I AM, AND YOU HAVE MADE EVERYTHING BEAUTiFUL IN YOUR TIME OR IS IT SIGHT

jidegirl12:

^^ sands and ashes

A simple case of an attention seeking rude busy body trying too hard to be noticed at all cost.

* help her thank Gawd in an accident that happened miles away Gawd knows how
* now help her call Suzie Orman spend her $650k / annum claimed salary
*next will be to help her wash her trasy mouth

Last warning, I have trademarked and patented this busy_body name, and no one is allowed to use it on Nairaland without my express permission, otherwise I will sue Seun oh


Okay seriously Jidegirl, whats this latest one about? Cos all I remember is that time of your first post in the family section and there was that clash about sperm/towel/baby/etc, so what's this latest one with Jenny all about?


And hey, I saw somewhere you were called a bully, hey you might have a naughty streak but you are not a bully, unlike the person accusing you, who loves nothing more than throwing their fellow ladies "under the bus" under the guise of "difference of opinions"... but it is well sha, God dey...

jennykadry: My fellow women I need prayers...... I need serious prayers and I need you's to join me in prayers.

I have this fetish for clothes, bags and shoes, I have list count of how many shoes and bags I have. I gave not repeated a piece of cloth and shoes in over a year and I can go for another year without repeating shoes or clothes. My hubby only lasted as a therapist for a few days until we went shopping together and he was admiring some clothes and to me there would look good on me and before We could say jack Robinson we chattered bags full of clothes, bags and shoes. That was the day his therapist work ended.

I invest a lot on my kids and I know I could use these money and invest some more. I am considering freezing my card but hubby's would be "unfrozen" and I won't be held responsible for an empty account.

Help me ooo

Hehehe, it's times like this me see dey confuse say Jennykadry is Busy_body But I have learnt to embrace my flaws and weakness, after all God still loves me the way I am


So It's no biggie, we only live once, so if that is the way you wanna indulge yourself, go right ahead. Some people waste their money on cigarettes, drinks, women, gambling, etc. Just make sure you invest in quality top end designer gears, which in future can be an asset and you can sell off as "vintages". And the fact is you can sell them for more than you pay for them too, so it's a shrewd investment which is a win win situation all round

As far as Tunde and Wumi's case is concerned, something might have happened to trigger the onset of Wumi's decline into that pathetic state...


As for the rest of your post, it's mainly due to the ways people have been raised these days... For the male of the Nigerian specie, it's about getting money from "anywhere", otherwise you cannot put a ring on "anything", and as for the females, it's about getting that ring from "anywhere", at all cost... So there is no longer any need for careful research or due diligence, because everyone is in a race to "belong"



So what you deem "selfish" is infact "preventative measures or buffer", which is used as a cushioning effect by ladies for the future, in case their needs to be a safe-landing of some sorts...

Wow, such amazing eye-opening tales, kudos all round.(((hugs)))










#gulps whilst sobbing genuinely#So this is what it feels like huh, awwww, no wonder he wants me dead sometimes, well I better get in there first since the race is to the swift Death certificate thingz on ma mind

Na wah, what will I not see on Nairaland ehn kwa, dem tell Jennykadry of yabaleft say she is still a novice who has only been riding a bicycle for 34 days, and that she should still keep the training wheels on her 3-wheel bicycle until she has learnt how to balance properly, but she dey do strong head, now she fell off her bike, we no fit hear word again


Okay seriously, Whatever your lot, God has taught you to say IT IS WELL WITH YOUR SOUL. You shall live to proclaim the name of our Lord God, amen.


But please tell me your back is out of action for a year so that I can have Vitamin Saga all to myself, finally

aishatua1:

You guys will claim anything.

saxywale:
u never see anything...

Tsk, tsk, tsk, doubling up and crumbling to the floor in laughter

SPAMBOT

greatgod2012:


and which thread is that?
I cant eat up my words, i mean what i wrote here and i wrote what i mean. I, personally dont subscribe to receiving anything from a boyfriend(not husband), so, i cant feel bad if he doesnt buy me anything.
Well, maybe because i never found myself in op's situation, i never see any reason for complaining dt my Bf didnt buy something 4 me, which even if he did, i wouldnt collect. So, to me, no big deal.



@somebody, i wish to know dt other thread that i've been inconsistent. Thanks.



P. S........... Im not used to argument on a thread, i just post my comment and move away or betterstill read other pple's comments, perhaps i will have something to learn therein, but i just need to reply this particular one.
Shalom!

If you can be bothered to read what i wrote again after you have calmed down, you would see that I wasn't talking about "you" nor "speaking" against you...

^^^ Man


I have never been wrong about anyone's sex before, even now, this username is always in the sports section and can write a book on the most boring football team in the world Man united... yeah its a man, my eyesight's not playing up again, and nah i don't need goggles yet Happy new year Sir Mikuna2

Ok, now i know why "that" thread was closed.

Hmmm, watching the thread in 4D motion, sifting through the chaffs and sorting the hunted's from the hunters

Back to the "other thread" again to check if it is really Chaircover and Greatgod2012............

Dem don come oh, you pipu nor dey tire to read/write epistles ni

Dunno why peeps can't just learn to write two-five lines like myself, Stillwater, Armyofone, for example

@ OP

I can't even stand someone being genuinely bullied on-line or off-line, without stepping in to defend the person... And before intervening, i do my homework well so that I would not fall for the wiles of timewasting "two-faced selfproclaimed victims" who cries wolf as illustrated in this post below:-

stillwater:
In NL, this is just a case of fragile egos clashing.
I don't even know how two people cursing themselves and tearing each other apart on NL; and one of the fighters would deem it fit to call the other person a bully?
So with all the braggadocio throughout the squabble, somebody was able to bully you? lmao. Now that is funny! Ehen?

I would think say na people like us wey no dey like fight go dey feel threatened or bullied. Lmao.

stillwater:

Busybody stop bullying me o. This is 2013

Ha, but why are you this wicked Bullying Stillwater was number one on my new year resolution, now you are telling me to stop, so what am I gonna do for fun instead

stillwater:
Happy New year to you too.

((((((Hugs))))))

Anyway, next time I see someone crying wolf on NL, this quote is what I am gonna put up

stillwater:
In NL, this is just a case of fragile egos clashing.
I don't even know how two people cursing themselves and tearing each other apart on NL; and one of the fighters would deem it fit to call the other person a bully?
So with all the braggadocio throughout the squabble, somebody was able to bully you? lmao. Now that is funny! Ehen?

I would think say na people like us wey no dey like fight go dey feel threatened or bullied. Lmao.

El classico. See irony o, see wisdom never seen since the years of King Solomon. God bless you Stillwarra. May your fountain of wisdom never run dry.

.

What's the set criteria for getting threads locked on NL!!!

Cos it seems like its the people who screams wolf the loudest, who gets the upperhand and sympathy these days

OMO IBO: Yo threadstarter, is your grieviance towards him because of his insensitivity or the gadgets he bought himself?

Be honest ma'am

Exactly.

Ma'am, come and answer this in addition to the wise questions raised in Chaircover's post!!!

jennykadry:

Abeg don't mention my name. So this is the happy New Year message I should be getting eh kwa? Thank your stars for sagamite who is calming me down right now

My Sagalicious bebe is well trained. Valentine day whereby myself and him have vowed to only be with each other for 72 hours straight in our mud hut with us laying side by side and him romantically naming stars and galaxies after me, is still a fortnight away and my darling Sagamite has already broken the good news to Jenny the second wife to stay behind in the farm tending to the goats, hence reason he is calming her down.

What a tender, loving gentleman my Sagalollipops is, awww

stillwater: Busybody in the building! I'm sure you have finally passed your English 101 class.

U wan try am ni, infact I passed up to English 7011 stage, but the examiners felt I would be oppressing people like you, too much hence reason I only did up to stage 7.

I understand where that emphathetic Examiner is coming from sha, what with you scheduled to sit the same English 101 paper for the 23rd time and I finished mine in 4 seconds and scored 110%. I was that good

Happy new year babe and hey, once again I wish you good luck in your English test

debrief08: And Ivynwa, I am yet to see a more unforgiving person. Several efforts have been made to settle the issue whatever it is between You, Jenny and BusyBody.
But it is always met with a brickwall, somehow we expect people not to expresss themselves while we freely do so and accuse them because they are married, any response is regarded as bullying because of their marital status.
It seems like you wait for threads like this so we could go back to " They are bullies" mode.
I don't think even you can remember the initial cause of your fight.
If I can remember it was Perx, Busybody came and gave advise based on her own experience she was attacked for being "unsympathetic", from then it was a free for all "she is wicked" bashing, even when Perx Died she was still hounded I remember the thread where both her and Jenny were soundly insulted for 3 pages on that issue.
Busy Body can be very strong with her points, take what is beneficial and ignore the rest, she and I severally disagree, severally, but one thread we are fighting one we are hugging.

Not to boost but me and Mac have one of the healithest beefs on Nairaland, I don't like the personality he has onlibe he doesn't like mine, but we don't go from thread to thread watching out for what each will say to attack and solidify our beef, sometimes we agree sometimes we disagree, he has never insulted me, I have never done same.
This your issue with "Bullies" Ivynwa is over 2 years, 2 new years have passed, let it go.
Deal with issues online on day to day basis.
In fairness to Jenny she has really calmed down, busybody doesn't even come on line anymore.

Brb too

debrief08: I am sorry Jide, I know this will provoke a backlog thankfully I won't be here to hear it all.
The truth is no one bullies you. You go through a post, see someones response you don't agree with, tear down their posts and personality when they respond same way you attacked them it becomes bullying.
Its bullying only when its done to you and not when you do it to someone else.
I am sure if I had replied you half of what you have said to me in like wise I will be among your list of bullies.
On one thread you not only tore me down for sharing my household working formular but insulted my husband if I had responded using the F words you use when people speak of your family you would have screamed bully.

So what gives you the right to do to others what you don't want to be done to you? Did I ever mention your family or attack you to warrant a "fightback"? You took that same thing to another thread till I called you out.
Let's come to Victoria, You throughly abused her for disagreeing with your point on independent women.
Even though I also disagreed with her I found your attack on her disheartening even to the point of dragging off old posts to insult her.
She ignored you and you continued, what is that called?

You don't insult people the way you feel or speak rudely to them and when they respond shout bullying.
Check yourself Madam, See how countlessly you provoke Tgirl, when she asks you say "its a joke" you accuse her of all sorts, even when she has no banning powers, everything is her fault.
When she denies you use style to call her a liar, you tease her endlessly if taunting is not bullying please tell me what is?

I believe that others are being bullied but not you abeg. You are infact the bully.
I don run

This is wrong.

Tomorrow is another day.

Since he is getting you a 2013 Range Rover evoque this Christmas, why don't you get him a matching more eye-wateringly expensive Range Rover Westminister this Valentine to prove you love him more.

Healthy competition in a relationship is good afterall

Richvkunt: @OP,
Happy new year.
Why not help him pay some of the bills around the house,he just might appreciate it.
Cheers and please I come in peace as usual oooo!.

Ever the perfect "gentle"man, that you can set your watch by him