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|Literature/Writing / Re: Man Wey Dey Reason by chioma134: 5:55pm On Jun 17|
I've finally caught up with you guys after almost one week after I stumbled on this thread,and I must confess it has been very entertaining.@Flow,your story is captivating and I say more grease to your elbows. Let me run along to start reading the barrack boy thread.
|Family / Re: Gone But Not Forgotten Tribute To Baby B by chioma134: 12:39pm On Jun 02|
@op,be comforted with the comfort of the Holy Spirit. And to the rest of us,may we never bury our children.Amen.
|Business / Re: Hidden Truths About Catfish Business!!! by chioma134: 8:08pm On Jun 01|
Very interesting thread. Thumbs up to robinski,excelsior,abi,aquatic etc. Though I don't have a farm now,I'm keeping this thread bookmarked for future purposes.
|Food / Re: Adulteration Of Food Items In Nigerian Markets by chioma134: 1:33am On Jun 01|
blinksluv:Kai!!! No wonder! Virtually all the oil I use these days do not change colour no matter how long I try to bleach it. God have mercy on us.
|Politics / Re: 19 Govs Shun Jang NGF Faction’s Meeting by chioma134: 12:08pm On May 31|
I'm loving this game of chess Jonathan,carry on. GEJ is very intelligent. His enemy was becoming too powerful for comfort. What better way to curb the NGF's self-appropriated illegal powers than to use divide-and-rule tactics. Oga GEJ, I throway salute ooo.
|Family / Re: I'm Not Comfortable With My Househelp by chioma134: 10:30pm On May 20|
cotton101: i'm a bit confused - she has stayed with you for 2 weeks and is not helping with the baby? so why is she is your house?Thanks,dear.
|Family / Re: I'm Not Comfortable With My Househelp by chioma134: 10:20pm On May 20|
markus007: @OP, I seem to have a bit of experience in interpreting dreams. Dreams are one of the ways God uses in communicating to His Beloved. Check the stories of Joseph, Job, Daniel to mention but a few. Those dreams you had were not jokes (early warning signals), once u see a bird in your dream, it signifies witchcraft and dog symbolises a spirit of immorality. Am not saying this to scare u but to let you act as fast as you can to prayerfully ( with actions though) release that woman to go on her way. People who haven't experience LIFE will say you are paranoid. I pray they don't.Really? I think I should thread carefully here.Thanks for the interpretation.I'll be more prayerful from now on.
|Family / Re: I'm Not Comfortable With My Househelp by chioma134: 9:28pm On May 20|
missojugo: My Sister pls pls and pls you are not paranoid. You don't need Holy Spirit to slap you first before you send her packing! Please give her a full months pay and send her back to her parents tomorrow!!! Take your baby to a good Creche when you resume work I beg you. A word is enough for the wise. How can ask someone whose own kids died mysteriously to help you take care of your child?? Its. Good to help others so give her a full months salary and pray for her. That's allI didn't know her history until she came. All my negotiations prior to that were with her aunty.
I think I'll take all your advice and send her away. I don't want to be sorry.
@Sisikill,I was prepared to give her a fair chance with all her faults,hoping she'll get better,but the uneasy feeling makes me want to send her packing immediately.
@All,thanks for your contributions.
|Family / I'm Not Comfortable With My Househelp by chioma134: 6:47pm On May 20|
You may say I'm being paranoid,but at least hear me out. I think I need spiritually sound christians to advise me correctly.
I got a new househelp recently cos I needed help after I delivered about 6 weeks ago. The problem is that I'm not very comfortable with her. The night b4 she came,I dreamt of an evil bird that flew into our home. 2 days later,I dreamt of a predatory dog that came into our house at night.I don't usually dream such dreams. Yesterday,a cat we don't know where it came from was heard crying in the engine of our car just bought 3 days ago. The cat was found and ran out.
As soon as I set my eyes on her as she stepped out of d car when my husband brought her for the first time,I had an uneasy feeling. Maybe because of my dream the previous night,I don't know. I had actually prayed dt morning for God to stop her from coming if she was not d right person,but here she was already in my house.
On interacting with her,I learnt she is a 30yr old lady,married but separated from her husband. Had 6 children,with only 2 surviving. Her parents told her to leave her husband becos they believed that her husband's 2nd wife was the cause of her children's deaths. Her husband took another wife because her children were dying. She got married 12yrs ago. Due to circumstances,she decided to do d job of a househelp to support herself. She left her children in d care of her parents.
Because she is older,I expected her to be responsible,so I gave her a free hand in my house. But she is misusing it. When I'm bathing my baby or cooking,instead of coming to help,she sits in d parlour watching tv. When visitors come,instead of her to leave the parlour,she sits tight. Does not tell me thank you after eating. Does not do anything unless she is told. She has been with me for 2 weeks,but has not changed baby's diapers once,talkless of bathing her. She just called me now as I was typing this to come and change baby's pampers. And I've shown her countless times how to do it. And I don't like the way she walks into my room uninvited. You would have thought that a married woman would know better.
Funny enough,my husband's relative living with us is more hardworking than she is. The girl even does some of the chores I send the new help out of respect for her. I only needed another person cos she is still in secondary school,and I needed someone to help me since I'm also studying for my forthcoming exams in my masters program. Also I need someone to take care of my baby when I resume from maternity leave. Right now,I can categorically say she is a liability to me,unless she improves.
The bottom-line is I'm not just comfortable with her. What do I do? Mature advice only.
|Family / Re: Will You Wash Your Husband's Cloths? by chioma134: 6:21pm On May 18|
Nothing wrong with washing ur spouse's clothes. I wash for my husband,he also washes for me. Infact,he does most of d washing,anyway. But I have a problem with this poster for d way you put it. Your wife is not your slave. Don't say my wife must wash for me,it's not by force but borne out of love.
I know a woman whose husband went about the neighbourhood complaining that she refuses to wash his clothes. But d man was jobless,and did absolutely no chores in d home,and waited to be served by a woman who slaved all day at work to provide for d family,and then came home to take care of little kids,with no househelp. Was it too much a task for the man to at least wash his own clothes? I tire for African men.
|Family / Re: How Do I Tell My Husband by chioma134: 4:14am On May 16|
@poster,what is most important is what you want,not what ur father or ur husband wants. If u really want to go back to school,don't allow anyone stop u. Marriage is not slavery. Get a job,save money and sponsor urself. U'll look back in years to come and thank God u decided to take the bull by the horns at d time u did.
I was in a similar situation,except dt my husband supported d idea initially,but when it was time for school fees,he acted disinterested. I nearly forfeited my admission cos I didn't have money,but on d day of d deadline for payment,I made one half-hearted call to my sister who wired d money asap,and I payed. I don't regret d decision,and now my husband is trying to make amends for not helping(he had money then). So,op,follow ur heart.
|Family / Re: Is This What Is Called Marriage? by chioma134: 12:54am On May 12|
Op,I don't think divorce is the right option for now. I think the lawyer is right,you have not fully explored all other options. You vowed to be with her for better for worse,and this is the worse. I'm glad to know you are a christian. Pray,pray and pray again for her. However,stand your ground on your decision not to give anything to your father in-law,and never let her come between you and your family. This is your cross,carry it. God's grace will see you through.
|Politics / Re: Which City In Nigeria Is The Most Cosmopolitan? by chioma134: 4:43pm On May 05|
Abuja,because everyone can feel at home.Lagos too,after Abuja.
|Family / Re: Her Daughter Is Ss&her Husband Is AA. by chioma134: 12:04am On May 05|
Life's funny. Know a man who brought his daughter to the hospital,a 25yr old female. She was very anaemic and needed a blood transfusion. Father went to donate blood,and in the process it was discovered the girl was AB+ while father was O+,meaning he couldn't have fathered her. The man was too weak to talk.
|Health / Re: Should Non-doctors Head health Institutions? by chioma134: 12:38pm On May 01|
All hospitals have a Director of Admin who heads d admin dept and in some cases is as powerful if not more powerful than d CMD. There is no need for the CMD to be a certified adminstrator in this current structure as it will merely duplicate the roles. If a nurse for example heads d hospital,what title will they bear? Chief Nursing Officer? This fight is pure politics in my opinion.
|Computers / Re: Huawei USB Modem Unlocker - Download Here! by chioma134: 1:40pm On Apr 22|
femi4: CDMA doesnt have imeiDoes it mean I can't unlock my modem?
|Computers / Re: Huawei USB Modem Unlocker - Download Here! by chioma134: 10:01am On Apr 22|
This is a great thread,guys. Pls keep it up. I need to unlock my starcomms modem asap.
I can't find any IMEI no.
|Computers / Re: Huawei USB Modem Unlocker - Download Here! by chioma134: 9:48am On Apr 22|
This is a great thread,guys. Pls keep it up. I need to unlock my starcomms modem.
I can't find any IMEI no.
|Romance / Re: I'm In Love With My Girlfriend, But The Bride Price Is Just Too Much by chioma134: 5:39pm On Apr 16|
Sacluxpaint: Most imo natives demand high bride price, I am from mbaise, our own is very expensive.You might even pay almost 10M sef. Marrying from wheRe I come from is not pure water.Liar! My younger brother married from Mbaise November 2012. The parents did not collect a dime as bride price.
|Romance / Re: I'm In Love With My Girlfriend, But The Bride Price Is Just Too Much by chioma134: 1:56pm On Apr 16|
henryskywalker2003:You're a big liar. Everything u wrote is based on assumptions. I can categorically state that nowhere in Imo collects up to 1million as bride price. These days,suitors are only asked to bring the listed items which cost btw 400-500k at most. Bride price is at d discretn of d parents,and many forego it, unless they don't like d suitor and want to chase him away. I've seen it happen even in Anambra.
|Family / Re: Thinking On Giving My Baby Up For Adoption. Does That Make Me A Terrible Mom? by chioma134: 8:50am On Apr 04|
@lovemychild,pls ask d mod to contact me for my email address. Hope u're doing well. Remain blessed.
|Literature/Writing / Re: The One Who Awaits by chioma134: 9:11am On Apr 01|
@repogirl,I want to say u're good. Started reading this thread last nite around 10pm and couldn't go to bed till around 2am. Completed it this morning. Keep it up and keep them coming. Although obviously fiction as some of ur xters were just too perfect,it was still captivating.
|Family / Re: Mothers In The House,pls How Can One Cut Down On Cost. by chioma134: 4:07pm On Mar 27|
@poster,I feel u. I'm in d same shoes with u. And d funny thing is I'm not d extravagant type. I don't shop in malls or boutiques but in d markets,with enough haggling. I don't wear expensive clothes,my only gold earrings were bought over 2yrs ago. I don't use expensive perfumes. Same with my husband. I think Abuja is a very expensive place to live in. After all the measures taken to cut down costs, little or no savings is achieved. My husband and I have been trying to save 4 a car since we lost our car in a near fatal accident 6 months ago, but as at now,we've not been able to save 100k. I had to prepare a budget for next month cos we're expecting a baby in less than 3wks,but unforseen events have already used up d savings planned. And this is a family with total income of about 400k monthly after loan deductions. Pls anyone with tips on saving money dt will work should feel free to share.
|Family / Re: Thinking On Giving My Baby Up For Adoption. Does That Make Me A Terrible Mom? by chioma134: 11:08am On Mar 27|
@poster,I saw this post yesterday but decided to wait for d outcome of ur visit b4 commenting. Pls consider the ff advice.
1. Inform ur family about ur plan. U may be surprised,but they'll likely kick against adoption. If they don't,or are indifferent,
2. Look for the father's parents/family and inform them of ur plan. I believe they'd want u to keep d baby,once they're sure their son fathered him. At least,I know my own parents would do all they can to support,and can even take care of d baby if u can't.
3. If no help is forthcoming from the above, try to take up all d offers of help u've received in this forum. I'm against giving up a child in its 1st year,so try to breastfeed and bond with ur baby,at least for one year. Defer whatever program u're involved in for this period,cos taking care of a baby alone is a full time job. After the 1st year,if no help is forthcoming, u can send d baby to an orphanage for care and visit regularly while u work. When u are able to stand on ur feet again,go back and collect ur baby.
4. Above all,commit everything to God in prayers. He's a God of surprises,and will provide all u'll ever need.
5. Forgive the father,and move on with ur life. I'm sure he'll come back for d child in future,but don't go back to him cos he's not man enough.
6. Don't worry,u'll still find a man worthy of u to settle down with in future. I know many people who had children out of wedlock,but are happily married today.
NB: I wouldn't mind sending u a token monthly to help with u n ur baby's needs. Just let us know which decision u finally make. God's grace.
|Politics / Re: Four-yr-old Twins Suffocate To Death Inside Car In Aba by chioma134: 8:30pm On Mar 21|
PDPwayoo: Yeye fowl wen dey lay yeye egg = Yeye parents wen dey born yeye pikins........May God forgive you.
|Family / Re: My Story- I Came, I Saw And How It Ended by chioma134: 4:13pm On Mar 17|
Congrats,dear. I'm really happy for u. God is faithful.
|Family / Re: Happy Mother's Day To All Nairalanders by chioma134: 8:43am On Mar 10|
Happy mothers'day,first to the strongest woman I know,my mother,to my mother in-law,and to all mothers out there. May God bless u all real good.
|Family / Re: Is She Married??? by chioma134: 12:20pm On Mar 09|
pls those who know should explain further. I have an Anglican marriage certificate,and one day I went to do something in court. I made enquiries about registry marriage and was told I did not need it since I already wedded in one of d recognized churches. However,I'm still confused. Why don't I need it?
|Family / Re: Divorcing...need Ur Advice Desperately by chioma134: 10:54am On Feb 20|
I've never said this b4,but something seems off about this story. If true,op,I'd like to ask u how u can still be sleeping with him when he wants to divorce u. And if u still love him and don't want to lose him, u might as well give him another son. Hope this is not superstory.
|Politics / Re: Civil Servant Eating Amala And Fish While On Duty At Lagos High Court by chioma134: 8:34am On Jan 30|
2 days ago, I was on duty in the emergency. I went to work early and didn't have time to eat. I also had to attend antenatal,run some tests etc cos I'm pregnant. I planned to have breakfast at d canteen when I was done b4 returning to emergency. But as I was passing by,I saw 2 emergencies being brought in. That meant I couldn't eat afterall. So I bought meatpie,took it to my desk,and started taking history while eating with one hand. One of d relations was looking at me absurdly and typing away on his phone,but I no send am. Abi they want me to collapse b4 they know man must wack. I must admit it was my 1st time of doing that,but I had no choice. Would it have been better to have them all wait while I spend 30mins or more at d canteen? No be me say make govt no employ more hands.
|Family / Re: Wife Dies After Family Refused Blood Transfusion by chioma134: 2:15pm On Jan 08|
This is what happened. Wife rejected blood transfusion while still conscious. Later became unconscious. Husband signed a letter authorizing transfusion. But wife's relatives refused,saying he had no right. Her next of kin was their 2yr old baby who could not take that decision. Woman died while they were still arguing.
|Health / Re: Abuja Private Hospital Records First Successful Kidney Transplant by chioma134: 9:47am On Dec 21, 2012|
I'm happy for this development. The name and description sounds like that of one of our patients. If he is the one,I'm really glad for him.
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