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I've finally caught up with you guys after almost one week after I stumbled on this thread,and I must confess it has been very entertaining.@Flow,your story is captivating and I say more grease to your elbows. Let me run along to start reading the barrack boy thread.

@op,be comforted with the comfort of the Holy Spirit. And to the rest of us,may we never bury our children.Amen.

Very interesting thread. Thumbs up to robinski,excelsior,abi,aquatic etc. Though I don't have a farm now,I'm keeping this thread bookmarked for future purposes.

blinksluv:
Back in Elele Rivers state, mum was into palm oil milling business, the women that come to buy the processed palm oil come with some kind of colourant which they add to the oil. There is an easy way of identifying such palm oil, you simply heat up the oil(bleach), an adultrated one will not turn whitish no matter how long U̶̲̥̅ heat it, because of the added colourant.

Kai!!! No wonder! Virtually all the oil I use these days do not change colour no matter how long I try to bleach it. God have mercy on us.

I'm loving this game of chess Jonathan,carry on. GEJ is very intelligent. His enemy was becoming too powerful for comfort. What better way to curb the NGF's self-appropriated illegal powers than to use divide-and-rule tactics. Oga GEJ, I throway salute ooo.

cotton101: i'm a bit confused - she has stayed with you for 2 weeks and is not helping with the baby? so why is she is your house?

look if i hired someone to help me yet they are giving me headache they would have received their P45 by now. Poster please send this woman home before she sets he sights on other things in your home.

congrats on your baby by the way!

Thanks,dear.

markus007: @OP, I seem to have a bit of experience in interpreting dreams. Dreams are one of the ways God uses in communicating to His Beloved. Check the stories of Joseph, Job, Daniel to mention but a few. Those dreams you had were not jokes (early warning signals), once u see a bird in your dream, it signifies witchcraft and dog symbolises a spirit of immorality. Am not saying this to scare u but to let you act as fast as you can to prayerfully ( with actions though) release that woman to go on her way. People who haven't experience LIFE will say you are paranoid. I pray they don't.

Really? I think I should thread carefully here.Thanks for the interpretation.I'll be more prayerful from now on.

missojugo: My Sister pls pls and pls you are not paranoid. You don't need Holy Spirit to slap you first before you send her packing! Please give her a full months pay and send her back to her parents tomorrow!!! Take your baby to a good Creche when you resume work I beg you. A word is enough for the wise. How can ask someone whose own kids died mysteriously to help you take care of your child?? Its. Good to help others so give her a full months salary and pray for her. That's all

I didn't know her history until she came. All my negotiations prior to that were with her aunty.
I think I'll take all your advice and send her away. I don't want to be sorry.
@Sisikill,I was prepared to give her a fair chance with all her faults,hoping she'll get better,but the uneasy feeling makes me want to send her packing immediately.
@All,thanks for your contributions.

You may say I'm being paranoid,but at least hear me out. I think I need spiritually sound christians to advise me correctly.
I got a new househelp recently cos I needed help after I delivered about 6 weeks ago. The problem is that I'm not very comfortable with her. The night b4 she came,I dreamt of an evil bird that flew into our home. 2 days later,I dreamt of a predatory dog that came into our house at night.I don't usually dream such dreams. Yesterday,a cat we don't know where it came from was heard crying in the engine of our car just bought 3 days ago. The cat was found and ran out.
As soon as I set my eyes on her as she stepped out of d car when my husband brought her for the first time,I had an uneasy feeling. Maybe because of my dream the previous night,I don't know. I had actually prayed dt morning for God to stop her from coming if she was not d right person,but here she was already in my house.
On interacting with her,I learnt she is a 30yr old lady,married but separated from her husband. Had 6 children,with only 2 surviving. Her parents told her to leave her husband becos they believed that her husband's 2nd wife was the cause of her children's deaths. Her husband took another wife because her children were dying. She got married 12yrs ago. Due to circumstances,she decided to do d job of a househelp to support herself. She left her children in d care of her parents.
Because she is older,I expected her to be responsible,so I gave her a free hand in my house. But she is misusing it. When I'm bathing my baby or cooking,instead of coming to help,she sits in d parlour watching tv. When visitors come,instead of her to leave the parlour,she sits tight. Does not tell me thank you after eating. Does not do anything unless she is told. She has been with me for 2 weeks,but has not changed baby's diapers once,talkless of bathing her. She just called me now as I was typing this to come and change baby's pampers. And I've shown her countless times how to do it. And I don't like the way she walks into my room uninvited. You would have thought that a married woman would know better.
Funny enough,my husband's relative living with us is more hardworking than she is. The girl even does some of the chores I send the new help out of respect for her. I only needed another person cos she is still in secondary school,and I needed someone to help me since I'm also studying for my forthcoming exams in my masters program. Also I need someone to take care of my baby when I resume from maternity leave. Right now,I can categorically say she is a liability to me,unless she improves.
The bottom-line is I'm not just comfortable with her. What do I do? Mature advice only.

Nothing wrong with washing ur spouse's clothes. I wash for my husband,he also washes for me. Infact,he does most of d washing,anyway. But I have a problem with this poster for d way you put it. Your wife is not your slave. Don't say my wife must wash for me,it's not by force but borne out of love.
I know a woman whose husband went about the neighbourhood complaining that she refuses to wash his clothes. But d man was jobless,and did absolutely no chores in d home,and waited to be served by a woman who slaved all day at work to provide for d family,and then came home to take care of little kids,with no househelp. Was it too much a task for the man to at least wash his own clothes? I tire for African men.

@poster,what is most important is what you want,not what ur father or ur husband wants. If u really want to go back to school,don't allow anyone stop u. Marriage is not slavery. Get a job,save money and sponsor urself. U'll look back in years to come and thank God u decided to take the bull by the horns at d time u did.
I was in a similar situation,except dt my husband supported d idea initially,but when it was time for school fees,he acted disinterested. I nearly forfeited my admission cos I didn't have money,but on d day of d deadline for payment,I made one half-hearted call to my sister who wired d money asap,and I payed. I don't regret d decision,and now my husband is trying to make amends for not helping(he had money then). So,op,follow ur heart.

Op,I don't think divorce is the right option for now. I think the lawyer is right,you have not fully explored all other options. You vowed to be with her for better for worse,and this is the worse. I'm glad to know you are a christian. Pray,pray and pray again for her. However,stand your ground on your decision not to give anything to your father in-law,and never let her come between you and your family. This is your cross,carry it. God's grace will see you through.

Abuja,because everyone can feel at home.Lagos too,after Abuja.

Life's funny. Know a man who brought his daughter to the hospital,a 25yr old female. She was very anaemic and needed a blood transfusion. Father went to donate blood,and in the process it was discovered the girl was AB+ while father was O+,meaning he couldn't have fathered her. The man was too weak to talk.

All hospitals have a Director of Admin who heads d admin dept and in some cases is as powerful if not more powerful than d CMD. There is no need for the CMD to be a certified adminstrator in this current structure as it will merely duplicate the roles. If a nurse for example heads d hospital,what title will they bear? Chief Nursing Officer? This fight is pure politics in my opinion.

femi4: CDMA doesnt have imei

Does it mean I can't unlock my modem?

This is a great thread,guys. Pls keep it up. I need to unlock my starcomms modem asap.
Brand:ZTE
Model:AC2766
MDN: 08190326783
ESN:DD58DD19
I can't find any IMEI no.
Thanks.

This is a great thread,guys. Pls keep it up. I need to unlock my starcomms modem.
Brand:ZTE
Model:AC2766
MDN: 08190326783
ESN:DD58DD19
I can't find any IMEI no.
Thanks.

Sacluxpaint: Most imo natives demand high bride price, I am from mbaise, our own is very expensive.You might even pay almost 10M sef. Marrying from wheRe I come from is not pure water.

Liar! My younger brother married from Mbaise November 2012. The parents did not collect a dime as bride price.

henryskywalker2003:

@OP, am Igbo and from Anambra state. The general consensus among Igbo guys in general is never marry an Imo girl unless you have too much money to waste on bride price. Heck, even Imo dudes hardly marry babes from their states because of this issue. They usually ask for huge sums of money in the name of bride price as if they want to recoup all the money they have spent bringing up the lady from birth and they usually try to justify it by saying that their daughters are worth more than what you are asked to pay. My cousin is having her traditional wedding next month to an Imo dude and everything he was asked to bring wasn't even up to 500K. My advice to you is this, put your foot down and ask them to bring it down to less than a million and if they refuse to do (which is the most likely outcome) forget her and move on. True, you might think you don't have time and you probably can't let her go. Trust me, if she really wants to be with you, she will stand by your side when you present your case to her folks.

P.S. Another rule of thumb is that Imo girls tend to spend many years in their father's house because they tend to chase potential hubbys away with the bride price thing. I hope she knows that else let her better find and hook a big fish fast to avoid that fate.

You're a big liar. Everything u wrote is based on assumptions. I can categorically state that nowhere in Imo collects up to 1million as bride price. These days,suitors are only asked to bring the listed items which cost btw 400-500k at most. Bride price is at d discretn of d parents,and many forego it, unless they don't like d suitor and want to chase him away. I've seen it happen even in Anambra.

@lovemychild,pls ask d mod to contact me for my email address. Hope u're doing well. Remain blessed.

@repogirl,I want to say u're good. Started reading this thread last nite around 10pm and couldn't go to bed till around 2am. Completed it this morning. Keep it up and keep them coming. Although obviously fiction as some of ur xters were just too perfect,it was still captivating.

@poster,I feel u. I'm in d same shoes with u. And d funny thing is I'm not d extravagant type. I don't shop in malls or boutiques but in d markets,with enough haggling. I don't wear expensive clothes,my only gold earrings were bought over 2yrs ago. I don't use expensive perfumes. Same with my husband. I think Abuja is a very expensive place to live in. After all the measures taken to cut down costs, little or no savings is achieved. My husband and I have been trying to save 4 a car since we lost our car in a near fatal accident 6 months ago, but as at now,we've not been able to save 100k. I had to prepare a budget for next month cos we're expecting a baby in less than 3wks,but unforseen events have already used up d savings planned. And this is a family with total income of about 400k monthly after loan deductions. Pls anyone with tips on saving money dt will work should feel free to share.

@poster,I saw this post yesterday but decided to wait for d outcome of ur visit b4 commenting. Pls consider the ff advice.
1. Inform ur family about ur plan. U may be surprised,but they'll likely kick against adoption. If they don't,or are indifferent,
2. Look for the father's parents/family and inform them of ur plan. I believe they'd want u to keep d baby,once they're sure their son fathered him. At least,I know my own parents would do all they can to support,and can even take care of d baby if u can't.
3. If no help is forthcoming from the above, try to take up all d offers of help u've received in this forum. I'm against giving up a child in its 1st year,so try to breastfeed and bond with ur baby,at least for one year. Defer whatever program u're involved in for this period,cos taking care of a baby alone is a full time job. After the 1st year,if no help is forthcoming, u can send d baby to an orphanage for care and visit regularly while u work. When u are able to stand on ur feet again,go back and collect ur baby.
4. Above all,commit everything to God in prayers. He's a God of surprises,and will provide all u'll ever need.
5. Forgive the father,and move on with ur life. I'm sure he'll come back for d child in future,but don't go back to him cos he's not man enough.
6. Don't worry,u'll still find a man worthy of u to settle down with in future. I know many people who had children out of wedlock,but are happily married today.
NB: I wouldn't mind sending u a token monthly to help with u n ur baby's needs. Just let us know which decision u finally make. God's grace.

PDPwayoo: Yeye fowl wen dey lay yeye egg = Yeye parents wen dey born yeye pikins........
A good child or kid can never go close to cars for sale.

Anywayz, sorry sha.. R.I.P to the pikins and condolence to the mama/papa. This is the implication of having KPAKO-RORO family.

May God forgive you.

Congrats,dear. I'm really happy for u. God is faithful.

Happy mothers'day,first to the strongest woman I know,my mother,to my mother in-law,and to all mothers out there. May God bless u all real good.

pls those who know should explain further. I have an Anglican marriage certificate,and one day I went to do something in court. I made enquiries about registry marriage and was told I did not need it since I already wedded in one of d recognized churches. However,I'm still confused. Why don't I need it?

I've never said this b4,but something seems off about this story. If true,op,I'd like to ask u how u can still be sleeping with him when he wants to divorce u. And if u still love him and don't want to lose him, u might as well give him another son. Hope this is not superstory.

2 days ago, I was on duty in the emergency. I went to work early and didn't have time to eat. I also had to attend antenatal,run some tests etc cos I'm pregnant. I planned to have breakfast at d canteen when I was done b4 returning to emergency. But as I was passing by,I saw 2 emergencies being brought in. That meant I couldn't eat afterall. So I bought meatpie,took it to my desk,and started taking history while eating with one hand. One of d relations was looking at me absurdly and typing away on his phone,but I no send am. Abi they want me to collapse b4 they know man must wack. I must admit it was my 1st time of doing that,but I had no choice. Would it have been better to have them all wait while I spend 30mins or more at d canteen? No be me say make govt no employ more hands.

This is what happened. Wife rejected blood transfusion while still conscious. Later became unconscious. Husband signed a letter authorizing transfusion. But wife's relatives refused,saying he had no right. Her next of kin was their 2yr old baby who could not take that decision. Woman died while they were still arguing.

I'm happy for this development. The name and description sounds like that of one of our patients. If he is the one,I'm really glad for him.