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Romance / Career Women And Relationships by Guapo(m): 1:12pm On Jul 06
Fast track to femininity: Why competing with men has left women out of touch with their feminine side

By Anna Pasternak

Recently, the media has been awash with articles suggesting that career women are to relationships what garlic is to a vampire - the kiss of death.

We're unable to sustain meaningful unions, apparently, because men are intimidated by our intellect, threatened by our higher earning potential and turned off by our controlling, capable, yet powerful personalities.

While this has been my personal experience - I was left by the father of my daughter (now nearly five) three years ago when I was the higher earner - I think that the issue goes far deeper.

It is more psychological than sociological.The problem, I believe, is not so much with career women per se, but that women are increasingly out of balance with themselves and, therefore, with men. I know I am.In the past three years of being single, I have been on a handful of dates.

Two years ago I went to dinner with a doctor who told me that I 'wasn't in touch with my femininity' as I 'didn't flirt or wear much make-up'.His diagnosis also included the undeniable fact that I was in 'acute need of affection'.

The last straw came four months ago when I had dinner with a successful, high-profile entrepreneur who literally screamed at me that I was 'so in control it was scary' - although he did backtrack when I dropped my head towards my plate and started sobbing. As well as being hurt, I was shocked and outraged. What, I thought, had become of modern man's chivalry? But later, I grudgingly reasoned, maybe he had a point - what had become of my femininity?

The difficulty for many of today's career women is that in order to compete with men, we've morphed into them. We've worked ourselves half to death in order to conquer the career ladder, yet in the process we've trampled our core femininity into the ground.

Read more;
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1039030/Fast-track-femininity-Why-competing-men-left-women-touch-feminine-side.html
Sports / Re: Chelsea Fan Gets Mikel Tattoo After Rare Goal by Guapo(m): 9:29am On Jan 08
Which kain bobby yansh be dis. undecided
Religion / Re: Jehovah's Witnesses Are The Only True Follower Of Christ:::**see Proof**:: by Guapo(m): 2:33pm On Dec 10, 2013
@ op. You don't need to open a thread for it.
I doubt you are one of Jehovah's Witnesses though. Those guys are too modest to advertise themselves. They let their actions and teachings advertise them.
One weird thing that makes me think they are special is due to the fact that they are widely criticised but they hardly feel discouraged. The world views them and their teachings as unpopular. That to me is a positive thing.

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Politics / Re: Gov. Fashola Inspect New Dalian Locomotive Trains For Lagos (Photos) by Guapo(m): 6:13am On Dec 09, 2013
plaindealer:


Fully retrofitted and some are already in Lagos...



Cool. Thanks
Politics / Re: Gov. Fashola Inspect New Dalian Locomotive Trains For Lagos (Photos) by Guapo(m): 11:00pm On Dec 08, 2013
Anyone knows what happened to the procurement of Canada's TTC trains that are been reconfigured to standard guage in the US? Has the deal been struck off?

I like the fact that these train cars are new though.

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Politics / Re: Nelson Mandela- In His Words by Guapo(m): 9:34am On Dec 06, 2013

Politics / Re: Nelson Mandela- In His Words by Guapo(m): 9:33am On Dec 06, 2013
Nelson Mandela, the revered South African anti-apartheid icon who spent 27 years in prison, led his country to democracy and became its first black president, died Thursday at home. He was 95.
"He is now resting," said South African President Jacob Zuma. "He is now at peace."
"Our nation has lost its greatest son," he continued. "Our people have lost a father."
A state funeral will be held, and Zuma called for mourners to conduct themselves with "the dignity and respect" that Mandela personified.
"Wherever we are in the country, wherever we are in the world ... let us reaffirm his vision of a society in which none is exploited, oppressed or dispossessed by another," he said as tributes began pouring in from across the world.
Politics / Re: Nelson Mandela- In His Words by Guapo(m): 9:31am On Dec 06, 2013
Appearances matter — and remember to smile.
cry cry
This helped me a great deal.
Politics / Re: Nelson Mandela- In His Words by Guapo(m): 9:30am On Dec 06, 2013
It is said that no one truly knows a nation until one has been inside its jails. A nation should not be judged by how it treats its highest citizens, but its lowest ones.
Politics / Re: Nelson Mandela- In His Words by Guapo(m): 9:29am On Dec 06, 2013
Overcoming poverty is not a task of charity, it is an act of justice. Like Slavery and Apartheid, poverty is not natural. It is man-made and it can be overcome and eradicated by the actions of human beings. Sometimes it falls on a generation to be great. YOU can be that great generation. Let your greatness blossom.
Politics / Re: Nelson Mandela- In His Words by Guapo(m): 9:21am On Dec 06, 2013
If you talk to a man in a language he understands, that goes to his head. If you talk to him in his language, that goes to his heart.
Politics / Re: Nelson Mandela- In His Words by Guapo(m): 9:21am On Dec 06, 2013
As I walked out the door toward the gate that would lead to my freedom, I knew if I didn't leave my bitterness and hatred behind, I'd still be in prison.
Politics / Re: Nelson Mandela- In His Words by Guapo(m): 9:18am On Dec 06, 2013
Do not judge me by my successes, judge me by how many times I fell down and got back up again.
Politics / Re: Nelson Mandela- In His Words by Guapo(m): 9:18am On Dec 06, 2013
There is no passion to be found playing small - in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living.
Politics / Re: Nelson Mandela- In His Words by Guapo(m): 9:17am On Dec 06, 2013
The greatest glory in living
lies not in never falling,
but in rising every time we fall.
Politics / Re: Nelson Mandela- In His Words by Guapo(m): 9:16am On Dec 06, 2013
I am not a saint, unless you think of a saint as a sinner who keeps on trying.
Politics / Re: Nelson Mandela- In His Words by Guapo(m): 9:15am On Dec 06, 2013
Lead from the back — and let others believe they are in front.
Politics / Re: Nelson Mandela- In His Words by Guapo(m): 9:14am On Dec 06, 2013
There is nothing like returning to a place that remains unchanged to find the ways in which you yourself have altered.
Politics / Re: Nelson Mandela- In His Words by Guapo(m): 9:14am On Dec 06, 2013
No one is born hating another person because of the color of his skin, or his background, or his religion. People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite.
Politics / Re: Nelson Mandela- In His Words by Guapo(m): 9:13am On Dec 06, 2013
Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies.
Politics / Re: Nelson Mandela- In His Words by Guapo(m): 9:12am On Dec 06, 2013
For to be free is not merely to cast off one's chains, but to live in a way that respects and enhances the freedom of others.
Politics / Re: Nelson Mandela- In His Words by Guapo(m): 9:11am On Dec 06, 2013
It always seems impossible until it's done.
Politics / Re: Nelson Mandela- In His Words by Guapo(m): 9:10am On Dec 06, 2013
A good head and good heart are always a formidable combination. But when you add to that a literate tongue or pen, then you have something very special.
Politics / Re: Nelson Mandela- In His Words by Guapo(m): 9:09am On Dec 06, 2013
I am fundamentally an optimist. Whether that comes from nature or nurture, I cannot say. Part of being optimistic is keeping one's head pointed toward the sun, one's feet moving forward. There were many dark moments when my faith in humanity was sorely tested, but I would not and could not give myself up to despair. That way lays defeat and death.
Politics / Re: Nelson Mandela- In His Words by Guapo(m): 9:08am On Dec 06, 2013
I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.
Politics / Re: Nelson Mandela- In His Words by Guapo(m): 9:06am On Dec 06, 2013
When a man is denied the right to live the life he believes in, he has no choice but to become an outlaw.
Politics / Nelson Mandela- In His Words by Guapo(m): 9:03am On Dec 06, 2013
Education is the most powerful weapon which you can use to change the world.
TV/Movies / Re: What Is Your Best Phrase Ever Used In A Movie.? by Guapo(m): 4:27pm On Nov 26, 2013
Capt. Byron Hadley: I'm not gonna count to three, I'm not even gonna count to one. You will shut the Bleep up or I'll sing you a lullaby. grin

Shawshank Redemption
Science/Technology / Re: Full Eclipse Of The Sun In Nigeria (Picture) by Guapo(m): 5:03pm On Nov 03, 2013
7 topics relating to the Eclipse on the front page already.
I expect the next topic to hit the front page to be 'Lessons from today's Solar Eclipse'. undecided

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Politics / Re: Aero Contractors To Emerge National Carrier by Guapo(m): 10:00am On Oct 21, 2013
taharqa: By way of clarification, I don't think that Aero Contractors 'wud be the National Carrier' per say. I think the Assets of both Aero Contractors and Air Nigeria wud form d basis of a new National Carrier, which is a smart move by d authorities cos AMCON presently control controlling share of these Airlines cos of their indebtedness to banks (shares that wud later on be sold to d public ).. The Emerging Airline should be a new Cop. This is my understanding of d Article

My thoughts exactly, the assets of Air Nigeria and Aero would come together under a new name. I don't expect the national carrier to adorn the orange coloured livery of Aero.

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Celebrities / Re: Lagbaja's Daughter, Moyosade Weds Olamide Obilana by Guapo(m): 9:48am On Oct 21, 2013
Pictures of the bride's father or it didn't happen! angry

Happy Married Life to the couple. smiley
Phones / Re: Show Us Your Home Screen by Guapo(m): 9:49am On Oct 14, 2013
jreyez: @op the only thing you lack are games
Hit me up if you want some
When it comes to games, I'm so boring. Thanks for the offer tho.

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