Revolution2022:
If Islam claim to be a religion of peace why are they slaughtering innocent people?Why do they shout "Allah arkab"before they use knife to slice someone 's throat that does not offend them or even use gun to shot at him without any provocation caused by their victim?
Why do they use their cattle to eat someone's crop and when the owner ask question they slice his throat?Why do they kidnap for ransom as a religion of peace?

It's matter of maturity...how to write ur own submission....Islam is religion of peace.....no matter how some of u painted it....now that Russian invade Ukraine....u will now say those that practice the religion in that country are terrorist....we should be mind our language

badthinds:
Those keke men/boys especially the Muslim once can be so annoying. The best way to go is to tell them how much you'll be paying before you enter.

He deserves his death.

can you hear urself.... especially the Muslim once.....can u have little brain for goodness sake....haaaaa u need medical

WALLAHI PEOPLE ARE REALLY SUFFERING ���

...✍️ Imam Nurudeen Mukhtar Isalekoto

A man came to pray Magrib at my mosque today. Immediately after the prayer, he whispered to my hear that, he wanted to sell his phone at a cheaper price. I was surprised and told him immediately that, this is a mosque and not challenge phone hub where you can sell your phone.

He said, yes I know Iman...

Then he couldn't hold his tears � � � as he told me that he has been on road since morning to sell this phone, just to put food to his family's table. But people were afraid of buying it, thinking it was a stolen phone.

Surprisingly, someone showed interest in buying the phone inside the mosque. As the man brought out the phone, wallahi it was one old itel phone bounded with rubber. Subuhanallah ��� but despite, someone bought it and gave him the money.

The man collected the money with full excitement, removed his sim card and rushed out of the mosque. After some minutes, he rushed in again. He said, Iman please borrow me your phone to talk to my wife.

He said, sweetheart a thief just snatched my phone now and I'm on my way home.

Then i asked him why is he lying to his wife? He replied, he wanted to use the money to buy foodstuffs. "If I tell her that I sold my phone, she will cry ��� till tomorrow morning."

Subuhanallah �������

OH ALLAH � please provide for any man trying so hard to earn a living for themselves and their families � grant them financial favours bijahi Seyyidil-ujood Muhammad (saw)���

Messi1:
Why is everybody giving me gbass gboss

just calm down... everything Will be ok.dont mad at ur mum.....just be good and humble

from my own observation.... CBN Naira note redesign is a polical move.... because it's almost close to election period....those who stored Money for election will be disappointed because it will be difficult for them as at that time to compose themselves..... mostly opposition party.since we already know CBN governor is APC member....oya let discuss it..if all wrong.... Moderator... please let it be on front page

from my own observation.... CBN Naira note redesign is a polical move.... because it's almost close to election period....those who stored Money for election will be disappointed because it will be difficult for them as at that time to compose themselves..... mostly opposition party.since we already know CBN governor is APC member....oya let discuss it..if all wrong.... Moderator... please let it be on front page

MALIGNANTHost:
Mr Olajide
I need to go to a school for a research
Academy of success school beside angle 90
Now, the question is how will I get to the school
Where is angle 90 in Osogbo

Academy of success...hummmm...do u still need the address of that angle 90

Osun State Government, on Wednesday, announced the appointment of Prince Yinusa Olalekan Akadiri of Oba-Ara Ruling House as the new Akinrun of Ikirun, in Ifelodun Local Government Area of the State.
His emergence followed majority votes in his favour at a meeting of Ikirun kingmakers held on November 19, 2021, where Akadiri polled six out of seven votes, beating 17 other candidates in the process.
The Akinrun stool became vacant on February 8, 2021, following the demise of Oba Rauf Adedeji who mounted the royal stool in 1991.
Announcing the appointment of the new Akinrun of Ikirun after Wednesday’s State Executive Council meeting, Osun government, in a statement signed by the Commissioner for Information and Civic Orientation, Funke Egbemode, also disclosed the appointment of nine other monarchs across the state including that of the Alabere of Abere, Prince Adefemi Mutalib.

[color=#006600][/color]may God save us from all this kind of frustration

[b][/b] Breaking News...it's sad day in township of Osogbo state capital of Osun state.whre a young lady between age of 15-17 years old received called and jump into Osun River (Asijiere water) along gbongan raod...biside Aregbe office....while narrating the incident....the eyes witness told me that the lady received called and jump into the river....May God just save us from all evils and frustration nowadays... Amen....�

MALIGNANTHost:

You did well Fynestboi seun lalasticlala Please help promote

am moved with ur word of encouragement.... thanks

To those know Osogbo the state capital of Osun state...From Orita Olaiya/MDS to Old garage...there are 3 pothole....we have been begging state government to fix it...but no response...I try to do 2 out 3 as community service while local government election is going on...it's took me almost 5 hours for the job....It's not because I want praise but to let other people emulate the good one.... Moderator please forward it to the front page

slan87:
Been a virgin doesn't mean she's going to make a good wife, the most important is are you compatible?

Both physically n spiritually, no Nairalander will join you in marriage if you eventually marry each other.

Pls follow this advise.... don't marry on sympath...if she has marrital status...and u too u like her..marry and upgrade her....no perfect man/woman outside

ravensckar:
As a guyman, whatever caused you to impregnate a lady whom you never planned to marry is the biggest sign of foolish.ness. Like you weren't taught how to use a condom or what?

A lady has a child for you, she's living in your house, probably still fucking you, cooking for you, taking care of you and your son. Yet, you tagged her a 'Baby Mama' who doesn't deserved to be married but should be paid a monthly stipend of 5K. Bros, you must have a faulty brain because it's obvious that you're mad but you don't have anyone to tell you. So, if people like Tuface, Wizkid, Davido or even Airforce1 dey claim 'Baby Daddy'. You self wey never chop belle full self go come out?

PS- some women don't mind being called 'Baby Mama' but not by someone who'd be giving them 5K monthly. It shows that even you yourself need to be a 'Sugar Boy' to those Slay Mama. You self need intensive care.

it's just like u have not mature enough to know exactly what it's happened....if u can't contribute positively....u beta shut up.....keep ur month short ...u hear.....na social media give u chance

my brother....don't stress yourself to much.....they will hold u or tight u down. because of ur lovely boi.....if u can do what i want to tell u....it will help... pretend as of nothing happened.....move on with ur life squarely....get money and be in good condition....when u want to marry....try to marry a responsible/fine girl.....walai when the boi grow up....they will bring him back to u...mind let ur new wife know u don born....that it's what happened to me.........that it wat I did....even when my ex great grama died....I wen their with my family and wify.....come and how they welcome me with high classic welcm....life is too such

[/b]at least he try his best.......self recognition is best gift of life

Islandlady:
TIWA SAVAGE

She is the most beautiful Nigerian singer, with makeup or without makeup! Even as she is over 40yrs she still looks more beautiful everyday! I love her height and skin colour! She represent true African beauty!

I love her songs too!

Abeg, this is my opinion and analysis... you might disagree or not!

Islandlady:
TIWA SAVAGE

She is the most beautiful Nigerian singer, with makeup or without makeup! Even as she is over 40yrs she still looks more beautiful everyday! I love her height and skin colour! She represent true African beauty!

I love her songs too!

Abeg, this is my opinion and analysis... you might disagree or not!

Islandlady:
TIWA SAVAGE

She is the most beautiful Nigerian singer, with makeup or without makeup! Even as she is over 40yrs she still looks more beautiful everyday! I love her height and skin colour! She represent true African beauty!

I love her songs too!

Abeg, this is my opinion and analysis... you might disagree or not!

I must be Lia Muhmmed's son or brother....Lol

Soulflai:
I shouldn't have brought this here but the emotional bargage is too heavy for me to move on in. My marriage of 2 years is about to crumble.

I met my wife in Kaduna Southern part in 2017. Our relationship had been a long distance one as I base in Lagos while she also work in Kaduna, but we eventually married in 2020. The bone of contention is the issue of her ex. That point we are dating, I always caution her to cut communication with the guy, she will do it by deleting the number, but later I will find out they're still relating.

Last month, I purchased a new phone and I had to give her my own. So on the process of reinstalling Whatsapp on her phone, I retrieved all the backup Whatsapp messages 7 which left me devastated. The chat history with her ex really left me broken.

On multiple occasions after I paid her dowry, she met with the guy and they had sex. Multiple times pals! Even after marriage, when she is 5 months pregnant, the guy still had her with my baby inside her!

I am really broken pals, I confronted her on this, she started crying that she will cut communication with him. The guy even send some money to her account on difference time this year.

This is the height of emotional damage. I am just leaving each day just to find my leg financially. I am trying my best, but it is not enough.

Lastly, I called the so-called ex on phone to cut communication with her, the guy is in Kaduna I think while we are in Lagos. She also blocked him all avenues likewise. My decision now is that any time I discovered any form of communication between her and the guy, it is over with the marriage. I think she is not really in to me like that, which beg the question while she married me in first instance.

If am your brother, what advice would you recommend? I only choose to be lenient because the kids are just too small to have their parents separated early. If not, I would have sent her parking!.

Right now I am just not happy with life afterall.

Soulflai:
I shouldn't have brought this here but the emotional bargage is too heavy for me to move on in. My marriage of 2 years is about to crumble.

I met my wife in Kaduna Southern part in 2017. Our relationship had been a long distance one as I base in Lagos while she also work in Kaduna, but we eventually married in 2020. The bone of contention is the issue of her ex. That point we are dating, I always caution her to cut communication with the guy, she will do it by deleting the number, but later I will find out they're still relating.

Last month, I purchased a new phone and I had to give her my own. So on the process of reinstalling Whatsapp on her phone, I retrieved all the backup Whatsapp messages 7 which left me devastated. The chat history with her ex really left me broken.

On multiple occasions after I paid her dowry, she met with the guy and they had sex. Multiple times pals! Even after marriage, when she is 5 months pregnant, the guy still had her with my baby inside her!

I am really broken pals, I confronted her on this, she started crying that she will cut communication with him. The guy even send some money to her account on difference time this year.

This is the height of emotional damage. I am just leaving each day just to find my leg financially. I am trying my best, but it is not enough.

Lastly, I called the so-called ex on phone to cut communication with her, the guy is in Kaduna I think while we are in Lagos. She also blocked him all avenues likewise. My decision now is that any time I discovered any form of communication between her and the guy, it is over with the marriage. I think she is not really in to me like that, which beg the question while she married me in first instance.

If am your brother, what advice would you recommend? I only choose to be lenient because the kids are just too small to have their parents separated early. If not, I would have sent her parking!.

Right now I am just not happy with life afterall.

u won't be happy because of what u left ur self...the best solution is divorce....let tell u d bitter truth...3 reason u can critically divorce in marriage...
1. When u know or catch ur his/wife with extra Marita affair
2. If both of u are not in s same religion....
3. If is getting leading to kill/ death....
u better leave the marriage and live in peace...Thank u

God1000:
This is a very serious issue, be firm and decisive in dealing with it.

Give her a little space for now, at least 6 months to one year and see if she will change.

Such ugly discovery in my partner will surely end our union, I simply can't forgive some deliberate mistakes

giving her space will escalate the all issue...the best solution is divorce.... marriage is not something u can manage.....take it or leave it

VoteTinubu2023:
Definitely the workers recruited during PDP years when there was little regard for qualifications. It was strictly nepotism and favouritism based.


Vote TINUBU 2023. Vote APC.

why many Nigerian people refuse to learn from the pass.....not all sense are common

emmnprince:

How does this relate to the topic?

..abi oooo....some people need medical attention

abobote:
This Reno is a very stingy fool, with all the money he stole as Jonathan's aide, he is donating only 500k

.....how much did u donate...when u dey accused someone stingy....we moveeeeee

Vinnie2000:
Op, you must have d ability to be paying all ur bills (rent,security, electricity,etc) without Stress or borrowing! And a steady income!

without stress or borrowing......how can a responsible man should not borrow to obligate some certain things

*_Strike: We’re pushed to the wall, our salary not more than 40k, railway workers to FG_*

Railway workers have threatened to go on a 3 day warning strike, if their demand is not met by the authorities,saying their salary is not more than N40,000 a month with a lot of risks.
The workers could not reach an amicable solution in their meeting with the Minister of Transport in Lagos, weekend.
The workers demanded for enhanced emoluments, improved welfare and protection in their services.

Comrade Innocent Luka ,Leader of the Railway workers in Nigeria, told the BBC Hausa Service in an interview, that they are embarking on strike action because they were pushed to the wall.
According to him,” we met because of the things we wrote so that government will act on it and understand.
“We talked about increase in salary and allowances of workers, and also the improvement in the welfare of workers. “
He said in their meeting with the Minister, they could not reach an amicable solution .
“We couldn’t reach an amicable solution. We are very surprised, documents we submitted about 4 months ago,we thought the documents have reached the President, all our demands must be approved by the President, but it is today the Minister was telling us that the President has travelled. That he will present our grievances to the President if he comes back. “
“That means since all our talks with the Minister on salary increase, the President is yet to get the information. “
“We started demanding for salary increase about 6 years ago. The Minister and the MD of Railway, included this in the budget proposal of 2021.When it was taken to the National Assembly, they removed the issue of our salary increment, ” he alleged.
“This is why we now want to down tools.If the trains are not moving ,definitely our cry will be heard by the President and he will surely do something about it.”
Luka said the warning strike will commence on Thursday and ends on Saturday, after which they would resume and give the authorities sometime.
“But if nothing is being done, we will embark on a total strike and that would be indefinite, ” he said
“We’ve been patient in vain, for so long.The salary of a Railway worker, let me tell you, is not more N30,000,N42 to N43,000.The locomotive engine combined with the coaches ,cost 1 billion ,500 thousand to 600 thousand .”
“They will handover this train to someone receiving less that 30,000.How can he work with a peaceful mind?
“And a train carries over 800 passengers.
The safety of these passengers is in the hands of the worker receiving less than N30,000.
How can someone work comfortably,” he queried.

Perfecttouchade:
The video wasn't recorded where the officers slapped the woman..I saw the comments on instablog yesterday and the truth be told, what did they do to the woman before she reacted as well in the same video were gunshots, why? An harmless woman confronting an harassment...police man no calm reach that extent abegi

Aaaa beg pack well.if it's u can u exercise that wat police patient.....the woman should be arrested and prosecute immediately....

Perfecttouchade:
The video wasn't recorded where the officers slapped the woman..I saw the comments on instablog yesterday and the truth be told, what did they do to the woman before she reacted as well in the same video were gunshots, why? An harmless woman confronting an harassment...police man no calm reach that extent abegi

Aaaa beg pack well.if it's u can u exercise that wat police patient.....the woman should be arrested and prosecute immediately....

Perfecttouchade:
The video wasn't recorded where the officers slapped the woman..I saw the comments on instablog yesterday and the truth be told, what did they do to the woman before she reacted as well in the same video were gunshots, why? An harmless woman confronting an harassment...police man no calm reach that extent abegi

Aaaa beg pack well.if it's u can u exercise that wat police patient.....the woman should be arrested and prosecute immediately....

Iyiataata92:
They have shared one bag of rice and one bag of beans to everybody and given everybody 20000 naira. So why distubibg them again.

How can made that kind of statement... people are dying u are saying they are distributing food items...to who my brother

Alot have said it all,all I can say is that 50is not too small to get the right or good relationship,it's just matter of choice...but my own opinion is that get a good fiance or grfrd. because if u get money its very difficult to know the true love..start along journey from a step move...Olajide is my name

[color=#006600][/color]Seven natural ways to fight depression

At the height of his battling depression , Mr Olakunle Oladejo ( not real name) said he could literally hear voices whispering to his ears to jump into the lagoon on the Third Mainland Bridge .
For months , Oladejo, a mechanical engineer at one of the engineering firms at Lekki , Lagos , said he battled to suppress the voices telling him that all was over and to commit suicide .
If he had not got support from family and friends , as well as church members , the 43-year -old father of two said he might have succumbed to the pressure weighing him down.
It all started sometime in 2016 when Oladejo was introduced into an oil and gas importation business by two friends . Obviously , the business initiative by his friends was captivating and the mechanical engineer could not resist investing in it. Together , they were to raise N 150m for the new venture .
Oladejo said , “ I practically emptied my bank account to get N 10m . Then , I borrowed N 40m from the bank, friends and family members to realise my own part of the capital , which was N 50m .
“ My friends were in Port Harcourt and they were quite familiar with the Niger Delta terrain; they were to raise the remaining N 100m . When I got my N 50m , I sent it to them . ”
That day when he reached home in the Ogudu area of Lagos , Oladejo said he was already anticipating that within two weeks, they would have invested in the business and within six months , he would get a profit of at least 150 per cent from it.
“ I was already showing my wife the new BMW car and a house I would buy from the profit. I was expecting her to be happy, but she struggled to be. She simply told me to let the profit be realised first , ” he said .
As if his wife had a premonition that the business would flop , Oladejo said he waited endlessly in vain to get feedback from his friends two weeks after sending N 50m .
To his amazement , the phone numbers of his friends no longer went through. Emails were not responded to . Also , contacts could not be made on social media. Oladejo was getting unsettled .
By the time he knew what was going on , the mechanical engineer realised he had been “ scammed ” by his friends . It was after involving the police in the matter that his friends said they invested the money in the business but it flopped .
“ They explained they were swindled , too . I had to travel frequently to the state during the crisis , but all my efforts were to no avail , ” Oladejo said .
Two years after the incident , the engineer said it got to a point he was driving to and fro work via the Third Mainland Bridge and would be contemplating suicide .
He said , “ The voices telling me to jump into the lagoon became stronger towards the end of 2018. I would hear words like , ‘ Dejo, you owe N 40m , you can’ t repay it. Jump into the lagoon and end it all . You can’ t pay back when dead. ’
“ I used to cry every time this occurred. It was like I was losing myself . The thought of turning my wife to a widow and my children to fatherless kids probably helped . In addition, I later sought help from professional counsellors .
“ Although I am still in debt, I am hopeful I will pay all . I have already pleaded with my lenders, including those who threatened to arrest me and seize some of my assets, to be patient with me . I am paying back gradually. ”
From Oladejo’ s conversation with our correspondent , it was evident he had been able to suppress the voices telling him to commit suicide .
“ I just want to be strong for my family’ s sake . It ’ s not the end of life, ” he added .
Depression in Nigeria
According to an April 2018 study by the Mind, Behaviour and Development Unit of the World Bank, about 22 per cent of Nigerians , amounting to 40 million people , are chronically depressed .
The study looked at the first nationally representative estimates of chronic depression in the country to shed light on how it might be linked to economic outcomes.
The Washington , DC , United States -based institution said depression was associated with factors such as conflict and socioeconomic factors .
It added that depression , especially at the chronic stage , could have negative consequences .
Battling depression naturally
According to the Harvard Medical School, depression is not only hard to endure, it is also a risk factor for heart disease and dementia – which is why persons going through it should seek help to come out of it.
“ Depressive symptoms can occur in adults for many reasons. If you are experiencing mood or cognitive changes that last more than a few weeks, it’ s a good idea to bring this up with your doctor or consult a mental health specialist to help sort out possible causes, ” an instructor in psychiatry at the Harvard Medical School, Dr Nancy Donovan, said , a clinical psychologist and lecturer at the Olabisi Onabanjo University, Ago Iwoye, Ogun State , Mr Oladotun Adeyemo , identified some natural ways of coping with depression .

1. Try to have fun

Adeyemo said , “ Depression is characterised by sadness and makes people lose interest in what gives them pleasure . Still , one of the things a depressed person can do is to schedule pleasurable activities for themselves.
“ If they love going to the movies , watching live bands , visiting people, attending religious programmes and so on , they should try to still go for such pleasurable activities . This is a way out of depression when it is at a mild stage . ”
Also , in an article posted on
healthline.com, a psychiatrist and director of the Depression Research and Clinic Programme at the University of California , Los Angeles , US , Dr Ian Cook , said depressed people should make time for things they enjoy.
“ When you ’ re depressed , you can lose the knack for enjoying life. You have to relearn how to do it. In time , fun things really will feel fun again , ” he said .
2. Move your body

Adeyemo said , “ Physical activities like exercise can also help a depressed person feel good. This can be termed ‘ feel -good’ therapy. It is important . ”
Cook also said , “ Exercise temporarily boosts feel - good chemicals called endorphins . Regular exercise seems to encourage the brain to rewire itself in positive ways . You don’ t need to run marathons to get a benefit. Just walking a few times a week can help. ”

3. Meditate

American psychiatrist who researches into natural treatments for depression , Dr Lissa Rankin , advised depressed people to engage in meditation , saying it could help shift the mood from negativity to positivity .
“ Meditation ’ s effects on mood are well -documented . Settling your mind can lift your mood , in addition to a whole host of other health benefits, ” she wrote in Psychology Today .
Also , Adeyemo said , “ There are mind relaxation techniques for depressed persons like just closing their eyes and having a deep breath . This can bring a whole lot of relief . ”

4. Set daily routine and goals

According to Cook , setting a daily routine and goals can help depressed people have their lives back .
He said , “ Setting a daily schedule can help you get back on track .
“ When you ’ re depressed , you may feel like you can’ t accomplish anything. That makes you feel worse about yourself. To push back , set daily goals for yourself . ”

5. Don't skip meals

Losing appetite and skipping meals are all the results of depression , but experts said skipping meals could reduce blood sugar level which could have serious health implications.
Cook and Rankin advised people with depression to eat healthy foods, especially serotonin-enhancing foods because they act as anti -depressants.
“ Although it’ s not definitive, there ’ s evidence that foods with omega- 3 fatty acids ( such as salmon , herring , mackerel and tuna) and folic acid ( such as spinach and avocado ) could help ease depression , ” Cook said .
Meanwhile, Rankin cautioned depressed people against taking caffeine because “ it reduces serotonin levels . ”

6. Challenge negative thoughts

Cook said , “ In your fight against depression , a lot of the work is mental – changing how you think . When you ’ re depressed , you leap to the worst possible conclusions.
“ The next time you ’ re feeling terrible about yourself, use logic as a natural depression treatment . It takes practice , but in time you can beat back those negative thoughts before they get out of control. ”

7. Seek counsel

Rankin advised depressed people to see a therapist , psychiatrist or life coach to express how they feel .
“ Sometimes , just finding someone you trust who will help you work through your feelings can make all the difference in the world , ” she said .
Buttressing the point, Adeyemo said when it got to a level when a depressed person was losing sleep and not interacting with people as they used to , they should seek professional help .
He also cautioned against stigmatisation of people in depression .
He said , “ Imagine people asking someone in depression , ‘ Are you the only one facing problems?’ Of course , the person can be the only one because their coping mechanism might be different from others . ”
Also , Adeyemo said people in depression should seek help from professionals and not just from anyone.
He said , “ There is a difference between what a professional will do and what a pastor or imam will do . A cleric will probably counsel and pray while a professional will employ scientific techniques .
“ We as a people should also understand depression symptoms so as to assist depressed people . People are battling with depression and we can help by reaching out to them before they totally break down.

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Seven natural ways to fight depression

At the height of his battling depression , Mr Olakunle Oladejo ( not real name) said he could literally hear voices whispering to his ears to jump into the lagoon on the Third Mainland Bridge .
For months , Oladejo, a mechanical engineer at one of the engineering firms at Lekki , Lagos , said he battled to suppress the voices telling him that all was over and to commit suicide .
If he had not got support from family and friends , as well as church members , the 43-year -old father of two said he might have succumbed to the pressure weighing him down.
It all started sometime in 2016 when Oladejo was introduced into an oil and gas importation business by two friends . Obviously , the business initiative by his friends was captivating and the mechanical engineer could not resist investing in it. Together , they were to raise N 150m for the new venture .
Oladejo said , “ I practically emptied my bank account to get N 10m . Then , I borrowed N 40m from the bank, friends and family members to realise my own part of the capital , which was N 50m .
“ My friends were in Port Harcourt and they were quite familiar with the Niger Delta terrain; they were to raise the remaining N 100m . When I got my N 50m , I sent it to them . ”
That day when he reached home in the Ogudu area of Lagos , Oladejo said he was already anticipating that within two weeks, they would have invested in the business and within six months , he would get a profit of at least 150 per cent from it.
“ I was already showing my wife the new BMW car and a house I would buy from the profit. I was expecting her to be happy, but she struggled to be. She simply told me to let the profit be realised first , ” he said .
As if his wife had a premonition that the business would flop , Oladejo said he waited endlessly in vain to get feedback from his friends two weeks after sending N 50m .
To his amazement , the phone numbers of his friends no longer went through. Emails were not responded to . Also , contacts could not be made on social media. Oladejo was getting unsettled .
By the time he knew what was going on , the mechanical engineer realised he had been “ scammed ” by his friends . It was after involving the police in the matter that his friends said they invested the money in the business but it flopped .
“ They explained they were swindled , too . I had to travel frequently to the state during the crisis , but all my efforts were to no avail , ” Oladejo said .
Two years after the incident , the engineer said it got to a point he was driving to and fro work via the Third Mainland Bridge and would be contemplating suicide .
He said , “ The voices telling me to jump into the lagoon became stronger towards the end of 2018. I would hear words like , ‘ Dejo, you owe N 40m , you can’ t repay it. Jump into the lagoon and end it all . You can’ t pay back when dead. ’
“ I used to cry every time this occurred. It was like I was losing myself . The thought of turning my wife to a widow and my children to fatherless kids probably helped . In addition, I later sought help from professional counsellors .
“ Although I am still in debt, I am hopeful I will pay all . I have already pleaded with my lenders, including those who threatened to arrest me and seize some of my assets, to be patient with me . I am paying back gradually. ”
From Oladejo’ s conversation with our correspondent , it was evident he had been able to suppress the voices telling him to commit suicide .
“ I just want to be strong for my family’ s sake . It ’ s not the end of life, ” he added .
Depression in Nigeria
According to an April 2018 study by the Mind, Behaviour and Development Unit of the World Bank, about 22 per cent of Nigerians , amounting to 40 million people , are chronically depressed .
The study looked at the first nationally representative estimates of chronic depression in the country to shed light on how it might be linked to economic outcomes.
The Washington , DC , United States -based institution said depression was associated with factors such as conflict and socioeconomic factors .
It added that depression , especially at the chronic stage , could have negative consequences .
Battling depression naturally
According to the Harvard Medical School, depression is not only hard to endure, it is also a risk factor for heart disease and dementia – which is why persons going through it should seek help to come out of it.
“ Depressive symptoms can occur in adults for many reasons. If you are experiencing mood or cognitive changes that last more than a few weeks, it’ s a good idea to bring this up with your doctor or consult a mental health specialist to help sort out possible causes, ” an instructor in psychiatry at the Harvard Medical School, Dr Nancy Donovan, said , a clinical psychologist and lecturer at the Olabisi Onabanjo University, Ago Iwoye, Ogun State , Mr Oladotun Adeyemo , identified some natural ways of coping with depression .

1. Try to have fun

Adeyemo said , “ Depression is characterised by sadness and makes people lose interest in what gives them pleasure . Still , one of the things a depressed person can do is to schedule pleasurable activities for themselves.
“ If they love going to the movies , watching live bands , visiting people, attending religious programmes and so on , they should try to still go for such pleasurable activities . This is a way out of depression when it is at a mild stage . ”
Also , in an article posted on
healthline.com, a psychiatrist and director of the Depression Research and Clinic Programme at the University of California , Los Angeles , US , Dr Ian Cook , said depressed people should make time for things they enjoy.
“ When you ’ re depressed , you can lose the knack for enjoying life. You have to relearn how to do it. In time , fun things really will feel fun again , ” he said .
2. Move your body

Adeyemo said , “ Physical activities like exercise can also help a depressed person feel good. This can be termed ‘ feel -good’ therapy. It is important . ”
Cook also said , “ Exercise temporarily boosts feel - good chemicals called endorphins . Regular exercise seems to encourage the brain to rewire itself in positive ways . You don’ t need to run marathons to get a benefit. Just walking a few times a week can help. ”

3. Meditate

American psychiatrist who researches into natural treatments for depression , Dr Lissa Rankin , advised depressed people to engage in meditation , saying it could help shift the mood from negativity to positivity .
“ Meditation ’ s effects on mood are well -documented . Settling your mind can lift your mood , in addition to a whole host of other health benefits, ” she wrote in Psychology Today .
Also , Adeyemo said , “ There are mind relaxation techniques for depressed persons like just closing their eyes and having a deep breath . This can bring a whole lot of relief . ”

4. Set daily routine and goals

According to Cook , setting a daily routine and goals can help depressed people have their lives back .
He said , “ Setting a daily schedule can help you get back on track .
“ When you ’ re depressed , you may feel like you can’ t accomplish anything. That makes you feel worse about yourself. To push back , set daily goals for yourself . ”

5. Don't skip meals

Losing appetite and skipping meals are all the results of depression , but experts said skipping meals could reduce blood sugar level which could have serious health implications.
Cook and Rankin advised people with depression to eat healthy foods, especially serotonin-enhancing foods because they act as anti -depressants.
“ Although it’ s not definitive, there ’ s evidence that foods with omega- 3 fatty acids ( such as salmon , herring , mackerel and tuna) and folic acid ( such as spinach and avocado ) could help ease depression , ” Cook said .
Meanwhile, Rankin cautioned depressed people against taking caffeine because “ it reduces serotonin levels . ”

6. Challenge negative thoughts

Cook said , “ In your fight against depression , a lot of the work is mental – changing how you think . When you ’ re depressed , you leap to the worst possible conclusions.
“ The next time you ’ re feeling terrible about yourself, use logic as a natural depression treatment . It takes practice , but in time you can beat back those negative thoughts before they get out of control. ”

7. Seek counsel

Rankin advised depressed people to see a therapist , psychiatrist or life coach to express how they feel .
“ Sometimes , just finding someone you trust who will help you work through your feelings can make all the difference in the world , ” she said .
Buttressing the point, Adeyemo said when it got to a level when a depressed person was losing sleep and not interacting with people as they used to , they should seek professional help .
He also cautioned against stigmatisation of people in depression .
He said , “ Imagine people asking someone in depression , ‘ Are you the only one facing problems?’ Of course , the person can be the only one because their coping mechanism might be different from others . ”
Also , Adeyemo said people in depression should seek help from professionals and not just from anyone.
He said , “ There is a difference between what a professional will do and what a pastor or imam will do . A cleric will probably counsel and pray while a professional will employ scientific techniques .
“ We as a people should also understand depression symptoms so as to assist depressed people . People are battling with depression and we can help by reaching out to them before they totally break down.

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