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not saying anything bad, but i believe togolese, people from benin republic and cote'dvoire bare yoruba names too...why arent those countries ever mentioned, especially they are mostly islamic too. why always naija?

i would have believed it if julius berger was the person awarded the project, because then i know it would be legit, they would do good quality work, instead of these no names that will cheat and do a half hazard job.

Chime900: sometimes I ask my self, what happen to the good old days when our mom love our dad for who they are and not what they are..
girls dis days are loosing it ..totally f9.
Nigeria girls dis day don't think anymore, infact most of them don't know wat they really want in life.
that girl to me is a golddiger, she get her own plans.
she want become a celeb. mumu

sharrap nigeran culture and most parents have always raised their children to marry a man that will give them comfortable life. Love wasnt the major multiplier..I beg stop being delusional.Yes there are a few that married their poor or struggling boos, but in most situations parents tried to make sure their daughters married a wealthy or well to do men, who can cater to their needs and that of their families. Now the way i see this, this girl was stupidly mislead by her parents( if the story is true) to go abroad to give birth to the child therefore forcing the hand of the man to take responsiblity. #Very Shutupit!! Now everyone knows that the quietest people have the most secret to hide and that is why i have always liked peter's open book life to his fans, no surprises. Now paul has cheated on anita, not once,not twice..infact he has cheated on her repeatedly and she stuck around. Peter has always been faithful to his cougar. anyways i hope they sort it out, because knowing the okoyes they will do what is right if the child is his, but if its is, smh, that babe should know that most likely she might just have to hand the baby over. Infact who is older, the one born in atlanta or this one..because indirectly paul has twins now..hahahahha..i hope the atlanta one is the oldest..at least anita can claim she is the mother of the opara!!!..chai see soap operaoooo!!!!

poster no offense i feel you dont understand what it means to be single. Most of the people you put up there are in serious relationships that they themselves have already said will lead to marriage. So do another list, cuz, donjazzy,m.i,bryan, and joseph benjamin are not available...

Dolly-Parton:


See seun's belle!!!
Na 33 abi gulder dey there

in this pic you could pass for joseph benjamin or his brother..seriously...

coolzeal: Nsukka are Nsukka and not Igbos. Igbo people are those that are in Anambra, Imo, some part of Enugu, Ebonyi and Abia. You can tell that these group of people have different dialect and belief system. I think Nsukka are distinct people just like Ikwere and so.

bia nna have you been smoking onugbu leaves?, because you are very confused, yes there are minority tribes that dwell in nsukka, but just like ikwerre's the majority of people who live in that area are igbos, and or have igbo blood line. Stop denying yourself, it wont help you in the future.

am sorry i dont know if this is a positive or negative, but i have never met any group or tribe as proud as igbos. I cherish my igbo side, but sometimes it just gets tooo much. I mean i understand a people once suppressed to almost extinction will always glorify when they can and there is nothing wrong with that, but it gets too much. Like for example, my cousins met these igbo young guys like them at the newark airport and first thing they shouted after speaking to eachother was " ahhh my brothers, nna nyem aka, ndi igbo kwenu...kwezue.unu...." and they all made a scene with their replies, i was kinda of embarrassed as they shook hand. I couldnt look up from where i sat, and most of the people in the airport was looking at them. One oyibo couple asked them, so are you guys family. My cousins laughed and told them, that they were just meeting their fellow igbo people for the first time. The oyibo husband was amazed and just looked astonished. So i ask why do "we"( i say us cuz am partly a member of the igbo bloodline) feel the need to let everyone know that we are igbo all the time. What do you guys gain from the display of overzealous pride? sometimes you guys confuse me.

iamswizz: hmmm.



Only in Naija!

my dear stupidity is your biggest sin, pray for yourself!! get well soon!!

dayokanu:

The slaves cant do without their masters

Thanks for confirming it again

Following in the footsteps of their masters

You are unlearned, if history, infact world history will teach you anything about the igbos, it is that they are so stubborn they would rather commit suicide , than to be controlled by another human as slaves, if you have time read atlantic slave documents from the americas to europe. I respect their tenacity, but what ohaneze has said here i kinda understand, " a person can only take so much beating before he or she carries their revenge, it is human nature, and unfortunately the blood of the youths are hot and the land is angry, their ancestors are angry, so they must appease it, whether by law or blood, i hope its by law"...- my grandma's quote. Unfortunately nigeria has till 2015, this polygamous marriage must end before babaginda's daughter marries her fourth husband and divorce him....

its good they are investing their money well instead of buying fancy rubbish cars and mansions, they share residence and are investing wisely, kudos guys. And oh, Peter I really think you should have a clothing line,love your style....

udara or agbalumo makes the best bubble gum, and it is the healthiest chewing gum straight from nature

this video was very disappointing, tiwa why, no storyline, just a splash of image, smh!!! just blah...jejune

yawa-ti-de:
I may have arrived late but at any rate, I was doing my normal morning online news runs when I stumbled across the latest movie starring Ini Edo and Tonto Dike, "Playing Safe". At the end of the trailer, which is on youtube, they posted the movie's website. I decided to check it out and voila! the site actually exists: http://www.playingsafemovie.com/

I hope this is a new and lasting trend for nollywood and most importantly, a new and steady income stream for us web developers...not the 5K to 10K kind o, he he

negro where have you been, this is has been happening since 2008, you are 5 years late... mtchewww..smh,

Ivynwa: @Poster
The woman saying that money is not everything and that she wants to see you does not mean that she is trying to seduce you into her laps or something unless she has made it obvious to you that she wants to start an intimate relationship with you which I don't think is the best for both of you. She may simply be missing that male figure and needing that you come and be present sometimes in the life of her children through visitations in order for the kids to still have a feel of a male presence so don't trip all over the place and think that your brother's wife wants to bed you down badly because she wants you to visit her and the children unless she has spelt it out.
There isn't a law that said that when a spouse dies that living and enjoying love and life should die along with the partner. When the mourning is over such women should be encouraged to find happiness and her happiness doesn't have to come from putting hands in one pot with you and your wife. The fact that she already believed that no man will want to marry her with her 5 kids shows that she has some beliefs stuck up in her which may not allow her be open minded to finding a new partner. There is nothing wrong if she finds another man to get along with, there is nothing disrespectful or abominable or disgusting about her marrying another man. The world is open out there please. Thanks.





In as much as your post is heartwarming there's no fast rules for you to say that poster shouldn't let the woman leave his extended family. It's her life and it's her choice. Just like your uncle's wife chose to remain unmarried so do other women have the rights to how they want to live their lives after the death of their spouse.





Tunji "I ga egbokwa ogu ma okpotuwa" (Will you separate the polygamous wifey wifey fights when it starts?" ).
Why insinuate that he bring her into his household? What problems does that solve? It can create more problems than you can imagine.
So what happens to the nieces and nephews? If their mama gets married to somebody else it does not mean that the children are lost to their father's family, don't children leave their families to go as far as across the atlantic and other countries to go and school and live so that has no weight at all. It is a woman's choice to decide whether she wants to remarry or not biko.

okay i see where you are coming from, but culture is the important thing here, if he marries her, or he allows her to stay a part of the family then her children will still hold claim on what belongs to their father, but if the woman remarries, the new husband by culture can claim the children with her as a total package, or the opposite can happen where the new hubby dont want the children. I believe that once your husband dies and you have young children to take care of, focus on your children and dont go trying to enter another relationship. if the family truly love her they will help her without asking for anything in return. Again its based on culture, and we shouldnt allow western ideologies of marriage overpower our ideas of marriages and the traditions that come with it.

olawole oladipo: Dear Colleagues,

Unfortunately, I lost my senior brother (the same mother the same father) three years ago at age of 50, my brother left one wife with five children. My brother's wife still young (thirty years) plus. She so interest on me after the burial/outing service or some months later, she always calling me on the phone that I abandoned her. In fact, I try my best for her by sending money to her through bank account to take herself because I'm leaving at Ajah, My brother did not complete his house project before his untimely death, myself with support of family member complete the building and she is living there at Ogijo Ikorodu. Also her first son (19 years old)stay with me and caring for him. There was a day she told me on the phone that "Did i think she will marry another person after 5 children to my brother" and everything is not money, she want to see me, Infact I feel somehow that day.

In conclusion, as a christian I don't want to cheat my own "housewife" or look like I'm commiting adultery or fornication. What Can I do? to marry her, OR to tell her to leave my brother's house to go and marry another person with five children.




Please I need your Help.

From Safejourney, Ajah, Lagos

actually you can its part of our culture, that is why a woman is called "our wife" and not just your brother's wife. Maybe am letting my igbo side take over in thinking, but in igboland a man is allowed to marry his elder bros wife if she agrees after she has mourned him and the young son will then become the man's responsibility, bascially you must raise him like your child, never cheating him of his father's wealth.

hardbody: Owerri dialect Nchi-chi
Arochukwu Dialect Ukwubia
Some other Igbos Ichek(w)u

Please my igbo people no vex for me, but i most ask, why is everything so different when it comes to igbo? i mean simple item now has multiple names- my mom calls it nchi-chi, and now i am learning it has other names, una own too much.. No wonder its hard for a none native speaker to learn igbo fluently.

mazaje:


Happy being slaves or selling others off as slaves abi?. . .

Are you mad? They were happier, society had more morals and ethics. People feared God, and robbery and all this kidnapping and other vices, though they existed, they hardly got as horrible as they are today. slavery my foot, sold who? that was a small portion of the people and those sold were mainly slaves from war.

Mobsync:

paypal does not accept Nigerians.

paypal seemed the easiest way that is protected, i send money through there all the time, and plus western union can be another option, who ever enters and wins will decide how they want the money to be sent to them, plus the money shouldn't be the important thing, rather community service and thought provoking write-up should be.

I am glad you guys used this front page for something useful. I think it is worthy we celebrate our great performers while they are still alive and even greater when they are gone, they should build a nollywood museum show casing the best of the best actors/actresses like mr. esiri in lagos,hopefully in the new eko atlantic.. It is sad we only celebrate corrupt people and not the ones who actually help us to go through life laughing and smiling through our pain. He was actually one of the best actors naija produced and will truly be missed... safe journey sir!!!

shoot me a message and i will reply, i dont like putting my personal email in this publlic chat.... but thanks though, if you are interested send me a direct message and i will reply.

mtchewww super story, i beg this woman should stop lying where is the medical form saying it, infact i wished she didnt just die for seven days, i wish it was forever, then again it would be our money using to give her a luxurious burial. As far as am concerned, she can die a million times and come back as long as she repents and does right by the people by giving back looted assests taken by her and her husband. I have said my own. Mtcheewww wonders shall never end on super stories. She thinks uk medical doctors dont keep records of such event, for if that truly happened we would have red it in a uk newspaper, for such a thing is a miracle and medical wonders. LIAR!!!

may she rest in peace. I blame the horrible medical facilities and incompetent doctors who took care of her, only in Nigeria!!!! how can a healthy human being come back from a trip and just die hours after.

sweet-tease:
I was actually coming to see the pics of those guys that wouldn't stop teasn the ladies, and probably tease them too bt i must confess.... You guys look really good
And the pics are much... So i don vex, i dey go upload a pic of me on duty with my lowcut

SWEET STOP BEING SO NICE AND TELL THE TRUTH, I KNOW YOU DONT WANT TO HURT ANYONE BUT THE TRUTH IS THOUGH BEAUTY IS IN THE EYE OF THE BEHOLDER ONLY 5 OUT OF ALL THE POSTED PICS CAN CLAIM TO BE TRULY HANDSOME.... JUST SAYING.

OgeJesus: Some of us here who are non Abians dont understand the level at which Abia rebuilding and laying solid foundations for subsequent governments to build on. We Abians are happy and we are not complaining because we can see what is going on in the state ourselves. Not someone in Lagos or UK trying to tell us what is happening in our area.

SHARAP THERE!! YOU BE MMEHHHHH---A REAL GOAT.. SO YOU SEE THIS NONSENSE AND YOU SAY YOU ARE HAPPY? I JUST GOT BACK FROM THE EAST IN JANUARY, SPECIFICalLY ABIA STATE, AND EVERY ROAD EXCEPT THE ONES IN UMUAHIA LOOKS LIKE WAR TORN PLACES, FILLED WITH FILT AND JUST OUTRIGHT DISHEARTENINGLY FOWL. DO YOU HAVE BRAIN, IT IS SAD THAT YOU YOUTHS ARE HAPPY WITH LIVING IN DUSTBIN, WHEN YOU COULD BE LIVING IN GOOD environment. YOU DISGUST ME WITH YOUR ROTTEN-EMPTY BASKET OF A MENTALITY. EWU!! AND YES YOU DESERVE ALL THE INSULT AND MORE. ATURU!! CAN YOU COMPARE THIS RUBBISH WITH ROADS IN LAGOS OR BENIN, AND THEY CALL THIS A THRIVING METROPOLIS, UNA DEY MADT, YOU BETTER STAND UP FOR YOUR FUTURES, AND STOP SMILING IN IGNORANCE. MTCCHHHHWWWW!!

illicit: Op wat has community work got 2do wit writting?

I want whoever enters the contest to volunteer first and document it then of honest mind turn in the evidence they volunteered in their community with their written work. I decided to use part of my tax return money to start this initiative. I believe charity goes hand in hand with creativity.

You know what Poster nigerians who think like you piss me off. First of all it is us in the Diaspora that are willing to do anything to make nigeria succeed. We are the ones that help bring money into the economy other than oil and other natural resources. We are more charitable and more understanding of the human condition than some nigerians that think like you. I find this insulting, and nairaland admin who approved this i feel sorry for you too. Yes everyone has an opinion, but make sure you dont genrealize. Most Nigerians living in Nigeria are more tribalistic than those of us in diaspora. We have learned about civil right, experienced racism, and we have learned tolerance and appreciation of people that dont look,act or live like us. We have learned that a good government and good judicial system is necessary for things to go right in a democratic country. we have learned that no one is above the law, not even a politician or richest celeb. We in the diaspora pray and think of you folks in nigeria more than you pray or think of us. We understand that we must help our country, most of us want to come back and contribute to our native land, even those of us who werent born in nigeria, our parents made sure we understood we were just on a journey and a journeyman/woman must go home at some point. So my dear ignorant friend, you need to realize that you need us in the diaspora more than we need you, and that is the truth, but we in the diaspora understand that no matter how much nigeria is hated that we still hold unconditional love for it and pray that the corrupt leaders never live to enjoy what they stole from the people, that justice be carried out. But in the mean we come home once in a while to help the little we can by bringing certain aids to areas that the government has neglected. What am saying is that we are very much important to nigeria. When one sojourns they go to learn and hopefully come home to share what they have done. We actually understand we go to school to help improve our communities and not just our immediate families. Most people think life is a bed or roses abroad especially in america, but nah blood, it aint all the time. I worked starting in highschool to now, whiles still making good grades, went to uni and graduated top of my class. I did it not because my parents couldnt afford to give me allowance, after all they had great paying jobs, but i worked to save money to send to my "cousins (kids from my parents villages)" to help them with their school fees, not because i had to, but because i cared and wanted them to have opportunity in life. We learn to be altruistic, which i feel many nigerians in nigeria have forgotten or just dont want to do without getting anything in return, but we do it silently without any accolades and we dont need it. I smell envy written all over your post and it is sad and disheartening. Most of us in the diaspora understand that our home is nigeria no matter what. And believe me my dear poster friend the likes of you are those who will run away from nigeria without turning back if given the chance; so my dear look in the mirror before you try to castigate us. There are people who live in nigeria that have forgotten their culture and need to help nigeria more than us. Infact just go to Lagos, you will see families who forgot to teach their children their native tongues, well in diaspora, we hold our heritage and we value it. So we are not what is wrong with nigeria, most of us actually represent nigeria's potential and what should be right in nigeria. Oh if you want to know why we criticize, we do it so you all back at home can help and get a backbone to stand up against the government who use most of yall for tissue paper to go to toliet. We criticize because we have such great hopes for nigeria and we believe in its potential and that of its people. When you love something as much as we love our beloved homeland, it would be silly to turn a blind eye to the how our own people are folding their hands and allowing the government to ruin their land, when its a democratic country and if you dont know in a democratic nation, the people rule and are the power. So my dear ignorant insecure jealous poster you need us, because we are not afraid to speak up against the government like some of yall and fortunately we actually have better morals and ethics than most of yall.

Hi everyone i have decided to post a competition four times a year on here, starting this year, especially In lieu of m.i Abaga's poetic dedication to the ALuu4. I want you to write about how we can change our beloved nigeria, whether through a prose or simply a poem. I want you guys to be realistic and start with or somewhere within your writing include " Because of my unconditional love for my father land...." or " I am nigerian not because i was born here.." The write up must not be more than 500 word count and feel free to experiment with your favorite lingua franca, just make sure everyone can understand it. If you must mix english-which i encourage with your native tongue, create a key at the bottom to help those who cannot understand your native tongue. I really want to know the thoughts of the youths that nigeria is raising and perchance we can find a solution to our problems. To enter you must be no older than 30. You must help in your community some how, pro-bono and have a community leader sign you did 10 hours of community service. Please am trusting you are not going to cheat. You can use video to your pen to express yourselve as long as its not more than 500 words. There is no fee to enter, just sit down and Be creative, after all you are Nigerian!!


Deadline: March 28
Type of submission: online or offline ( email me your pieces if you dont feel comfortable posting it on here)
Length of submission: no more than 500 words..
Requirement: you must be a registered user of nairaland, please use your name on nairaland to sign your work.
Prizes: $500 ( through paypal account )

Marc-us:
Me

you look very well groomed and pretty for a man, not necessarily handsome, but pretty.. androgynous in a way, and kinda feminine- maybe am wrong and you just happen to be a metrosexual, but am usually right. Too pretty!! You will have beautiful daughters.

Tinablack: Mine. Heheheh. Cute is an undastatement. Nw ladies submit ur application.

your friend is cute, but he looks like a mommy's boy, but a very handsome well groomed

thehunted: Just check ma profile and tell me what u think.

wow, okay 1st good looking guy on here in my opinion. you have kind eyes, and by looking at you -you look like a down to earth mommy's boy... and not as gay as the other photos..but again the most normal one can be deceiving ...lol joking~~

Andyblaze: Still on the matter

hmmmm, nice looking guy, see muscle

shine eye: HE BROKE THE RECORD,SOUTH AFRCAN NEWS SAID KESHI HAS BROKE THE RECORD AS ONE OF THE BEST BRILLIANT COACH IN AFRICA

why does it look like you keep trying to hold their hands, thats kinda weird and kinda questionable.. just saying